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JungWoori:
Hello
Ladies, please read through and learn one or two. Came across this thread and it made me shed tears. https://www.nairaland.com/7348392/does-sleep-over-mean-probably


Met this guy the day I went for a show. He requested for my number which I didn't hesitate to give so as to discharge him.
Few weeks later, he requested for my family's digits so as to keep in touch with my people.
On that account, I made it known to him that I have no intentions of dating or taking things personal with him (which he ignored).

I had a business call around his location and I needed where to stay. He told me he has someone who I can rent an apartment from and he equally has a bigger business opportunity for me.
I didn't hesitate to take the offer so long I won't be staying over at his place but, see the apartment and leave same day. Note, I have a work I'm into already so, I didn't want to inconvenience myself.

On getting to his place, I was happy his family were still very much around.
Which he later took me to the room where I'll be staying for the night (yes, I wasn't able to go back same day. The love from his family was massive).
Long story cut short,
I got raped that very night even with his family members around. Kept screaming, fighting and knocking but, no help came. It seemed like it was all a plan or the room was probably sound proofed (he said no one will hear me no matter how loud I screamed).

Now, after the whole incident, I decided I wasn't going to stay. This guy locked the door, seized the keys, saw me operating my phone and seized my phone.
So, I can say I was held hostage after being violated.
When I told him I was going to sue him, he told me he himself is a lawyer and he can win the case no matter where I carry it to.
First, I was at his place when the incident happened and that alone can dissolve the case.
I am his girlfriend whom he invited to his place that's obviously trying to frame him.
We are family friends so, why would he hurt me.
I don't have any concrete evidence as he kept speaking native Language (Yoruba), knowing fully well that I don't understand it.


Ladies, I know my story might not be all that helpful but, try to be careful. Nigerian men now use the term come over as a guise to get into your pants either you want it willingly or not. You'll probably just rant about it cause they won't give you any chances of getting a concrete evidence. Especially over texts and calls.

Get your recorders, keep your cameras close enough, report to any NGO's and most importantly, your NO means NO.
No one should guilt trip you. As for the guy, I'll still hunt him (Glad I have a minute recording of him just before he snatched my phone away).

Before you come for me, I'm not Nigerian by nationality and I'm not a newbie here.

Be careful out there sis.

Story is full of holes so can't be true

maureensylvia:
It happened in June this year, he deserted, tried calling him it was unreachable, His family and the police didn't help either.

I got the idea of complaining to his bank, I went to his bank on August (Access bank) they asked me why I didn't come all these while that he withdrew the last part of the money 4 days before I came!!! E pain me shaa o

The customer care directed me to court to get a court order to restrict the account, I went to court, got the court order(pics displayed) paid them 10% of the total money. The bank restricted his account.

Yesterday afternoon, I got a call to come over to the bank...the guy was trying to make a transfer but he couldn't which warranted him to go to the bank...
The customer care told me he has 80% of the money in his account that with my consent, they'll unfreeze it and pay me or I can wait till it's complete and take all... they were certain because it's a salary account... money must enter.

Though the guy pleaded with me to be paying 20k monthly buy omooorr I don't think I'll have such patience. The bank told him to be paying the 20k into his account till it completes.

so the ball is now in my court

All thanks to Access bank

Take your 80 percent now. It will cripple him but teach him a bitter lesson he won't ever forget. If he continues his criminal ways that's his problem. But you got most of your money.
The problem with being nice about this is that he can go his his employers and change the account his salary is to be paid into. Then you are back in square 1

Meteoritey:
Due to work, my husband and I live in states, and my husband lives in Canada. 3 months ago we had some serious skirmishes during our phone conversation and in the heat of the argument, I told him that he does not appreciate the fact that I am raising the kids and doing everything alone.

To my disappointment, he told me that he is overworked more than me. This really angered me. This got me angry and I hung up. Although He tried to reach me for 4 days, and also sent me some messages, I cut him off without replying, about 9 weeks later, I sent him just a message on an unrelated issue, he ignored my message, after another month, I sent him another message, he also ignored. It has been 3 months now we have not spoken to each other.

Recently my brother had a baby, and he only called once to congratulate them. Moreover my younger sister got admission to a university to study the same course that my husband studied, so naturally, my sister contacted him. My sister said he advised her on what to do and what she should expect. This was about 2 months ago. I personally did not inform him about my sister’s admission myself.

After about one month, my sister also called him for more information, but he has not been picking my sister’s call.

My sisters fiancee also called him to inform him about their upcoming marriage (my same sister that got the admission) he only spoke with my sister and her fiancee once, he stopped further communication with them on both issues of admission and marriage, and that he only spoke with them the first time about the admission and the marriage out of the respect he has for them.

He gave my sister the excuse that it was not proper, for him to speak with her fiancee' because he said that I have not told him anything about the marriage, therefore he can not relate further with my sister as per the marriage. And that it was out of respect that he even called my sister initially to advice her.

What are you thoughts and opinion please.

I go no advice for you but this;
Use you tongue to count your teeth. Both you and your husband are acting like children. One person has to be an adult cos two adults can't be children with your children. Usually the person that will be the adult is also the person that has to be the fool, the idiot. This life is short

ryloy:
https://twitter.com/abisinuolaa/status/1573414620718862341

The cost of the brakes itself was probably less than 100 dollars. The other additional cost was the man hours spent to do the repairs. That's what increased to cost to that 1800

TonyeBarcanista:
Tonye Barcanista is a political analyst and social commentator. He writes on Nairaland.com and @TonyeBarcanista on Twitter

Tonye may have to tell us if he is for Atiku or neutral on that matter

tracychelsea13:
https://www.chronicle.ng/2022/09/15/buhari-confers-200-nigeria-citizenship/

The president of a country does not confer Citizenship to people. This was stupidity

odinson1:
The simple reason is, she doesn't love you bro. She married you only because she had no other option at the time. Know this that a woman will break all rules, raise hell if she has to, to have sex with a man she likes. If she's constantly giving you excuses for an extended period of time, or making demands before she allows you in, it means you're sexually unattractive to her bro, she settled for you.

Women will come on this thread now and give nonsense excuses about her being tired, depressed etc but for how long can one be consistently tired that she only has sex with her husband once in 3 months?

Why are you men just so blind to reality? Damn! You'll jus rush into marriage because of love without making sure the person you're marrying isn't settling for you. You'll give her a comfortable live in the marriage, she'll deny you sex and you'll come to Nairaland to ask for advice.

Women will tell you to continue treating her right, talk things out with her etc. But it never works, trust me. If your wife settled for you, she'll deny you sex and use it to control you. When she needs a new handbag that is very expensive, she'll deny you sex and wait for you to buy it for her first before she allows you in.

Then she repeats the process for another demand and so on and so forth. Is that how you want to live the rest of your life as a man? Begging and paying your WIFE for sex. I'm tired of you men really, y'all lack balls and that is why women use Sex to control you.

If she doesn't want to give the sex. She can hold it. Sex never finish for this world

Pandalytics:
What do you think?

Em cos he is not the dad so she can't expect him to carry responsibility that ain't his

Holiness2100:

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=66OlUQTG8I0


https://www.sciencealert.com/doomsday-glacier-in-antarctica-is-holding-on-by-its-fingernails-scientists-warn

Na today? Their is always a doomsday something. Our scientist have an oversensitive imagination

mrvitalis:
Before you remind us that mbaise rejected him because he is from Anambra that was no the case ....the present bishop of mbaise is from umuahia

Mbaise has over 800 rev fathers awka has 300 plus ...awka has produced 6 bishops this man made it 7

Mbaise being who we are said Cardinal arinze can't pick a bishop from his place for us ...our late bishop left a list of potential replacement chose from those

How can people that have 800 bishops have zero bishops and a place that has 400 have 7 ...

So if you want to conderm mbaise people know the truth ...we would never support injustice not even from the church

That one is urban legend. Late Arinze didn't leave the new of any potential replacement for himself. He is not allowed to do that.

adecz:
https://www.legit.ng/people/family-relationship/1489206-wife-leaks-secret-shocks-internet-how-dumped-boyfriend-hotel-man-married-her/

❗️❗️❗️ Say a word to this woman❗️❗️❗️

Our Nigerian youth have a problem. People calling her a prostitute are really children.
She was telling a story in jest and people are insulting her. Very silly people

Lanrelagboi:
https://proshare.co/articles/julius-berger-nigeria-plc-to-officially-launch-cashew-processing-plant-on-september-10-2022?menu=Market&classification=Read&category=Commodities

Very nice

flejnr2:
My question is from Germany to Canada what is the voting strength of those in diaspora instead of doing townhall meetings here at home, just to tell you an average Nigerian president likes traveling, imagine the tour he would tour the world with taxpayers money if elected this one he is flying round the world in campaign

None and I believe he knows this. What he is doing is probably awareness program for the next run. We all know Atiku will win this one. Buhari is already getting ready to sign iCT into law. A bill Atiku is solidly behind. What does that tell u?
As much as we want Obi to win this. We all know Nigeria is not ready for good leadership. What they are ready for is someone who will reap, molest them and use them the way they have not being used before. They are not ready for service to the people

Biodun556:
In terms of infrastructure from 1999 till date, Buhari government is number one

Bihari, didn't start any of the projects

OkpaNsukkaisBae:
Good 4 them. I can't point to any project done by my senator....

Allow them. Anyone in ABA at the time Kalu was there know better

chatinent:
The devil will be surprised at who sent you! Wtf! Why can't you leave people's wives alone!!!!!

There is nothing wrong in keeping in touch with a female friend even after she is married. Just know your boundary that's all

Holiness2100:
https://www.dailymail.co.uk/health/article-11001673/amp/Sex-NOT-limited-male-female-Fury-woke-guidance-dismisses-basic-biology.html

Nothing to worry about. Not until they change the basic biology book teaching. I don't see how they would accomplish that

Osama2478:
Nairalanders,

Please I need you to help me have a third eye into a personal matter. Although, I have taken a position, I just wanted to be sure I never overreacted.

I am a guy based in Europe and my wife is in Nigeria. I have only been away for a year.

There was a day I was calling my wife on phone and her other phone was ringing which I asked her to pick up but she never did only to say that it was my friend calling her. I was surprised and asked her immediately how did my friend get know her other number. She gave some not-so-convincing explanation but I let it slide.

Curiously, when I returned to Nigeria, I discovered that this friend sent money to her and she never told me about it. The so called friend also didn't tell me anything. In fact, he has always acted as if he wasn't having any contact with my wife.

When I saw the transaction, my wife wanted to manipulate the situation to make it look like I was invading her privacy. I stood my ground to know what purpose the money was meant for but no reasonable explanation.

I called the friend too to know what the money was meant for but only retorted if he couldn't give my wife money as a friend. He couldn't offer any reasonable explanation. With high sense of modesty, this is a guy that would wish to be in my position economic wise and I have always been very generous to my wife when it comes to money. Therefore, financial lack could not be an excuse.

After this experience, I severe my friendship with the guy and rein in on my wife too. I felt that was not the kind of friendship any reasonable person should keep because I felt betrayed by his actions and inactions in relating with my wife behind me. I also see both of them (friend and wife) to be dangerous to my well-being.

Please I will like to know if I overreacted.

Thank you.

MOD please take it to front page for wider views and opinions

You are overreacting probably due to insecurities on your part. You should never let anyone have so much power over you enough to make you question your sanity or the confidence in yourself.
By the actions you have taken so far, you have questioned all those.
There is nothing wrong in a good friend giving your wife money. But she should tell u. You are marrying your wife not your friend. She should be the bone or your bone not the crisis of your troubles.
Reassess your position on this issue. Call both separately and question them. Get the truth out for your peace of mind. Then move on.
Nobody is worth breaking your head over

jeromestarks:
Listen boy, I have been married twice; both non virgin (cooperate hoes)
I am ready to have joy and peace now. I deserve it. So, I am going for nothing but the best - VIRGINS!

U are a silly child. Move along let your fathers talk

ibinaboonline:
I'm ready to pop the question soon. My question is, how do you'all codedly, abi sharply find out your bebe's finger size in order to get her a ring that fits? I'd ask her but I want it to be a surprise. Men and women of experience, help a newbie out

OP don't mind those pained young men. Go for it

jeromestarks:
Don't do it. You will regret it.
Your best bet is to impregnate and keep her at home; this way, she won't misbehave.
Quick question, is she a virgin?

This young men here are pained

post=115504073:
Source: https://www.google.com/amp/s/www.dailystar.co.uk/news/latest-news/couple-couldnt-afford-house-uk-27595611.amp

Is it with the farm lands around it or just those old dilapidated houses

AcuraZDX:
Source:
https://www.channelstv.com/2022/08/03/fg-confirms-purchase-of-n1-4-billion-worth-of-vehicles-for-niger-republic/

Imagine this at naira 700 to 1 dollar? We are finished with Bihari and APC

tamdun:
Yet obi cannot replicate same in Anambra?

Obi doesn't need to replicate that rubbish. Unlike Tinubu Obi's word is his bond. Tinubu never says the truth

tamdun:
Did obi pay for non igbo WAEC? Am sure non indegen attends anambra govt sch, did obi pay for them?

So paying for waec is the best tinubu can do for good governance. that's the problem Nigeria has. And why we keep electing people that rub us blind

Electorate:
When APC came with the change mantra, It all started on Social Media and spreaded like a wild fire...Back in 2014, The All Progressives Congress, APC, said it engaged the services of prominent international political consultants, AKPD Message and Media, Same consultant the Barack Obama team hired to get him into the White House in 2008 and 2012...And of course it doesn't come cheap.

https://www.premiumtimesng.com/news/155340-nigeria2015-apc-engages-obamas-u-s-consultants.html

....Money and the need for change played a major role.

Similarly, Social Media was the main tool young Nigerians used to vent their frustration on the now disbanded Sars Team, It was the most brutal protest ever recorded in Nigeria's history.

https://globalhistorydialogues.org/projects/protests-in-nigeria-the-influence-of-social-media/

...Frustration played a major role.

Now, The Obitients have hijacked this very powerful tool...They are everywhere using this tool to build organic structures going from house to house to enlightening people in cities, towns, villages and remote areas...and doing it with passion and not for money, infact, most are self funded just like #Endsars.


...Passion, Frustration and the urgent need for positive change is playing a major role.

The Independent National Electoral Commission, INEC, has said women and youths formed over 75 percent of registered voters in Nigeria and can single handedly decide the final outcome of the election.

https://www.vanguardngr.com/2022/06/women-youths-can-determine-winners-of-2023-polls-if-inec/

Other Political parties should be worried about this rather than shrug it off with their usual "Elections are not done on Social Media" or "Peter Obi can only win on Social Media" they need to wake up to reality.

I come in peace.

If all these things can stop the rigging in the north. The videos are all over social media. If they are able to contain those form of rigging then Obi would make Aso Rock. But who says they can contain it. Tinubu holds the key to Lagos. Lagos may have suffered due to reduced election polling stations but I don't see how that would stop Tinubu. Atiku on the other hand has the northern oligarchs behind him.
It will be a tough fight. I hope Obi wins but how that's going to happen is a mystery

tamdun:
No igbo with good conscience will vote against Tinubu, igbo benefits a lot from Tinubu, tinubu as a gov. and thru his legacy paid for millions of Igbo students WAEC,go to every Lagos state clinic you'll see igbo nurses and doctors, go to Lagos govt sch you'll see igbo teachers....
Now tell me reason why a yoruba man should vote for Obi? Yoruba people benefits nothing from obi, we owe him nothing

So that is your reason to write this rubbish? Cos he paid waec fees of candidates? Amongst those whose fees were paid, was there no Yoruba son or daughter? Please leave politics of bias. It won't help the country

wwwihy:
https://www.thecable.ng/rewind-in-1993-atiku-supported-muslim-muslim-ticket-when-he-wanted-to-be-abiolas-running-mate

Internet is a bitch

Shascky33:
https://news.sky.com/story/russia-to-withdraw-international-space-station-after-2024-12659444

Yep, I knew that once we get to the space age, the war of the space age would kick off.
That stupid president that was talking about space force, may not have been very crazy in the least