lexy2014: i havent made any point. i only asked questions which u couldnt answer: "He spent this money so Why is he complaining? Did he ask Twitter before he took d decision to transport a woman to another country for sex?"
I actually had no intention of answering or not answering Ur questions
Kobojunkiee: He felt he had the money and wanted to spend, so why is he complaining that the woman he spent the money on did not give him sex?
He had an aim. His money didn't fulfill his aim, was within his right to complain. It was still his money not Urs. U are drinking panadol for another man's shit. Mind Ur business
the man is the foolish person here. The man spent money on flight tickets and hotel reservations just to have sex he got played by a smart woman,he should hide his face in shame.
A fool and his money are soon parted
Nothing like that. He felt he had the money and wanted to spend. Who are U to question how he spends his own money? U have too much time. Go and make Ur own money
drizslim: A Twitter user has revealed how a family in Eleme, Rivers state, paid back a man who helped them financially in hopes of marrying their daughter.
The man reportedly built a house for the family of his lover and shouldered their financial responsibilities.
However, when it was time for marriage, the girl decided that she wanted to be a model and eloped to Paris, France, with a white man.
The distraught man allegedly threatened to demolish the house he built for the family, but they pleaded with him and asked him to marry his ex-lover’s younger sister instead.
The Twitter user, @MaverickThamani, who shared the story online wrote,
“A guy in Eleme built a house for his girl’s family. Carried the whole family on his shoulder. Time for marriage, she said she wants to become a model. Left him and followed one white guy to Paris. Baba said he will demolish the house. Family pleaded and gave him her younger sis”.
Have written this before. Marriage is not by force. There is nothing like a better man or a worse man. I mean, if U give Ur word to accomplish something U have to keep to Ur words without regret. After all you gave Ur word with Ur eyes open.
ubunja: So a girl meets with you, invites you to family gatherings etc AND STILL YOU ASK HER OUT??
What the fvck is this?
Then a couple of dates later you talk marriage? Again, what the actual fvck??
Why ask a girl out who is already going out with you?
And why chase marriage as a man? Dude, chase sex. Let her bring that marriage stuff up herself. Don't do a woman's job for her. Let her ask "So where is this going....?". Not you.
Lol, don't listen to this guys right up. He is only right in one thing and that is never do a lady's job for her. Some ladies may use it against U. But it's always good to know where U stand with her. So asking her to date U is not bad at all. Ofcos U want to be certain she ain't dating anyone else so that's ok. Am sure we all agree she is already dating you from what U wrote but it's never ok to assume anything. So ask her again one more time. If she gives U the same brush off she has been doing then give her some distance. Tell her if U can't be sure what U guys are, then U would rather be alone. U will her her profess whatever she needs to to keep U. That too is doing the lady's job for her but it seems you are that type of a guy and that ain't bad. I on the other hand would move first to see Jericho i.e. if I like her enough for keeps or to wed I haven't met any Nigerian lady so far that won't ask U what U guys after to eachother after u've slept with her.
Moreign001: Hello Guys, Good Morning and a Happy Sunday to you all.
I don't know how concise i can be, but I will try.
I just graduated last 3 months, with my girlfriend who's now my ex, and she's 26yrs of age while I'm 28yr.
We started dating from our 200level till yesterday, (that's approximately 4yrs and counting...). We were ideal together, we were well known in school, to an extent where her friends and mine kept asking how? And wishing theirs was like ours..
She promised never to leave, and she please everyday that I should never hurt her. At times we jokingly talked about our future kids which is now a never happening fable.
So after we graduated, she travelled to stay with her aunt, we do check on each other everyday.
Last month.. She called, and said her friend needs an advice, that she and her date just graduated, and that another man is asking her out, and she's thinking of dumping her guy since he's not ready, and that the newly known man is ready to pay for her marriage rites. Immediately I knew she was the one in the story, because I already had several dreams were she left me. I pretended, I told her to tell her friend to "Follow Her Heart".
Last night she called, and said there's something she wants to tell me, I responded, "Is it what I already know?", she asked what? I told her she's getting married soon, and she said yes! I was speechless. I asked her for how long has this been going on, she said it started when she came to stay with her Aunt. We spoke, and I congratulated her, she started crying, I ended the call, sent her a good luck text.
This morning, she called and said she couldn't sleep last night. I asked her why she did it, why she decided to get married, she said she doesn't know. I asked if she likes the guy, she said yes. She couldn't stop crying and was saying I shouldn't leave her, while she's the one leaving me. I was totally down, but I have crazy friends. I WhatsApp a friend, told him what just happened, his words boosted me up. He said, " Support her, we move, no be God leave you". That was enough, but it's hard, really hard to move on without her, and she said the same thing and kept pleading I shouldn't leave her. Now I'm asking, if I was the one who had left, what would have been the story? That I used her and dumped her, because this has always been used against the guys. Why are women in a rush to marry? They don't even add value to themselves, I'm now 80% in agreement that marriage is one of the greatest achievement for a woman, maybe in Nigeria.
Only in Nigeria, esp is the said lady is well sort after. That's where I will see confusion
chynenye: Lol, I really do get what u r saying. I understand ur pay rt now isn't commensurate wit all d med sch stress. Bt u sound lik u guyz r d only ppl affected. Its general u know. I'm a med lab sct nd i must say d pay isn't appetizing. But then we can keep hopin dat things ll get better here rather than joining ur colleagues abroad. Hope u aint thinkin u might hope 4 eva?
This comment from 2009 made my day today some 13 years later. Wonderful!
MISSNORA: Good evening all! Please i need mature replies on this topic. My elder brother is really hurting right now.
The Story. My elder brother got married earlier this year...before the marriage, he was fully aware that his childhood friend[Michael] had dated his wife to be with sexx involved. The wife is the truthful type and lays everything bare. Michael is well aware that his ex [my elder Bros wife] is fully married to his friend[my brother]....My brothers wife and Michael recently reconnected again on social media and has since started up chats that "MAY" lead to them flirting. She shows my brother the chats and gives him every update. My brother is not happy with this development and is yet to communicate this to his wife.
Questions. 1...Should he tell the wife to block of Michael (his wife's ex, whom is coincidentally his childhood till date friend) ?is this a wise move considering the fact that this might make his wife start hiding stuffs ... The wife is cool with maintaining contact with this particular ex[Michael]....thought he tells my brother everything /the chats. 2....Can you allow ur spouse still in contacts with his/her ex? 3....Should my brother just talk to Michael straight up to stop chatting his wife?
No cause for alarm. Draw line on the floor. Madam has to choose where is stands. It's not by force to be married. If she prefers her ex, let her go with him. Know Ur worth without being proud about it
Beremx: Sign of dehydration. Please give him water to drink everyday. Avoid giving him strong antibiotics to avoid stories that touches the heart. I am talking from experience.
Best answer. Baby is not feeding enough is severe dehydrated. Pls increase feeding and fluid without overloading baby
SpecialAdviser: This guy should take over Gtbank if Nigeria is a country that respects the law.
Just that too much wayooo and injustice full the country.
But one with God is the majority.
Lol, he can't take over the bank. Am sure the bank has more assets than 32 billion. What may be done is that they convert his money into shares and he gets a percentage of the bank.
Penguin2: Just that I personally, and over 99 percent of men, will not put a ring on your finger if you can’t relate with my siblings. I will never.
If I were him I would dump your ass straight away because you going back to say you have accepted his siblings will only amount to pretense just for the marriage to happen then you go back to hating his siblings.
People like you cause your husbands to be detached from their families after marriage.
Change your ways!
99 % of men you know if probably what U meant and that speaks a lot about the kind of person U are and Ur mindset. Marriage is not the end, women should know their worth.
Jman06: Y'all should cut the guy some slack abeg. Always looking for means to blame guys in everything related to women.
The guy's siblings are actually right. If the guy can build a rapport with her own family, nothing stops her from doing same. So, she should put in more efforts or get herself off the way for the guy to look for another lady.
U forget there is no right or wrong on this issue. There is only what is and what's possible.
To respond to Ur comment. The OP has already said that she is introverted and her guy is an extrovert. Normally such relationships work well cos their characters pull on eachother to form a balance where they both can thrive in the relationship. But word of warning here is that they both have to work on it to find that balance.
To go back to the topic in question. The guys Siblings are wrong. They can't be more wrong that it even hurts to think about how wrong they are. You can't use the fact that someone is shy and introverted and make a definitive judgement about the person. Not everyone has the Charisma to be overly entertaining. Does not make such persons proud, bad or in their point or view feeling big. The OP should be herself and attempt to be friendly and accommodating to her guys people without being overly pretentious about the kind of person she is. I can tell U that nothing she does would change whatever opinion they have already. Her guys people will probably already see her as proud and fake and desperate. Hence the said comments from one of the sibs. That is where see finish comes in. I mean, did the men who married the sisters put them thru all that shit? This issue where our girls put all their hopes in marriage should be overhauled. It's unfair. If her guy doesn't see her worth enough to put a ring on the finger, it's his loss. Ofcos that is if she is gainfully employed and keeping her own.
Havilaah1: Really wish he can see this. They're making it look like all brides to be are usually close to their in laws before marriage. When one saw me during the wedding, she jokingly said see our wife that we'll soon sack. Didn't know they've been saying this.
Only happens when women put all their hope in a man. U can only do so much. Try to reason things with him, tell him where it hurts. Seek a compromise with him. If he still insists that his way is it, then U are better of without him
Havilaah1: Good day all, i want to pour my heart on what's bothering me and get people's view and possible solutions to the issue.
I've been in a relationship with my boo for a couple of years now and it's a serious relationship, we're are very close.. infact we're practically besties aside relationship. For some months now i noticed he no longer gives me attention like he used to, the vibe between us dropped and it was getting me angry. He stopped doing the things he knows i like, he knows my love language is attention/care as well as complement but he stopped doing all these. I'd send him a photo where i look so beautiful and he'd only say you look good, at a point i started preparing my mind for the worse.
Just yesterday he told me there's something he wants us to talk to me about and it's been bothering him and i asked him what it was, he said it's about us. He said 2 of his siblings asked him same question on different occasions but, he didn't see it as a big deal the first time but when it was asked the second time he got angry and that's the reason he hasn't been flowing well with me.
The question was how can you get married to someone who is not close to your siblings, when he said this i was weak. I know when we started the relationship he told me his siblings are free people i can relate with, i told him i will try. I was in contact with 2 of his sisters before this year( i sometimes chat, text or call during birthdays, new month and festivities).
This year i started chatting with the 3rd sister, her wedding was coming up and she sent me IV. I congratulated her and she asked if i will be around, i told her i will try and create time so i can travel down to attend. I really did travel down to attend the wedding, she was surprised when she saw me but i noticed my boo wasn't happy with me all through the event. Now he's saying he's in close communication with my mum and siblings, they talk all the time but same can not be said about me. He was thinking how can he get married and his siblings will refuse coming to his house because there's no relationship between us.
I'm a very introverted person while himself and his siblings on the other hand are extroverts and ambiverts, i don't find it easy building up ties with people from a distance. I have very few friends, i can be in a place and i won't talk if I'm not used to the people or there's no serious thing to talk about (that's the reason i talk to his siblings during birthdays, new month or festivities). I don't know how to build up a strong relationship with them before marriage, it's even worse because we don't get to see often cos they're in a different state but I've visited them on a few occasions. How do i handle this issue. I was in deep thought all through the night, i couldn't get up to 4 hours sleep.
God knows i love his family as much as i do mine, he himself said he knows i care about them 100% but his family cannot read my mind to see that i have them in mind. After our discussion last night i couldn't sleep, I've been feeling bad about the whole thing. Introversion is making me look like I'm not a good person.
I really don't know how to go about this, please i need advice from people who have been in similar situation. Moderator please help move to front page to get a wider view. Roctation farano Please help move to front page for wider view.
Your guy is making an issue out of nothing. If he would listen to words of wisdom, then I will write this. It is best to have Ur relationship intact than allow the issue of "see finish" destroy the understanding you have built with someone over the years. U must not be close to his siblings or relations before he has put a ring on Ur finger. It is good if you are but U must not be, that is not mandatory. That he is close to Ur family is good and it just reflects his personality, nothing more. The issue of see finish is a problem and I am writing this from experience. I have said my own.
Juliusmomoh: I don't even know the right section to post this..
I lost my uncle some days ago and we put him into the mortuary. Our plan to buried him by january...
What brought about thread is that the mortuary attendant called us to take our corpse on the ground that he fight with the other corpse there.
We went there early morning yesterday to comfirm ourselves. What our eye see mouth no fit talk... E shock us.
He fought other corpse there. He even hang some on the window Attendant don beat him tire, they will still wake up in the morning and see other corpse scatterd and only him enjoying the room.
We where told maybe he's a cultist or he's in some spritual stuff before he died..
They ask us to take him away but we don't want to bury him now due to some family issues. You know.
Please exprience nairalanders, what do you suggest to do now to him?
Nigerians and ghost stories are like 5&6, whether true or false. One can't know but believe nothing till U see yourself. Especially disbelief what U see on the pages of NL except the dailies. After all those written above, I can only say that I have heard of such but never seen. While in school, I was reading in the mutuary of the school with few friends. What we saw there can't be explained in pages of NL.
amaifehenry: A Twitter user @Bongoldeas notorious for insulting celebrities and bullying people on social media was caught by some of his victims (celebrities) on a live show and disgraced!
It was a sorry sight for the bully who looked stupid as his horrendous comments about people were read out to him.
It’s alleged that some of his victims had depression.
The ladies took turn to disgrace him. ��
Say no to cyber bullying � Depression is real. People can commit suicide from your wicked words all in the name of clout.
So they invite this poor guy on live TV to make a mess of him. What is different from what he did on twitter with what they did on live TV? Two wrongs don't make a right. What they did was very wrong.
If I might add. What is frustrating in the whole things is that they are unteachable and go calling anyone that disagree with them simpletons. Imagine small boys...
Favfables1: First.... The concept of "real man" is a fallacy and the interpretation of it's meaning is subject to the individual in question, thus no one interpretation fits all...
Secondly... The word "responsibility" means "obligation" ((et al., depending on the context to which it is applied))...
Now ... All you wrote up there is valid within the context of a MARRIAGE RELATIONSHIP, but it's sooooo invalid in something as fickle as a boyfriend-girlfriend relationship...
In other words... YOUR GIRLFRIEND IS NOT YOUR RESPONSIBILITY, you're not obligated to doing anything for your girlfriend just because you guys are together. In fact sef, taking care of your girlfriend's financial needs is RUBBISH in my opinion...
Yes there should be a "sense of responsibility" in a relationship, but not to the extent at which is protrayed in your write up...
Well said bro and am sure many men agree with this write-up. The thing there is kids or this generation confuse this with redpillers BS or alpha male BS and that is not the case
Nonpartisan1: I see Kanu denouncing Biafra for his freedom very soon.
Won't change the struggle. The status quo can never remain forever. If U disbelieve, look at the USA. See how the republicans are imploding on themselves cos of Trump and false narrative. Trying to change reality to an alternative one. The status quo can't remain forever
Romance › Re: Lady Refuses To Sleep With Man Who Took Her On Expense Paid Vacation-He Did This by drnoel: 5:07pm On Nov 25, 2021
