siofra:
God forbid!
The last thing I'll ever do is beg a Nigerian man to take me back. Even if I'm at fault

mollie12:
Everybody knows unemployment is a big issue in this country. So many are searching for jobs long after completion of tertiary education and youth service, with few offers in sight.

We come over here to complain about the lack of job opportunities. But my experience over the past 4 months in this arena has been very interesting.

On average, hiring managers forward 3-4 job vacancies/offers to me each week, asking me for candidates I can refer to them for one job opportunity or the other.

I just moved cities and changed jobs within Nigeria, and my experience on my previous job and the new one is the same: the HR department has a LOT of open roles. They are looking for job candidates but cannot find any.

One of the HR staff keeps coming to our side of the office almost every day that they are looking for candidates to fill this role, do we know anyone to refer?

Only yesterday I was speaking with a manager on a job I'd left 2 years ago. He was complaining that he had roles to fill but didn't have candidates. I had a similar conversation with yet another ex-supervisor of mine - looking for staff for a new team he was putting together.

And it makes one wonder: so many jobs, so few qualified candidates? Or what exactly is going on?

Like I said, the last 4 months have given me a clue to what is going on.

Over the last 4 months, I have had to seek staff for short-term roles. And my experience has been lamentable. Horror stories. I could write a book on them.

The number of candidates that talk a good game but cannot deliver scrap, that promise Mount Everest but deliver an anthill - is appalling.

Initially, I kept an open mind and was willing to take people on their word, and trust that they would be reliable enough to deliver. I wanted to open up opportunities for young people to earn income commensurate to their skills. I actually had a dream to through my short-term role opportunities, nurture a pipeline of promising talent that I can whole-heartedly refer to my previous colleagues and managers who come to me seeking job candidates because they have done great work I can vouch for (I don't just refer anyone because these people come to me because they know I do quality work and value quality work and will only refer quality talent to them - I have a reputation to protect).

But after quite a few false starts and hundreds of thousands of naira down the drain, I have to ask myself: are our graduates really employable?

From my experience, and those of others, here are a few ways our graduates shoot themselves in the foot and deny themselves a chance of a rewarding job opportunity or offer:

1. Lack a can-do attitude. I remember once contacting a job candidate who had applied to fill a role to do a preliminary interview. I could tell from his CV that he had almost no experience, but the job to be done was not that technical so I felt this is something someone that learns fast can do. On calling him and explaining the work to be done in detail, imagine what the fellow told me? He sighed and started grumbling and hissing "I don't think I can do this kind of work o". And this was basic research and data gathering oo, work every university graduate would have done in their final year. I just jejely left him.

I wonder why a graduate looking for work would act that way. This is a job you sent your CV for, no one forced you to send it in. The least you could do is do research on what the role entails, and convey confidence when your interviewer calls by explaining that even though you have limited experience, you can learn quickly. I guess he wasn't really looking. But these are those people will look at, and say the Nigerian system has failed job seekers.

2. Lack a growth mindset (allergic to learning and constructive feedback). I have noticed this trend with youths, particularly in the 21-28 age range. They do not know how to handle feedback on their work output well. If you tell them their work needs improvement, they act like you have slapped them in the face. And when I see this sort of reaction I just want to shake them and tell them: you are too young to be thinking your work will be perfect from scratch! That's the value of time and experience - it improves the quality of work. You work cannot be 100% at the first attempt or even the second attempt, but with refinement, feedback, work and skills get better. But these ones will go around to report you to others that you are wicked or other falsehoods, meanwhile, you are only looking out for their own progress. (Let me iterate here that I do constructive feedback - I don't shout or insult or put down people's personalities in the name of feedback because I know this is not helpful: it only destroys self-esteem. So I am referring to normal, even-toned, dispassioned feedback. And this is the feedback they take offense with. SMH)

3. Religious fanaticism. You hear of candidates that tell interviewers that they cannot come to work on Fridays. Or that they have to leave early on Wednesdays for choir practice. Meanwhile, the first interviewer is a Muslim, and the second interviewer is a Christian, a church deacon. Imagine what the interviewers think of such candidates. When these candidates get the job rejection, they will be consoling themselves that they are facing persecution for their faith, not knowing that what they are facing is the consequence of stupidity.

That's all I will say on this one. In all things, apply wisdom.

4. Entitlement mentality. I think this is an issue I will blame the motivational speakers on Twitter, Instagram, and LinkedIn for. They have sold this stupendous idea to young people that they can get a job that will earn them millions with almost zero experience. They convince them to toss aside "low-paying" jobs and demand to be paid "their worth". They lie to them that only paid internships should be pursued.

Let me clarify something here. I absolutely hate the idea of jobs that pay graduates what can barely take them home. But the unfortunate reality is that in a capitalist market, money follows value. People will pay you a high salary because they believe you will deliver a high value to their company. Not because you hold a certificate paper, because everyone holds that, and you know what they say about supply and demand. If you don't have in-demand, hot skills that are scarce, be ready to take up that peanut-paying job and that unpaid internship to learn what you need to learn to be in demand. It is called stooping to conquer.

But many job candidates don't understand the market they are in yet. So they struggle in this area.

5. Poor work ethic. This is one I can write a book on. It appears many graduates don't understand that employers employ them to ADD value. So they engage in behaviors that erode or destroy value for their employer. And wonder why no one wants to hire them.
What is value to an employer? Time and Trust.

How is the value of Time and Trust eroded?
i. By missing deadlines. This is when someone is asked to complete a task by 3 pm on Wednesday, but instead, completes it and send it by 5 pm on Friday. And does not apologize or communicate ahead of time that there will be a delay so their employer can manage the impact. Time is money - this is unacceptable behavior
ii. By being unreliable. This is connected to the above in a way. When a supervisor gives work to you, they want to be able to go elsewhere and come back assured that you will do the exact work. But sometimes, there is no communication, and after the time elapses, the work is not done. When your employer has to engage in prayer and fasting for you to deliver your work on time and in good quality, know you won't last long. You are creating too much stress.


6. Refusal to self-develop. In the world we are living in, the biggest disservice you can do to yourself is to end your personal learning and development with a BSc or BA. Even if you cannot afford a Master's program, there are so many free online courses that allow one to take up relevant digital skills (mind you, digital skills go beyond software programming, so there are skills for you if you absolutely hate the idea of coding).

And even asides from digital skills, there are so many other things to learn to become workplace-ready (employable). You need to learn business writing, proper verbal and written communication skills, telephone and email etiquette, emotional intelligence, team and collaboration skills. And all of these are available - for FREE! - on this internet. Same internet all of us are using. So it is always disappointing when I encounter a job seeker who has been searching for years but in all this time of searching, did not set apart time to ensure they have the workplace skills to succeed.


After all my plenty story, I'm still hoping we do have employable Nigerian graduates out there. Those that know better than to fall into the above-listed traps. What do you think? Share in the comments

Maxymilliano:


https://dailytrust.com/full-text-you-may-be-suffering-memory-loss-obasanjos-letter-bomb-to-edwin-clark

Supreme145:
There is this motion that giving birth to children is an achievement in this country. I see young guys in mid and late twenties rushing into marriage while they are barely standing on their feet. From someone that comes from a family of 10 I'm sure if my dad is given a second chance he won't give birth as much children again. Let me share some of my experiences as regards giving birth without proper planning or sustainable income.

I've a neighbor in my compound, he's 32 and in his final year in the university, I can hardly have decent conversation with him without hearing about how he wants to get married. I would always remind him that he's living in a one room apartment, still a student without a strong source of income, but he would counter me saying that he can always start small and grow with his wife. Moreover when he gives birth he would have an investment.

I've have another friend that was a classmate in secondary school, he graduated the year I got admission though he had some issues with his results. One day he called me that he's married and I was surprised, though he is an artisan into all those parapets and pop stuffs I know he wasn't financially buoyant enough to carry a family. The last time I visited him he was looking malnourished and unable to sort out his issues in school almost four years after because according to him any money that he gets already has a pending issue waiting for it. He's looking far older than his elder brother who's still single, he looks 38 when he's just 30. He consoled himself by telling me that even if he doesn't have money he already has two kids which he sees an investment and a great achievement. Meanwhile they are cramped into a single room apartment and none of the kids are enrolled in school.

Last week while we were training in the evening, an argument broke out between two young guys. I was just by the side observing what was happening, I kept hearing stuffs like....why you dey argue with that guy? you no know say na person father he be? that guy don born two children o abi you think say e easy to born, na big achievement be that o. Now this is a guy that is about 25 years and has no sustainable means of income, he works in peoples farms and other menial jobs to make ends meet.

My next door married neighbor has become a torn in my flesh, he's always borrowing from me without paying so it's obvious he's struggling financially, factor in the constant arguments with his wife due to shortage of funds all the time. I once asked him why rushed to get married without a good source of income and he bluntly told me that he had always been broke while he was single and still broke now that he's married the only difference is that he can boast of his kids as an achievement unlike when he was single that he had nothing to boast of.

I have no issues what so ever with how anyone choose to life their life but considering the economic condition of this country now bringing in kids without proper plans is not the way to go. If my dad had given birth to maybe 3 kids I'm sure he wouldn't be stressed out the way he is now and the resources used in training 8 kids would be better managed on just 3kids.

Personally I feel that one of the surest way to perpetual poverty as a young guy is to get married while struggling financially. Like one of the examples above, he cast aside his personal development and aspirations just to cater for his family. Supposing he's still single I'm sure he would have cleared he's outstanding school fees and maybe get his certificate.

Well since I'm still single and still struggling I don't judge anybody, every mallam to his kettle. As for me no marriage till I'm financially stable enough to afford at least 3 bedroom flat, a small car and substantial savings. It would be an abomination for me to bring a child into this world to pass through the kind of life I had growing up.

Tranquility2345:
Banky W - very arrogant mofo. I dey go same gym with am but when I saw him at the club and greeted the fool, he look me up to down like say I be scallywag

MI - was also going to the same gym. Very humble guy. Saw him at the club and the guy shook me well and even ask how I dey

Amaju Pinnick - Jammed the stupid fool in a hotel in Accra. The idiot dey carry nose for me after I introduced myself to him as a Nigerian. Very ugly man

Tubaba - came to club with one very fine yellow girl like that. Came to greet all of us wey dey VIP with am

Jay Jay Okocha - carry some correct fresh girls come club. The nicest celeb ever. Just dey give everybody free Cristal champagne

Davido - that one came with 3BG guys like 20 boys. He just dey him table dey wink at my girl all through the night. He no even send me

Obafemi Martins - also moves around with like a dozen people. Went to him as he was eating with his friends (including this nice half caste girl) and he gladly gave me an autograph. Correct guy

Reminisce - we siddon for plane to London. Jolly good fella..but he drank too much and vomited

OBJ - Baba was my seat mate on the way to London. Nice guy. As we reach Heathrow, Baba just dey waka like soldier. Waka even faster than his aides. As we dey passport control, they announced the presence of the former president of Naija, Olusegun Obasanjo and everybody clap including oyibo. Baba just bow like gentleman

Vaiki:
I have been a bachelor,an engaged man,a married man for 10 years,a separated man, divorced man ,and now a single man. I can tell you that the best quadrant is the "single man"quadrant and the worst is the "married man" quadrant.
I'm not earning as much as I used to earn 10 years ago but I live better,pay my child support to the fullest even ex desires coming back.
Have 3 vehicles
Run my own business in Abuja and onitsha,Lagos na playground.
Marriage kills a man's earning power,that is Dangotes biggest tool....singlehood to chase wealth and pay for sex( avoiding the drama of love)
Boys be wise..........argue with poverty ��

LoveTalk:
Only once in your life, I truly believe, you find someone who can completely turn your world around.

You tell them things that you’ve never shared with another soul and they absorb everything you say and actually want to hear more.

You share hopes for the future, dreams that will never come true, goals that were never achieved and the many disappointments life has thrown at you.

When something wonderful happens, you can’t wait to tell them about it, knowing they will share in your excitement.

They are not embarrassed to cry with you when you are hurting or laugh with you when you make a fool of yourself. Never do they hurt your feelings or make you feel like you are not good enough, but rather they build you up and show you the things about yourself that make you special and even beautiful.

There is never any pressure, jealousy or competition but only a quiet calmness when they are around. You can be yourself and not worry about what they will think of you because they love you for who you are.

The things that seem insignificant to most people such as a note, song or walk become invaluable treasures kept safe in your heart to cherish forever.

Memories of your childhood come back and are so clear and vivid it’s like being young again. Colours seem brighter and more brilliant. Laughter seems part of daily life where before it was infrequent or didn’t exist at all.

A phone call or two during the day helps to get you through a long day’s work and always brings a smile to your face. In their presence, there’s no need for continuous conversation, but you find you’re quite content in just having them nearby.

Things that never interested you before become fascinating because you know they are important to this person who is so special to you. You think of this person on every occasion and in everything you do.

Simple things bring them to mind like a pale blue sky, gentle wind or even a storm cloud on the horizon. You open your heart knowing that there’s a chance it may be broken one day and in opening your heart, you experience a love and joy that you never dreamed possible.

You find that being vulnerable is the only way to allow your heart to feel true pleasure that’s so real it scares you. You find strength in knowing you have a true friend and possibly a soul mate who will remain loyal to the end.

Life seems completely different, exciting and worthwhile. Your only hope and security is in knowing that they are a part of your life.

lebete3000:


And that kind of woman would be the wisest woman on earth who would enjoy the best life has to offer from that "average Nigerian man".

Women control men indirectly by being submissive, the same way we indirect "control" or move God to going ALL out for us, with our obedience.

All a man needs is respect, and he won't even know when he's putting his life on the line for you. A man can NEVER be attracted to a woman who sees herself his equal.

Know this and know peace.

genq:
This will never end.

These men in America will keep killing their wicked, ungrateful wives - not to excuse murder but Nigerian women abroad tend to exhibit signs of demonic possession - they will fuuckk around on you and bring bastaard children home for you to raise, they will insult and belittle you at any slight provocation, they will mentally and emotionally abuse you (some even physical), they will take you to court and claim everything you've laboured for, leaving you penniless in your old age, then turn your children against you so that you're left to rot in poverty, loneliness and misery. They have no conscience and are supported by their coven of westernized Nigerian-American witches wives (whom are mostly in the Nursing profession).

She probably destroyed his life and livelihood to the point of no return and the man probably thought 'fvck it, imma send this bitch back to the pit of hell she emerged from' . I can see he also tried to eliminate his (potential bastaard) children too

wonder233:
I agree with this post 100%. Most Nigerians even psychologically think having kids automatically makes them entitled to alms... They are begging, but they are not begging.
There is this warped mentality about producing kids in this country. When you see them begging (and feeling entitled), you would think kids are some form of inevitable occurrence like health conditions or something that one has no control over.
I long stopped having any form of sympathy for anyone begging in the name of having kids. I have functional reproductive organs like you, but I'm not having kids I can't cater for just for the bragging rights of having kids.

Deathissweet:
I understand that brokenness doesn’t have respect for anybody, meanwhile that is why you need to plan well before getting married or giving birth.

I shouldn’t be posting this but since I am not including anybody’s name, I don’t think I am doing something wrong.

I relocated to a new state few months ago so I have decided to make friends with matured foks because most guys of my age (30yrs ) here are yahoo boys. I am not judging anyone but at least I shouldn’t be painted bad in a new town.

There’s this guy I gave a ride in my estate last 2 month. He’s married with 3 kids. Ever since I gave him a ride. He has been disturbing me with calls to ask for money to the extend that any time I give him a ride and he sees money in my car. He will take it then ask for permission, every time we see. He always complain bitterly as if I don’t have my own problems too.

A lot of cases like that. The one he did last really pained me cox I gave him all my last card. He called me early in the morning that he wanted to see me. I was in the bathroom when he knocked. He brought in 2 of his kids early Monday momo, he started with his complains as usual and said there’s nothing for them to eat this morning that I should give him anything. I gave him all the cash I had and foods stuffs then he left.

A lot of cases like that from different people but that is not the point ...the point is inside this same hardship and all. This guy gave birth to his 3rd born. Even me that has a business, cars and my own house. I haven’t even reason giving birth yet.

Please I want to know what exactly motivate this people to start bringing up innocent children to come and suffer. I think this is what the government should regulate (giving birth ) not social media.

CoolAmbience:



Your post clearly demonstrated your level of intelligence.

Does a party have to project corruption mantra or whatever mantra to do what is expected of her?

Every sane Nigerian acknowledges that the Buhari administration has performed creditably in every aspect of governance in comparison to past administrations of the last two or more decades.

I challenge you to pick any aspect and let's have a constructive debate with facts here.

Infrastructure, security, education, economy etc.

seunmsg:
If not that PDP is full of shameless cretins, they won’t ask President Buhari to withdraw his support for Ize-Iyamu. Ize-Iyamu is actually standing trial for money laundering alongside Edo State PDP chairman and other members of the party. The N700m in question was disbursed by the PDP administration of Goodluck Jonathan and they have been calling the case a witch-hunt just like other cases involving PDP members.

Osagie Ize-Iyamu decamped to APC and all of a sudden, the case is no longer a witch-hunt and Ize-Iyamu is guilty even though the court has not pronounced him guilty. The shameless hypocrisy of PDP stinks.

greensandy:


Tolerance Becoming Crime
By Dr Chinedu Akabuike

1. Why do we hate Tinubu? What for?
2. Tinubu never worked with federal or Eastern Nigeria let alone stealing money from Ndi Igbo.
He never worked as Minister or taken any Federal Appointment!
3. He never joined APGA let alone sabotaging our Party's interest?
4. Tinubu didn't meddle in Igbo internal affairs either!
5. Why do we call him thief? What did he steal?
6. We call Yoruba "slaves". We never reflect on what it means to be slaves in the true sense of the word.
7. We are putting mouth in Lagos politics without caution, yet we have a proverb that says it is the foolish housefly that follows the corpse into the grave.
8. Can Yoruba man become an Association or Local Government Chairman in the East? Let us be sincere with ourselves. Yet we enjoy all these privileges here including Assembly Membership!
9. Why asking for what we can't give?
10. We are here helping the "slaves" to develop their land. Who then is a slave?
10b. You call their city a no man's land so that we can further be enslaved slaving to develop it, and our generations are wasted gloating over mere privileges. Who is a slave. Do we actually think?
11. Can Yoruba tell Okorocha "o to gee" in Owerri? He doesn't even need it. He is too intelligent to die for a pot of ofe manu or nothing.
12. After the civil war, for many of us who were old enough to have witnessed it, the Yoruba were the first to open their arms to receive and accept us as we were, crude savages in search for means of survival. It was regardless of what we equally did to them before and during the civil war. No party to the civil war was innocent! I also remember not paying any rent among Yoruba guys without a penny for my first 3years in Lagos and another 2 years in Ibadan.
13. Can we survive Yoruba attack in Yoruba land if they actually mean to? Will an Mbaise man cooperate with the Nsukka or Afikpo, or the Imo with Anambara?
14. If we all decide to relocate at once, Babangida send me home phenomena is still in the memory of some of us who survived the incessant and uncontrollable spate of robbery across the Onitsha bridge. How many people will want to go in spide of our empty pride?
15. If Yoruba people are as foolish as we foolishly think, why agitating? How will agitating be to our benefit?
16. Why not "O to gee" in Abia, Enugu or Owerri?
17. Can a man from Aba become a Commissioner or P.S. in Enugu State Civil Service? Yet it happened here! Why not be careful.
18. We adopted APGA and but "wisely" voted PDP. How was Tinubu our headache. Was he the cause of our downfall? Why always blame others for our inabilities and want to take glory for any small thing we think we have done well and even overblow it?
19. We claim we were so creative during the civil war. Now history. We also claim every made in Nigeria is from Aba. But go to Oyo and Oshogbo to see what "lazy" mechanics are doing quietly in the automobile industry, yet we make noise that other ethnics are either mumu or lazy except we (alagbara ma mero baba ole; the most hardworking humans who cannot develop their own land unfortunately).
20. Why looking for avoidable problem? Why?
21. It was you in the North being attacked, in Malaysia being killed, in Gabon and Ghana being molested. 99.9% of Nigerians killed in South Africa are of Igbo extraction, and sometimes by fellow 'hardworking' Igbo. Why?
22. We choose Kanu and he dictates to us without consultation with any one of us. They choose Tinubu who becomes a hero among them by bowing to or adopting the choice of their majority. Why are we angry?
We choose Azikwe and they choose Awolowo. How are they more mumuish followers than ourselves?
Zik became a president and we gained from it, Awo was only a premier, but we are only struggling to beat their records in all ramifications including education till today. How are they mumus?
We choose APGA and they choose APC, why agitating?
Yoruba are yet to say Tinubu is their problem why do we want to die for nothing?
Why working in APGA but planning to collect salaries in APC?
I pray for the success of Biafra, but do we still remember that as Igbo we will automatically become foreigners on the streets of the Lagos we call a no Man's land?
How many of us will actually want to relocate home, should Biafra actualises or if if citizenship is on the condition that you relinquish all other citizenship in Africa? I leave that answer to the individual.

Nwayo nwayo biko unu.

iLegendd:
Read.

Forget career women — passive income women is what we want. She must know how to cook, f*ck, and stay faithful.

Whenever we need abroad, we can always go on vacation to any country we want.

pansophist:
1. Lions are called the king of the jungle because Tigers (and other stronger formidable predators) do not live in the jungle. In other words, the people who look down on you do so because you haven't assumed your throne and shine in your glory. Go be a king in your domain.

2. Resurrect your inner b!tch. The world is a jungle, and being Mr nice guy will not take you far. The unrelenting you are to exhume your inner b!itch, the farther you go.

3. Formal education will make you a living, but self-education will make you a fortune. True life's education is experienced outside the classroom. know the difference between to be schooled and to be educated.

4. Being nice and incapable of inflicting harm is not a virtue. It is a weakness. The ability to inflict an untold amount of damages, but chooses not to, is a virtue.

5. If they stand behind you protect them. If they stand beside you, respect them. But if they stand against you, destroy them.

6. Be aware of your vices, and do not let it destroy your life. A typical vice for men is philandering, negative aggression, greed, alcoholism, etc. For women, it is prostitution, chaos, vindictiveness, narcissism, and dissatisfaction.

7. The antidote to suffering in life is responsibility. pursue what is worth dying for, and every other suffering you pass through shall be insignificant.

8. Never be afraid to walk alone, instead be afraid to walk mindlessly with the crowd. Your mind can be your greatest asset, and your greatest liability, depending on if you nourish it well. Be a solitary Tiger if needed, not a mindless sheep.

9. As a man, your superpower lies in being masculine, and for women, being feminine. Understand this and accentuate it to the best of your ability.

10. The ability to express yourself eloquently is power. The power of speech can move mountains, bring down standing armies, and give meaning to life. Be eloquent. The content of your speech speaks more about the speaker, as opposed to the subject. The formation of your mental sophistication is expressed through the content of your words.

11. The weaker you are, the more fight you will get into. The stronger you are, the less fight you will get into either. To thrive is to be tough.

12. Anyone that loves you in the truest meaning of love is your family. Love unites people not blood, though love coming from blood relation is thicker. To understand the true meaning of love, substitute the word ''love'' with responsibility. Love without responsibility is not love, it is infatuation.

13. the natural mandate is that anything valuable comes from the inside. If an egg is broken by an outside force, life ends. If it is broken by an inner force, life begins. Do not let external forces suppress your inner voice.

14. Approach every human relationship and connections with a sense of mutualism, conversely, do not entangle with someone who does not understand this timeless rules. Mutualism is growth, parasitism is death. The tree provides shelter for the bird to nest, and the birds help the tree by spreading its seeds to fertile ground. to germinate.

15. The gentle walk of a tiger is not foolishness, but strategic. In life, know when to give up, preserver, and what deserves your energy and resources, to avoid falling deep into the "sunk cost effect".

16. Have boundaries. A hen is harmless, but as soon as it hatches, its mouth used for eating becomes a weapon to defend and protects it chick, regardless of the aggressors size.

litigator:



How many church buildings did Apostles Peter and Paul build?

Atleast, they wrote over 75% of the new testament. The church in Ephisus, was it a physical building during the days of the great persecution?

Also, juxtapose your assertion with the Biblical elucidations that " the kingdom of God is within thee". Luke 17:20-21, particularly at verse 21.

Also, the old church shared everything in common and non lacked. Even those who had benefited from the good will of others but wanted to be greedy with theirs, met fatal punishment. How well has our modern church copied such precedent? Acts 4: 30-End; Acts 5.

During this period of Covid-19, how well is the church resources being shared amongst members of the church and by extension, members of the public as a tool of evangelism?

Jesus fed the congregation because He knew the importance of food to the body(biological feeding), and salvation to the soul( spiritual feeding).

How well has our church emulated this biblical precedent during COVID-19. Is this not the best time to win souls to the kingdom via the apt deployment of both mechanism?

Jesus and Apostle Peter were both leaders of the Church, both yet they knew they were trustees of the church, thus, gave good account of stewardship and didn't owe much personal property. Acts 4:32-End

Even Jesus lead by example by borrowing the a colt He used for triumphant entry. He could afford to buy one of the very best, and his actions will be justified because it is for the propagation of the gospel , but instead borrowed one. Mark 11:3.

***Take notice that this is a lame excuse being used by our religious leaders in an attempt to justify the luxurious lifestyle and the acquisition of aircrafts and phantom automobiles. But that is a discourse for another day.

From Apostle Peter's encounter with the man at the beautiful gate, it is apt to conclude that He didn't control the church resources even as a leader and pastor of the first church. He thus gave freely that which he had which was his anointing and heal the man of his infirmity. Can same be said for modern-day pastors and spiritual leaders? What changed?

Finally, lockdown has been lifted in some parts of the western world such as Italy where the church began, but the physical place of congregation is still under lockdown. Most of these pastors have church branches within such domicile, why are they not condemning the govt of such state as they do Nigeria?

Kindly educate my ignorance.

I await your timely response, God bless.

I am an Omnist and Bible student. I know there are 4200+ religion in our modern-day world, and that God is not a Christian, but He is" I am that I am".

Reference: God is not a Christian by Archbishop Desmond Tutu.

I offer my highest regards.

I have questions for my Muslim brothers too, but we will address that another day. Shalom.

Kingarthur21:
a lot of people never forget their first love,a lot of girls never forget the guy that disvirgined them. In this case her ex was both. The truth is ,the purest love a girl has for a guy is when they are young. As she grows older,she will swallow the female redpill and not date for love but who loves her and is capable of taking care of her.

She is not the first or last that feel something for an ex. Its normal, most people end up with others and not the love of their life but live perfectly fine. How many married couples do you think married the love of their life?

As for the couple living,you use the word "forgive" as though she cheated on you. The thing is she didn't. Make research ,find out if she has a high body count from sleeping with various men or he was her only sexual partner all those years.
If he was the first and only one she has been with then it doesn't necessarily makes her morally bankrupt.
Whenever someone confides in you of a terrible past, don't show shock or disappointment else they will not tell you more.

When you explain to girls that chastity is not what a guy plays with when searching for a wife they will be arguing and online motivational speakers will be advising them that they are free to have sexual prowess as a man forgetting how guys sees things is different from how ladies see things. They will be shouting "patriarchy" when you advice them.
At the end it is them that will feel used and cheated in the end if after several sex he marries another person. How many guys will feel bad or exploited after couple living only for the relationship not to work?

Let this be a lesson for all!


Check out the comments of most girls on this post, accusing him of judging her. Being skeptical about someone past and worrying if it may affect your relationship is not judging. The way most women are conscious of men financial capacity(which I support) and if he can take care of a family is the same way men are conscious of the sexuality of ladies when choosing a spouse.
They can only rant online but will they force us to marry?

obyrich:


A reverend father will always have a reverend sister to keep him company in the seminary, no be so? Before calling the men wicked, have you taken your time to critically analyze the mindset of these your so-called overdue-for-marriage ladies? A 31 year old lady friend of mine once confided in me how her spinsterhood status was frustrating her life. I got talking with her. I soon realized that she 'must' marry a rich man preferably, someone based overseas. During the same discourse, I gleaned that she was dating four guys at the same time. She was sleeping with them all! Two of them were married men- bankers.She told me a guy she was looking up to for marriage once broke her heart. She said the guy passed the night in her room on Thursday and went to do his traditional marriage on Saturday the same week!I also got to know that she was not just dating the guy alone then. She had back-ups too. Unfortunately all the back-ups failed her as well.She recruited a new team immediately. At a point she broke down in tears.I pitied her.But she would not come down her high horse. Many girls are like that.

Getting a life partner is a serious business. Truth is that our society attaches a high premium on material wealth. Every young woman wants to have a talk-of-the town wedding. It is their right, not a privilege anymore. Therefore, most young men have also raised their targets high with respect to how much they need to make in order to be deemed fit to marry a woman of their dream. The unfortunate reality is that over 70% of Nigerians are living on less than $2 a day, including these 30+ men.

Toks2008:
There is a difference between a guy who decides to give his lady money without her making demands and a lady who has the habit of demanding.

It is ok to give your lady money only if you feel like or when it is extremely necessary and you should only give money you can afford without expecting anything in return but never ever put yourself in a difficult position where the lady you are dating will be making financial requests from you as if it is her right because no matter the sacrifices you make, she will still dump you if she wants to and when you look back to recount all you have done for her, you will realize how all the money you have given her would have been enough to change the life of someone very dear to you.

I have read many stories of guys lamenting about how they spent so much for a lady just for the same lady to end up dumping them for another man and i always wonder if these ladies forced the money out of them at gunpoint.

A lady who truly desires you will never make unrealistic financial demands from you but only a woman who does not have your interest will make demands as she wishes because she has no plans with you... the fact that you give a lady money does not mean she will love you and...in fact, a woman will take your money and give to another broke guy she desires cos a woman will sleep with a man she truly wants even if she gets nothing from him.

Please work hard, save and invest your money for your future, spend on your parents and family members and if you must give any lady money please do it without expecting anything in return and give only what you can afford.

Don't be scared of losing any lady because you have no money to give to her and stop wasting your money chasing shadows cos a lady who will be yours will always be yours and a lady who is truly yours will help you save your money and not take and take from you because if you give your girlfriend money because you don't want to lose her, you must keep up with her demands even after you marry her else she will dump you

Hope this makes sense.

Prec1ous:
OP, get over it. I think both of you led yourself on foolishly. She was really expectant, but you goofed. She is dealing with the pseudo-rejection the best way she can, also, she is not happy to see your happy pictures. So move on.

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The Parable of the goat and the yam in the same pen!

It has been proven countless time, that there is no sanity and clarity when a man and a women with the right amount of hormonal rush think that they can stay friends. Especially when nothing ties them together, maybe business or they are investment partners.

You can speak all the English you want to speak, but do not ever forget these...

You cannot tell your body when to and not to produce oetrogen, testosterone, dopamine and oxytocin. Nature must proceed.

This is also why you should beware of girls who claim all their friends are the opposite sex. You are been fooled!

Guys, the best way to get any girl is to be her friend but once in a while, chip in romantic talks and dirty chats but do not forget to also touch her "mistakenly" sometimes, this qualifies you as a potential romantic partner.

Do this systematically and You have already laid the ground for your impending kill.

Thank you.

Joshmodest:
How many people do you know that died of premarital sex , any stats...
Automobile accidents kills millions of people yearly , @ op have you stopped travelling by road ....
I have been practicing pre marital sex now for years , and I am fulfilling my potential to the best of my ability ..... And I know a whole lot of your Christian Brothers who abstain from it , and they are jobless and tired of life ...
My brother do what works for you , and stop shoving your opinions down other people's throats ...I hope you wouldn't be disappointed when you die and discover that the heaven you have been living for is mere fallacy have a good day !

Zoroaster:
chai

nnaeyes6:
Women should understand that when a man cheats, it is natural. Reference it with our forefathers who married more that one because there must be a hole to pot the snooker ball.
In current time, it seems almost impossible for a man to get another wife and when he cheats u make noise. Are u okay at all.
When I marry and accidentally cheat and my wife makes some noise I will get a second wife to settle the issue. And when I cheat yet and get more noise, I will get more wives.
Are we more religious, wife and modernise than Isaac's mum and Samuel's mum? Those who read bible will know what I mean.

A man cheats u want to make it even.

U catch me! U go home
I catch u! U go home.

No yeye feminist should quote me.
Cheaters

iceboy4752:
1. The school operates 4 campuses, the most popular being Kongo and Samaru. The Samaru Campus is the institution's main campus which houses its administrative buildings and most of its faculties. (Wikipedia)

2. There are over 90,000 students in ABU running different programmes ranging from diploma and undergraduate to postgraduate.
(Empirically)

3. The Faculty of Law and the Departments of History, Urban and Regional Planning, Local Government & Development Studies and few others have never produced a first class graduate.
(On Record).

4. Medicine and Surgery is the most applied course in ABU. According to a statistics from ABU in 2016, 10k people applied and only about 120 were needed. Civil Law is the second most sought after course.
(Myschool)

5. Presently, there are 99 departments in ABU, Zaria and 16 Faculties.
(https://abu.edu.ng)

6. Before building of Dangote and Shehu Idris Halls, ABU had no new hostel for the past 40 years.
(Dailytrust)

7. The current Vice-Chancellor is Professor Ibrahim Garba. Prof. Yahaya Yunusa Bambale is the Dean Students' Affairs, and Dr. Ahmed Kundila is the Registrar, Ahmadu Bello University. (Empirically)

8. The distance between Kongo Campus and Samaru Campus using a bus or a car is about 25 minutes.
(Google Map)

9. ABU is the second largest university on the African continent after the University of Cairo in Egypt.
(Wikipedia)

10. Out of the 99 departments of ABU, only two Faculties are in Kongo Campus;
Faculty of Law and Faculty of Administration.

11. ABU is the most cosmopolitan university in Nigeria. It has students from all parts of Nigeria. It also has the highest number of foreign candidates.
(JAMB)

12. One of the largest Christian Students' chapel is located in Samaru Main Campus of ABU, Zaria.
(Nairaland)

13. The school has never been shutdown by cult activities.
(On record)

14. Kogi state has the highest student population in ABU.
(JAMB statistics)

15. ABU is one of the cheapest federal universities in Nigeria.
(Myschool)

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© Adams Abubakar
July 6th, 2019

Rooneyboy:
@ poster , do u know people that are SERIOUSLY READY to invest in this business BIG TIME,

cos i for one dont believe in mushroom businesses , hence my desire to do a joint bizz with

like minds.

pls sir , if you know someone or group of persons that aren't troublesome and ready to do

a collabo (in this field), irrespective of the location pls do let me know.

i'm very ready to do a joint business

Kiezodumah:



I wish the op would read my contribution. This guy up there nailed it: his contribution was epic. However, let me add some few things. You don't need only married men to advise u on this, any reasonable matured man is capable of telling u the absolute truth.
Let me tel u a true life story. When we were in medical school, my best friend who wasn't doing well financially had asked a lady out but she turned him down for obvious reasons. She was in the dept of english language at the time.The guy was poor due to his background. I told some of our other close friends that if I were in his shoes, I don't think I would have graduated from the university let alone med school. The guys resilience was out of this world. He looked tattered yet happy. Though I did my best as a friend until I also lost my Dad and we were almost on same page bit was still doing better financially. Fast forward my story to when we became finalists. He told me," bro ,do u remember so so so( called her name )"?? . I said " yes I do" ... He told me he started having a whatsap conversation with her and how he had expressed his love for her,been thinking about her etc. She was complaint and responsive this time around. I told him never to be serious with her because a lady who could reject u when u were dirty and unkempt years back wouldn't turn around all of a sudden from no where and begin to show interest in you cos u are about to finish school and start life for real. She had graduarpted long before us and had started working for some years then.
I advised him to chop and clean mouth and to be careful of her. Told him to use condom or other contraceptives when things happened. He said that was his intention from the very beginning. This lady would travel all the way to Lagos to come meet my guy severally, buy things when coming , cook, kneel on the ground for him and present her salary to seek is opinion on how it would be spent. My guy go split the money ,take part for himself and give her the rest. He began to have sincere amorous desires towards her. I warned not to forget what she did to him but he didn't listen well enough. Told me she had changed. She got pregnant all of a sudden.but I can tell if it was for him though as the matter no concern me. Though I regrettably asked him to abort it because she is undeserving of him,not after we had both suffered to get to where we were. Seeing him throw it all away really was really painful. He told me he would marry her cos she was pregnant for him.I objected ,counselled,yet he persisted.I had to call the attention of our other close friends whom we all atrted together but I was told to let him make his choice. I had to wish him a HML.
We graduated, began our internship and did the introduction that seemed like the wedding proper. I risked my life to attend that intro and when I got there the whole thing was over. I almost cried deep down. My best friend did his intro and I wasn't in full attendance. I was pained to the marrow. Wetin man go do ? I jst took pictures with the couples ,ate and clean mouth.
It was now time to counsel the couples o. As I was advising her to take care of my best friend and that he personally has no issues as we have been together from Part 1 in school, I noticed the way she snubbed and wasn't ready to listen to what I was saying. Right there, in my heart I knew my friend had made a HUGE mistake and a WRONG choice . I couldn't tell my friend then. U might say it hadnt been an easy day for her,bla bla bla. That wasn't the case here. I just knew it wasn't. I had never met her personally until the introduction ceremony. Fast forward to today, they are no more. She started acting funny: my friend should get married to her in church, she wasn't the nice girl anymore. Insulted his family. The truth of the matter was,She never loved him from the onset.
She saw him as a means to convenient life. Thinking it would all millions of money should my friend graduate and started to work. The brief union had a baby girl. She personally told him about three times that her mum said she should leave him and they go their separate ways. Starved him of sex for close to a year. A lady that was fucking unhindered when dey were dating o. My friend almost slept with a sex worker. If I told u the inhumane things she did too him ,it won't end here. He split from her eventually when it became unbearable.
My brother, that lady is not ur wife.That child might not likely be urs either. I think her ex was her first, he deflowered her.So, she still AHS strong feelings for him.He is likely to be the father of that child. She is pained that she is not with him. You are caging her. How can a married woman be talking about a temporary break in marriage ?. Use your head bro. If u have the means ,u can still correct a lot of tings despite the monies u have spent so far. Go for a DNA test while u can. Pls do it. I appeal passionately to you. Don't travel yet. Solve this issue bro. Don't listen to those teliing u to see a marriage counsellor on this. I have seen enough to be able to counsel u on this. If she ever loved u , its gone or she was double dating with her ex back in school.. U made me laugh when u said she is not the sex type.. Well, I won't talk on that. . Even after the DNa test confirms u own rthat child,don't marry her again.
For a lady to insult not just your family ,ur mother inclusive ,its a no no for me. I wish u all the best.
Make una notice how ladies go AVOID this thread..lol

Koolking:
The picture was not needful.

Opposition (PDP) is childish, mischievous and clownish.

They started with PMB was dead. WAEC Certificate. Jubril of Sudan, Islamization of Nigeria. Persecution of Christians. After 2019 Elections PMB will be former president. Votes were cast electronically in the last election. PDP's results are in Inec Server. Kidnapping and Banditry even in the south are perpetrated by the Fulanis. RUGA is favouratism and islamization agenda. Restriction of forex means banning of milk in Nigeria.

Pay no minds to PDP. Nigeria has already moved forward and left them behind.

Long live Nigeria

obiekunie2:
descendants of potiphar's wife all over the place looking for great men to devour - if you know you know!

funny thing is they are always very ugly facially but have a body shape that even angels will find it hard to resist.
Hahahahahaha!!! Guy, you harsh o. Omo, see contract.










we all know she was fukn the pastor and she felt rejected whn pastor told her its time to move on by making her marry the dumb choir master.

she felt rejected and pained and angry - we all know how it is with the fury of a woman scorned. they will come at you like a wounded cobra.

we know their trade mark signature to pull you down - they always scream RAPE! OR ABUSED - DESPITE THE FACT THEY HAVE SLEPT WITH YOU SEVERALLY!


MODIFIED: FOR THE F00LS MENTIONING ME AND INSULTING ME - THIS SHOWS LOADS OF YOU DON'T EVEN KNOW WOMEN AND THEIR PSYCHOLOGY!

A WOMAN FORCEFULLY RAPED WILL STAB HER RAPIST TO DEATH AT ANY SLIGHTEST CHANCE TALK LESS OF STILL EFFING HIM AND TAKING HIS CREST SOFT DRINK RIGHT AFTER THE DEED IS DONE!

AND THEN WENT FOR A SECOND AND THIRD AND FOURTH EXPERIENCE [IF ONLY SHE WILL ADMIT HOW MANY TIMES SHE HAD IT WITH THE PASTOR].

LOOK AT THAT PASTOR FOR FUKS SAKE AND TELL YOURSELVES THE TRUTH! HE DOESN'T NEED TO FORCE HIMSELF ON ANY WOMAN! THEY ARE THE ONES FALLING OVER HIM - I CAN BET YOU THAT 50% OF WOMEN ATTENDING THAT CHURCH WANTS A PIECE OF HIM, HIS CASH AND HIS FLAMBOYANT LIFE STYLE! AND YOU KNOW WHAT WOMEN DOES WHEN THEY FAIL IN THEIR QUEST - THEY TRY TO DESTROY YOU!

I HAVE SEEN IT - I KNOW IT AND I DEVISED A WAY TO HANDLE IT! YOU MUST SIGN A NON-DISCLOSURE FORM FOR ME WITH HIGH COURT STAMP AND FILL A LEGAL CONSENT FORM AS ATTACHED IN THIS POST. THE PASTOR SHOULD LEARN FROM ME!


FOR THOSE CALLING ME BRAINWASHED MEMBER -HA! HA! FIRST AM NOT EVEN A CHRISTIAN. I DON'T EVEN BELIEVE IN ANY F-KN GOD TO BE WORSHIPED. BUT FACT IS I KNOW THE BIBLE AND QURAN MORE THAN LOADS OF YOU HYPOCRITES!


PASTOR! PASTOR! IF YOU DEFEAT THEM ON THIS GANG-UP, PLS ALWAYS MAKE SURE THEY OBEY YOUR RULES AND SIGN FULL CONSENT FORM!





CONSENT FORM SIGNED BEFORE SEXUAL INTERCOURSE

This certifies that, I, ____________________________ the undersigned female (hereafter referred to as the "screwee" about to enjoy intimate intercourse with _________________________ (hereafter referred to as the "screwer".

I am above the lawful age of consent. I am in my right mind and not under the influence of any narcotic or alcoholic substances.
The aforementioned screwer need not use any force, threats, coercion or promises to influence me. Furthermore I, the screwee, am in no fear of him whatsoever, and do not expect or wish to marry him. I do not know if he is married or not, and I do not care. I am neither asleep nor drunk, I'm entering this relationship with him because I love it and want it as much as he does.
In the event whereby I receive the full satisfaction, which I expect, I declare in advance the capacity and willingness to further participate as soon as time permits. In addition, I will not act as a witness against him nor will I file charges against him should I fall pregnant, contract a intimate disease or feel that he is
violating any legislation, moral, legal or otherwise.
Signed Unclad before jumping into bed at ____________ on this _________ day of the______________ Month in the year 20.....

Signature of screwee: ___________________________

Date of birth: __________________________________

Date of conduct:________________________________

bfbellexce:
Pls add me to the LSS Whatsapp group on 07035859534

Avedonn:
For some reasons I don't know, I just don't like Pogba.