₦airaland Forum

735i:
Lol. I no vex oh. Na just cruise I dey oh. Collect two bottle of your regular where you dey... send me the bill.
Fight no dey am.

I mistakenly took four. Three down, one to go. 🍻

735i:
Shebi you mentioned "summer"? Shey summer dey naija ni?

Wetin carry Naija enter this conversation now? Who said the thread only applies to Nigerian interviews? Neither the OP nor your comment specifically mentioned Naija. Be calming down.

735i:
My first statement will be: I hope Friday is half day and you guys serve alcohol during lunch?

At my former place of work, Fridays were half-day during summer and they served bear on Fridays too. So the interviewer might just answer in the affirmative.

blaise26abj:
Please read this to understand why I don’t think it is a perfect plan

https://www.washingtonpost.com/news/national/wp/2018/01/27/feature/she-championed-the-idea-that-freezing-your-eggs-would-free-your-career-but-things-didnt-quite-work-out/

There are many success stories with frozen eggs as well. Someone's misfortune isn't a reason to discard it as a contingency plan for someone who ideally wouldn't want to be a single mom.

blaise26abj:
Well said . I understand you . I haven’t said anything is wrong with her decision, i am only saying that freezing process has its failures too. There are no guarantees . Imagine after keeping her eggs ( which i am totally fine with ), she doesn’t find a man , then later there is an issue with the eggs after menopause has set in . She might even get a man menopause but having the child then becomes a major issue.

As she moves closer to 40 and menopause , the eggs she has will reduce and the ones frozen are not guaranteed . And she is taking that risk because she is waiting for a man . If she wants her own biological baby , the risk of not ever getting one increases as she ages .

I hope she doesn’t have to wait too long to go for the baby if man refuses to show up to mitigate the risk of not having one

Sure, egg freezing could fail anyone. Even the natural way isn't a guarantee. The point is, she's doing what is within her control given the multiple constraints involved (age, dreams, desires, etc). She's doing something, and she's doing it the way that gives her peace. None of us can predict the future. Her happiness is the most important factor here, and while this plan may or may not work out for her, taking in now with some random sperm and cutting short her chances of attaining her goal of being a married woman isn't necessarily a better plan even though it's also valid.

I hope she finds someone soon. And if ever she runs into menopause while waiting, I hope this back-up plan does fail her. I'm just glad that she's not sitting down waiting on fate.

blaise26abj:
The day African women will not be bothered about what people will say is the day they are liberated .

There is a need for women 35-40 years who are not married to decide if they want to have kids while waiting for a partner . There are men that will marry a woman with kids. At 35-40, the men seeking hands in marriage are quite few .The sad part is that there are a lot of women in that category now and it will only get worse with the economy .

At 40, the issue is not even age but about having kids both for the woman and the potential husband and the husband family . It is a fact that majority of unmarried women in that age bracket will not get married . Why keep hoping when you can have kids .

Finally , if money Dey , a woman can do artificial insemination with a donor sperm and also use a surrogate mother . Technically the baby is hers , she just didnt carry the kid herself

You don't get it. She's doing this and publicizing it cause she doesn't care what people will say. She's doing it because it is what she wants. If she cared about what people would say, she wouldn't even put it out there. I only mentioned the fact that a lot of men wouldn't date a single mother to further explain why her choice is valid. She's 35. The men seeking her hands in marriage are few as you said, and they will be even fewer if she gets pregnant now. And it's absurd to ask "why keep hoping?" A lot of women got married at an older age, her chances aren't zero. Like you said, finding a man is one thing, having a kid is another. To ensure she doesn't lose one while waiting for another, she took precautionary steps. There's absolutely nothing wrong with her decision. If anything, it buys her some time to decide what she really wants to do. I have nothing against women getting pregnant out of wedlock if they don't find love, but preserving her eggs while she gives marriage one last shot is a perfect plan.

tsdarkside:
safety net....
its like am listenin to a white woman yappin....

whats next....??
you marry a tree....

Lol... I thought I was having a civil conversation. Enjoy your day.

blaise26abj:
It is not a perfect process . Read about a woman who froze her eggs and when she returned , out of the 5 , 3 didn’t survive the defrosting process , one was abnormal , the last one was fertilized but didn’t survive the implant into the womb . The woman was devastated .

She is better off having that baby naturally . Either through sex or sperm donor

Even having sex is not an assurance too. 35 is a critical age. Not freezing her eggs may shatter her dreams of having kids, and at the same time, getting pregnant now will reduce her chances of finding love. In other words, she's losing time, but there's still hope. So getting pregnant now will be throwing in the towel, and she believes she still has some years to go before giving up the idea of finding love. The same person advising her to do the natural way now would still be the one to call her ashawo if she got pregnant now. Only a few men would date a single mother let alone get married to one. So it makes sense why she'd take the precautionary step of freezing her eggs while still hoping for the better. I'm sure she has already decided when to go ahead and use them.

tsdarkside:
when you change your mind....
why even waste money atall if you dont want children....??

you can aswell use the money and adopt a child in nigeria....

I did not say "when", I said "if". She'll probably never use it, but it's always a good idea to have a safety net. So I don't get your question "why even waste money at all if you dont want children?" The exact reason I asked her to do it in the first place is because she doesn't want children. Since humans change thier mind all the time (and there's nothing wrong with that), I advised her to take precautionary measures. Not everyone is comfortable with adoption. It's all about life choices, and people do what makes them feel fulfilled.

This is a great move. If not for how expensive it is, I'd have said our ladies should start taking advantage of this scientific wonder to preserve thier eggs with a certain degree of assurance. I told my friend that said she doesn't want kids to get her eggs frozen just in case she changes her mind in the future, and I'm glad she listened.

Investor137:
So that she can be getting all the rain in the drum

Do you even know what it means to have one's eggs frozen?

Truths9ja:
you mean she will have steady sex why she freeze her eggs? I don’t understand ooo

They just come online to trash-talk women while exposing thier ignorance. And people actually liked his post.

endsarrrs:
I like the way Pastor Isaac Oyedepo's is shinning in this post

You probably missed the word 'head'.

Bahamas95:
But we still got some quacks in the system, how did they get their licence?

Quacks are unlicensed. That's why they're called quacks.

Y'all always create threads like this as if you're expressing concerns, but it's obvious y'all are just perverted people looking at underage girls with eyes full of lust. You derive so much pleasure from discussing these girls in a sexual context. Just look at the things grown up men are typing on this thread. Tomorrow, they'd still come back to call out Nigerian girls. Dirty.

christejames:
Let's go back to our ancient architecture or modernize it like this... ☺



I don't even know what our architectural students are being taught in our universities 😏, nothing exceptional in their designs, always that 'square design' with 'send down the rain rooftop' that is prominent at almost every estate in the country




You guys can do better, be more creative abeg, architecture is more of an art, and arts are unique representation of life, so guard it!

Y'all calling out our architects as if they have the final say on the material to use. When you want to build your house, just tell your architect you want a mud house, I'm sure they'd give you an architectural design that fits that requirement. It's easy to quickly call out a category of people when we feel we don't belong to that category, but we're all potential house owners and we can decide to go for mud if we really want to, right?

Power is back (most frequently used)
Power is back on/up
Power has been restored (most formal)
Power is up

There's no need to mention the power company, but if you must, you can simply say "NEPA has restored power" (this might sound odd to a foreigner).

Yeah, true. Some do regret traveling out, some don't. Some regret getting married, some are enjoying thier marriage. Some people regret switching jobs while others feel lucky to have made such a decision. Such is life, so I don't get the point of this thread. I don't have the numbers, but I'm pretty sure the number of people happy with thier decision is higher than that of those regretting thier move.

Nobodyany1:
You spoke so excellently boss. Apt and witty!
Wish you could be my mentor.
Please, can I send you a PM?

Sorry, boss. I'm still mentor my myself.

PaulH07:
Eya, teach me na.

Skesko lama zo, that is to say?

Skeskeroboske...

Oh... You're fluent! You just said I should send my account number.

VULCAN:
You should start a lecture series for Japa peeps.

Haha... I'm still learning myself.

PaulH07:
Intelligence in full display, teach me French please

Thanks, bud. I should probably update my sig cause it's misleading. I stopped teaching French a long time ago.

To those saying he should focus on making money and forget about isolation, what you guys fail to understand is that one cannot make money if he isn't in good mental and physical health. To those saying he should come back or stop complaining, the dude only shared his observation. That doesn't necessarily mean Nigeria is better. The truth is that when you travel, you'll see things that you wish weren't the case, and there's nothing bad in sharing them. Canada welcomed a lot of Nigerians this year, so expect to see more threads like this.

As a canadian citizen myself, my advice to the dude is to fearlessly put himself out there. The life we want doesn't come by chance especially in a place like Canada where your next-door neighbor doesn't even know what you look like. You'll have to cautiously put yourself in a position to meet and interact with people and stay open minded while at it (origin, race, religion, sexuality, class etc. shouldn't be a barrier). Go to meet-ups (meetup.com), get volunteer jobs to give back to the community and meet people, go to the gym, bars or pubs aren't bad if it's your thing, go to the office even if you're allowed to work from home, join new-comer programs, etc. Show genuine interest in people. Trust me, they're also looking for connections. Some of these things will backfire. You'll meet some people that will treat you badly or some annoying people, but don't worry. Once you make one friend, it'll double your potentials to make more cause they'll bring thier own friends into the mix. And once you have a healthy social circle, you won't see Canada as an isolation camp anymore.

Again, he should find a balance between being the guy that knows how to save money and the guy that knows how to stay simulated. Some people move to cheaper cities to save money but end up destroying their mental health cause these small cities are very laid-back and they are not as diverse as the big ones. Depending on your personality, it might pay you more to live in a small condo in the city center than in a house in the suburbs. We say wants over needs, but sometimes, we confuse our needs as just wants and we end up neglecting them. Pay attention.

Good luck!

Lord have mercy. These are the people typing "fear women", "Nigerian girls are useless", "girls are nowadays", etc. all over Nairaland. Poor girl

lordm:
its not everything you blame leaders. Illiteracy is really high in Nigeria

Lol... So who do blame for the high rate of illiteracy in the country? The illiterate themselves?

They say they're homophobic and they accuse the white man of forcing homosexuality on them, yet they're willing to be called anything just to go and live in the white man's country where gay people are treated like humans. Logic.

The past participle is "run". "Ran" is the past tense.

chatinent:
Rich man pikin go think say na the money Judas collect in those days take sell Jesus.

Then they'll be like: “doddy, isn't that ..what's his name...Tafawa Belewa?“

Are you saying that poor kids will recognize the currency on basis of the fact that they're poor? K thought it's the individual's age and not financial status.

EDUECO:
So why is the USA always dictating to other countries?

They identify as the leader of the free world. I guess that's the expression you're looking for.

EDUECO:
He is the real leader of the modern world!

Don't be deceived by the media,the USA respects Xi Jinping!

China is the greatest country at the moment!!!

Why all the exclamation marks? That doesn't create a good impression on the minds of the readers, and it definitely doesn't make your text any truer. The US doesn't even identify as the leader of the modern world.

vickydevoka:
Where you dere? What if he is innocent

Did you even read the news or you just jumped in to defend as usual? Just read the first sentence in the body of the post, and then look up the meaning of the word "admitted" on Google.

GanagiBitrus:
Some of the liberties we take with women here in Naija, would amount to Rape in UK.

No, not really. Please, don't make such bold statements about such a sensitive matter if you aren't well informed on the subject. There's a difference between other sexual assaults and rape. If this is called rape, then there was an intercourse without consent. The lady was walking home, he accosted her and raped her. She was a stranger to him, so it's not as if they were together and he misinterpreted the signals. So don't water it down by making look as if it's just a matter of societal difference.

These are your threads below. You are clearly obsessed with women just like many of you that come on here everyday to create threads or make comments on how they hate women. Your obsession has ruined your life, and you're taking your frustration out on the opposite gender. Get help.

FreeStuffsNG:
I am not sure of this reason.

I think the President, President Bola Tinubu, jetted out of Nigeria to Saudi Arabia for an international business summit on Tuesday night or so. That is the official reason I can think of. Our President is not even back in Nigeria as at now.

The Nigerian Senate has mandated the executive to demand ceasefire from the warring Hamas and Israel IDF. That's the position of Nigeria.

I am not sure we have taken strong positions on the war like South Africa, to recall Ambassadors or prevent leaders of pro-Isreal nations from visiting Nigeria. If that is the case, we will not host the German Chancellor last week. Germany doesn't only support Israel, it exports a lots of military hardware to Israel which Isreal is using to kill thousands of defenceless babies, children and women in Gaza. So which one is now Czech? Check my signature for free stuffs!

I don't know why the visit was canceled, but it's definitely not because Tinubu isn't around. This is not a family visit. Country leaders don't just meet up randomly. Except for emergencies, the countries Tinubu will visit in the next six months are all scheduled already. This same applies to the Prime Minister. The aides of these two leaders have had series of meetings before now to agree on when it's convenient for both of them to meet in Nigeria. The security arrangements have been made long before now. There's nothing like "I wanted to come, but since you're in Saudi Arabia, maybe next time". There's a higher probability that Tinubu went to Saudi because his meeting with the Prime Minister was canceled, thereby creating some space in his calendar.