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Interesting writeup. But make it a bit more targeted towards your audience by posting a pic of a black (preferably Nigerian) couple kissing.

And yet not one single mention of birth control in the entire write-up.

When would Nigerians learn? They touched on how much of a financial struggle it was to cater for their kids shortly after the birth of the twins - and yet they kept humping themselves silly without protection and were rewarded with quadruplets.

Oh well, I guess poverty sits well with some folks.

Heartbreaking pictures.

The Victorians did this too - posing for pics with dead family members. Very surreal.

cococandy:
That's why financial independence can't be over emphasized.

Not necessarily though.

There are cases of working victims who still get subjected to domestic violence, and yet they remain in such abusive relationships.

I think it's a complex mix of societal norms / expectations (I.e. a "good wife" stays put, no matter what), power wielding (insatiable need of the abuser to feel in total control), and mind games (psychological feelings of self-loathing and worthlessness from the victim).

Nah, this story doesn't sit read right.

Why would the husband (tagged with kids and family) expect to find his wife at her boss's home (of all places), in the middle of the afternoon, when she ought to be at work?

What was he expecting her to be doing at the man's place?

misayada:
Yea that is a common feeling. I get that the urge for sex gets stronger especially as you get older but getting busy and active with other things to enrich and build urself helps to take your mind off #itsnoteasy

This is the most importnat thing you should consider tho:
God is the one that ordained marriage and in my opinion if u are not in a relationship first with that God then marriage is not worth it (a waste of time and effort) cos it can never work talk less of being enjoyed without the same God. It becomes that 'failed institution' when is not done in the 'right way'.

I don't get you.

Why would / should an adult abstain from consensual sex with a willing partner if he/she so desires?

Who'll be offended if they give in to their physical yearnings??

I hope you aren't preaching "no sex before marriage" to adults? Bearing in mind marriage isn't for everyone, for those who choose not to get hitched, what should they do with regards to their sexual cravings??

Lawd have mercy!!

I can't stomach these...

Main deal: my usual Chicken Ramen.

Lunch @ work!

Chicken & Salmon gyoza. Warning: The salmon is raw and the chicken blow-torched.

Anyway, this is just for starters...

cc: Thelish (for the raw fish)
And Damiso (for the blow-torched chicken)

lacapine:
can I take this even in pregnancy?

Best you have a chat with your doctor / midwife. Pregnancy makes it a lot more complicated and we don't know your history dear.

Don't let what people say get to you girl. Learn to develop a thick skin and do what's right for you. I'm a firm advocate for keeping fit (eating clean and exercising) and I think what you're doing is commendable. You know what risks you face and you're working hard to avoid them "manifesting". Good on you girl- especially if your profile pic is anything to go by. You certainly AREN'T anorexic.

Oh, and lovely stories you've got. Nice!

cococandy:
^^^

You dey laugh??

That blessing must not pass me by...e go rub off via association by-fire-by-force.

Good morning.

KanwuliaJara:
What if the marriage don drown tey tey come begin dey "float" with "open belle" like my own?

You this wacky woman. Good morning.

Then for the sake of this thread, I'll claim to be Igbo.

Nna, where are all my Igbo brothers & sisters? Make una back me up. In no particular order:

Cococandy
Edwife
Chillisauce
Njokusboy
Ihedinobi
Queen47
Smartmom
Ifyalways
Lofty900
5minsmadness
Byvan03
Etc

lujoshven:
@EfemenaXY We are looking at one of the root cause of cheating, vaginal laxity don't have to do with age, although it is more in elderly women due to number of child birth gone through.

I never said it was.

What I'm saying is: a partner predisposed to playing the field will do so, irrespective of what "steps" the other half takes to avoid it. Afterall, didn't Prince Charles cheat on Princess Diana before, during, and after their marriage, despite her beauty, desirability, popularity, etc?

And with whom? A woman who didn't half measure up to Diana in any aspect.

Nos. 1 & 4: spot on

No. 2: I totally disagree with that. True, having rough hands is physical proof of having experienced a hard life, but it's no guarantee that such a person will treat you right. It could very likely be the opposite (I.e. them being insensitive. Really insensitive and probably quite brusque too).

No. 3: Dangerous. And irresponsible.

mrpassionate:
Thank you very much sir, and by the way, You are my very first email to replied to.

The mortality is "second to none".

I forgot to mention that I am in LAGOS but I dont mind supervicing the transportation of LARGE order nationwide.

Thank you once more and God blessed,
Mr. Passionate.

Interesting stuff.

Do you rear layers too? I think they've got a much higher mortality rate than broilers.

Mindfulness:
Their opinions obviously do. Never mind.

No, they don't.

Welcome back though. You've been missed.

But why didn't you say "something" Or Hint? And you left without saying goodbye!

Nonetheless, you're forgiven.

Sagamite:
Who is hungry and wants to eat?

The first video was quite painful to watch. Fancy having the flesh fish torn and shredded from you. That poor fish!! Desperately clinging on to it's last vestiges of life, choking and gasping for air...while being sliced and diced alive. Cannibalism of the highest order!

The second video - couldn't make heads or tails of it.

The third video - one word for it - freaky.

Interesting advertising gimmick. You almost got me there - nice hook.

Anyway, advertising aside, a man who wants to play the field will do so irrespective of whether his wife is young, old, tall, short, fair, dark, intelligent, intellectually challenged, and so on. Same thing the other way too.

cococandy:
Wow number two and three seem very cozy and nice.

Number one is a no go area. quadruplet decor?

I refuse to even look

Think - sleepovers. It could come in handy for such occasions. How's Omomo kicking? And mami, herself?

@Ifyalways: Have you seen anyone yet about the veins? I'm also thinking perhaps you need to hydrate more?? Especially if you still do those 1hr beach runs..

thelish:
hahahahaha. I nor be farmer ooo.

Then you don't need such high energy foods in the morning. You know, you could try porridge - it releases energy slowly during the day, so you'll be less apt to feel hungry shortly after your meal...

zemaye:
i like the eggs
but wait o!
the skin dey eatable? abeg tell me o
as na so so fried ones i dey chop make i port to roasted

Yep, very edible - especially when soft-boiled or baked.

It's popularly eaten with tuna mayo and / or with baked beans and salad.

Prophessor:
This is a list of things most moms are guilty of whether they admit it or not, so laugh it off and plunge forward.

1.) Being embarrassed by her kids in public and then publicly embarrassing them to do their chores

Each time a mother is embarrassed by her kids especially when there are visitors around either by the child showing disrespect or by the child misbehaving they try to save their face from parental disgrace and ineptitude by sending the child some household chores.

2.) Pocketing cash from the laundry

Basically moms will have to admit that they have done this a day or two while doing their husbands laundry especially when they are broke, they see the money as a gift from God.

3.) Tell Little White Lies

It was quite easy for me to smell a rat when as a kid, I had minor roles in school plays, having only one line in the whole two hours of the production alongside bigger kids with more actions and words to memorize, and according to my mom I made the beat performance.

4.) Depriving the whole house of TV when it is time for her soap opera's

I have missed a lot of interesting movies just because it was time for my mom's soap opera's, there was once I even missed the famous movie 'After Earth' just because it was time for her to watch her soap opera's.

5.) Yelling the name of your child to do a miniature chore which could be easily done by you

I can't say more

feel free to add yours

SOURCE - Myself

No 1. is just sooo wrong. Kids have feelings too and should be treated with respect.

No 2. is petty and demeaning - especially if as woman, you pride yourself for earning your keep / paying your share of the bills.

No 3. who doesn't?? It's called boosting your child's ego / encouraging them.

No 4. Definitely guilty, Guilty, GUILTY. Even when I'm knackered out and falling asleep on the sofa, I still hold on tightly to the remote control But in this day and age, the TV isn't the only way of getting to watch one's favourite programs, even though it's the most comfortable way to.

No 5....No Comment.

Alubosa:
My nephew is presently with me to spend the mid-term brake. We were having breakfast this morning and I decided to engage him in a little conversation about his academics, peer pressure, grades and school generally. Minutes into our conversation the li'l man told me his dad has promised to take him to Disneyland (Orlando FL, USA) if he comes top of his class this session. . Is this necessary? Ain't we supposed to make our wards understand the fact that it is their sole responsibilty to excel in their academics? My wife is however against my stand on this. Pls I need your opinions.

I actually don't see anything wrong with it, especially if the end justifies the means.

However, the "rewarder" should always factor in the child's age and ensure the reward and is age-appropriate. Someone touched on the timing and that's another factor to consider. The younger the child, the shorter the timeframe they can wait. Nevertheless, it's all about actions and consequences. Least I forget, the frequency with which this approach is adopted shouldn't be excessive otherwise the child will always expect a reward / develop an entitlement mentality even to get the basics done. Moderation is the key - but nice concept nonetheless. A little "bribery" can be motivational.

ifyalways:
@EfemenaXY, babe I just saw a thin but obvious appearance of spyder veins on one of my legs. . I have Googled and asked around and it seems, running could have caused it? What do u think? I can't fathom this because :
I can rarely keep my ass5 in one place for 2 straight hours without walking around.
I don't remember when I last used an escalator.
I'm not overweight.

I'm so pissed off and think I will use my kitchen knife someday, if it does not disappear to rip my leg open and cut off the damned thing.

Ify, honestly, I don't know oh. Never heard of this before.

I'm thinking varicous veins - but that mostly occurs during the mid - latter stages of pregnancy, doesn't it? Might be worth the while to get your doctor take a look. It may be nothing, but best be safe dear.

GHoJes:
I knew you were coming 'indeed' but can you just disappoint me and come in peace next time by ignoring.

Cut her slacks on the ground that she doesnt understand you. 'who understand you or do you even understand you?!'

Btw, the sight of two 'old mama tearing each others blouse and bra' is offensive to our sight as Africans.

Lol! Indeed it is.

I'm really not in the mood to smile and crack jokes but your post is having the opposite effect on me GHoJes!

Anyway, as far as I'm concerned, if one comes across a post / poster's views they don't understand, the decent / mature thing to do is either ask them to clarify or you simply ignore and move on. I can't begin to tell you how many posts she's made that I find annoying (and that's putting it mildly), but d'you see me attacking her for them? Additionally, there are posters on here whose views I find controversial but when I want clarity, I ask them politely. And they've obliged to throw more light on their view.

This is an online forum and people on here have different opinions. If you don't agree, politely air your disagreement or move on. It's not that hard.

@Ifyalways & Salsera: I hear you both, but I won't be true to myself if I just ignore her rants and threats. Once again, let her do her frigging worst!

kayjasper:
@EfemanaXY,

Sincerely I think you are over reacting to a comment that was made in good faith!!!

All these quoting and referrals from past discussions is unwarranted.


To be honest Madame, you need to calm down really.

All your comments here in the past week has been a little bit harsh and unnecessary.
Starting from your comment to the young lady that just joined the room, it was really not a nice comment at all.

Is there any issue bordering you outside of here? Are you having a bad time with life at the moment?

You just need to relax and stay calm please, it will all pass by!!!

Ignored.

tearoses:
Efe I stopped reading your post after the first few lines

Oh you did now, did you? Why? Why stop at just a few lines?

You came on full throttle, jumping into a conversation that had absolutely nothing to do with you, made good effort to personalize it, admist your multitude of insinuations, all of which I've addressed to prove you wrong and you now tell me you only read a few lines? Really?

Well go back and read the rest of it!

tearoses:
Ive made a few points and its left for you to take what applys to you.

You didn't make Jack as far as I'm concerned neither do your "points" apply to me - and I certainly don't have to take anything from you either.

tearoses:
What you said about that couple was totlally uncalled for, whether you were talking to Sambarry or not. Do you know the couple? The irony is the woman doesnt even look 102 kg to me.

Oh get over yourself will you? Your miss goody-two-shoes act doesn't wash with me. Save it for those who hang from every word you utter. D'you think your opinion matters to me for even a fraction of a second? Why butt into what doesn't concern you? My conversation with Sambarry was with Sambarry and not you. You're in no position to tell me what's called for and what's uncalled for! And come to think of it, do you know how many of your posts - countless I daresay - I find totally disagreeable? And even then, d'you see me attacking you for them? No. No matter how displeasing I find them, I simple move on, unlike you. Re: the bolded - shout it from the rooftops men! It's no skin off my nose.

tearoses:
And for someone who has been persecuted herself on this forum and people stood shoulder to shoulder to support you, even though many of us knew the truth, I would have thought that you would show that same support to people in other situations. Lets just leave that there

No madam Chaircover, let's not leave it at that. Continue. You can't stop now!

What sort of yeye "shoulder-to-shoulder" support did I get from you? Am I supposed to be grateful to you or what? Tell me. Re: persecution, what a joke! People get "persecuted" here all the time. It won't be the first nor the last time. Nor be Nairaland we dey? Please open up the dance floor oh! Don't let me hold you back!

Re: the bolded bit - damn it!! Are you deliberately trying to provoke me here? What "support" am I supposed to have not shown other people in what "situation"? Did you or did you not see my post to BabyOsisi and Kayworld26? If that isn't support, then kindly show me the sort of "support" you're advocating for. Look, those posts are just a tiny fraction of the countless support I've given on here. Not surprised that you deliberately skimmed over it seeing as you've got your own hidden agenda. What support have you given?

tearoses:
And for the record dont you ever addtress me in that way again, I am not your walkover and you dont feed me. I can be quiet and peaceful but I wont take any nonsense from you.

The heck!

I WILL FRIGGING ADDRESS YOU WHATEVER WAY I WANT! What are you gonna do about it? D'you think I'm afraid of you? Like seriously?? The key to being quiet and peaceful is to start by minding your own business. And for the records, Efe isn't your student or footstool. If you choose to attack unnecessarily, especially when my posts had nothing whatsoever to do with you, then don't expect me to sit quietly and lap it it up!

tearoses:
You misyarned and I pointed it out to you.

And you did not? With your baseless claims and assumptions? Go fingerpoint else where.

tearoses:
You are not a kid in the romance section and should know better. When adults talk, sense should come out of their mouth.

And you think you post made any sense? Really? Go preach to those who care to listen to you. I certainly don't.

tearoses:
Its best that you just stay far far away from me but if you refuse to I will give it to you in any flavour you want.

Good! You should have taken your very own advice in the first place. And as for your "threats", bring it on baby. Bring it on!

tearoses:
Efe na wa o!
Can't people be "big" and happy?
You make it sound like its a crime
So long as their health is not affected and they are happy within themselves then they just need to get on with life.

Excuse me Chaircover!

Where exactly in my post did I say people can't be big and happy? Or that people who are "big" can't get on with their lives? Does my comment on one particular picture provide a yardstick for generalizing all big people? Do you even know what brought about that comment? Seeing as you've been following my posts back-to-back on here, you ought to have realized that comment was made off the back of a long running conversation I've been having with Sambarry regarding our (mine and Sambarry's) difference of opinions on body sizes. Not that it's any of your business, but we've been having a light banter right from Chillisauce's healthy food thread here: https://www.nairaland.com/2232659/paste-pics-healthy-meal-here/84

Pls kindly go through what was said and you'll notice she came on first with comments (some of which people on the other side of the spectrum could also find disparaging) on body sizes and what her definition of a full African figure should be - all of which was taken in good stride - and that picture was simply to buttress her point.

SAMBARRY:
Haaa where the waist and yash wey go hold wrapper if you tie wrapper

no waist again no yash no brez.how you go shake ya bom bom.you go just be like letter I

no africanness at all in ya stature. Na chinko stature be that

tearoses:
Some people dont want to be skinny & some men dont even like skinny ladies. Everyome has a choice.

I don't need you to tell me that. Kindly point out where in my post I've claimed everyone has got to be skinny or that people are bereft of choices?

tearoses:
My mama is not a lepa . . however she is over 80 and as far as I can remember has never spent a night in a hospital and when I say remember I am talking at least 30 years. Very active physically and mentally. Tayour will confirm this. She flies by herself several times a year and still cooks & insists on baby sitting.
My pops on the other hand, very slim, tall & handsome bobo, my friends used to think he was my brother sadly passed away very young from illness.

Am I missing something here? Why are you getting personal with me here? Do I know you, or your parents, personally on here? Do I know Taryour? Am I supposed to send her a friend invite and ask for verification on Chaircover's story about her parents' weight? Should / do I even care, or more importantly, do I need to? What has my response to Sambarry's call out go to do with your family members? There are a myraid of examples I too could give to counteract your points but what would be the purpose? Apart from feeding into your emotional rant?

tearoses:
Dont get me wrong, its important to live a healthy life and I am an advocate for that. Good healthy food and excercise is very important.

Frankly speaking, I honestly couldn't care less about what you think. Whether you do think it's important or not isn't really any of my business.

tearoses:
I read somewhere whaere you said that you have gone from 102kg to 60kg, which suggests to me that like me, you are not a naturally thin person or your metabolism would never allowed you reach that weight in the first instance.
So you have had to work hard at it to get the excess weight off and you will continue to work hard at it for the rest of your life. I work hard at it too so I speak from experience having lost 14kg in 3 months. Its def a lifestyle change.

Here we go again... personalizations and even more personalizations.

Why bring up my experiences on here? Not that it bothers me either way but if you're going to have an argument with me, the least you can do is to stick to the point! For starters, I've never claimed to have dropped from 102kg to 60kg. If you read my quotes properly, you'll see I said 68kg! Secondly, contrary to what you think, I have always been a very slim person. Very. I've mentioned several times that when I got married, my weight was 55kg. And yes, my metabolism did let me get to that weight (102kg) because it was a gradual process. I didn't put on all that weight over night or in the space of one year. It took nearly 20 years to pile that all on. And do you know why? Part of it was because as a young wife / bride, I listened to dangerous advice such as the subtle ones you're giving off here about being big and happy, not all men want thin wives / partners. Or being told the more weight you put on, the more married you look, or being slim = your husband isn't feeding you well and a whole lot of claptrap that people ignorantly utter.

tearoses:
So rather than make overweight people feel even more bad about themselves, you should be an encourager especially as you know how much hard work its been/is. Rather than criticize, help with tips, share a food and excercise diary and share information & experience.

Your assumptions are breathtaking to say the least.

How dare you? Who are you to sit there and judge my entire person of the back of a post that wasn't even directed at you? Do you have a hidden agenda for what you're claiming here? I mean I can understand if you're doing this to gain cheap publicity / garnier "Likes" from your goons and croonies for your post, not that I give a toss, but next time kindly leave my mentions out of it.

I have given countless support both on Chillisauce's healthy food thread and Naijababe's keep fit health thread, and not once, did I criticize, discourage, or make overweight people feel bad about themselves! Below are a few examples that are blatantly opposite to the picture you're trying to paint of me - stark contrasts, more like:

EfemenaXY:

Babyosisi: I am trying o
I have even started praying about it sef for the Holy Spirit to decrease my appetite for these yummy things and increase the one for eating leaves.
Nne how can I buy icecream cake for a birthday and not eat it
I can't do it by my power o
I need supernatural strength to do it

Lol!

I do believe you're trying even though the tone of your posts might seem otherwise. Believe me, I've been exactly where you are now - countless times, where I start and then fall off track several times. It's not easy, my dear but if this is something you know deep within you, you want, then you'll just have to try and stay focused.

I think what you need to do is adopt a whole new perspective. But first of all, you need to decide if this is just about numbers for you (i.e: dropping the lbs) or a lifestyle change you intend to stick to for the long run. If the latter is the case (which I hope), then try not to look at this as one huge goal. I.e: don't say to yourself, "I need to lose xyz kg by December this year" because December might seem a long way, away and you will be tempted to cheat.

Rather, take this out in mini bits. Give yourself bite-size goals by saying, "I'd like to lose 8lbs in a month's time". Then in that case, to achieve it, you'll be looking at losing an average of 2lbs per week, which is a much more realistic and tangible goal (bearing in mind the recommended amount of weight to safely lose per week is 2-4 lbs). Also, draw up a weekly chart / table for yourself to monitor your progress and stick this on your refrigerator and on your kitchen food cupboards. For each week you hit your target, give yourself a huge green tick. Keep doing this every week and try to be as consistent as possible with this. The reason I'm suggesting this is because have a visual representation of your intended goals make it look a lot more real, rather than having this (vaguely) at the back of your mind. Also, the visual aids will help keep you focused and on the days / evenings you really feel those gnawing cravings, your chart / progress table will go a long way to making you think twice before reaching out for those high energy-little nutritional value foods / snacks. Also, when you see say for example 5 consecutive green tick evidencing your hardwork and success, you'll be less inclined to want to undo all that effort.

Secondly, food shopping. I touched on this in an earlier post - don't know if you saw it. I'd like to think you're the one most in charge of your household food shopping. When next you go to the supermarket, make concerted efforts to avoid even looking at the confectionery section. Avoid it at all costs. Treat that area as a serious health hazard and wheel your trolley to the fresh fruits and vegs section. Stock up on as many different kinds of fruit and vegs as possible. Frozen vegs are good as well. Your reason for doing this is because you want your entire household to come with you on this lifestyle change. Encourage everyone to snack on fresh fruits and veg inbetween meals, rather than on high salt / sugar / fatty oils based processed foods / snacks. Take me for example. Last time I went to the supermarket, I bought: Oranges, Clementines, Green Grapes, Purple Grapes, Pears, Avocados, Golden Melon, Strawberries, Bananas, Apples, Mangoes, Plums, Cucumber, Lettuce, Cress Salad, Carrots, Broccli, Green Peas, Sweet Corn, Mixed frozen veg (Cauliflower, Carrots, Broccoli), Lentils, and Mushrooms. Didn't get the Brussel Sprouts as the store had run out... The aim of having such a wide selection is to cater for everyone's different palattes at home. However, the point I'm trying to make here is that you should resist the temptation to buy the unhealthy stuff. If you don't have it at home, you won't it. Trust me, it's a lot easier to resist buying something than to buy it then try resisting eating it at home.

Thirdly, you will shed a lot of lbs simply by stopping certain foods. I've got three in mind here:

~ Foods with high sugar content. Processed sugars like fizzy drinks, cakes, sweets, chocolates, etc.
~ Foods with high fat content. For example your deep-fried foods, crisps, deep fried chips, things with lots of butter content, etc
~ Foods with high salt / sodium content, most of which you get from processed / ready made meals. Try and cook fresh and cut down on buying ready-made meals. Or better still, eliminate ready-made meals from your shopping list.

Fourth and most important, exercises. Try and find out which exercises you enjoy doing the most. They don't even have to be anything heavy. You can even opt for taking brisk walks. Anything. As long as it gets your heart pumping and you're burning those calories. It's important whatever exercise you chose is something you enjoy, that way, it won't feel like such a chore when doing it. Nonetheless, exercising is very important because you know we aren't spring chickens anymore. As women, when we get to a certain stage, we start losing muscle mass. Then we find out that activities we previously undertook without breaking a sweat, eg carrying your grocery shopping effortlessly up the stairs, suddenly becomes difficult and then next thing you know, a muscle has been pulled or sprained...
Sis, dieting alone won't cut it. As the fat is being lost, the muscles need to be tonned up, else you'll look sickly with lots of lose skin on your thighs, underarms, belly, and bum (I think!) And this was why I touched on drinking lots and lots of water daily. To hydrate your skin and to keep you looking younger. But most importantly, you need the water to replace the fat that's being lost (gradually) to aid your skin "snap" back into place.

I know this might seem a lot to take in, but if Efe could do it, I see no reason why Babyosisi can't. Take your time to go through this in detail and stay focused. Chin up dear and don't give up.

EfemenaXY:

Kayworld26:
Thanks to Efemenaxy...found myself eating raw tomatoes last night

You guys are going a great job here, its really helpful atleast to a silent reader like me...
Found myself exercising before bed yesterday ..and guess what, i felt really good after that and slept like a baby..
Even woke up late today

Although i am not trying to lose weight yet (less than 55kg) but i really want to start eating healthy...
I am also trying to do away with fizzle drinks, not been easy though
But i am gonna try....Water is beginning to taste really good to me these days too, i drink plenty of it now instead of coke

Thanks ladies...keep up the good work as there are some of us gaining from it...

Thanks Kayworld26. Glad to be of help...and good on you girl for choosing to eat clean and keep fit!

You know, once upon a time, I was that same 55kg that you are on now. That was shortly after I'd gotten married. Thing is, I didn't know much about eating right, exercising, and adopting a healthy lifestyle. Infact I wish I knew what I know now. Growing up in Naija, you get told (then) that the fatter you are, the better you look as it shows you're living the good life, and then being slender is not slender but thin and "suffering". Anyway, with each childbirth, I gradually increased in size over the years. At my heaviest (last pregnancy), I weighed a whooping 102kg!

I did at one point (a couple of years before then) tried to lose the weight but I went about it the completely wrong way. I crashed dieted and fasted. Was doing 6-to-6 with some high intensive cardio. Sure I was losing "weight". Came down from 70 something to 65 kg in a matter of weeks. 3 or 4 weeks I think. What I didn't realise at that time was that because I wasn't eating properly, I was losing muscle mass, in addition to fat. It wasn't sustainable and eventually when I stopped, I put the weight back on...and more. I was tipping the scales at 80 something kg. Then I took in with my last pregnancy and went up to 101kg (just before I gave birth).

Anyway, to cut a long story short, I had to do things the right way. Not just dieting, but dieting and exercising. At a slower, more sustainable pace. It's taken me three years to come down from that 102kg to 72kg. That a loss of 30kg in three years. I'm still not yet at my target weight which is to hit 65 kg but I've learnt my lesson. To go nice and easy and at a moderate, sustainable pace. It hasn't been all smiles and sunshine for me as I've fallen off the track a number of times, but the important thing to learn is when you fall off, you pick yourself up, dust yourself, and get on with it. No one's going to do it for you, but yourself.

tearoses:
I come in peace. . .Its Sunday

Sure you do.

tearoses:
Lest I forget, a very big well done and thumbs up for your weight loss. Its not easy. Well done

It's not a competition. You do yours, I do mine. Thanks.

tearoses:
Efe na wa o!
Can't people be "big" and happy?
You make it sound like its a crime
So long as their health is not affected and they are happy within themselves then they just need to get on with life.

Some people dont want to be skinny & some men dont even like skinny ladies. Everyome has a choice.

My mama is not a lepa . . however she is over 80 and as far as I can remember has never spent a night in a hospital and when I say remember I am talking at least 30 years. Very active physically and mentally. Tayour will confirm this. She flies by herself several times a year and still cooks & insists on baby sitting.
My pops on the other hand, very slim, tall & handsome bobo, my friends used to think he was my brother sadly passed away very young from illness.

Dont get me wrong, its important to live a healthy life and I am an advocate for that. Good healthy food and excercise is very important.

I read somewhere whaere you said that you have gone from 102kg to 60kg, which suggests to me that like me, you are not a naturally thin person or your metabolism would never allowed you reach that weight in the first instance.
So you have had to work hard at it to get the excess weight off and you will continue to work hard at it for the rest of your life. I work hard at it too so I speak from experience having lost 14kg in 3 months. Its def a lifestyle change.

So rather than make overweight people feel even more bad about themselves, you should be an encourager especially as you know how much hard work its been/is. Rather than criticize, help with tips, share a food and excercise diary and share information & experience.

I come in peace . . .Its Sunday

Lest I forget, a very big well done and thumbs up for your weight loss. Its not easy. Well done

I will respond to this later.

Kimoni:
Efemenaxy and Damiso - it's weekend!!!! Hallaluyah

Indeed, it is - albeit a hectic one

Morning ladies