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 Travel › Re: Is Life Really Better Abroad? by ell77(f): 11:55am On Nov 15, 2006 |
Yes in terms of organisation, abroad is better I must agree this is purely due to politics, if we have one good president and cabinet, things go betta. I know some people on this thread say they find it hard to believe why people miss Naija. It is because if the people mostly. When you are abroad u feel isolated, there is no real sense of community. If someone dies in England, friends and family will mourn, in Naija the whole neighbourhood will come out. Yes there is jealousy and envy in NAija with Juju too (but I believe Chirst conquers all so scratch that). There is also jealousy abroad, except here it is more hidden ur people will bitch - yes, but the oyibo don't have time for that, no instead they collaborate to hld u down. Of course not all oyibo are like that, in the same way not all Naija are like that. Also I do think it is easier to be an entrpreneur in Naija and the possibility for an intelligent person to be a millionnaire entrpreneur is real. People can set up there own businesses, ideas etc. Also I get what one poster is saying about marrying fat ugly rich men who think they are all that cos they are rich - it is true alot of Naija men act like this (not all though). But who do u think u will marry in Yankee, skinny poor cute man who thinks he is all that because he is giving u the privilege of being with ur own instead of marrying oyibo or someone who lives in Naija still - who may one day still leave you. You can very easily be husbandless in Yankee (especially if u want Nigerian or even any black man only), law of averages suit u better in Naija. But don't get me wrong u can find the one abroad, many have! Anyway, I think all people on this topic agree Naija will be a better place if there is less corruption and more political organisation directed to benefit the people and the land. Whatever, my idea is to make money here, then go back to Naija to spend it (i.e. start a business with western and Nigerian ideas mixed), I can always come back to England. But I just want to ask a question cos most people seem to compare being poor and jobless in Naija with being ok with a job abroad - in which case abroad will win most times. BUT IF U WERE RICH ABROAD OR RICH IN NAIJA WHICH WOULD U PREFER? Bearing in mind u can buy a generator, security, u will have status so u don't need to bribe as much and when u do u will have money to do so anyway, u will have ur own cars, u can invest in ur local community (charity and business) and be the brother and sister of everyone in your community. What I am saying is if u make a million pounds overaseas is it more enjoyable to spend that million overseas or in Naija? |
| Travel › Re: Pictures Of Places In Nigeria (the Good, The Bad And The Ugly). by ell77(f): 10:49pm On Nov 14, 2006 |
Every country had good, bad and ugly! But Naija is beautiful man, look at what has been done, and look at what is possible! |
| Travel › Re: Is Life Really Better Abroad? by ell77(f): 10:04pm On Nov 14, 2006 |
Depends on how much money you have - if you have alot of money then most places are fantastic! But I think in terms of satisfaction and enjoyment Naija has more to offer. Also there is something to be said about being around your people. Even if not all of them are good sometimes it is just depressing not being around your brothers and sisters. I find Naija people are warmer, funnier, more beautiful, more intersting, more like yourself. I can't leave london now as I am still studying. I have lived in london all my life and still consider myself a true Nigerian as I always make efforts to be around my people and learn about my culture. It would be hard for me to adjust in Nigeria (every holiday in Naja I fall ill). But I will live in Nigeria one day just waiting to finish my studies and get some dough. HOME IS WHERE THE HEART IS. |
| Christianity Etc › Re: Are Catholics Really Christians? by ell77(f): 9:53pm On Nov 14, 2006 |
I think he means Christians - that is the Church ("Body of Christ"). |
| Culture › Re: If Your Wife-To-Be Can't Cook by ell77(f): 11:01pm On Nov 12, 2006 |
Hmmn I'm with Seun on this one too. If a woman does not work then by all means she should take care of the home provided there are no big reasons she can't. But being a professional does change things. For instance, someone who works 100 hours a week as a doctor whilst you do 36, do u expect her when she is at home to use that time cooking for you? She should be enjoying your company and resting - i mean if she has energy by all means but really if u wan't ur wife to live long then u should not count it as a privilege for u to cook, it should be classed as ur responsibility to look after ur wives welfare. Or do u think bringing home a cheque (when she does too) and knowing how to turn on the gen is ur only responsibility. It is about balance. Who works less should do more in the home unless the other person does not mind, it should not be by force. But pls if u guys require a woman who cooks for u don't go and follow a woman who u know is going to live a hectic life that is a professional, go and pick one village girl who did not enter university to be certain, since it is so important. Many professional women can cook for their husband, but it should not be the reason for marrying ur wife or leaving them. I have heard u people who say hiring a house help is a temptation. I have heard u peeps who say cooking for ur man shows u love them. These points are valid - but marriage can be broken by so many things, people are complex in their nature - as I am sure u know anywayz. So if ur wife not cooking is ur only marrital issue you don hit jackpot oh! Anyway every1 should pick for them who suits them most but I think u are limiting urselfs, perhaps even downgrading!? |
| Forum Games › Re: Who Has The Highest Post? by ell77(f): 1:02am On Nov 11, 2006 |
win what? tell who? i can't be bothered to read thru' the 46 pages for explanation! omg |
| Forum Games › Re: Who Has The Highest Post? by ell77(f): 12:59am On Nov 11, 2006 |
AH AH, ODEKU, IT'S ENOUGH NOW! PLS!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!![/size] LOL        |
| Romance › Re: Ladies That Cry! by ell77(f): 11:51pm On Nov 10, 2006 |
haywhy:Ok, I get you. Yeah that can be annoying - i guess in that case some are jus' putting it on and it is wrong - manipulation, but sometimes it can be genuine i.e. genuinely sad of their ways or genuinely sad they got caught! Crying soothes the soul though, people who never cry somtimes have problems lowering barriers or relating emotionally, but i often think when someone starts they may never stop! So it''s the balance! If that makes sense?!  |
| Family › Re: Madonna And The Adopted Baby From Malawi by ell77(f): 1:34am On Nov 10, 2006 |
@ Bamidele - apparently the AIDS thing was a lie the child authorities told Madonna, even the orphanage is declaring they had nothing to do with that rumour. The mother dies of child complications or something like that can't remember. Google it. @ Reverend - well I get ur point and I am not saying the father is a good father or not. But in Nigeria many people give their children to relatives to be raised if their relative is wealthier. In fact, children are sent to homes often as housegirls/boys so that the children work for their school fees. It is possible he was going on the same principle and just felt because she was rich she was doing this out of Charity not that she was looking for a child and fell in love with his cutie. Anywayz, still undecided about if the father is good or not, but I do think Madonna should have used proper channels, she broke laws, why? Because she is rich, what about the other orphans anyway - if it was purely charity she should have put more money into the orphanage perhaps. Also why is she converting the Christian child to Kabalah when the boy is only in her custody for 18 months and the parents were both Christian? Too soon i think. |
| Romance › Re: Ladies That Cry! by ell77(f): 12:19am On Nov 10, 2006 |
Do u mean crying for no reason, or crying to get what they want (or wen they have been caught out)? Because the first case is complex but the second may be partially right for ur statement. Pls elaborate, a scenario maybe. |
| Travel › Re: Why Do Most Nigerians Abroad Feel Too Big (important)when They Come Here! by ell77(f): 10:03pm On Nov 08, 2006 |
I have to agree with most of the posters who say it is because of the ass-lickers. Although to be honest I don't think that many act like they are better I think they are the minority, you may be mistaking the way Nigerian's treat them with the way the overseas crew are acting and be misreading things. But for those who do act big it can be that they have always been cocky. Also another reason is most of them bust their butts overseas and get no recognition - infact they are usually working in the most low paid and demeaning jobs. So when they come home and people automatically rush to them like they are golden eggs they can either be annoyed, flattered but humble or take advantage of the situation by stretching the truth and just enjoying all the attention and feeling that for once (i.e. one month in three years) they can feel like they are SOMEBODY. Don't take it to heart if u ever meet someone like that ok? Just concentrate on getting yours. |
| Romance › Re: Why Do Ladies Run After Handsome Guys? by ell77(f): 9:50pm On Nov 08, 2006 |
Damsal:Haha. Oh gosh! No but seriously now to anwer your question, they usually (although not always) have money so if u are that way inclined no point wasting ur time on a fine boi! lol Probably because while the fine boys were busy juggling girls they just sat there roast with nothing to juggle but their books. It's true oh! How many politicans self have been good looking, and isn't ur boss always ugly? Think about it I know there are fine rich guys too but I think they are outnumbered. lol (oh yeah and i am not ugly or a guy nor am i a digga- incase u are wondering why i am defending them) |
| Dating And Meet-up Zone › Re: I Dunno Why Gals Do Run After Fine Bois Like Moi by ell77(f): 9:37pm On Nov 08, 2006 |
What the poster is saying is true (though not in all cases), but I have to question the fineness of this boy. If u are fine sorry oh! But u sure u are not just some ugly guy that wan't to tip the scales? 'Cos otherwise why are u helping out ur competition i.e. the ugly guys who usually have more money than fine boys anyway! lol |
| Romance › Re: Can Any One Help Me by ell77(f): 9:30pm On Nov 08, 2006 |
@ lovestinks, goodguy & mukina -thank you my dears @ Christiana - Even now u still seem to believe lying! Wow, I really do think this case is serious oh! Sista where are you I am starting to feel sorry for this chick. Imagine she wants to call me not only a goat but a senseless goat. I won't even insult you - cos I don't really believe anymore you are 20 like you claim (your age is showing), but I would like to point out I never once insulted you until my very last post (where you had insulted me first). Read my posts carefully y'all. At the most I was being very critical and perhaps a tad harsh. But to be honest for me to advise you, I felt I had to be, you were more interested in keeping it from your man than getting over guilt - u did not express any guilt, perhaps regret, but not guilt and the 2 are separate entities. I did not believe you were in luv with ur man at the time, I explained why, and on the basis of that advised you. It may have been am ill-judgement, I don't know, but that's what happens when u air ur dirty laundry online - people gain a skewed view of u. Then looking at ur history of posts u claimed you had sex quite often. Well, we are going round in circles now. Still don't believe I was wrong in anything I said, but I am going to leave you on this topic as there are more interesting topics going on elsewhere. PS don't be trailing my posts if it is just to agitate me becuase I will simply ignore u and I am sure people will just abuse back for me anyway. If you feel like crap and really and truly believe that is down to me and not the realisation of ur ways and what u have done to another human being or how u have deceived people and got caught out then I can easily apologise. But really, I don't think so. Just shut down this post and converse with Sista. I hope she helps u resolve all ur issues and gives u all the advice u need, just be honest with her. |
| Christianity Etc › Re: Why Do Some People Preach Against Other Churches? by ell77(f): 7:17pm On Nov 03, 2006 |
My friend, I am Catholic. I know many people will come on here giving excuses as to why some Churches oppose others. The fact is for a few - it may be just as the above poster said - for money. But this is not true of all Churches I am sure. All I can advise you is to find a Church that does not spend time on blasting other Chirches but rather focuses on bringing salvation to your soul. Also if the Church is very pro-Charity that would be a great too. I am sceptical of Churches that spend even as little as 10% of their time blasting other Churches and then go on to spend only 10% of the time on Charity and being good to fellow man. Then spend 80% of their time just talking about how to get more money or find who is trying to bring u down - this is irrelevant to me in Church service. Depending on what u wan't from Church that is where u should settle, that is the beauty of having so many denominations. Although there are conflicts, there is a Church for everyone! I am not going to get u to go to Catholic Church although I think it is great, but move around until you find the right one for you. One that makes it all about your personall relationship with God and your relationship with mankind and not about how others are living their lives as Christians (that is between them and their God). You need to just focus on urself and what u are doing right. I can see u have the right mindset, so in response to your question, I believe YOU ARE THE REAL BELIEVER! Keep it up, ok?! |
| Romance › Re: Can Any One Help Me by ell77(f): 6:26pm On Nov 03, 2006 |
PULEASE CHRISTIANA. About I don't have a heart! How dare you! Read all my posts clearly. By the way I am a woman. If u as a girl saw a guy post this u would probably be one of the first to crucify him. You did something wrong, there are no 2 ways about it. So I told you u did something wrong and offered u advice simple. You are not a victim as no-one raped you! I am not saying u should be punished for it or now u do not deserve love, but he (your boyfriend) is the victim. He should be the one u are thinking of, not yourself. You can always find another man, but his faith in females will be shattered (perhaps like his heart). If you had said your man was a bad guy etc etc I would say it was just an excuse but atleast I could see reasons why . . . however, u said your man is a great guy, which is why I am perhaps annoyed at all! Also, you have stated u were a virgin and disflowered by this new guy, yet in your posting history you present yourself as very experienced sexually. I notice u did not disclaim this in your reply posts to Sista. I applauded Sista for having time for u as I don't have time to console liars I know too many already! If u had come on thispost with the truth I would have not put that last statement, look at my statement before I saw u were supposed to be lying to us. ell77:YES THAT'S RIGHT - AT ONE POINT I WAS EVEN DEFENDING YOU! Well, about talking behind your back. Umm . . . I posted it on a public site u started, so it was meant for u to see and read! Duh! By the way I am only 2 years older than u and also a female, so I am not buying naiivety. But you're actually wrong, I do care if u tell your man or not, simply because it is the right thing to do, also u can never live with this burden on ur shoulders, and it is a learning process too. Honey, don't let em start on u oh! I am just responding to your post, but as u can tell I am mega vexed! By the way, I notice u picked my post only to quote in anger, meanwhile other people are already printing your photo ready to find u and batter u. Wise up girl. This guy could have raped u, u could be pregnant, u could have AIDS. Then look at the man u may lose - your boyfriend could have been the one to make all your desires in a man/human being true. What exactly were u expecting, u cheated on your man, people should now turn around and say 'Sorry'. No u got told it was wrong, since in your post u did not reflect much guilt, only fear of losing something precious. The intent is to make u realise there is something to be guilty about, so that if your man does not forgive u, u know that it is to be expected (and not be too shocked that u move to that EDGE). But also so that if your man does forgive u, u know not to do it again! @ Sista, imagine if he forgives her, and she cheats again! Will u concentrate on making her feel better and how 'it's not your fault - u are confused'. Or will u let her know confusion or no confusion. What is wrong is wrong, what is right is right! Whatever, I guess u do it out of concern anyway and there is no fault in that. @Christiana - I advise u as someone else said to close this post althogether, at last sense don catch u so u removed your pic. But people can identify u by other means i.e. email, pic in profile etc. Just liase with Sista, and hopefully u can mend your torn mind. But just for the record, honesty is the best policy, both with your man and if your going to post statements for advice or a reaction of some sort online! Yeah and u may not want my advice (even though u asked for everyone to give some), but if u don't follow it and ur man was to ever find out, that would be ur worst punishment, not people u don't even know and will probably never ever see telling u ''u did a bad thing''. His reaction is probably what could push u to the edge. |
| Career › Re: Should I Return To Nigeria To Work? by ell77(f): 3:07pm On Oct 28, 2006 |
[quote author=Honey_pot link=topic=28354.msg676527#msg676527 date=1161984754]This is a very sensitive issue. I did my masters in the UK, returned to naija and back again to the uk. As far as i am concerned u don't really have many options to choose from. u have to be very careful or else u'll shoot yourself in the foot. one, u just did (or still doing) your internship with Saatchi and u have not been offered any job yet. The 30,000 GBP which is causing much stir here is just a potential salary which u don't have yet. two, the job market in naija is so crowded and uncertain but that doesn't mean people are not getting job regularly in naija though a skeletal percentage. three, your girlfriend!!!!!!!! Now, i won't comment on this so much because it is your private life. She's only your girl friend and not your wife, boy u have to be smart, never allow such r/ships affect your decision in life. Get it right first and then tackle that later. The task before u is not to over-laden your life with naija or not naija. What u need to do is to get a job first, spread your net wider. First, u have to research and identify potential employers in your field both in naija and uk. Start making contacts with them, send them unsolicited applications if they've not advertised. and please do this on time before your visa expires (that's if u don't have a resident permit). it is only when u hit very juicy jobs both in naija and the uk and the appointment letters are with u that u will begin to consider what your options are but for now concentrate on job hunting in both countries. u may not have enough info on naija companies so begin where u are. your univeristy's career office will be a good starting point. search the internet also to get the addresses of uk firms in your field and start contacting them now. i know u will gain an interview or two. this was what i did before i got a job in the uk. when i completed my studies in the uk, i worried myself so much about the decision to go back or not. i finally went back to naija and job hunting was not easy. i immediately left and got a job on my return to the uk, though i later got big jobs in naija but rejected them. from experience, u will never achieve anything both in naija or uk job-wise if u remain undecided. so hit the streets and start job-hunting, use the methods i suggested or u can email me for private talk.[/quote]THIS IS THE BEST ADVICE - ESPECIALLY COMING FROM SOMEONE WHO HAS EXPERIENCED IT! |
| Romance › Re: Can Any One Help Me by ell77(f): 7:33pm On Oct 25, 2006 |
I wonder if she has told him already, since she is taking her time to post again. Well, maybe she is ashamed or something, her email is in her Profile, Sista u can email her there, it may be more successful, since u seem to really care about this girl. She says she is 20, although u are right she looks younger. I commend as there is obviously something wrong with this chick whether these are true stories or not. Me personally I can't be bothered to figure out if some1 managed to seize her logon details and get a posed for picture only to upload on to this site or to figure out why she has done the things she has done, if she asked for help in that domain I would try and answer maybe, help thise who accept help and move on many others are in need of people who care (yes I know this is probably the wrong mentality but u can't help every1, you know?). |
| Romance › Re: His Not Financially Boyant, But Wants Take This Girl Out on Date by ell77(f): 7:23pm On Oct 25, 2006 |
Taking out = date I think you were joking, but not every1 can enter Mamaput oh! You have to tell the girl u don't hav cash at the moment if u decided to take her there, or she might just think u are being cheap, some people may prefer going on a walk to entering Mamaput - depending on the quality. But u have not messed up, these things happen it is how u approach the matter that will determine how she reacts unless she is nothing short of a golddigga like some1 suggested. |
| Christianity Etc › Re: Are Catholics Really Christians? by ell77(f): 7:17pm On Oct 25, 2006 |
Matthew 16:18 "And I say to thee: That thou art Peter; and upon this rock I will build my church, and the gates of hell shall not prevail against it."I am sure, every1 here is familiar with that saying. So I kinda get what Carlosein is saying. As Jesus did build the foundation for his Church he made his disciple (Peter) the rock upon which the Church would be built. Now one of the first Christian Churches was the Catholic Church, so it is the Church of Christ and no matter what, evil shall not change the Catholic Church (set up by Peter directly), and it shall not lose sight of the purpose of it being built, and I believe it has not. However, I don't think the Catholic Church is the only Church of Christ it is just the first one. A single layer, in the foundation if you will, it takes many layers to build a house or a fortress and I believe each Christian Church is a layer and as long as each layer is true the fortress will remain mighty. So Christians alike can we end this discussion now, I know it is not getting heated yet but it will soon head in that direction. |
| Career › Re: Should I Return To Nigeria To Work? by ell77(f): 9:32pm On Oct 24, 2006 |
SO WAIT, U WAN'T TO TAKE AN OYIBO GIRL WHO HAS NOT EVEN TRAVELLED TO SOUTH AFRICA TO NAIJA FOR HER TO LIVE WITH U FOREVA WHEN U DON'T HAVE A JOB?! HAHAHAHAHA SORRY, it is admirable that u wan't to go back to Naija and sort of bring the wealth of knowledge back home, or jsut be closer to ur people, and by all means I do think u should return one day if it is plausible for u and ur new life. You have a guaranteed job here that pays, u hav no guarantees in Naija even upon u obtaining a good job, u will need to create a luxiourious home for ur girlfriend to live in, also why will she go with u unless u are married which means more money still. Ur best bet is to stay at Saatchi & Saatchi - which I have heard of, congrats on that because it is a very prestigious organisation that people will leave Japan, USA, Australia to be a part of and probably would fund themselves whereas u already have ur foot in the door. Better stil u have a high starting salary and will probably receive other bonuses. Whildt u receive cash invest it in a home and maybe ur family and prepar for a life back - I thought that was the main purpose of most people coming here - education is there in NAija, many people have degrees but these same people are unemployed. Whilst having a degree at LSE will give u an advantage there is no need to aplly for jobs when u already have one. Bwoy I hope u hold that ur girl like egg when u take her there, Oyibo people for here go claim u kill am! |
| TV/Movies › Re: Stephanie Okereke and Dakore @ London Premiere Of 'The Successor' by ell77(f): 9:22pm On Oct 24, 2006 |
IT WILL BE SHOWN AGAIN FRIDAY THE 27 AND SATURDAY 28TH OF OCTOBER TOO! JUST SEEN THHE ADVERRT ON BEN, I AM SO EXCITED! IS THIS THE FIRST TIME A NAIJA FILM HAS PLAYED IN A LONDON CINEMA? 11PM IN STREATHAM AND IN SURREY QUAYS ON BOTH DAYS ONLY! OH WOOOOOOW! |
| Romance › Re: Can Any One Help Me by ell77(f): 9:04pm On Oct 24, 2006 |
Bossman:IMAGINE! I JUST DID LOOK THRU' PREVIOUS POSTS, SHE SAID SHE HAS SAMPLED ALL TRIBES OF NAIJA AND IS JUST SEARCHIN' FOR ALBINO! So why do people post fake topics on this site?!!   |
| Romance › Re: Can Any One Help Me by ell77(f): 8:55pm On Oct 24, 2006 |
midep:DAMN Midep, no be u she cheat on oh! Abeg, calm down,lol! Also u can't judge a whole species based on a few if that was the case how many men have cheated on their girls and been accepted back with open arms. If u read the posts properly, u will see people have told this girl what she has done was wrong, including myself, I think b4 u I was even amongst the harshest, but people do make mistakes. However, even though I think u did go over the edge, it is worth considering ur behaviour. I mean she said in her post she was afraid of telling him-which I gathered was because she was afraid of LOSING HIM. Just realised some guys like urself get extremely angry. So Christiana when u do tell him (which is a necessity) it may be worth telling him in a place that has people around but still haS SOME ELEMENT OF PRIVACY, SO AS TO RESPECT HIM BUT PROTECT URSELF. Think wot u did was wrong, but no one is without sin and u don't deserve to hav a hand laid on u for such a thing (my own opinion anyway). Sista:You may hav a point here Sista. OH YEAH CHRISTIANE PLS TAKE OFF UR PIC FROM THE NET, at the very least it is an invitation for judgement b4 meeting u! Sista:I don't particularly think it was a cry for help although it is very possible, there is no need for understanding though, you messed up simple. This is part of life and if we shelter her from what are normal reactions (whether excessive or not), when she meets them face to face what will she do, let her be ready and face facts, it is not the end of the world though so my dear don't walk towards that edge! |
| Politics › Re: Efcc On Youtube: Nabs 419 Scammers by ell77(f): 11:18am On Oct 24, 2006 |
Amobi1 has a point. 419 is destroying Naija's image oveseas both to oyibo and it's own people. It prevents people returning home 'cos they think they won't survive all the corruption and know who to trust. It is nice to know there is such an organisation as EFCC. But I think we also need one for fraud in total i.e. police collecting cash for bribery, anyway it is a step in the right direction. PS the EFCC guy was shouting 'shoot' becuase they were being shot at AND STONED by members of the crowd although I am sure not all of them I'm. That's why I am curious what the fraudsters bring to the area. Don't they just supplement themselves aor, are they modern day robin hood - steal from rich, give to poor. Either way it is not right I guess but atleast I could understand if they were giving to their community. Anyway sha' fraud is everywhere, even here the African's I have met that deal most in fraud are Ghanaian's! lol - and they hav audacity to tell me about Naija fraudsters, jus' goes to show some things may stick to Naija forever if we don't start weeding it out now. |
| Politics › Re: Efcc On Youtube: Nabs 419 Scammers by ell77(f): 11:09am On Oct 24, 2006 |
Amobi 1: |
| Politics › Re: Efcc On Youtube: Nabs 419 Scammers by ell77(f): 8:06pm On Oct 23, 2006 |
Oh yeah I just posted about this, what made me laugh was the white man saying 'don't shoot'. Meanwhile if there was no camera he would be agreeing, anyway I guess there were innocent bystanders. But why were people gathered around? I thought it was just a case of 'cinema tonite', but the man was saying they have an invested interest in the fraudsters as they bring money to the area. But how? I am jus' curious. |
