Ticha:


Pick your battles. At 16, he can move out with state help into his own place so that's not far off and you want to avoid him drawing his own battle lines at all costs. Naija style unilateral parenting does not work well here at all.

I would have a discussion with him and
1. Tell him your worries and why they are valid worries - please don't use statements like I'm your parent and know better.
2. Ask him how he will mitigate those worries - agree with him what will work or not work ie he can go 3 days a week (Thu/ Fri/ Sat), establish a curfew, he has to tell you before leaving and give a reasonable time for returning - ie if he says 6pm then he should be home latest 6.15pm or message you that he will be late
3. I'd get him a part time job (at 14 he can work upto 10 hours a week) - that will use up either all his Sat or Sun for one shift.
4. Establish boundaries - healthy ones and not unilateral ones. You want to know his friends, repercussions for breaking trust etc. Establish some hard boundaries - ie a definite no go such as must not sleep outside the house without your full agreement, must not skip school etc
5. Avoid fire and brimstones and threats

Lastly, breathe, you got this!

hustla:


https://www.ebay.co.uk/itm/403633258156?mkcid=16&mkevt=1&mkrid=711-127632-2357-0&ssspo=mk9jfzcxtuc&sssrc=2349624&ssuid=qocc3p2OTb2&var=&widget_ver=artemis&media=COPY

Lexusgs430:



Wahl senior is about £100+..... The one posted is only £27 (equally as good, if not better).......

fatima04:


Thank you

Thank you for your recommendation @bourne007. You saved money from buying the book and CD

CheesyTee:


Got my Skilled Worker Visa (H&C) decision today at 7:58pm.

I am over the moon.

I am glad I chose to reapply after waiting over 6 months.

donald197:
Hi elders I applied for IHS refund and my claim was successful. I am to get payment into the account I paid with within 6 weeks.

The issue now is I paid with barter by flutterwave and they ve shut down today.

Is there anyway to contact visa team about this development and will they accept a new bank details?

OgbeniOptional:
I have worked in care for more than 6 months but just 12 hours a week. Am I eligible?

Blazeens:


would you be schooling? i'd rather tell where to find accomodation than where to avoid. but off the top of my head for places to avoid is small heath, Mosely, handsworth wood. this is just personal opinion others might have a different answer

iThese are areas i'm personally familiar with so i can say they're alright, and transport link to city center colleges is always available

adedapodvirus001:


Honestly you are right but the situation is not the same for people on student Visa especially if you have debts you are settling back home and also considering the post study option. I wish a thread can be created for people on the student route in the UK so that people coming on this route can learn from the mistake of others and be mentally prepared before coming in.

Optimistguy1969:

Hi Fatima,
Good morning. I wish I can reach you at this moment.
I want your advise.... contemplating moving my wife and daughter to the UK soon on a work visa. But I want to know how she can cope with work and a 2 year old daughter. Are creche expensive over to there?
Pls reply

Bourne007:
https://lifeintheuktests.co.uk/life-in-the-uk-test/

Lexusgs430:
No jokes...... I would need a secretary to deal with this IPTV lovers request......

Over 45 requests so far ......... We like better thing o .....

jadepinkett:
Hello. Are there people living in Leicester here? How is the town? Is there accessible naija foodstuff?

Lexusgs430:



You get craw craw for bodi ...... ...


Enter African/Asian store . .......

MichaelUde:


When I talk say Nigerians and their communities are best dealt with in very small doses, people no go understand.
When I first come this country, my madam don already go put hand for Naija community for Manchy. I can live with Nigerians and their faking and forming (the number of strange approximations of British accents person hear dey wonderful), but when they come up with their so-called advice giving, na there I leave them. When I moved to Edinburgh, I select them carefully. [b]The all-knowing crew: "Why you go buy manual moto, e dey pain for leg o" or "You for put those tickets for your credit card, credit card dey help for this country o" (as if person no sabi how much person get for pocket), I just avoid.[/b] No more Naija community for us, na one one.

Lexusgs430:
My wife was studying at Kadpoly at that time, she stayed with her Uncle off campus........

I was accused of all sorts, kidnapping, getting her pregnant etc etc etc

Kaduna is a small town, our secret marriage was a major scandal within the Yoruba community, my oga was also accused of all sorts .......

Her parents stayed in Ibadan, the news spread like wildfire...... Considering the fact that prior to this secret marriage, I had never spoken to my in-laws, nor meet them.......

I had to call my in-laws, apologized to them, clearly stated my position/intentions and why we had to conduct the marriage etc etc ......

Silver jubilee is around the corner...... I have never reported her to parents, they have never intervened in our union, likewise my wife ...... We are buddies, just like biological siblings...... People might deem it an exaggeration, but we have never had an argument or raised voices....... We might have one in the future, which I seriously doubt ........

Ladywinterfell:


Awhhhh. With the present generation filled [b]with 3-5 business/working days marriage[/b]s, It’s so good to hear this

Lexusgs430:



The story long ..... But after all the rigmarole, true love still won ..........

If you truly love, be stubborn and determined ..........

TheGuyFromHR:


This one is interesting.
I usually see UK residents for past 3/5 years, etc. for this sort of job.
Except where it has to do with national security, that's the sort of thing where you see UK citizens only.
If this is an ordinary document controller position, then the stipulation for UK citizenship appears really strange to me.

Unless its MI5 or GCHQ and they're not saying.

MichaelUde:


Lol, HR, me too dey wait.
Abi them no dey give Nigerians work in fraud prevention units?
Nobody should come for me, biko, even though I'm not fasting.

umarwy:



RIP to aprokodaugter you shal be missed until you apear with a different user name

justwise:


All these excuses you gave will not get you an asylum , please stop feeling sorry for yourself and look for a job, any job, take night shift on weekends.

4days a week lecture yes but you have 3days plug 7nights to work.

I don’t want to ask if you came with that maintenance money and school fees.

Good luck

Amarathripple0:

No, I used a debit card! I even approved the payment on my bank app and they held the money for a while. Anyway my family members here have told me to file a formal complaint on email to them as it goes against consumer rights.

LagosismyHome:


It would get you there...although long journey but they will give you a hotel and food free for the night

Bluetherapy:
Any recommendations for tested and trusted ergonomic office chairs?

Lexusgs430:
Another real UK life story...... People think I have sense, so I get involved ......

Viruses:
My wife wanted to buy iPhone 11 from Facebook market place but was scammed. The person blocked her after sending £450. The prior arrangement was to get it delivered. Going forward is pick-up and pay.

I'm chatting the person as a buying, and he/she is wanting to sell the same phone for me.

The recipient's bank is Modulr FS Ltd. I don't even know what kind of bank that is.