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CelebritiesRe: I Can Do Worse Than Will Smith Did For My Son”, Tonto Dikeh Affirms (pictures) by Farfalla(f): 3:03pm On Mar 29, 2022
folake4u:
Wahala. grin
grin Folake, Tonto is the one who likes wahala.

She's cute though, so maybe she believes she will always get away with it.
CelebritiesRe: I Can Do Worse Than Will Smith Did For My Son”, Tonto Dikeh Affirms (pictures) by Farfalla(f): 2:59pm On Mar 29, 2022
SmellySperm:
Ah!u and her don get personal beef before? grin
No. No beef.

She just likes making waves out of everything. angry
CelebritiesRe: Any Man That Cannot Defend His Wife Like Will Smi Shouldn't Marry - Ruth Kadiri by Farfalla(f):
Iyaebe:
I second,you don’t have business with marriage if you can’t defend your wife like Will Smith.I so much love that rage in his eyes immediately he noticed his wife was hurt and he immediately swung into action,such a loving man and I had teary eyes just looking at the rage in Will Smith’s eyes.
This girl... grin

CelebritiesRe: I Can Do Worse Than Will Smith Did For My Son”, Tonto Dikeh Affirms (pictures) by Farfalla(f): 12:48pm On Mar 29, 2022
Shut up Tonto.
TV/MoviesRe: Will Smith Faces Losing His Oscar For Slapping Chris Rock by Farfalla(f): 1:07am On Mar 29, 2022
GloriousGbola:
She makes him feel like a reckless wild Tupac style young man rather than a wise, reserved middle aged one.
Hmmm.

TV/MoviesRe: Will Smith Faces Losing His Oscar For Slapping Chris Rock by Farfalla(f): 12:40am On Mar 29, 2022
JosephXavier:
Jada Pinketh always jump at the opportunity to disgrace Will Smith at any given opportunity, yet the young man still have to fight publicly for her

I pray they don't strip him if his award because it will be a double joepardy considering what the young man have suffered for the past few years to stay in marriage

The young man has been giving us memes back to back

EventsRe: More Love: Intercultural Weddings by Farfalla(f): 9:18pm On Mar 28, 2022
Lovely international weddings. wink
FamilyRe: Is There Still Hope For Her? by Farfalla(f):
Klass99:
Hey apologies for the late response. Sadly, it will be neither of those countries. Some years ago I was in your +254 city, it was a group trip with two other girls and a very nice one too.
Wow! Glad you enjoyed yourself Klass, although it's the one city I've never really liked. I feel it's way too hyped.smiley Glad I moved away.
If you ever plan on another trip, I'd suggest you explore the Coastal region. It offers more tranquility and will also offer you a glimpse of the rich history influenced by the (mostly Omani) Arabs and Portuguese who had major dealings along the coast of East Africa, and even fought a territorial war. Or better still, hop across the border and tour Zanzibar. It's worth the hype. wink

Alternatively, if you're a wildlife fanatic, you'll be spoilt for choice. I think the beauty of +254 is far away from that mad city. Or you can just hop to Tanzania for a more diverse tourism experience.

Trader asked a question that makes me smile till this day.

He asked if I was really Nigerian or fronting as one, I said I was, then he goes you are too calm to be a Nigerian. We see them here every day and they are just loud, aggressive and obnoxious. grin
Hehehe. Oh yes. Trust me, I can relate to the trader. grin Your people though. Never a dull moment with them. They'll annoy you and make you laugh too.
You tend to be calm even here on Nairaland. I always find myself agitated by the uncouth mannerisms of some street urchins here, but they rarely seem to bother you. cheesy

....but it was inspired by my bible app (YouVersion). I am as pentecostal as you....
@ Creepsy.me, pls download that app if you can and try to follow through on one of their various plans. I think you will enjoy it or I hope you will, as much as I do.
YouVersion. It seems like an app worth downloading.

Sorry Creepsyme. Didn't mean to hijack your thread. I wish you well in your quest.
RomanceRe: If You Had To Marry Your Partner Where You First Met, Where Would It Be? by Farfalla(f): 12:56pm On Mar 26, 2022
pocohantas:
Nairaland. He sent me a PM, I checked his posts and saw he has sense and he has money. So I replied. The rest they say is history… undecided
I sight you. grin

CareerRe: Bento Africa Suspends CEO Ebunoluwa Okunbanjo After ‘Toxic Workplace’ Report by Farfalla(f): 12:42pm On Mar 26, 2022
AliuKe:
Such bosses are needed in Nigeria, most employers will silently hire such a guy because he has what it takes to get the job done....

Although he went to the extreme in some cases but i support him 100%

He will be back soon, tougher this time ....

Good Job Ebun...
You just want to sound rebellious.
FamilyRe: Is There Still Hope For Her? by Farfalla(f):
Klass99:
Oh thank you, I did not want to quote your entire post either but you made valid points too. The biblical reference to Job reminds me of the need, to focus on good things I like/want. I'm not catholic, are you?
No, I'm not Catholic, but you talked about lent in one of your posts and it got me thinking that you could be one.
I do have a Catholic background though through my father. My mum wasn't Catholic, so dad would drop her off at the gate of her church and the rest of us would proceed with him to St. Patrick's Catholic Church for mass. I switched camps at the age of 12 thereabout and I have been attending Pentecostal churches until this date (on and off).

Christians ought to be one, yes. But most are separated by doctrines. Others believe in Christ, but believe women should wear zero makeup. Others even believe women shouldn't wear pants. Others believe in Christ but discourage their congregants from marrying men and women of other religions and sometimes denominations (Jehovah Witnesses, Catholics, Seventh Day Adventists, etc). This last instance could be a possible cause of OP's predicament. Others are more obsessed about speaking in tongues and prophetic gifts, others not so much. Others are obsessed with prosperity messages. Others simply preach about the love of God. Others are balanced (5-fold ministry). Others worship God with all their might. Others worship their pastor/bishop. Maybe we do need a new thread to discuss this. cool

Klass99:
You stll haven't told me where you are from. I will be in a certain African country later this year, if that's your home country, it would be nice to hook up.
My home country is code +254. My other home is code +263. I move between the two countries. Wherever I will be, I can find a way to meet with you. Maybe some of your wisdom will rub off on me. cool
FamilyRe: Is There Still Hope For Her? by Farfalla(f): 1:48am On Mar 25, 2022
creepsyme:
As I speak right now, my major challenge is self discovery, life isn't all about going to school to acquire degrees, I wish I know how to go about it.
However, If I know a different approach to give the situation I will gladly do it without hesitation.
Do you have any passion? Interests?
FamilyRe: Is There Still Hope For Her? by Farfalla(f):
Klass99:
Okay, it's story time....
tongue tongue

I did not want to quote the whole post but for the advice you have given the lady, all I can say is, may you live long. Your response is the most balanced and practical. You're Catholic I presume?

I'm usually short of words sometimes on matters such as the one the OP is dealing with because many times, I take a very different approach to things and they mostly work for me, but I wouldn't know whether my advice would be helpful or damaging to their situation. I tend to do stuff others would consider bold and unusual.

Normally I find it easy to make peace with certain situations, especially if I can't change it. Were I to be in the OP's shoes I'd have made peace with the situation a long time ago. Wouldn't even put up any fight at all. But that's me.

I hate being controlled by anxiety. It's the devil's weapon. I realised one thing a long time ago. The more fearful you are of an eventuality, the higher the likelihood of it happening.
Job 3:25 - "For the thing which I greatly feared has come upon me, and that which I dreaded has befallen me." Job was a witness.

People have a way of sensing what you fear, and this phenomenon is very common with the "logical" gender. They can sense when a woman fears to be abandoned, a woman who fears the stigma of spinsterhood, a woman who fears beautiful other women, a woman who fears to die alone, etc and they ensure that they serve you what you fear most. grin

I'd advise the OP to disconnect herself from the fear of 'stigma' or loneliness and surround herself with positive mammals. What will be, will be.
CareerRe: Ebun Okubanjo, Bento Africa's Founder Accused Of Work Place Bullying by Farfalla(f):
We4all:
The guy doesn’t look like a normal person.
And someone will be defending this lunatic, claiming that this attitude is required for startup companies to succeed.
Foreign AffairsRe: Barack Obama's Daughters, Sasha & Malia Enjoy An Afternoon Stroll by Farfalla(f): 12:26pm On Mar 23, 2022
Charx122:
I catch your drift, you don't get mine rollover.
Okay.
Foreign AffairsRe: Barack Obama's Daughters, Sasha & Malia Enjoy An Afternoon Stroll by Farfalla(f): 12:54am On Mar 23, 2022
Charx122:
Suit yourself I know what I'm talking about.
I too know what I'm talking about.

More than you can imagine.
CareerRe: Ebun Okubanjo, Bento Africa's Founder Accused Of Work Place Bullying by Farfalla(f): 12:50am On Mar 23, 2022
BRATISLAVA:
You're dealing with a toxicity apologist.

1. They are toxic themselves
2. They admire and envy the wealth of the toxic person
3. Stockholm syndrome
4. They think the toxic person is that way because they are Atlas, what they don't know is that such people are just egotistic and insensitive and it's not a sexy trait
He probably has a blueprint inside his head of how he's gonna treat his staff when he becomes CEO.

An opportunity to show "pepper" to the "less fortunate".
CultureRe: Tell Us The Tribe You Came From Without Mentioning The Name by Farfalla(f): 2:54pm On Mar 22, 2022
marsman:
Richest Tribe in Africa
Are you from the Bafokeng community?

CareerRe: Ebun Okubanjo, Bento Africa's Founder Accused Of Work Place Bullying by Farfalla(f): 2:41pm On Mar 22, 2022
Kellzzyy:
He might not have been overly professional, but I'm sure these reports are heavily exaggerated.
Why do you think it's an exaggeration?

Is there no possibility that he actually did what they accused him of?

With the knowledge you have of some African bosses, do you think these accusations are beyond him?
CareerRe: Ebun Okubanjo, Bento Africa's Founder Accused Of Work Place Bullying by Farfalla(f):
Kellzzyy:
A man will run his business the way he sees fit.
He didn't hold a gun to anyone's head to remain his employee. If you are not comfortable with always being up and running, then resign honorably and seek a place that suits your slackness.

He runs his business like a workaholic. All I see is cheap blackmail against the company's founder.

Go and found your own startup. Its as simple as that.
Owning a business does not relieve one of his/her duty to uphold professionalism.

It is not his workaholic tendencies that his ex-employees seem to have a problem with. It's his toxicity and lack of work ethics.

Sending messages at 2.30 in the night and expecting an instant response from somebody in dreamland, insulting your employees (referring to them as 'pussíes' and 'motherfuckérs'), insulting their families, hiring, firing, then rehiring, body-shaming your employees, etc is your idea of a workaholic?

Abegii...!
Foreign AffairsRe: Barack Obama's Daughters, Sasha & Malia Enjoy An Afternoon Stroll by Farfalla(f): 5:26pm On Mar 21, 2022
meobizy:
Do these girls age at all? Hmm. It’s funny how their mother’s West African features took a backseat to their dad’s East African ones. The Caucasian heritage no make appearance in any way.
There is no such thing as "East African features".

Charx122:
They still got this Kenyan look..
There is no such thing as "a Kenyan look".
RomanceRe: Man Calls Out His Girlfriend Who Dumped Him To Marry A Soldier (pix) by Farfalla(f): 10:39am On Mar 21, 2022
It's a man's world.

FoodRe: I Caught This Pigeon Flying In My Room, I Cooked And Ate It by Farfalla(f): 12:06pm On Mar 14, 2022
BRATISLAVA:
You'd wonder what he actually picked off its bones. Skin? It probably doesn't have drumsticks.
You really wonder. undecided
FoodRe: I Caught This Pigeon Flying In My Room, I Cooked And Ate It by Farfalla(f): 10:09pm On Mar 13, 2022
Poor thing just lost its way while flying around the vicinity.

Damn! angry
FamilyRe: Pregnancy Or Nursing Of Baby; Which Is More Challenging? by Farfalla(f): 8:53pm On Mar 13, 2022
Mariangeles:
I see it as a transition.
The moment you give birth to a child, you're no longer who you were. You become more.
Exactly.
FamilyRe: Pregnancy Or Nursing Of Baby; Which Is More Challenging? by Farfalla(f): 2:17pm On Mar 13, 2022
pocohantas:
Sometimes you should sit certain discussions out. It is better to be silent and thought wise, than to speak and be confirmed a fool.

You don’t have a vagina, you don’t grow one in your spare time, but here you are, rushing FTC on a topic pertaining to motherhood. You don’t even have a womb.

Maybe we should give you two wrappers and a lace top. You would attend the next August meeting for us. Haba! Chochocho!
Ah!

FamilyRe: Pregnancy Or Nursing Of Baby; Which Is More Challenging? by Farfalla(f): 2:04pm On Mar 13, 2022
Nursing is more challenging, but more rewarding.
CareerRe: Why Do Narcissist Get Angry When You Decide To Resign From Their Company by Farfalla(f):
Klass99:
Oh yes, I like a good story particularly from wonderful story tellers like you and J.K Rowkings, I just finished watching one of the Harry Potter's grin
Being named alongside J.K. Rowling. My head go swell well well. Thanks for the compliment. So, you are a Harry Potter fan? Never been keen on it, but it has always elicited extreme emotions from its fans.

Klass99:
Miss. M.O sounds like a real piece of work but amusing as well, from the way you tell it. I was thinking she may not have been out of line for sending a more junior and less experienced staff to Ebene because.....

Sometimes, junior staff do need the exposure and it doesn't hurt if they experience such work trips. But, she was clearly doing it to spite others, so yeah that feels wrong.
I encourage the notion of sending less experienced staff on more challenging missions. I did that myself with the ones I had to supervise (including interns), but like you've noted she was only doing it to prove a certain point. Picking P to spite L.
CareerRe: Why Do Narcissist Get Angry When You Decide To Resign From Their Company by Farfalla(f): 11:11pm On Mar 12, 2022
Klass99:
Lol, but babe where is your country na? I thought you were Nigerian like me.
No, I'm not. I must have mentioned it on some thread.

My country? Hmm. Should I keep you guessing? cheesy

Nairaland GeneralRe: Share Your Betrayal Experience by Farfalla(f): 2:55pm On Mar 12, 2022
Rubyjade:
While I was working for a company. I got diagnosed of a kidney infection and was admitted in the hospital for two weeks. I was staying with my father’s elder sister at the time because my parents were here in Abuja

Two weeks of constant drugs,drips and injections on my *you know* and guess what, my aunt and her family never came to visit for one day. My friends(even tho I didn’t have a lot of them) were to busy to come see me. No company representative to pay me a visit.

Everyday I would walk to the little store close to the hospital to buy biscuits and yoghurt because no one would bring them to me.
Oh gosh Ruby. I'm so sorry. This your experience is sad. Forget your colleagues at work. It's your few "friends" and family that are kinda worrying me. You'd be justified in deleting their contacts from your phone.

I've learnt to keep my friendship circle lean. Very lean. And even they, have to be tried and tested before coming into my circle.

You'll be fine Ruby. kiss
CareerRe: Why Do Narcissist Get Angry When You Decide To Resign From Their Company by Farfalla(f):
Klass99:
I can just imagine having what sounds like a great work trip taken away at the last minute. That part made me laugh, did she ever do that to you? Your last sentence about peace of mind is goldenkiss
You too like story. tongue

She did that to a colleague of mine. Some members of the management were to take a trip to Ebène. His position was crucial, so it didn't come as a surprise that he was casually informed that he was to be at the work retreat to represent his department.

I don't know whether she sensed his enthusiasm or something, but when she released the official email to the staff members (4 or 5 days later), his name was missing and was instead replaced by some other person from his department. Her reason was that, she felt that this other party "required more exposure". Indeed!

On another occasion, when the organisation was in the process of diversifying its services, it was suggested from HQs that a new department would be created.

Now, because some of us had prior experience in that particular sector it was unanimously agreed that we would take the rest of the staff through training on this new service, and even come up with a concept plan for that new department. I had been involved in that very same service with some of our partners in other countries. We were 3 of us.

We started from scratch and came up with an almost detailed document. She'd see the 3 of us discuss in the boardroom for many hours, and when I finally sent her our final draft for review, she casually acknowledged receipt but mentioned nothing about when we would be conducting the training. When I inquired from her she casually dismissed me and said that she's identified a team of experts who would take us through the whole process.

She saw us go through all the blood, sweat, and tears in coming up with a concept plan and training content. I'm not talking about a 5-page document here. She saw us working on that task like our lives depended on it, all this while she had her own "team of experts", yet she said nothing! Never in my life have I ever resisted the urge to slap somebody (and I've never even tolerated the idea of violence in my entire life).

She was an expert in dishing out disappointments and she'd ensure that she'd do it right after you had put your all into something. She loved watching people feeling crushed. There's a condition in psychology to describe people like her - Sadistic Personality Disorder.

There's another UAE story, but I cant get into details for now. This post is already too long.
CareerRe: Why Do Narcissist Get Angry When You Decide To Resign From Their Company by Farfalla(f): 12:43pm On Mar 12, 2022
Klass99:
I thoroughly enjoyed reading this. Please where is Miss. M.O from? Is she Nigerian or from another African country?
Hehe.

No Klass, Miss M.O wasn't Nigerian. She was from my country. We're not all docile and homely. It's a fallacy. We do have our nutties. LOL.

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