₦airaland Forum

wrongnumber:
It can be harmless or harmful depending on the trajectory of conversation.

Let's stop this bias. But it's OK if a lady asks the size of a man's dik or if he is rich.

Stupid people

Are you being serious right now? So if a girl who is your roommate comes to where you're sitting and asks if you have a big dick, you don't think it's pretty obvious she's aiming to have sex with you? Whoever says it's normal for a lady you're not flirting with to just ask you the size of your dick out of nowhere? Tell me, in what universe is that normal? Don't you know what an invasive or suggestive question is? Are you pretending you don't know what that guy was up to?

It's not worth it replying to y'all cause some of are simply not logical at all. Tufia.

youngreva:
Nigeria will never adopt gayism leave us alone and go to other countries who does these things.we do not need you. We can be the worst at everything but I promise you, we will never adopt an egalitarian society , so you’re free to jump into the lagoon and drown if you’re not cool with it.

Ok... since we aren't being egalitarian, I choose the people I engage on Nairaland, and I really do not have anything to discuss with a sex maniac who drops his number on a public forum to be added to a hookup Whatsapp group. That's the lowest of all low lives. Enjoy your day.

Special visa for foreign gay people? Please, don't misinform people. There's nothing gay couples are receiving here that heterosexual couples aren't already receiving. Changing the common law definition of marriage to include gay couples implies that that the same permit and visa options apply to immigration visas for homosexuals as they do heterosexuals. This includes life partner and spousal visas and permits. So don't make it look as if there's a special consideration for gay people.

Meanwhile, other countries are working towards an egalitarian society where everyone is respected regardless of race, gender, sexuality, class, etc., but Nigerians are bent on maintaining thier "I better pass you" lifestyle. That's why tribalism, sexism, religious bigotry, classism, etc. are the order of the day over there. They can't even tolerate one another. Everyone thinks they're better than others. The truth is, only someone battling with his own sexuality will be preoccupied with a fellow man's sex life.

And someone is on there supporting him. He said it's a harmless question. So they should sit down and starting discussing if she has had sex? Honestly, the way some of these guys think is just irritating. They are all over Nairaland hiding thier perversion and obsession behind thier anti-women comments. Morning, afternoon and night, they're thinking of women; creating ridiculous threads left, right and center. Very promiscuous bunch.

In my opinion, if Accra is being compared to Lagos, then they're doing well. The GDP of Lagos is bigger than that of the entire Ghana. Ideally, Lagos should be in a league of its own. That said, the rapid development in Lagos state is heartwarming. I can't wait to invite my friends to Nigeria!

IamAsiri:
But this looks like Marina, Lagos now

You may not believe it, but a lot of places in North America are just like the Lagos State you know.

meum:
This your study root na tap root abi na fibrous root?😁
Most Nigerians travel out & end up taking up jobs they ordinarily wouldn’t do in Nigeria. If ‘japarians’ want to tell you the truth, it’s not easy for most of them. Few exceptions exist though. My advice: no matter the ‘root’😁, look well before you leap.

Haha... bro, you're funny.

They came late and the boss was trying to make a statement by not allowing them into the office. I'm sure he doesn't do that daily. He's thier boss, I don't understand why they feel he's wrong for refusing them entry into the office for coming to work late. What's the logic? That the boss shouldn't have the authority to discipline them? Maybe he's overly strict, but they chose the wrong time to fight back. Nobody will support them for this.

On the other hand, I think Umahi should focus more on disciplining the department leads. They will in turn discipline the unit leads who will eventually discipline the team members. Also, the presidency that employed him should make a statement backing him up. That's basically what is needed to put the workers in check.

Deltancapo:
Igbo horrible activities in the past still remains fresh to the people of the SS, those race you mentioned is there a time they wanted to annex and destroy the people of USA

So you think the peaceful coexistence in the Americas is because they've never had conflicts? You think they've always been living in harmony? Who are the "people of USA"? You say "the people of USA" as if that's an ethnicity and they're the host. You forget that the whites came from Europe and "annexed and destroyed" the aboriginals who, though remember that part of history, have chosen coexistence. You forget that the blacks and the whites had/have thier differences. You forget that the Union (North) fought a civil war with the Confederation (South) in 1861. You forget that the three main Europeans that make up white America (English, French and Spanish) had series of Civil wars in the past in Europe and fought over the region we know as North America today. You forget that the French and English in Canada also had thier war and that Québec has had two referenda to leave Canada. You forget that Canada fought the US and went as far as burning down the white house.

All these conflicts happened, and they still chose to respect or, at least, tolerate one another today for the sake of progress. And here you are making excuses for your lack of tolerance. You're asking if these ethnicities have done anything to "the people of USA". Yes, they have. Arabs have bombed many places in the West, yet they walk around freely and do thier festivals over there. How many places have Igbos bombed in SS? Why am I even going far, your fellow Nigerians commit all sorts of crimes in the US, yet they do their festivals and even take up leadership positions over there. So what exactly is your excuse for choosing hate? Is this what you intend to teach your children? Why are you guys not progressive in thought? Hatred is a choice, and there is no justification for it.

HRHQueenPhil:
Something you will eat and shit out...

Nairaland people... isn't that what fish is for? What else were you expecting him to do with the fish? Marry it? Lmao.

September 2022 is fresh? Did you refrigerate the date or what?

In the Americas, we have Afro festivals, Caribbean festivals, and Asian festivals. Nobody comes in the way of the other. The cities provide security during these occasions. People from other groups are invited to participate and enjoy with those celebrating. Such festivals are something to look forward to cause it's entertaining, revealing and uniting. However, back home, Nigerians can't even tolerate other Nigerians. Shame.

I don't understand this. So does the absence of these words in the Bible imply the practices are wrong? I thought it was obvious such practices are meant to organize or systematize religious bodies? Someone please tell me the point here.

I know the comments will focus on what girls are doing or not doing these days, but the truth is, people have been having sex long before now. If we want to really address this subject objectively, we need to take a look at the so-called leaked videos. 99% of them are meant to hurt the ladies involved. In other words, they were leaked by the male partners. Even when the video involves a popular male, it's not considered a big deal. So the question is, why this sudden toxicity in our men? Why this strong desire to suppress?

Of course, a lady can avoid such an embarrassment by not allowing recording during an intimate session. However, there are a hundred other ways a toxic guy could get private videos or pictures of a lady he's dating. And when ladies now come into relationships with fear and suspicions, y'all complain. You forget that the behavior of one party is a direct response to what they receive from the other party.

The sad thing is that when these things happen, everyone gathers to chastise the victims and shy away from addressing the culprits. How will it stop with this kind of encouraging behavior? I've said it before, and I will say it again, the way to address the undesirable happening in Nigeria's relationship arena is by addressing them objectively. This idea of supporting one's herd in the name of solidarity does not help anyone. It will always backfire.

descarado:
Leadership can only drain if you don't carry your people along. Besides, you can resign if it's draining

That's an ignorant statement, bro. If you've ever led people, you'd know leadership is heavy and draining, even more so when you're good leader that tries to carry everyone along.

Power doesn't drain, leadership does.

tinsel:
I cannot agree to my school to release my records to anybody even if 100 per cent clean.

Well, you're not the president of the biggest black nation on earth.

EmirofAfonjaz:
Thank God the Nurse is not IGBO.

But 25 died in shagamu, why didnt Iyabo Ojo talk?

See how worthless these people are...they have deaths that are important than others?

useless cLout chasers..spits

Na wah..

Dude, hating celebrities doesn't make your own life any better. Some people's death will generate more attention than others. It is the natural order of things. People have been dying in Nigeria long before now, but everyone is talking about this guy because he was popular and his story is known. Netizens, celebrities, bloggers and media houses are all on his matter. Then this lady says something, and she's getting attacked as a clout chaser? Really? Is she supposed to be an exception just so that you'll be happy? You can criticize her, but be logical about it so you won't come off as an unreasonable hater or a jealous human beings.

But the school has confirmed they have his record. Why is he still against the release of his result? Could it be that he's just opposing the release as a way of misleading his opponents into believing there's something in the result that he's hiding all in a bid to keep them busy and steer them away from focusing on something else he's actually hiding?

Y'all are so obsessed. Nawa o

FG reads the riot act...

Correct your title.

Merry100:
Yes "them" is an objective case pronoun, not a subjective case pronoun, so in general, "them" cannot be used at the beginning of a sentence. However, there are some exceptions case where it is acceptable.

I only said that the examples given by the guy were all wrong. And then I added "@OP, while such contructs might not be uncommon in old English, I believe they're only found in poetry today. Also, it's "good at English" in this context, not 'good in English'" So you can give the OP your own examples to showcase the exceptions.

Goalnaldo:
1.Them, the brave explorers ventured deep into the uncharted jungle, seeking hidden treasures.
2.Them, the colorful birds perched high in the treetops, filling the forest with their melodious songs.
3.Them, the old books in the dusty library held secrets and stories from centuries past, waiting to be discovered😊

In sentence one, "them" is used as the subject of the verb "ventured". This is wrong cause it's an object pronoun and can never perform the grammatical function of a subject pronoun. Note that the nearby expression "the brave explorers" is an appositive noun phrase that only adds extra details.

In sentence two, "them" is used as the subject of the verb "perched". This is wrong cause it's an object pronoun and can never perform the grammatical function of a subject pronoun. Note that the nearby expression "the the colorful birds" is an appositive noun phrase that only adds extra details.

In sentence two, "them" is used as the subject of the verb "perched". This is wrong cause it's an object pronoun and can never perform the grammatical function of a subject pronoun. Note that the nearby expression "the old books in the dusty library" is an appositive noun phrase that only adds extra details.

Appositives only serve to provide more details about a noun or a pronoun. A sentence should still be correct without them. Now, let's try removing the parts I identified as appositive noun phrases in your sentences and see if the they are correct.

1. Them ventured deep into the uncharted jungle, seeking hidden treasures.
2.Them perched high in the treetops, filling the forest with their melodious songs.
3.Them held secrets and stories from centuries past, waiting to be discovered.

As you can see, they're all wrong. That's because only a subject pronoun can be used be as the subject of a verb. In this case, that would be "they".

@OP, while such contructs might not be uncommon in old English, I believe they're only found in poetry today. Also, it's "good at English" in this context, not "good in English".

AllKnowing:
All wrong constructions. Take away the reduced relative clauses and repeat the sentences to yourself.

Sound awful, yes?

“Them” is an object pronoun, remember? It’s moderately possible, employing the infinitive, to have something which begins thus: “To them…”

You're correct, but those are not reduced relative clauses. They are not even clauses at all. They are noun phrases, and they function as appositives in the sentences made by that guy.

Is the grid on drugs or something? Why is it always collapsing?

TMKsouth:
Soweto finally has a health facility that caters for the LGBTQIA+ community.

The centre was launched by the Gauteng Province minister (MEC) for Health and Wellness, Nomantu Nkomo-Ralehoko on Friday, 8 September at Itireleng Clinic in Soweto, Johannesburg.

The health facility will provide the minimum package of health services that are tailored to meet the health needs of population groups considered to be key populations for HIV and STIs.

The facility will focus on providing comprehensive and compassionate care to homosexual men, and men that sleep with other men.

Nkomo-Ralehoko said the purpose of this facility is to provide exclusive health services to the key population who constantly face rejection and mistreatment when accessing health facilities.

She added that this has transformed the lives of key populations by providing them with necessary support, care and empowerment to lead healthy and fulfilling lives.

"One of the notable strengths of this centre lies in the commitment to confidentiality, and non-discrimination. No one will tell other people why you were there in the room consulting. Staff have been sworn into confidentiality," she said.

"We have trained our staff and security guards to take care of these people," she said.

Dr Thulani Mhlongo, one of the key players in ensuring that such facilities are established told the Daily Sun that he is excited that barriers and stigmas will now be broken.

"It is important that we educate our communities and the government about our needs as gay and lesbian people. Gay and lesbian people used to be insulted and called names when they go to the clinics. I'm glad that now they listened to us, and centres are being established to accommodate the members of LGBTQIA+,” said Mhlongo.

Nurse clinician supervisor, Irene Mudau said the patients will be seen at the men’s clinic for consultation with nurse clinicians who have been trained on key populations.

The facility will provide services such as the HIV prevention package including behavioural intervention and pre-exposure prophylaxis. It will also offer HIV testing, counselling, and treatment, condom and lubricant provision, and all related education, just to mention a few.

South Africa was the first country in Africa and the 5th in the world to legalise gay marriage.

https://www.snl24.com/dailysun/news/mec-for-health-and-wellness-nomantu-nkomo-ralehoko-launches-health-centre-for-lgbtqia-community-20230910

Commendable!

izonborn098:
Women sex for money when they are single' how can she still cheat when she's married and her man is giving her the money she want.
There is a big difference btw man and woman

Nah, that married/single distinction only serves to support your argument, it's not factual. Or do you think a career prostitute will change after getting married? No, bro. You don't make that distinction for men, but the moment you realize ladies in prostitution do it all the time, you created a line to allow you proceed with your already knotted mindset. The truth is, single or married, a woman is a woman. A lady can use her body to get whatever she wants without being emotionally attached. They do it all the time. Married ladies do it for promotion, pleasure, more money, etc.

People are different, sir. Attaching emotions to sex or not is an individual thing. A man can do it, a woman can do it. The only thing that differs is the society's perception of each. It's a man's world and we push any philosophy that appeals to us. It has always been like that from the days of the Bible.

Men and women are different, but none has the monopoly of cheating just for pleasure or material gains.

izonborn098:
Women are emotional being and they are moved by their feelings..
A man sex for fun while a woman sex for feelings, so once she taste any dick and he scatter her head, she will surely go back to him one day..
DON'T FORGIVE YOUR WIFE WHEN SHE CHEAT, IT'S FOR YOUR OWN GOOD..

Are you a woman? What puts you in a position to describe your gender and also describe thier own for them? Don't you see how it's not practical for you not to be biased? You're a man, speak about men, and let them speak about women. Anything you say about women is from the man's point of view and, as such, it can't be taken as reality. Honestly, this idea of us telling women about women is funny cause at the end, we always narrate it in a way that appeals to us.

@OP, I believe it's more individualistic than gender defined. In fact, prostitution is a living proof that a lady can have sex with anyone as a transaction (money, pleasure, favour, etc.). What you have up there is a theory pushed by one gender to justify promiscuity.

A lot of jokers on this thread. You will talk for yourself and also talk for women; tell them about themselves. Nawa o

This is great!!!

Just wondering why they're doing tap-in/tap-out in 2023? I thought the directional cost calculation approach was more modern and more convenient?

Anyway, this is still better than cash!