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Bvlgari:
Nigerian lady kicks her husband out of his own home in the UK after he brought her over from Nigeria 2years ago and even paid for her nursing school and training 😮😮🤔

https://www.instagram.com/reel/Cpq0XKuD8dD/?igshid=YmMyMTA2M2Y=


https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=gvRpma-EiEQ

Davidson1010:
https://www.dailymail.co.uk/femail/article-11854453/I-earn-50-naked-cleaner-like-clients-creepy-requests.html?ito=social-facebook

siofra:
By Ijeoma Chinonyerem on Facebook

https://www.facebook.com/100014026064234/posts/pfbid02k316kKkkahJJodrBg9hhxd4NSguccqFWgfocLpVg81KopLiSYJShNVBkxSXs1aGfl/?app=fbl


I used vagina because people always say "grow some balls" when they want you to stop being cowardly and become stronger. But we all know a vagina is stronger than balls.

GOTVee:
Even though I'm a born again Christian, I think I must give kudos to our Muslim brothers and sisters for living by the tenets of islam. No Islamic ruling nor nation will give a nod to this madness and we wonder why they are more morally up right than we Christians? Weird acts and cultures are common amongst Christian nations yet we think we are more righteous. Sometimes I regret being a Christian

oyin44:
It is now glaring that tinubu is Nigerian president. ..

Wordsfrombimpe:
Answer guys

Kindly note mindset is important

Environment is the reason why many of you think this way

I have not travel abroad but my level of mindset and intellect and how I read deep make me understand nudity isn't like a big deal

It's only in Nigeria we see it that way

Lastly many women who dress this ways are usually decent or even celibate

Don't judge the book by its cover

Here are the list of tribes that show off their body

These tribes are as follow::

1)The Nyae Nyae People's of Namibia South Africa

2) Korowai Tribe of Indonesia (Southeastern West Papua)

3) Dani Tribe ( Indonesia) New Guinea

4) The Zo’ è Tribe of Brazil


This women you see from different culture will even be married and have family

Let's have proper mindset that's all

agarawu1985:
https://www.pulse.ng/news/politics/being-my-cameraman-not-enough-to-make-you-governor-fashola-tells-jandor/wvf7fdp

ijustdey:
https://www.vanguardngr.com/2023/02/video-i-came-with-buhari-you-cannot-reject-endorsing-me-tinubu-to-sultan/

Holiness2100:
https://www.dailymail.co.uk/tvshowbiz/article-11717183/Grammy-awards-2023-Viewers-slam-Sam-Smith-Kim-Petras-demonic-Unholy-performance.html

Niece:
https://www.instagram.com/p/CoVbwZLoGRe/?igshid=YmMyMTA2M2Y=

Kessarc001:
Good morning, pls what chances do I have as an Architect

ebubeson:
If your Fiancee is not sleeping with her EX, you are very lucky. Some ladies might be faithful in marriage, but if they are faithful in courtship, you are lucky. That is where the issue of DNA issue amongst firstborns may be coming from.

If you have truly slept with someone's Fiancee few days to her wedding or whenever. May God forgive you.

You will marry a faithful lady, but make sure you are faithful.

Dailyparrot:
I have to create this thread after reading through the topic on front page asking for jobs/professions that will make you not to marry someone.

So, I'm talking to this Unizik student that's studying medical radiography. Everything was going well. She even told me that she has told her mother about me and all. We met on Facebook and she's already asking to see me in person.

Until the day she found out that I use my car for Uber/Bolt business, everything changed. This girl stopped talking to me.

She has never been to Lagos and does not know how Uber works. She was asking how much I earn in a day, and that hope the Uber is not like their normal school cab that charge 100 naira per person, bla bla bla.

Well, I just don't want to let her know my net worth. I don't do Uber full time. I work on Fiverr and because sales dropped there, I decided to use Uber to make up for the income. I also do academic research for foreign students. Etc. I am into a lot of stuffs that fetch me nothing less than 400k a month so I don't think I should be regarded poor.

My house in the East is at roofing level. I am almost completing the payment of 4.5 million for a land I'm purchasing at Mowe, I own my car plus another Sienna I bought when Fiverr was booming.

I have a masters degree. So, should a girl reject me because I use my car to drive on Uber?

I am just laughing at her ignorance. The other time, we were talking and I jokingly asked her why she's putting on make up, and she was like, so she can find better suitors.

I thence assume I am not a better suitor because to her, I'm poor. This is someone earning 8k per month in the school that she was teaching during ASUU strike.

I wonder why women are impatient when it comes to taking decisions and that's why most of them regret later.

I am supposing being a medical student makes this girl think she deserves someone better than just a cab driver.

LOL.

officialwdhtv:

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=UkrLHjhOARc

Nigerian man shares the things he saw after he relocated to the UK 😯

https://www.instagram.com/reel/Cn21Z6NhFU3/?igshid=YmMyMTA2M2Y=

imagrg:
The way men cast aspersions on women whenever they make demands from them is selfish and unacceptable.

Ladies are like lilies, you need to tend and care for it to make it blossom.

Let her feel you care.

KanwuliaExtra:
Notice that our men die untimely because they have no peace in their homes? Nigerian women are not good. African-American women are 'demons'. . .Caucasian women get wrinkled too fast. . . .all kinds of excuses. Is there any kind of woman that can please them? Even the ''village virgins"? Make dem try find happiness and stop spreading acrimony in relationships abeg. Women can be psychotic too. YES. But it takes two!

A sorry bunch is an understatement. Especially in the medical field. If you earn more than your husband, na wahala o. If you husbands EARNS more than you as 'BREAD-WINNER" nko? . . . YOU DON DIE BE DAT! You go get 'co-wives' ke! Dem go pepper you ehn. . . .? Just sadistic and manipulative. The reason most of them get thrown out of the houses in the diaspora TO AVOID DOMESTIC VIOLENCE AND UNGOING STRESS!!! They will want you to 'submit' your paycheck and use ' OSINACHI BIBLICAL JAZZ' to try to control you like most men do in Africa. I know many women who would rather suffer in silence than be divorced in the diaspora. So the men take advantage of the situation.

Flip side. If a Nigerian woman sits at home and does nothing to help. . .she will fall out of favor in her marriage. It forces her to STRUGGLE and pull her pants up!

I am not associating the 'sorry bunch' phenomenon to ALL Nigerian or African men. Truth be told, MOST our men are extremely 'spoiled' and catered to in the African context as 'kings'. When they leave the shores of Africa. . . they experience 'culture shock' and find it extremely difficult to adjust. The sense of entlement is unreal with misplaced priorities. The reason they quench. . . for lack of personal accomplishment.

The saddest part is that males and females born in the diaspora don't really have role models to look up to if the 'man' of the house has lost his way in the family by displaying the most unproductive work ethic. MANY NIGERIAN MEN KEEP DROPPING LIKE FLIES IN THE DIASPORA more than women. By 60. . . they claim 'disability' and stay at home.

No life insurance
No benefits
No investments

Only depression and mid-life crises.Then they rush home to start new families with new wives. . . then drop dead! Lack of material and spiritual content in OLD AGE IS A CURSE. No plan for retirement.

Ridiculous!

Wordsfrombimpe:
Naira not dollars

KanwuliaExtra:
Understood.
I have one family member whose wife has abandoned him because he is 'stressed' from working. He stays on the internet arguing on social media platforms till he was fired from his job for 'online tradiing and gambling'! Now, he has high blood pressure and has moved in with another family member. The wife and children have relocated farrrrrrrr away from him to avoid further conflicts. The only son has copied his father's habits and sleeps online too, instead of obeying house rules concerning social media addiction.

Father addict. . .
Son addict. . .

I don't know ANY FAMILY HERE IN THE DIASPORA WITH ONE FAMILY INCOME. Or the father as a sole bread winner. The men will NOT EVEN ALLOW IT. . . unless they are dealing with 'newly imported spouses' or spouses with academic or medical challenges.

I DO NOT KNOW ONENIGERIAN MAN AROUND ME THAT IS A BREAD-WINNER. You cannot make it as an individual or as a family with ONE INCOME. It is NOT POSSIBLE IN THE DIASPORA. . . .It is even the wives that are mostly the bread-winners. Most of our NIGERIAN MEN have lost the zeal to maintain meaningful employment and really give up easily because of their love for 'get rich or die tryng' fraudulent mentalities!

KanwuliaExtra:
Thanks for your input.

If men have to work like donkeys, something is inherently wrong with that relationship. Is the partner handicap?
I know a lot of men who are able to partner with their significant others for a healthy work-life balance.
The reason I do not subscribe to a one-income/one-bread-winner family. Most who adopt this kind of economic planning with one stay-at-home parent actually make men the ONLY BREAD-WINNER IN THE HOME.

Women will say they are 'home-makers' working at home without income.
What will happen to that ONE SOLE BREAD-WINNER if he or she is met with sudden unemployment or health challanges preventing continuation of employment?

How will the pressure not be too much on ONE PERSON(MAN OR WOMAN)?

If I were to be the sole breadwinner going to work knowing my WHOLE family depends on me to thrive. . . . I would be worried day and night!
When men claim to be breadwinners/heads of households and suggest their wives DO NOT WORK, what are they thinking?

We have to learn to work together to achieve a healthy work-life balance.
Men do not complain or nag. . . women do. Because women nag, they have outlets to vent out frustrations and can re-charge. Men bottle everything up and end up becoming less productive on the long run.

WHY SHOULD A MAN TAKE ON THE SOLE RESPONSIBILITY OF BEING A BREAD-WINNER IN HOME? That will only work on a short term basis.
If a man continues that on the long run, he risks dropping dead within 10 of retirement, if he ever gets to retire.

KanwuliaExtra:
Thanks for your input.

If men have to work like donkeys, something is inherently wrong with that relationship. Is the partner handicap?
I know a lot of men who are able to partner with their significant others for a healthy work-life balance.
The reason I do not subscribe to a one-income/one-bread-winner family. Most who adopt this kind of economic planning with one stay-at-home parent actually make men the ONLY BREAD-WINNER IN THE HOME.

Women will say they are 'home-makers' working at home without income.
What will happen to that ONE SOLE BREAD-WINNER if he or she is met with sudden unemployment or health challanges preventing continuation of employment?

How will the pressure not be too much on ONE PERSON(MAN OR WOMAN)?

If I were to be the sole breadwinner going to work knowing my WHOLE family depends on me to thrive. . . . I would be worried day and night!
When men claim to be breadwinners/heads of households and suggest their wives DO NOT WORK, what are they thinking?

We have to learn to work together to achieve a healthy work-life balance.
Men do not complain or nag. . . women do. Because women nag, they have outlets to vent out frustrations and can re-charge. Men bottle everything up and end up becoming less productive on the long run.

WHY SHOULD A MAN TAKE ON THE SOLE RESPONSIBILITY OF BEING A BREAD-WINNER IN HOME? That will only work on a short term basis.
If a man continues that on the long run, he risks dropping dead within 10 of retirement, if he ever gets to retire.

Seun:
Written by Shaka Phillip-Jonson

https://twitter.com/beejonson/status/1615880886414614528

EriMma1:
This may sound weird but it's my situation now.

I have been a single and independent lady for a very long time. Though I really looked forward to settling down in my 20s and thirties but because I was the over careful type, I couldn't as I kept being picky due to men's character and behavior.

Fast-forward to my lat 30s, I began to lose interest and started getting more comfortable as a single. The upheavals in today's marriage also got to me. As in the way marriages are packing up, the cheating aspect, abuse and domestic violence in marriages all further affected me and changed my whole perception of the union called marriage. So I unconsciously resolved to remain single as long as I'm happy, comfortable and financially independent.

Some of the reasons I also made up my mind are.
As a single, Im very much at peace, with no one dictating what and when I should do things or get out of bed. I love my bed.
No one is body shaming me when I add on some pounds due to excessive eating and no one is questioning my eating habits as its sometimes the case with some married women. Also running errands when you don't feel up to it just because hubby wants you to do it. Some men can send their wife on errand like crazy and me I hate running errands.

No one is disturbing me when I need time alone which could last for hours. I love my space and privacy. So the thought of having to give up all that scares the hell out of me.

Now, back to the matter.

Recently, some close spiritual leaders in my denomination have been trying to match make me with a single pastor and that one too is shining teeth that he has seen a jimjim sister. When they now openly mentioned it yesterday with the said man around and he too was nodding and agreeing to the proposal, it dawned on me that these people are not joking. When I got home, i sank into my comfy space and began to fret. I mean... The thought of giving up all that freedom is just so scary. I suddenly discovered that marriage no longer excites me and my inner self was fighting it.
Also, the thought of carrying pregnancy for nine months with all the stress of looking after babies, tending toddlers ( poo poo) and that motherhood life made me sick instantly. The thought of joggling my job with family life gave me the chills. I see how my married mates struggle with this. Huh. Men...

I don't know. I don't feel cool about this cos it makes me feel like I'm about to be put in a cage and everything about me is going to change.

Now, before you talk about me not loving the man, I think I fancy him and can love him cos he looks so much like my ex of years ago. So that is out of the question. He is a happening lovable man but....... I no longer feel excited about marriage. at least, from what played out yesterday.

Do I need any form of therapy cos my family won't hear of it but this is my situation now ooo... Hmmm

KanwuliaExtra:
https://www.vanguardngr.com/2022/05/why-women-live-longer-than-men-2/

Jkoro29:
Hi nairalanders. This is the first time that I will be creating an account on Nairaland. I have been a guest for many years and I love this forum. I am not the type of person to share my issues with people, but this issue is very pressing and I don't seem to have found any answers from researching online. Please I would appreciate if one of the moderators sends this thread to the front page so I can get more responses.

I am 29 years old. I have a job, my own house and a car, and I am ready to settle down. I want to get married this year, unfailingly. The problem is that I only attract bad girls into my life. My definition of bad girls are those girls that club almost every night, girls that care so much about material things and about how they look, girls that wear skimpy outfits and show off their bodies at every chance. Girls that live on tiktok and instagram. These are the type of girls I attract.

What prompted me to create this account and post this is the experience I had today in church. There is the beautiful, quiet, modest looking usher that I have feelings for. I I have listened to her speak in our youth sunday school and she sound intelligent. She is also god-fearing and devoted in church. I admire these qualities in a wife. Today I walked up to her to introduce myself but the way she responded killed me on the inside. She didn't even smile. Just kept a straight face and didn't even care to respond to some of my questions. I felt defeated. I don't believe in forcing a friendship. I believe that when I approach a girl and she behaves like that, it is a sign that she doesn't like me at all and I would only be wasting time trying to get her to like me.

Meanwhile in the same church, there is one slay queen that has been giving me green light and always smiles when we lock eyes. I don't even know why girls like this come to church. There is another girl that twerks all the time on her whatsapp that is angry that I have been ignoring her. There are countless others i have slept with in the past that have all fit this profile. But not once have I had a relationship with a good girl. It is almost like a curse was placed on me. When ever i meet good girls, they always seem to not like me. Maybe I am bad at reading people, but the way they behave is the direct opposite of the way the bad girls behave when I meet them. The bad ones are always smiling, always attentive and always eager to know more about me.

I don't want to get married to a girl that doesn't have the fear of god, or a girl that smokes shisha and parties all night every weekday. I want to get married to a girl that has the qualities of the usher girl.

I am a good looking, responsible young man. I do not dress, look or act like a yahoo boy, in case you are wondering. I am well educated, I speak well and interact with people in a mature way.

trutharena:
Below is Mazi Simon Ekpa announcing he will be placing bounty on Ohaneze elders.

This is in response to the bounty Ohaneze initially placed on him.



Source: https://twitter.com/simon_ekpa/status/1617431340672057344?s=46&t=34iumxIBtt7e2M04QCKbHA[/quote]Ohanaze failed this one. You don't dance naked in the market with a madman.
"Those who would wear white and hold a madman down in the mud, should remember the colour their clothes previously was". Chinua Achebe

G00DHardDick:
Simps have nothing to offer other than,

SIMP: have you eaten?
Girl: (reads the chat & ignores him)

SIMP: why na
Girl:

SIMP: I hope you're going to church today
Girl: (replies with an emoji)

SIMP: Hi
Girl: Hi

SIMP: How was your day?
Girl: (ignores him again)

SIMP: did I something wrong? Why are you angry with me?
Girl: no

SIMP: I love you so much why don't you feel the same way?
Girl: k

SIMP: I can't live without you?
Girl: k

And other bunch of simpleton statement.

The alpha male hardly chats or doesn't even chat at all with a girl yet he's the most valued. His lifestyle drives her crazy that she desperately desire to be with him at any given opportunity. In conclusion, Dear Men, value your attention!!!! No man earn respect when he showers unnecessary attention to a girl.

Wordsfrombimpe:
Every young woman out there should learn from Halima Abubakar

Avoid sleeping around anyhow with men

Some men are very dangerous is not even about pastors be careful with man especially when you dont know much history with them.

She slept with a man for # a 2.5million and look at her today

I hope our women will learn to be satisfied with what they have

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