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@Gunners
On a lighthearted note, just had to show you guys this video.
You know how we like to 'catch them young'?? Well, I just found our next Nasri.
He's six so we still have two years to wait . . . I think he should sign a pre-contract

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https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=FF6WySOHbs0&hl=en_GB&fs=1&[/flash]

ayettymama:
i mean there is no written in stone definition of the term

but i would like u to note that i used the term 'casual relationships'

and not 'casual intimacy'

thats the whole point--- it could be the same man for a yr it could be for 2 it could be an ex

if its multiple then its something else! but th ewhole point is that there is openess

one can leave at any time-

yes i hear u abt africa- but its also said in africa one shouldnt be havin intimacy at all??

society doesnt neccesarily frown on it----- its just the society 'here' that does

Using the word 'relationship' makes it's complicated.
I think it's better to label the box clearly and remind yourselves all the time what's going on . . . Friends With Benefits is perfect.
Truth be told, many of my 'casual relationships' have ended with me 'cheating' . . . it's usually the 'if you're going to do another girl, make sure it's sumone better than me' excuse.

But then the Legend gave me the rules and it's been cool ever since.

Society frowns on it . . . that's so obvious, where's 'here'??
Female players are labelled 'used amd dumped hos' . . .

ayettymama:
eldee one night stands are different!!

and u shuld be careful- you could end up getting despoiled by a tranny!!!

Hehehe . . . one night stands are far better than casual relationships.
The only reason guys go into casuals is because we get assured sex all the time.

But if you've got game, one nightstands are better.

@ayettymama

Come on . . . you know there's nothing wrong with having casual relationships.
The only problem is the fact that society frowns at women going into multiple casuals at once.

Now those are not my rules, they're society's . . . African societies to be specific.
It'll change in a couple of years, but for now, just be in one casual for at least three months at a time.

chamotex:
C'mon man, that was back then . . . I'm a different guy now

Chei . . . see lyrics.
Is that your new style?? I always knew you don't have game.

chamotex:
Nah I don't that droppings mehn

Yeah right!!! You that stole sumone's b'dae gift.

follypimpi:

My fellow Gunner so u be Ashewo,chieee

Me?? I shall not be moved because I abide under the shadow of the father

chamotex:
At the end of the day, people have the choice to choose what suits them best.
I know what I prefer tho

ONE NIGHT-STANDS!!!

bawomolo:
don't believe that 419 man, he is in it for the money she is getting from her website.

people are paying to watch her eat herself to death  . the man is a freeloader

i find it hilarious that black women are worried they aren't objectified in music videos.

Exactly what I was saying.
Next thing you'll hear that they have a reality TV show.

luvbooks:
Actually, the partner IS affected. They just don't know it yet.

What you just said is like saying that if someone has HIV / AIDS,  then the virus doesn't affect them until they go for a doctor's appointment.

    I personally have a great dislike for this argument because it's extremely one-sided.  This is because of so many things. Such as friends, relatives, neighbours. And every single one of those people will  lose respect for you and your spouse one way or the other once they get wind of it.  Cheating doesn't just affect the cheater, it affects the person who was cheated on because you expose her to such comments like
" Maybe she's not good enough in bed" and so on.
    Just by a few persons knowing that you have cheated on your significant other , you put your whole marriage under a microscope. And if that person is unfortunate enough to hear it from others then you are in for double trouble because not only do they get to hear the facts, they also hear the other person's opinion. And God help you if the person telling them doesn't like you.

That's it . . . she stops cheating and no one knows, no one is affected.
Ignorance is bliss . . . literally.

The HIV case is different.

bawomolo:
what's if the partner catches an STD thanks to infidelity? isn't that a rational excuse for divorce?

Now we're dragging this . . .
Aiite, he's only affected emoionally if he knows and physically if he catches sumn
But till then nuffin.

Krayola:
haha. I feel u, but is being mad at a cheating partner really an irrational decision?

Being mad at the partner is an emotion . . . ending the marriage if she won't continue with the cheating is quite irrational, especially when she sincerely loves him.

MRbrownJAY:
of course people make mistakes and they live by the consequences of these mistakes.
how can the poster REDEEM himself when he hasnt told the number ONE person affected by his action?
SHE is the only one that can give the poster redemption. when she gives it to him then let him "pray" and ask god to give him the strength NOT to stray again.
HE HAS TO COME CLEAN and be "reborn" as a new faithful man. ROTFLMAO!!!!!!

how can you even think of "rebuilding" when the house is still falling down?!
you cannot start the healing process until all people involved are in on it.

The partner is not affected till he/she knows.

The simple truth is . . . telling him/her will cause the partner to make irrational decisions through emotions.

This is a simple case of Stirring unnecessary trouble V Going on with the marriage

chamotex:
Ojoro innit?

Sharrap . . . how is that frivolous??

chamotex:
Vermaelen's Red Card Appeal Dismissed

No additional ban for frivolousness.

http://www.arsenal.com/news/news-archive/vermaelen-red-card-appeal-is-dismissed?utm_source=feedburner&utm_medium=feed&utm_campaign=Feed:+arsenal-news+(News+Feed)&utm_content=Google+UK

iice:
[color=#9900ff]@eldee, sadly nope Been busy trying to ferret one show like that
Hmmm i'm thinking the same too with regards to Band of brothers.[/color]

Thing is . . . the BOB had them going from one place to the other so it wasn't all war.
They had things like the bad leadership from Sobel(Ross) and the Nazi concentration camp, I don't see them pulling that off in this one.

This one's just too hardcore, they even tried to soften it by putting in a potential love story . . . but nah, I think it will end up lame.

@iice
Have you seen Episode 2 of The Pacific??
I'm kinda getting into the WWII vibe.

I got the Band of Brothers box-set and watched errfin in three days.
I don't think The Pacific can top that.

MRbrownJAY:
you are mistaking i think. the marriage IS over, you are just delaying or pretending that it aint.

the important question IS: why do you want to stay married? is it for show, for family, for children, for money OR BECAUSE THAT PERSON IS THE RIGHT ONE?!
if you had any respect for that person, AND the marriage that you signed into, then you would have either come clean out of respect for your spouse or simply NOT s h a g away from home.

whatever reason/excuse you have, it aint worth it!!!! if you can sleep with someone else and  come home like nothing happened("hi honey i am home!!!" then your marriage was OVER a long time ago and you are just fooling yourself!.
even if she never finds out, can you truly look at your sorry self in the mirror every morning?!

i do wonder: what does marriage means to most of you guys/gals since you have no respect for it?! most of the answers to this thread shows a very sad picture!
talking about praying when you dont believe in the words of that same bible you are reading. . . . . . . . . .and you dare call yourselves CHRISTIANS? bloody hypocrites!!!!!!

Thank God say MrBrownjay nor be God ooh . . . cus if man be God ohh, I for don pai ooh  
Come on . . . you have to accept that people make mistakes.

Every couple have at one point in time forgotten what marriage is truly about . . . but the OP has been trapped in guilt and has felt remorse for his/her actions.
Now is that enough punishment?? Maybe not.

But should he/she aggravate issues by leaving one of the most important matters in life to be decided with the risk of irrational judgement de to emotions?? I don't think so.
Right now is for him/her to attempt to build back the marriage by showing her love as a form of repentance.

Isn't redemption on of the main foundations of Christianity??

Ebonyeyes:
Shows your maturity level you have to go down and below to get your point across. Like I said before I will not go down there with you.
http://www.dailymail.co.uk/health/article-1257850/Super-sized-mother-determined-worlds-fattest-woman-years.html

Oh . . . so it's a newspaper story??

Did you ever wonder why it was in the news??
If it were a normal every day thing would it be in the papers??
Besides, how is this representative of the of the average black man and how does this make Taio Cruz 'self hating'??

You talk about going low?? You brought a newspaper story about an overly obese woman just to imply that Taio Cruz is 'self-hating' . . . You should listen to yourself speak sometimes

Ebonyeyes:
I quite disagree with you, you are obviously going to pick sides so I wouldnt even bother.

Oh you're not picking sides?? You say Nigerian guys that prefer white women are self-hating and I'm the one picking sides??
To emphasize your racist point, you go on to put up an obviously staged picture of a black guy with an overly obese woman. . . that doesn't look like taking sides to you??

I don't know why y'all have a problem with these guys . . . if y'all are that pissed of, there's white guys everywhere.
F*cking Nigerians!!!

khanye:
We will see how TV5 and Campbell (baba ruka) will cope with Mess[i]iah[/i]
Stop hating on the dude, He's the Best!

Of course he's the best player in the world . . . but that doesn't mean you should make his job easier.
Ronaldo used to be tackled hard in the EPL, he had to work hard for every goal.

That's why many of his goals were freekicks and long distance shots.

Messi on the other hand just walks through the defenders and even exchanges 1-2 passes with them. . . lik WTF!!!!

Ebonyeyes:
Just like this man here, they will turn up their noses at obese black women but are too happy to take any obese non-black woman. God help these self-haters.

C'mon let's be logical here . . . any idiot knows he's not in a relationship with that woman.
You don't have to go this low to force Black guys to go out with y'all.

Point of correction . . . Taio Cruz is not self hating, he's just chosen the half of his heritage he prefers.
I don't see anything wrong with that.

[quote author=tayo_ast link=topic=334732.msg5746140#msg5746140 date=1269292275]u know dts not true.

say sth else[/quote]I'm talking about a video here . . . how blind can y'all Barca fans be not to see where the guy passed the ball back to Ibra??
In a full zone press, he gets the ball and passes it back.

Besides, is it a crime to tackle Messi in Spain??

coolguyz:
its just soooo pathetic that to play down a team's success people see it from the angle of the opponents not being formidable enough. . . . yet they survived last season in Europe against the best of the teams. scored goals against the best defences and ddnt concede even against barrage of potent attackers yet their defense is shitty and goal prowess luck. lets find better things to say jare. . . . or better still start by asking what their own team won afterall they were in the competition too. . .so, why dem no WIN?

na for field match score dey occur not NL

Oh you mean apart from the referee handing you a draw at Stamford Bridge??

Dr Kitaun:
@Kay

last man in the defence line obstructing a goal bound opportunity? Straight red! Campbell did same against Hull, TV5 should have known better!

Arshavin has been absent in more big games than not, so why dignify him with that 'big game schitzo'?

Bendtner squanders some made chances and we blame him, why do gunners have a different standard for AA23?

I noticed that too . . . but then you have a different standard for Campbell.

stillwater:
But he's calling them cheap and nothing is said about the man. What if he's also one of the Naija girl's mugu? Naija men and the women are cheap. It should be like that.

Leave that Pharisee . . . this same Sauron goes to Lag with any single oppurtunity.
'I forgot my certificate', 'forgot my agbo' . . . 'I forgot my hairbrush, it's of sentimental value'

[quote author=kay_pumpin link=topic=417101.msg5747063#msg5747063 date=1269302643]BTW,am i that old school?please what's giving head and head-mistress? [/quote]You forgot Mutiu Adepoju??

[quote author=TOPE2000! link=topic=417101.msg5747040#msg5747040 date=1269302282]why shudnt she? una be bf n gf na? [/quote]Nah . . . she doesn't even have to be a gf, once you're in you're in.

The problem is that most guys think they need to promise heaven and earth to get in.
With Naija chics, it's chess.

stillwater:
Again is that not what you guys want? Free intimacy. . .?

Did you see anyone complaining?? Sauron visits Naija more times than a Virgin Nigeria hostess

[quote author=TOPE2000! link=topic=417101.msg5747019#msg5747019 date=1269302027]But that doesnt make her a cheerful giver?
But naija chics in naija are another case entirely [/quote]I never said they were cheerful givers, I just said they are really generous when they start giving

stillwater:
Control? What control? You meet up to her standards, control automatically become yours. She would fight to keep you.

[size=2pt]That's by the way. Show me your pic jor.[/size]

Well . . . I knew you won't understand, afterall, you're just another one of em



[size=2pt]Hehe, get it from Chamo[/size]

[quote author=TOPE2000! link=topic=417101.msg5746984#msg5746984 date=1269301579]*roll eyez*
some girls might be blank cheques but not all
u guys need to stop dealin with peckham n hackney chics. shior [/quote]C'mon . . . it's true.
It's just the activation energy a guy needs . . . after the threshold, she'll do anything.
It's usually hard to get in, but after that, voila.

stillwater:
Are you scared you don't meet up? Is having clean teeth too much of a duty for you to meet up?  


[size=2pt]When is it? Show me your face jare.[/size]

Come on . . .you know I meet-up on most chics' lists.
The only problem I have is the control you give em by ticking those boxes.

It's more like an ego thing . . . why do I have to meet your standards??
Does it mean, if I weren't 6''3' you'd reject me??

[size=2pt]Ionno . . . It's still being planned, everyone is coming.[/size]

[quote author=TOPE2000! link=topic=417101.msg5746946#msg5746946 date=1269301020]Dont blv everything u read. Naija babes are not cheap at all.
i dont know sauron find his own babes but i knw no CLASSY babe will be cheap.[/quote]Not cheap . . . but when you get it, it's a blank cheque.
I thought everyone knew that

stillwater:
What is hilarious is the subtle thought stupidity does not also stem from the male angle.


[size=2pt]Still waiting on your pic.[/size]

Nah, y'all just take it to the next level.
Apart from virginity(which could be acceptable in a Nigerian forum) . . . most Nigerian guys don't have any stupid boxes for women to tick.
Now our NL sisters . . .hmmmnnn


[size=2pt]Hehehe . . . come to the NL Babeque, you'll see me in person[/size]

ayettymama:
ah ah

did i say hate??

why u men like  findin emotion in everything?

like i said

when a woman doesnt have time for games the men are all shocked

wats the biggie??

plati u online??

You said, 'I don't like men' . . .that's hate.

platinumnk:
You are misreading me, dont give it to men you dont want attached. This is to women.  
Im not saying this is the primary reason, but dont do it

I think men that hold on after you do down on them are just attached to the head and not to the chic.