₦airaland Forum

siofra:
There's this yahoo boy that has been disturbing me to go to his hotel room. He's a course mate. God knows how many times I've turned him down. I'm tired. So I want to tell him I have a vaginal infection that could be sexually transmitted.
Is it okay to tell him this?
Is this lie going to bite me back somehow?

TinubuGoQuench:
Idiots! They should look for kids in creche or pre-nursery to tell that

shanktang:
Sorry, same in what sense, cos I can see the designs are different.

Belafonte:
You really wanted to marry a Nigerian woman after just one month of meeting her? Amazing

You better go do Thanksgiving for the second chance you've been given to not derail your destiny. Secondly go and visit your parents with serious gifts; their prayers are truly effective in your life.

Werey see yansh he say the girl dey loving.

NPTJ:
The man came begging to have access to my sister and kids as his neighbours were laughing at him that his so called wife has left him

He never for once come with his family for anything marital rite. The few times he comes begging was solely him alone

Please where is the commitment that he has shown to prove that he wants to come do the marital rite?

We ain't even begging for any marital rite by the way. We only want to correct all the wrong the man has made by isolating my sister away from family and friends. Who doesn't have a phone in this generation please?

She's living her life for that man which must be corrected

ursullalinda:
Social media has stolen some people's senses.....with all the dangers surrounding gas and phone yet pple don't listen.......I just pray she will be alive to educate people about it

Spherical77:
The Op never said the man is begging to come do the marital rite and pay her bride price. The Op never said his sister ever for once told them that the man wants to come and do the needful till date

Did you read where the Op said the man was telling his dad that the exorbitant school fees he's paying for his children is taking a toll on him? Meaning the man has the money to buy his so called wife phone but purposely chose not to buy it

The man is a wicked man no two ways about it. People buy phone for their maids and other domestic staffs not to talk of someone you claimed to have loved

The man took advantage of the poor girl perfectly considering the wide age gap again

The man is nothing but a wicked man

NPTJ:
Yes I'm hopeful and looking forward to get something doing inorder to contribute and get her a phone

But sincerely, the man is responsible for all these

He's using a smart phone and his wife is using nothing. Not even a touch light phone

Spherical77:
That man is nothing but a wicked man. You illegally married someone only daughter without paying her bride price. He wasn't responsible to his inlaw. The worst of it all, he couldn't buy a phone for his so called wife to avoid being in touched with her family and friends

I wish you guys have the means to go in there and treat his goddam fvckup. What nonesense in this 21st century. She lost her brother and grandparents and she and her stupid husband didn't come. Things dey happen sha

I feel for you guys seriously

NPTJ:
we may be poor but not entitled biggot. My parents never wanted her to marry the man. My dad even housed her for a year with her 2 kids then, and the man keeps coming and begging prophecing love to her here and there and she started crying and begging to go meet him. She knows we'd gladly accept her back if she chose to come back today. I felt that's one of the reason why the man took her to pourtharcourt having known my family conditions, it would take a toll on us before coming down there. None of my family members had accepted penny from him nor his wife. We weren't weird that way to be entitled. If he give us fine, we'd gladly accept it. But for us to demand, never

ChineduChinedu:
Please help, I need advice, I am very confused man, I don't know what to do in this situation

There is this girl I met in Lagos she help me find a house in Lagos from there we started dating.

I Asked her to marry me and get pregnant for me. Later she got pregnant for me.
She started disturbing me about marriage rights.

On the wedding day I discovered that she has 3 children for one man.
I have asked her several times even before she got pregnant she keep saying no

A day before the wedding, one of my uncle called me and tell me that one babalawo said that the woman I want to marry has 3 kids already.

All that day I wasn't myself I woke her up at midnight and forced the truth out of her
She admitted and start begging me to forgive her, she said she has been looking for the best time to tell me. All this are happening on our wedding day, she beg me not to tell anyone that it can be secrets between me and her àlone, I insisted that I must tell my people from my state enugu to Lagos

My people discouraged me and said I should thank God for revealing this early.
That's how I cancelled the church wedding.

Court marriage 30th September
Church wedding 2nd October
But Before that wedding day, we did court marriage, I told her that I don't want to do court marriage because if she cheat on me I will divorce her and loose my half of my money she got angry, the first day we didn't talk, 2nd day same, Then 3rd day she start packing her loads, I beg her to stay that we have few days to church wedding she insisted that If I don't do the court that I should cancel the church wedding that she can't trust me without court marriage

We did the court marriage, without my parents consent cuz it didn't come from my heart, her junior brother is the one that sighn for me in the court

I don't know what to do in this situation oo

Her first son is 13 years
2nd son 8 years
3rd girl 6 years
And now she is pregnant for me aa

Am 30 years while I don't know her real age

We have lived together for 8 months before I could discover this
And during this period we have been together
She controls me alots and that make me sad
She shout at me too
If ask me to do something for her and I refuse it becomes problem

Please what do I do ?

genkins:
Mnn! Built by christ Embassy or Chris? What is Chris Oyakilome's job that he can afford to build a free school? Christ Embassy is a church where funds contributed by members built a free school.. Let's get that right

armstrongadeola:
She didn't forget .she just lied but we will be fine tomorrow morning .We don't let our dispute go beyond a day but I still don't know why she said that .

I will not even ask her again .Bygone is bygone .That's the kind of man I am.i will just let it slide

frozen70:
This time around, her parents will give you 100% approval to marry her

Keep in touch with her

But give her time to mourn her husband and find out how long is the period of mourning, I think is one year

Meanwhile, don't leave her at this period, be there for her as she will fight anyone that wants to spoil this second journey of your love for her

Antoeni:
Tega has gone into hibernation.
She had chased stardom the wrong way
Now, stardom is chasing her around
A married woman with a child can do a few things to become celebrity
But when she chooses adultery on national TV
Reality TV or UNREALITY TV
Then, even the gods will come after her.
Cyber bullying is criminal
But since social media celebrities thrive on herding devotees
They should always know that a mob hangs around them .
I watched her and her husband try to whitewash stuff
Her husband had lunch with Boma. Yes, with Boma.
Such things can't amuse an African audience .
I pray for her
Wasting time in a big brother house and disappearing from social media afterwards is pointless, perhaps tragic.

HRHQueenPhil:
Wahala for who no see king as oba

Wen d verdict comes out in support of Oba, u and ur family will bear d humiliation and brunt

Martinelli35:
I am going to make this as brief as possible. I have noticed a trend with the reputation Nigerians seem to have with other Africans. I am currently dating a girl from Zimbabwe and we both are resident in England. The day I asked her out, she was initially a bit skeptical and told me her father had told her to avoid ending up with a Nigerian, I asked her why and she told me she had no idea.

Eskiz me sir, how large is her forehead?

We started dating and I began to get an idea of the reputation we had, obviously she was scared I had a wife and some kids back in Nigeria, I had to convince her that this was not the case and that I genuinely liked her.

Another time she told her friend from Zambia that she was dating a Nigerian and was told to be careful while dealing with me as a Nigerian.
It’s not all bad though, obviously we also have a reputation of being smooth talkers, she told me that we Nigerians have a way with words and that can make us irresistible at times. Who else has experienced this?

JovialJune:
A man should be chaste, that's a virtue, and it guarantees successful marriage, and the wife and man should remain virgins till death, it guarantees successful marriage, they should never be loosed if not the marriage will fail.

Meek127:
bros,you don fall my hand i swear

JovialJune:
What about a virgin lady choosing an virgin guy with a calm and amazing character rather than a non virgin rotten diick with a bad and annoying character.

Missionaire:
Some Questions:
1. Virginity of the man or the woman? I have observed even on this thread how people always focus on the ladies when it comes to marital and societal issues.
What if the lady is a virgin but the guy is quite promiscuous?
If you can marry as a Virgin, fine but if you are no longer a virgin, don't be discouraged or think that you can't have a great marriage because neither (virginity or non-vigirnity) is a guarantee of a successful marriage.
2. Is virginity of the body alone or it includes the heart? I mean, some ladies can do all sort of sexual acts like giving BJ, hand jobs, anal sex etc but will not allow penetration. Their minds are already wild. They watch porn and do many things. Will you call them virgins because their hymen is intact and can that virginity guarantee a successful marriage?

Let those who are virgins be and let those who are not virgins not made to feel like their own is finished. They are some people like me who don't care whether a lady is a virgin or not. Others are very particular about virgins and others can't marry a virgin.

To each his own.