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mrblessed:
If you had reacted to her post in this way, I wouldn't have called you out. Even so, what makes you think she isn't meek or she is being hypocritically sanctimonious? I concur with what she wrote not because it is directed to the womenfolk, but because it is a statement of fact that is unassailable. It is difficult to tell someone the truth without harming their self-esteem one way or another. But a sensible person knows how to separate truth from vile attack and move on. The reason for your raging hostile and resentment is way beyond my comprehension.

i call out BS when I see it. If you have a problem with that, then don't let me rain on your parade. You have your opinion, i have mine.

mrblessed:
How is she self-righteous? Did she touch some nerves? Never mind, she wasn't aware of what you do before making the post. So it is inappropriate to call her names, just because you couldn't come to terms with what you do.

her replies to what others say above me, is how you seperate those that preach out of love and those that do it to feel better than others and out of self righteousness.

Blessed are the meek for they shall see God.

She is not meek when she seeks to put down other women for her self elevation

Sunnyshinylight:
You can say that again

you are just self righteous. Your fate shall be like the fig tree jesus spoke to

Mgtowmonk:
going my own way doesn't mean I can't get laid once in a while
Every man appreciates a beautiful woman even mgtowsmonks

hypocrite!!

You guys are supposed to die ou of the gene pool

Mgtowmonk:
You people should comment nah

uncle mgtow, stay away from the female gender. Go your own way

Raalsalghul:
"She is almost the same as I am but for some reason she wants her marriage to be loud and she is already outrageous demands towards a marriage I am not ready for. Any support from her is almost zero as she is responsible for her entire family. once we are married her responsibilities of taking care of her entire family will fall on me."

For some reason, you all are ignoring this concern from the Op.

i did address the concern, and told him to communicate with her
She has to compromise

joshjc:
Guys what's the meaning ofsoro soke?

speak up

Vixlot:
https://peoplesgazette.com/endsars-were-also-fighting-for-homosexuals-transgenders-others-feminist-coalition/

typical feminists, always hijacking other movements, they should stop trying to derail. Nonsense

Stacyomolola:
There always a woman for every man

Don't worry u will someday find a woman that would stoop that low

maybe when he smokes enough weed or the sperm in his balls have started to expire.

Evolutionlove:
Mind you, You must be financially okay to start with, well mannered because I'm a very high value, well groomed and cultured man......

Fake bravado, hiding real insecurities.

Please save your shea butter speech for the imaginary people that will believe it. Delusional, machiavellian simp.

Evolutionlove:
Yes I absolutely mean It
With what I'm seeing and experiencing these days when It comes to morality. As a lady You will have to thoroughly beg me to marry you or date you, That's If I will even accept your proposal......

Please just be happy and stay single. It is not be force, and we are not interested in being with a grown man who is not interested.

ShenTeh:
Baba I know. Once that marriage button goes off in some girls' head poof! Nothing matters to them anymore.

She has her fears and may have been certainly listening to someone she trusts or is considering a currently open option. You need to clear her head.

Reassure her of your love for her and always be the first to broach the marriage topic. Transfer the pressure. Let her know that you both are not psychologically ready because you need to focus on learning your new job and integrating into it now is the priority.

Blackmail her with 'if we hadn't got this job yet, would we be talking about marriage now? Remember to improve your statements with 'we, us, our" to give her that feeling of reassurance.

If she doesn't yield. Break it! They say 'if you love a bird, you give it freedom to fly'

When you are ready, go get her. Your chances of getting her back would be 80/20, but you need to set your priorities.

It will end in praise. Cheers bro.

Reassure her with words? Temp12 let me advise you as a woman The only reassurance you need to give her is through your actions. Op should go and see her family and pay her bride price and do a court wedding. You don't need a fancy big wedding but you will be together with an understanding woman you love and loves you back. Many can't boast of that.

Women like her are hard to find. And if op is being slow, someone else will snatch her up. This will only reinforce the fact that women should go for ready-made men with the financial, mental and emotional means to start a family.



Both of you should communicate, and do all this but also tell her to be patient with you a little more and give a a year before starting child bearing. This is risky seeing as she is past 30 and conception becomes more difficult especially once she reaches 35, for some women it can be much earlier than that.

This year is enough to buy you time to be serious with this job and become financially stable and save. Op, many people became rich, not by doing something they were passionate about, but by being solution providers. You think dangote likes making spaghetti? Or yahoo boys dreamed of scamming people and doing money rituals when they were little?

Don't look a gift horse in the mouth, you have been given an opportunity to apply yourself to success, and a mentor who is going the extra mile to guide you(your boss). As time goes on when your hard work yields fruit(laws of the universe of sowing and reaping), many others wish to be in your shoes. With time you will either come to love the job, or have enough financial stability to pursue your passions.

My two kobo. The decision ultimately lies with you.

HarunaWest:
See simps everywhere..Niggaz finding it so hard to take decisions..You will marry that chick, but in your own terms..Dont leave her absolutely not.
Talk to her, you guys shud just do a family introduction and pay her bride price .Start a family now and talk of main wedding plans much later .Both of you aint getting any younger and you can never save enough in Nigeria .We are all here in this life for family and love not money.
You might still loose that job tomorrow, you cant say but you cant loose your family no matter what.[b][/b]

she can't continue to put her life on hold because he refuses to get his act together. She has helped him a lot and has been with him through thich and thin. She deserves nothing less than a court wedding in addition to family introduction and bride price. That is the ultimate sign that he is ready to go all the way with this woman.

IntersexSherry:
I think i might be fine until i see a girl with broader hips, fuller thighs, bigger butt, more luscious lips, more beautiful hair, more beautiful skin just walk passed me. I will be like ''o.m.g''..
Lol just makes me want to go under the knife so badly.
We all know how visual men are and keeping them is not an easy task.

I console myself that myself that everyone is different and water ultimately finds its level. What works for her might not for me.

light099:
There are different types of village people. The local ones, national ones and international ones.
The local ones, the moment you stop playing draughts with them, and stopped dragging calabash of palm wine with them every evening by vanishing out of their sight, they stop following you.
The national ones are like tour guides, if you're still in the country, they follow you up and down, they can even assist you when your schedule is tight. Or haven't you heard of village people acting as body double and collecting someone's entitlement before the real person got there? Someone once created a thread about, how his business calls were diverted and received by an anonymous person claiming to he him. That's just a classic example of his village people acting as his body double and helping him out on his tight schedule.
The international ones are like MTN, everywhere you go. Even if you're on Atlantic ocean, they can clearly see you on 4D screen.
Then we also have the diplomatic ones and undiplomatic ones. The diplomatic ones don't really go out straight at their targets, they can hide under the guise of stray bullet or SARS. The undiplomatic ones are confrontational, they just fire, that's why some people with no underlying sickness or tangible reasons touch the ground, and everyone keeps wondering.

Life is a passing shot, you can never get hold of it. It would always find a way of getting past you.
In life, everyone would die trying. No matter how hard you try, you can never get your shiit right.
If your philosophy of life is living for the moment because you know not what tomorrow holds, you wouldn't still get the best of each moment. And if your own philosophy is preparing for the future, the future is still gonna meet you unprepared. We keep trying our best but our best can never be enough.
All the best treats, jollity or fun you can ever give yourself would at their best end up as memories you could only reminisce before they eventually fade into oblivion. And all those bucks you keep storing in your barn would all become the property of some other people, it's just a matter of time.
Nonetheless, once you're alive, you should never stop trying, never stop enjoying each moment, don't stop getting as much dough as you can get, don't stop firing your shots; except that you shouldn't get carried away, way too much as to forget this life is just a passing shot. Since the days of Adam, gallant men continue to touch the ground but that has never stopped the earth from rotating. Only God is in charge, we're all nothing but wannabes, no go do pass yourself.
He died wearing a little smile on his face, like someone under the duvet enjoying a wet dream. This shows he ain't a loser. He might be somewhere out there enjoying 600 years.

Don't blame village people for this, he could have been most likely hypertensive and suffered a heart attack.

May the departed rest in peace.

peterangelo:

My husband (30m) and I (26f) have been married for two years. I try to stay relatively healthy and in good shape while he is quite overweight. Today he said to me while I was getting in the shower “wow that’s a perfect body, if only your t*ts were bigger”. I got quiet and he immediately said he was joking. I’m pretty confident in my body but I’m failing to find the humor in this statement. I walked into the bathroom and he followed me in, I asked him to give me some space and he left but came back two minutes later. I asked him once again to please give me space and he got mad at me and stomped off because he just wants to spend time with me and I am being ridiculous. He says I was overreacting to a joke and he is sorry I didn’t find it funny but he stands by the statement.

I’m not sure if he has resentment toward me because I am healthier or what the deal is, but I have been cold to him for a couple of hours. Am I overreacting?

He's insecure. Next time he talks bad about your body, tell him that his dick is small.

This sounds like a reddit story.

KingstonAyo37:
It has been disbanded now pls they should not cause chaos. Let people that are going to work be allowed to do so. Me I don't like wahala at all

that 'disbandment' on twitter is fake

Rainbowpill:
Most guys who frequent this section must have come across the thread "dating drills" created by harddon. This thread appears to be the residence of lots of men who find it hard getting a girl. Majority of these men don't even know how to make a move towards a girl they find attractive so they post questions for their mentor Harddon to answer.

The problem with most of the advice on this thread is that it teaches men behavior tricks and lines to say to women that don't reflect the actual nature of these guys. In essence it's teaching these guys to not be themselves. It teaches them to memorize sentences and be fake, just for pussy.

Listen, the best way to be good at something, whether it's cooking, throwing a basketball or getting women, is to try and fail, then try and try again, and with experience you will get better and you'll get better in a way that squares with your real personality.

If you are not naturally witty or funny, memorizing some crap lines suggested by a stranger on the Internet isn't going to help you. Let's say the girl falls for those lines, what next? Will you go running to Harddon to write new lines for you?

Pretending to be someone you are not to get a girl to fall for you might work for some, but what happens a week later when the girl gets to know the real you? The fake persona she supposedly fell for is gone and all that's remaining is the side of you that you have been concealing? What do you do then? You can't pretend for long. Why not just be yourself?

One thing Harddon and his cronies don't advice is that guys should be real. Nothing inspires confidence more that the fact that you love who you are and you are comfortable being yourself.

Girls are different. What works for girl A will not work for girl B.

All the advice on that thread can be summarized in one sentence. Be confident, have a good source of income and don't put women on a pedestal. This is all you need to be successful with women, not all the crap lines I've been reading on that thread.

true

Tigerstripes:
#EndSars

That was the goal

The IG has announced its dissolution

The goal was clear and straight to the point

What is your goal for being in a relationship

with a rich or wealthy man?

Remember this is not to help you attract broke boys

But men of affluence


What is your goal?


The importance of goal setting cannot be overemphasized

You must have heard the saying,

if you fail to plan, you plan to fail

Lots of ladies just jump into relationships

without a goal in mind

It’s when they are already two feet into the relationship

they will start planning

It doesn’t work that way

It’s where the men beat us at this game

You see that movie, act like a woman, think like a man?

I feel like they used that title to attract people to watch it

They didn’t really tell women how to think like men

You see men,

they know what they want in women and go for it

When they want marriage,

they are sticking to the plan

When they want sex,

they go for it

After the first day of meeting,

or even that day,

they try to handle your boobs

They won’t stop,

until they’ve satisfied their lust



Why are you going into that relationship?

What is your goal?

Marriage?

Long time commitment?

Mentorship (perhaps you want to start a new business and you need someone to show you the ropes)

You want to travel around the world

You want a sponsor


You need to be clear on your terms

So you know where your time and resources are going to

And seek relationships that will help you achieve those goals

For example, your goal is to get married to a wealthy man

You’re going to screen men coming your way

Are they ready to get married in the next six months to a year?

If marriage is the goal,

you won’t be side tracked with people offering you millions for a fling

That is not what you want

The purpose of having a goal and a plan in place is to focus

On what you want to achieve

...To be continued

Awesome.

I hope the young ladies listen.

Sonnobax15:
sharap..... you people don't want to hear the bitter truth...

but you work for SARS

Sonnobax15:
. Rema may not be a criminal,but I can categorically say 90% of Nigerians carrying dreads are into Yahoo Yahoo....

You obviously work in SARS

manychallenges:
Am a man in my late 20s but my voice still sounds like 16 years old girl. What can I do medically, preferably naturally to deepens my voice.

Here are the issues:
1. I always completely loose my voice whenever am in noisy environment especially when the environment is filled with speakers be it church, ceremonies, parties etc

2. Also completely loose my voice whenever am in heated argument, my voice starts cracking up to the extent that the person closer to me will barely hear whatever am saying and I ain't stammerer man

Go and make money crew ain't welcome here. Using drugs and weed ain't welcome as well

Gracias

did you go through puberty at all? If you are very tall, then i am very suspicious

Amatarasha:
not after ur dumb destinies ,boiled holes of minnions like amatarasha renders ur destiny useless not mine

fixed

Romangalactic:
Btw me & u,who nid clout? See dis quack native doctor

you are immature. Bye bye!

Romangalactic:
Drfunmisticglow shud see dis,she hate men tew much. If ders no more men on earth,I give her 5 years b4 she will drink sniper to end d pain

biko, don't call my name for clout. Call amatarasha instead, she's crazy enough to banter with you

Hathor5:
Your comments have made me watch the videos of them on youtube. Damn! This Angela is hell! I can't stand her. She is extremely rude, crass and disrespectful but Michael is very submissive.

The truth is that micheal is a very feminine man and angela is a masculine woman. So thier relationship dynamic is not surprising

orgylover:
YS GIV YOUR LIF TO CHRIST

You will burn in hellfire

I actually agree with the pope

PornLegend:
If marriage takes a significant chunk of your life plan then you won't amount to anything bro
What's birth, Marriage and death? You come life just to Bleep and marry?

he's a animal na. Peave him

Curious345:
I may not be a virgin , but it's generally accepted that she has to be a virgin.

Men are born disvirgined from above

you are delusional.

Probably a fake story. Please call off the wedding and spare the woman a lifetime of misery with you.

placeofallure:
I wouldn't support my enemy to marry an empty head as a wife. It irritates me to see just a fine face and no brain, your value immediately drops to zero. The fact that you are a woman doesn't inhibit you from talking politics, sports, investment, history etc. I try to know a lil bit of everything. I'd be damned if I had to eat the humble pie in a conversation just because I'm ignorant.
It's good the young man realises this on time.

I recently stumbled on a critic's write up online on Tyler Perry's Acrimony. I saw the movie in another light afterwards. While Robert lived all his life for his dream project, the wife had no part in that dream, she only tolerated him and eventually, yielded to pressure. Apart from the fact that her dreams didn't align with the husband's, she had no dreams of her own. She just wants to pass through college and out. She has nothing she was passionate about. That's a looming disaster if you ask me.

the drram project that was financed by his so called dreamless wife.