Divoc19: Nairaland men are looking for girls to feed and accommodate them. That's why they complain about girls being entitled. A real man naturally provides for his woman and brags about it not the other way
Or maybe I've just not met the strong men.. before you say jack, I'm a lecturer and also have other side hustles..
But make me feel like a woman please.. freaky my account first without anything attached.
Are there men like that??
Siofra? You get that kind man?
But why would a sane man send money to your account in the first place? What service or business are you doing for or with him? Why would he send funds to your account? For what reason? You mentioned without strings attached. Even in business there is trade and batter. Something is sold to receive or expect something. The person sending money to your account is he/she doing charity? Even if Charity was the issue to help you expand your ministry, even those ministries promise something. Don't get me wrong, I don't support prostitution or those exotic service. But no sane man would send anyone money without a reason.
Alesa3341: Hello Guys, please I need a sincere and matured advise on what to do. This will be long, please bare with me.
I'm 27, am a businessman, I have this girl I really love so much and intend to marry her this year December, but one thing about her is her bad character. She challenge me, talk back at me, shout at me, get angry with me for days, refuse to cook when she is angry, disrespect my family, most especially my mum, always trying to paint herself good and paint me bad in presence of people, these are just little of the things she has done to me.
When she lost her job, and had nowhere to go, I had to bring her to my house, and provide everything for her, food, I change her hair twice a month, subscribe unlimited for her, I just provided everything a woman need to be happy for her. Last year November, she told me she haven't seen her mum for 5years and wanted to travel to see her, I spent close to 200k to take her to and fro, including other things she needed. She insisted on collecting the bride price list for me when coming back, I spoke to her mum and they gave her to give me. I was planning to finalize all on the weeding this year.
Last year DECEMBER, I took her to my family to introduce her, but this was the biggest mistake of my life. She was completely disrespectful to my mum, talks to me anyhow in presence of anyone, even to the extent of refusing to cook for me anytime she is angry, I go to kitchen and prepare food myself.
I love this girl so much but I still thought of continuing, with all this attitudes, I advise her everyday, I also took her to my pastor who advise her too most of the times, but she never changes.
Fast forward to 2days ago, we had issues because she told me to join her in washing and I refused because I was working on a client project, she got angry, washed the clothes and when it was evening she brought the clothes inside, folded her own in the wardrobe and just threw mine into the wardrobe without folding or arranging them. I was angry about this, but I kept mute. The next day, she sent me "sorry" on WhatsApp, I told her to come to me physically and apologize but she told me she can never do that, and why was she even apologizing, that she did nothing wrong, we exchanged words and she left my house.
Today, she called me and told me she is pregnant, and that I should send her money to remove it. I was like "just like that"? We didn't discuss about it, how will you just tell me you want to terminate my pregnancy, I told her to go to hospital and confirm it and also get the test report, she did this and sent to me, it was true she is pregnant, but she insisted on removing it, I persuaded her and she still refused, claiming she can't be a single mother. I told her I will take responsibility, but she insisted on removing it, I told her to go home and think about it, and she told me she can't leave there without removing it. After so much persuading I decided to give her the money, and told her if she removed it, that it's on her, that I didn't consent to this.
I asked her why we can't keep it, and she said because my family is bad, we support evil, if the sky is blue, we say it's red, that my mother is a bad woman, and she doesn't want to come there. She said so many bad things about my family, I was shocked! I asked her, how are they bad, she said "how can my mother be telling her to wash my clothes" I was just confused, After all I have done for you, is it bad if you wash your husband to be clothes, I left her!
Later she told me the doctor referred her to another hospital, I still tried to persuade her and she said her decision is final. She asked me to give her money to go to the hospital she was referred to, I refused! I insisted that we keep the baby, she told me "I'm a nobody, that she will call now and she will get money to go" I angrily blocked her. Later, she called my other line and told me, she went to the other hospital and the doctor told her, the cost to remove the pregnancy is 125k, she told me and I insisted on keeping the baby.
Please guys help.me, I don't want to terminate my first child, the girl is too disrespectful and rude, I don't want to continue with such woman, but she is carrying my baby, what do I do? And if she later agree to keep it, how do I go about it?
You all are just saying "don't marry her" what about the baby? Should I agree to abort it and give her the money?
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Instead of you to waka pass, you don't want to. I understand something must kill a man but your own.......God have mercy on you
The whole Nigerian system is sick. See Oshiomole being the next person slated to take edo North. As if there are no other capable person young enough to do so. These guys just pass this shit amongst themselves, it make no sense to vote
Jeweltz: This guy has been all about virginity and virginity since we start talking. This is a guy that might've had uncountable sex with all sort of women in America o. Now he comes and he said he love his wife a Virgin. I only ever had about two sexual experience with men . Never seen a grown man obsessed about virginity like that
The other thing is that by the two men encounters, she didn't tell us how many times each encounter. That is important information she kept out
Kollins11: SIMPs will not know so it's okay to lie to them that you're a virgin while you're not.
But you see Alpha mad guys like us, we don't even need to chuk preeq inside your kpekus before we could detect you're a virgin or not. Infact main staring at the kpekus we don already know say u no be virgin.
Men obsessed with virginity? If she tells him the truth, he may want to be the Nr 3. She better keep quiet. Unless he doesn't care about virginity
KeyEndurance: There Was A Girl I Toasted Last Month And She accepted Me But Later Told Me That No Sex Till i Marry Her. And She Gave Me Her Reason That Her Ex Broke up With Her After Having Sex With Her, so That Thought Her A Lesson And Me I Dont know When I Can Marry Her Because Am Still Hustling. So What Will You Do If I Girl Tell You this?
Kobojunkie: Who told you this story? Complete two houses with money she gets from benefits? How much was she collecting? £10,000's a month? Who was paying it to her?
I told you charlatans. The way you know people who don't have information like the OP and some others here is the comments they make
flokii: I remember reading here sometime ago, how a man tricked his wife and kids back home only to return to his base abroad alone where he burnt all their travel papers and documents in the backyard of his house.. What is really happening?. why are the ladies behaving that way?? Same story same complains
Only fools believe such a tale. If the said woman and children were legally living in Europe. Then the man's actions are naught. Infact that action alone is proof the system would use to make life miserable for him.
IngrateWifeKids: Having a Nigerian Wife and Kids in the UK is worse than slavery
Here is why
You will toil to make life comfortable for the so called wife and her kids (they are her kids in the final analysis you are just an expendable sperm donor) and she will still turn those same kids against you and get you kicked out of the family home or voluntary leave to keep your sanity, dignity and freedom.
She will engineer your departure from the family home once she starts receiving single parent handouts from the family hating british system
in the UK, the societal pecking order is children first then women then pets (cats and dogs) before men.
You've been kicked out / forced out of your children's abode and lives (at times by the UK police who will believe anything a woman tells them about her husband) and there are still demands on your finances by the UK system to pay to your kids or you feel obliged to give them some money even though the so called children are selfish and self centered and as dangerous to you as their mum an the lot of them (Mum and kids) are as ungrateful as Bleep. What the hell !!!!
Is it even worth a man marrying ad siring kids with a Nigerian woman in the UK or is it an exercise in futility and all round LOSS for the man on all counts ??
99% of Nigerian women in the UK are like this and God help you find the good 1% amongst these animals in human skin called UK based Nigerian women.
Let me stop here and I hope I have at least helped one man to at least avoid the dangerous trap of marrying a Nigerian woman in the UK or having kids with a Nigerian woman in the UK.
Men you have been warned
NUFF SAID
Lack of information and full of BS. Please upload proof of your stance.
Childish action on both sides. Never fight for a lady no matter how far you both have gone, esp a lady that doesn't want you to fight for her (one that has moved on).
Jeweltz: We have been conditioned to believe that sex will keep a man glue and obsessed about you. No.
I read a thread yesterday of a man dating a single lady who's denying him sex, but the man doesn't still leave her. See that .
Men are wired differently. A man will beg you for sex for many days and immediately you open your leg, he run away after hitting it and stop giving you attention that you deserve. Before you open your leg at all, make sure he's obsessed and his brain programmed to the thought of you alone. This is not difficult provided you don't show him how much you love him. Make him do the chasing. Men like that won't leave you.
There was a guy who was on my case. I like him. But I know Nigerian men. They'll use you once they see you're in love with them. I hoard my love and I told him no sex. No amount of convincing worked. And he was always on his toes making sure he doesn't deviate from showing me love and care.
But still, most of our men are liars and could be getting the sex somewhere else. That's why a woman should close her leg until you know that he will marry you. Don't fall for their lies
This is childish. You can't use your own myopic views to attempt to fit a whole group of men in one box. It can't work. That man that you are stringing alone and attempting to keep on his toes. You are just lucky it's not some men that I know.
Lade18: Recently met this single lady of one. Been the one footing her bills and sending her daughter (5yrs old) to school. She told me She wouldn't let us have sex until she sees I'm committed and reality love her. Although, that's not the reason I'm talking care of her daughter, I just naturally love to spend for people I care about. Just recently, she's wanting to know how much I give my mom and why I'm the one sending her money when she has a shop and making her money.
Yesterday, she told me I don't love her enough. That, if I can open a shop for my mom , then I can do more for her. But I wasn't the one that opened the shop for her, I just supported her.
Now, we had sex for the first time last month and has been denying me sex since then. Yesterday, she came around and I initiated sex, she denied. She told me if we're ever gonna be together, I should learn how to be a man. In her world, being a man involve me cooking, laundry, take her out, and clean. I told her that's cool. But I don't know what a woman will be doing in a House if she's not working while I'm the one footing her bills. If I ask her this, she would get angry.
My fellow men, why are the requirements for sex getting on the increase these Days? Is that they way it's supposed to be?
Listen to PSquare and Phyno financial woman. That song will give you your answer. If she can't see your intentions from just the simple act of taking care of her daughter. Then you should just litter her, she ain't worth it. A woman that thinks you are worth it won't put you through all that shit.
koife: Hello nairalanders, I am particularly compelled to pen this down as I observe my first Xmas away from nja.
Omo forget, nja get swag, community life and it's much fun there during this time of the year.
Yeah, we have our own bad side, but mehn, our social and family life is none to compare with.
Can you imagine, a whole Xmas, the place be like say na curfew Dem declare... Everybody "on your own". Mall shut, pubs shut, kababs, shut, no taxi....everywhere dead.
D one wia pain me pass na say I never carry eye see my flatmate since two days now. Abi this people normal so, or abi na over civilization dey worry Dem? I am so bored and tired that I had to drive out and to my greatest surprise na dead dry town I see. If na nja I dey so, na steady balling...huz to huz chopinz, visits, laughter, palmy, give away, oloshi lmao etc.
Abroad mongers abeg I carry God name beg una, stay back ooo nja na Diamond and Gold. Una no know wetin una get untill una come hia.
By the way, if any nja correct guy dey around Lowestoft, Suffolk, UK abeg make we connect gather make some noice jor, even if na Norwich I go drive come.
I run come hia, as we no get better education. If e bin dey, I nor for come hia lailai.
Meanwhile, seasons greetings y'all. Much love. Xoxo
Attach yourself to a Nigerian community, that way you can all spend Christmas together. But no go tell them say na me send you. Some naija people una stress worry
ExAngel007: Lady stumbles upon her boyfriend's wedding photos online same month she had an abortion for him
A lady has been left heartbroken after stumbling upon wedding photos online of he man she thought was her boyfriend, same month she had an abortion for him.
Twitter user, @A_Blackwoman who shared the story, said the lady aborted for the man three times in one year.
She also disclosed that the lady the man dumped allowed him to stay in her house and provided for him when he was out of a job till he got another.
feranmi143: Yo fish, you saw a lot of red flag before you got married but you ignored it, the very movement you let that pussy control you, sir you are gone, denined you sex for almost a month but she mastubate often, you both need to work on your sex**al life. sucking for an hour YOU NEED TO BE GIVEN AN AWARD, don't plan on cheating, have some nice time with her, if still the same treaten to marry another lady
Also lie. Fact a woman masturbate is not a red flag. It's a matter of preference
Neptunium: She must have masturbated a lot. Excessive female masturbation can damage the clit, g spot and affect the chances of having orgasm and basically overall pleasure that comes with dic penetration.
FullBlastLight: Woman Seeks For Divorce After Her Husband Shaved His Private Parts Without Informing Her
A court in Zambia was stunned after a woman explained to the court how she found out her husband of 22 years had another woman behind her back.
In that surprising statement that was published by the media in the country, the woman said that she wanted a divorce because she found out that her husband had a second wife and she could not tolerate the marriage of two wives.
When asked how she knew that her husband had a second wife, the woman by the name of Karen Chungu said that one day she wanted to make love with her husband but was stunned after realizing that he had shaved his pubic hair.
She wanted to know why her husband decided to shave his pubic hair without informing her and this is when her husband silenced her.
“One day I wanted to make love with my husband, but I was shocked to find him shaved. I wanted to have a meeting about why his private parts are clean, but he told me to shut up about it.
The problems in our marriage continued to the point of kicking me out of the house and when the elders got involved, he ran away,” Karen told the court in Ndola, Zambia.
She said that since that incident, she and her husband never shared love with her husband for more than a year.
Defending himself, the man named Andrew Kapembwa said that he had no intention of marrying a second wife until his wife refused to wash his clothes and that’s why he decided to get her a co-wife.
“I had no intention of marrying another woman, but my wife stopped doing laundry for me and performed her duties. I married another woman because of my wife’s behavior. I haven’t been out of our house in two years. I made a mistake and I admit it. I respect my wife. She is the mother of my children,” he said.
He also told the court that he did not have sex with his wife because she rejected him.
BentizilL: Libya, Afghanistan.. Should I continue or start with countries independen NATO nations have bullied??
Lol, I knew you would mention these countries. You won't be wrong if your intention was not to change the narrative. But you are wrong. The countries are not better for it but they actually had it coming. Just like Russia would but for the fear of nuclear weapons
Labadi69: Another dull lazy youth spotted. How can you be yearning so much trash with confidence? Yamayama fall on that your bald head there
Youth, children without respect. Anyways this faceless forum does not let anyone know who is who. If not, you would be prostrating to greet me you little boy.
hapsattaddawus: Dollar crash, has nothing, absolutely nothing to do with naira redesign. It has to do with the US policy to check the stock pile of dollars in Africa. Especially Nigeria and South Africa Stop deceiving yourself.
The Nigerian leaders are very dangerous. Just imagine that charlatan saying that shit. All countries are allowed to set their currency to any level they want. The thing is that most countries prefer to set their currency in relation to the dollar. Then they must have something backing it. Naira is on free fall because Nigeria does not have SEC anymore. Buhari and APC has spent it all. This time of fuel boost is the time they should be saving to build the SEC back but no. It's spending and spending. Aboki, what do you expect
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That hellish character
. Never seen a grown man obsessed about virginity like that 
