₦airaland Forum

Kobojunkie:
That statement means that you should always seek equal partnership with unbelievers, and never an unequal partnership..

It is this very brainless practice of relying on the vomit of your clergy that has led many to abandon the literal meaning of the statement in bold only to adopt a meaning that does not align with reality itself..

lildush:
The roofing alone will cost u 4to 5million if ur using the type of roofing sheet in the picture.so budget 15million to make it sweet .

robinso01:
Wetin dem look for in Sudan at first?
Nigerians can travel sha

UselessBuharist:
One of my parents sold my first house at roofing level, I got wind of it from a friend, I asked and I was further lied to. As if that was not enough dem pressure me to bring money for roofing for house wey dem don sell oo.

I made up my mind that i won’t send #1 for the purpose of that house again and they won’t know anything I do going forward.

2 yrs later I asked my sister to buy another land and start a project, I told her I’ll lodge you in a hotel near the project so that she can finish the project before going back home, I even beg her husband we agree oo she do am to roofing level her husband asked her to come back home. Na so them leave the house, 3 weeks later her husband tell me say dem see one very good land suitable for hostel make I come buy, rush rush I pay oo, they said I should just start the building project immediately, I ask my in-law can you handle it he said yes, na so I begin pump money oo, I give my in-law the job, he gave his friend the job and his friend gave a contractor. Dem chop me nor he small but I didn’t complain because the money dey then and I thought they were using the best materials only to come naija meet 21 cracks for house wey dem complete less than 2 months before I come naija. Before I come I don buy car for my brother in law, when I got to the house I was so disappointed right there I told my sister I will never talk to her again. I went and completed the one she was building before by myself. Long story short I sold the hostel last December the same day I bought another house with money I got from selling the hostel. The hostel was just there, nobody goes there to check, even the agent I gave to help me manage it dey do me anyhow.

Because I nor get anyone else to trust I went to my parents to help me build my living house… this one na another long story.

Me, my sister and her husband are cool now, she is even going to check the house I bought in December on Saturday. She has the documents to all my properties since wife never join but I tell her say if you hear say I close my eyes forever make sure everything goes to my son.

I be senior brother, I carry everything wey happen as part of life, I love my family

GoodbutBadguy:
Dey play , will you use paper to travel? Money doesn't grow on a tree abroad . The reality of life there is no Eldorado anywhere

EndBuhariNow:
You never see anything.. habibi come to dubai and see frustration.. a country you have to work 12hours plus extra 2hours of ur time on express going to work everyday making it 14hrs , the remaining of ur hours you need to cook and prepare for another day because nah 31days calendar you are working, no rest, even if u are sick u must get sick leave about 40k to take 3 days rest, ok let's say people go fit manage that one, let's say u need a woman to help u forget most of the stress... but finding out that at the end, bunk bed in a room of 10 by 10 size filled with other male adults u are not allow to bring in woman, if u decide to go to hotel, you must spend close to 70k on hotel and food to travel almost half the country to have 2 round of séx .. money u will give her not included.. nothing is free, comrades even toto no free.. if u can live and survive in uae you can survive anywhere In the world

Slizzords:
Good day familylanders, i consider this part of nairaland as a place with lots of reasonable and mature people so i would like to table my matter here.

Am a 27yr old guy and I have been dating this girl of mine for the past 3years now, she's 24yrs and we have been good, she works in a corporate organization and i also hustle for my daily bread too. I have been able to save a good amount of money, though i don't have tertiary education but have got a very sound mind.

Recently she brought up the issue of marriage and asked me when i intend to come and do the needful, i have met her mom and siblings on a few occasions and the vibes i got from them looks positive. I know she loves me and i also share the same affections for her.

The issue is i don't know if i should relocate abroad with the funds at my disposal because of the situation of this country or remain in naija and proceed with marriage with her.

BloomingDale:
She also works, so her job workload and household chores might be too much for her. Taking care of 2 children alone can sap someone’s energy, talk more of adding cooking and house chores to it.

Tell her to split some bills with you and then you can help out with the cooking and the house chores and also looking after the children to give her a break.

Her heavy workload might also be leading to a low sex drive. An exhausted wife is an unhappy and angry wife.

tomi4life:
thanks bro, divorce is not an option for me for different reasons:


1. The bible is against divorce, I dont want to disobey God
2. What people will say, we come from a spiritual background my parents and her parents are pastors, alot of people look unto us role model.
3. My children, I dont want to deny my children access to good parenting, I am someone who believes the role of a father and a mother is very critical in raising a child, my dad taught me many of the values i have imbibed today such as confident, financial discipline, hard work etc. Mum taught me to be patient, tolerant and have to empathize this balance is important. I enjoyed this while growing up and dont think it would be fair to deny my children the benefits.

I think me, she doesnt respect me that the issue. if I sit her down to talk, she goes on a defensive mode and gives all me attitude. I have told her lately she needs to watch her temperament, even the way she yells at the maid, my children, our guard is strange. Very little thing she flaws up for no reason. Sometimes the way she respond to me when I ctry to give her feedback, I have to tell her why she is raising her voice, I only asking her a question.

nesphil:
Cry for your state and stop taking panadol for another person's headache.
Your lies against Okowa could not stop his preferred successor from winning the polls.
Okowa has done well for his state, follow up with his activities and projects in the state to see that he's working ok.
And stop ranting.

mcquin:
Wrong. Didn't want to quote you but we need to properly inform members of the public.

First, the policy caused artificial inflation. A trader who buys the naira inorder to restock will simply push the burden to the buyer by raising price of commodity.

The economy itself shrinked because some businesses could not cope, resulting in loss of jobs. In my office for example, we are major importers of frozen food (fishes). Retailers who purchase from us could not sell off their stock for nearly a month because people had no cash to make purchase and because they couldn't sell, they had no use returning to us to restock. That led to us having very poor sales in January.

This government has a knack for pushing out unsustainable policies leading to policy summersault. How do you invest in an economy that is not predictable?

Gradually Nigeria was going cashless. 6 years ago, POS was not a thing but today many people execute transactions using POS. Government should have allowed us evolve gradually and in no time more Nigerians will go cashless. Instead people ended up losing their lives, businesses, only for us to return to square 0.

Minjim:
The policy was in place for over a month.
Tell us two of its benefit to Nigeria

PlayerMeji:
Obi said it was the best policy for everyone na...

So why are you complaining when your Angel Obi has endorsed the policy?

Nothing has changed, the policy is still good.

SamuelAnyawu:
You do not transition cashless economy through that means of lesser new cash. Why didn't the old and new money run concurrently for a year like other developed countries.

It's had nothing to do with Supreme Court abeg. So if there was no supreme court judgement the issue would have been resolved immediately?

Emiefele and Buhari failed woefully because the policy was never meant to fully transition us into a cashless economy.

LilleG:
The truth is that we're not ready for any cashless policy. Moreover we have more pressing needs to attend to abeg.

SamuelAnyawu:
It is not about the court Bro.

The New money wasn't printed enough to stabilise the old cash withdrawal.

If the new monies completely replaced the old ones this scarcity would have ended in January already.

cunny88:
Why is CBN just deciding to release more funds now despite knowing the hardship Nigerians have been going through. What exactly has the cash policy even achieved?

yomi531:
Baba rest abeg

yomi531:
Which kind mumu talk be tat one. So coz I voted Obi in presidential elections, I should vote all Ellu p candidates across board? It doesn't work that way bro. If u know me, u will really find it difficult to comprehend my kind of person. A Yoruba guy that Voted Obi despite all my immediate family members going for Bulaba😂. A united fan of over 2 decades that was actually praying for Arsenal to beat man u and it happened. The only united fan that lost his voice celebrating Agueros goal against QPR in 2012 bcoz, I felt they played the best football that season and deserve to win the league. A Christian boy that has only truly loved Muslim girls over the years up until now b4 I come dey find Christian girls to love. Guy, u can never understand me. Am a weirdo😃

yomi531:
100%

yomi531:
Nice one. I'm a diehard Obidient but, I am so happy that Sanwo-olu won . Una come make me dey fear at a point whether na we the yorubas get Lagos or not. Its crystal clear for all to see now. So so happy

Kobojunkie:
1. Are women equal to their men in marriage? If the first answer that pops in your brain is NO, then it is clear you are aware that marriage in Nigeria is a master/slave union. It is obvious since a majority of you on here insist a woman has to obtain permission from her husband to register to take a course to better her life as an individual, so let's not drag this any further than we should.

2. That is not a lack of communication at all but an expression of individuality. We are all born as private individuals from birth. Our minds are carved out separate from that of even our parents for good reason. So when in marriage many of you decide that you must know all that your wives are into while you keep your own private self's going, what you do then is strip the women naked of their individuality in order that they may depend on you for who they can or can not be. That is what a violation of another human being is.

Realize this! A woman is born with the same brain structure as a man — there is no such thing as a male or female brain. It is instead society through gender-related biases that cause the gender inequality that we find in places like Nigeria. There is no natural reason why a man should pretend himself better or smarter or wiser than a woman. Instead, there are societal myths and biases that cause individuals to develop such thinking all a result of ignorance.

Shokoloko:
What kind of sad marriage? If the marriage did not explode or implode when kids where young will it implode now that children are in college and we are warming up to be grandparents. Lol.

Kobojunkie:
1. Wrong! Outside of the shores of Nigeria, what she described is in fact the typical picture of marriage. It is not a master/slave union as most in Nigeria are used to but a partnership where partners maintain their individuality even in marriage. You can do that permission thing down there in Nigeria where life is slow and predictable and not much attention is paid to the woman and how far she wishes to go as an individual in the world.

But out here, unless the man or woman is trying to dig into the family coffers or is attempting to sell the house, no need. No point! There are babysitting/nanny services for when one spouse needs to travel last minute and you can all have family in a chat group where you can keep up and inform each other where you are headed 24/7.

Shokoloko:
Please rest. My spouse did not know I had applied to go back for a second degree until I showed him my admission letter. Till today i find ceritifcates of courses in his wardrobe that he completes and doesn't remember to share with me. It has not killed the marriage. She gave him 2 months notice for a week long trip. That is fair.
What I don't understand is why the couple is unable to find someone to take care of the kids for one week.
They have enough time

Insultme:
Thanks for the advise.
You're all going to hear the end of the story when the time comes.

onatisi:
i think this is the main issue, people are scared. i think what should happen is for state governors to use executive powers and mandate any bank that wants to continue doing business in their respective states to start collecting and paying the old notes, unless banks start collecting it , the ordinary people on the streets won't collect it

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