₦airaland Forum

Elder0001:
Is he wrong about the fact that a lot of Nigerian women treat their house helps badly?
I don't know why people don't like hearing the truth in this country

JONNYSPUTE:
....Why are most of you like this?

So he shouldn't say the truth again because it involves Regina Daniels? Or a woman?

It wasn't a house-help but yeah, an employee nevertheless and some people treat their employees badly, both men and women. As terrible as it is, I have also stayed in enough places to know it's not just a Nigerian thing. So there is nothing specifically Nigerian or 'women' about maltreating the less privileged. When men do terrible things, we don't call the entire gender, we only criticize the individual. But whenever a woman does something terrible, everybody will be shouting "fear women", "Nigerian women are terrible", etc.

Point is, his quote should be about Regina and not Nigerian women. We don't say Nigerian men are terrible when we read the robbery and rape cases we see everyday on the front page. Even when it's mostly men tarnishing our image in the cyberspace, we still say 'Nigerians' instead of singling out men. But if it were mostly ladies, that's when you'd hear how devilish Nigerian women are.

Let's stop the gender bias

pheelhip:
This isnt the Regina I trained

Lol

MisterFelix1:
And just like that...she's already manifesting the typical small madam mentality of most self-centred Nigerian women. Her type fit maltreat housemaid wella. No maid should work there oh!

You guys barely need any motivation to start bashing Nigerian women. Regardless of what the title says, you'd still find a way to make it about Nigerian women. Does this this make you feel more manly? Do you even realise how childish it is? Funny thing is that most of you have never left Nigeria before to know what other women are like.

I don't follow BBN (I actually intended to follow it this year but can't access it) but I think the the viewers outside the house are the ones painting a terrible image of the show with all the dirty headlines they put up just to get traffic, followers or comments. Of all the activities that take place in the house, it's such split-of-a-second posture that's worth writing about. If someone walks, it'll be termed "moving ass", if someone sits close to another, it'll be termed "romance", etc.. The show is overly sexualised by content writers who constitute the source of information for those not following the show. While in reality, the show doesn't have nearly as much dirty language nor nudity as our music videos we're all proud of.

Just an observation.

Good Morning.

Drake is from Canada, not the US. This song was released 10 years ago.

Can someone please take this poor boy to a psychiatric hospital?

You should probably take this to the rap battle section.

Ibrahimmrfish:
Its dollars.

I know, I read the write-up. I'm only suggesting you add it to the title for clarity sake.

OP, you might need to add currency to your title to better send your message. I think you forgot that.

Kranediggy:
Is just having an opposite sex friend without intimacy a sin now?

Are we really going to act as if we don't know why you prescribed that as a remedy for masturbation? Otherwise, how does specifically having a girlfriend/boyfriend (as against just friends) stop you from masturbating?

Anyway, it's a nice writeup, thanks.

Nice one OP but is getting a boyfriend/girlfriend really a Christian solution to masturbation? What will they do? Help the individual with sexual relief? I'm not an advocate of masturbation but it's really confusing when religious people prescribe getting a boyfriend/girlfriend as a way of tackling the habit. I mean, the suggestion is not necessarily bad but if you're going to use it, there's probably no need mentioning God in the entire writeup. We can't be using religion to select sins that appeal to us.

Nice one.

Juliusmomoh:
U don't know what u are saying .... I was once in ur shoe .. Instead of u to be in ur room praying, u are on NL asking pipu to wish u well ... .. U never know satan... ... When u start again DM

Let's not get overly religious over things that require practical steps. That he's on NL doesn't mean he's not praying, they are not mutually exclusive. Some people perform better when they feel accountable. This is a proven strategy used by therapists. By sharing this here, he somehow gets himself to be accountable to anyone following his thread and the thought of reporting progress here and possibly getting encouraged would serve as a reward (somewhat countering the pleasure reward offered by masturbation). The action-reward cycle that leads to addiction is exactly what is employed to get rid of it.

OP, good luck and better don't come back here with "sorry guys, I failed" cause I'll personally kick your as.s!

yuswrld20:
by increasing her brain neurons

Tell me more about this.

pocohantas:
Hathor5 must not see this.



Have you ever seen a cat with a wristwatch?
What makes you think it knows YOUR odd hour?

Wow!!! I love this! Lol

Wow... I like how these guys go extra lengths to refine their knowledge about nature

iTearHerToto:
All these trash spilled abundantly shall be reversed someday. Save this post!

The HOE PHASE IS REAL. YOU AND YOUR LIKES ARE DOOMED



Pukes

If you read my post (or any of my posts), you'd know I don't engage people like you in any form of conversation. Lack of civility irritates me.

Enjoy yourself.

Cydsessions7:
Really? People with mental health challenges are blamed for it?

Please what's the blame about?

I've seen someone who wanted to kill themselves cause of minor things like failing an exam and Nigerians on SN rained insults on them for being so weak minded and even called out their parents for bringing up such a spoilt child. However, the fact that someone decides to take his life cause of such a minor thing only suggests that such a person already has a high suicide tendency which could be as a result of many factors. The exam was just a trigger and anything else could also trigger it. Such a person needs help and not insults.

Nigerians are always quick to remind you that your problem is too little but they fail to realize that mental health has little to do with the immediate problem (this is just a trigger) but the state of mind of the individual. We take pride in being harsh.

Until you learn to treat people individually based on their personalities and not collectively based on their gender, you might just keep running in circles. If you meet your girl somewhere in the world and decide not to treat her nicely because some girl on social media who is "one of them" has said so, you'll have yourself to hold responsible for whatever turn your relationship takes.

You are celebrating this post cause it is from one of them but the numerous posts from many of them that say you should treat them nicely are forgotten. Fact is, you only picked this cause it appeals to your already structured line of thought.

If you're not nice, you're not. If you're nice, you won't think about it before being nice to your lover. If your being nice sends her away, thank your stars and look for someone receptive of your nice nature. And if you're not nice, someone who likes un-nice guys will gladly take you. Just don't claim you're doing it for the ladies, you are who you are.

Because Nigerians blame people for having mental health challenges. Even if you kill yourself, they'd still curse your dead body.

The fact that you have blamed everyone but yourself for your own mistakes simply shows nothing has changed.

I'm only interested in the secret of her agelessness

Beverlyjean:
Like the one that deceived eve thinking that it was harmless....boom, look at whr we hv found ourselves today

Laugh wan kill me!

Icelandicboy:
leave the mumu

The guy you quoted meant "non venomous". He has edited his post. Now you're on your own.

DuBLINGreenb:
Lol nollywood goddess wey no fit give her pikin fine nose

Carry that Honda accord bunnet say na nose you carry see as she take give her pikin punishment carry say na nose

Bro, this hate speech is not necessary even as a joke. You could have ignored the thread if you didn't feel like wishing her a happy birthday. Mocking her and her baby for the shape of their noses is not different from those who mock us for the colour of our skin. The baby most certainly doesn't deserve that.

What have you all been doing to save your kids and yourself from the dirty music videos/lyrics of Nigerian and foreign artists alike? How many times do the so-called dirty things (splash of breast or under the sheet movement) occur in the entire show?

Do you realize there's no verb in your title?

Bloggers nawa o. The poor guy needs help and someone in the comfort of his house is cooking up stories for him instead.

Blabbermouth:
Another twist? There was no twist in the first place.
Replace the word "planned" with the word "wanted".
See this...
1.I planned to take you on a date IF you come.
2.Suppose you came, we will go on a date
3.Suppose you didn't, we will not
4.My PLAN was the date
5.What I WANTED was for you to come
6. You may not give me what I want, but I will accomplish what I planned
There is a tangible truth behind that analogy, but it's not something you can grab for now.

A new set. This one is actually vague and would lead to a lot of questions, I'm sorry. The distinction between "plan" and "want" in this particular context appears like an effort to push this supreme being as infallible against all odds cause I was meant to understand that whenever he wants something, he gets it. But then I'm sure I'm the one not getting it. So to clarify, are you saying that sometimes he wants some things but doesn't really plan for them and as a result, he doesn't get them (since only what he plans for is sure to happen)? If he really wants those things why doesn't he plan for them to happen? He just 'wants' some while he 'plans' for others. And which one is his "will", the plan or the want?

Blabbermouth:
"I'm glad you pointed out the possibility that your phone button might suddenly misbehave. So, the phone wouldn't have switched off just as you planned.
A case like this will only happen if
1.You actually do not have TOTAL CONTROL over a thing or an event (as in the case of your phone, you never had the total control to make it power off)...
2. You permitted the thing to also orchestrate things (just like you), howbeit subtly - It's commonly called Free will

The supreme being Losing control? No! A little kid is sometimes allowed to touch the flames of a fire for once(the lesson therein is an unforgettable one),that's not the father being incapable or not in control of preventing the kid from getting hurt, is it?(Typical of case 2 as mentioned above)
Soft landing? Hahahahahahaha, I'm just using a language you understand (logical reasoning), I can as well convey it in many other ways.

Thank you. I'll work with this.

You've given two cases in which things might not go as planned:

1) Senerio One is if I have no total control; as a man, I have no total control so things may not go as I have planned. That's clear. But a supernatural being, he's got total control so this case doesn't affect him.

2) Scenerio Two is if I allowed the thing I created to orchestrate; as a supreme being, he has total control but sadly, he's a victim of this case two (he permitted man to orchestrate things) and as a result, things may also not go as he planned (which was the case with Adam).

Notice that I only elaborated on the premise you built yourself. This is because whether it's case one or case two above does not really matter, what matters is that there's a case/scenario in which things might not go as he planned and you have succeeded in pointing out that case yourself. And that clearly answers my question. However, I'll be excited to see if there's another twist.

Meanwhile, using the analogy of a father allowing a kid to hurt a little in order to teach him a lesson to describe what happens between the supreme being and man is actually very reductive and makes a mockery of the 'reality' but it's fine.

Blabbermouth:
When He said he created man in his own image, what do you think he meant?
(Howbeit, there is still a lot on this that you need to know)


According to you, what you did can be referred to as "orchestrating some series of events that will go on to constitute the future"....
How is this possible?
Answer: You had a free will and the capability to do such to anything you have perfect control (or say, authority) over. By controlling (or say, manipulating) things like (1) your phone (2) your shirt (3) yourself , you were able to orchestrate series of events that went on to constitute the future.
I'm glad you pointed out the possibility that your phone button might suddenly misbehave. So, the phone wouldn't have switched off just as you planned.
A case like this will only happen if you actually do not have TOTAL CONTROL over a thing or an event (as in the case of your phone, you never had the total control to make it power off)...

All you just did above, God can do it! However, in a far far far far far larger larger larger larger (× infinity) scale than you did yours.
Unlike you, God will/cannot lose control. Unlike you, them no born the phone well make e say e no go off, if that supreme being command it to off.

(When God does things in this manner, humans not being able to comprehend what he did will quickly conclude he went to watch the movie called "the future" and was now narrating it to us.

Now, you are getting to know this supreme being more...

I actually knew you would say this and that is why I stated in my response that your analogy should assume no difference between the supreme being and man in that context. Otherwise, there was nothing practical about the question anymore because regardless of my response, you'd still use the infallibility of the supreme being as a soft landing.

But it's fine. I will work with that. I assume he created the earth with the will of having a happy environment (this equivalent to the plan of switching off the phone in your analogy) and like you said, he is very much in total control of his plans so how come man sinned (something happened to the phone) and the whole plan went downhill (the phone refused to go off)? Did he lose control at some point?

Please, I'm only respectfully picking on your knowledge so you don't have to come up with any convenient theory just to sell the supreme being, as understood by man, as all mighty. I know no one knows it all.

tatatar:
There was a thread were some gays were arrested by the shariah police,and they were to be rehabilitated. These same xtians were unhappy because they won't be executed.
That won't have been human rights violation to you guys huh ?
You don't get to dictate to us based on your whims.
The punishment is death!
Take it or leave it

Just curious, have those gays turned straight now?