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Love is sweet and when one is in a sweet relationship, you are happy, you end up picking lovely names for your partner

Now love affair is different from marriage, marriage comes with its obstacles

Both the rich and the poor experiences it

Some factors that were not really put into consideration could lead to quarrelling in marriage

Taking care of kids are one of the factors that people don't have the knowledge until they start having kids

You may be hungry and decided to eat biscuits and water till the next meal, but a child has no alternative than to eat his formula.
Assuming the formula is finished and there is no money to replace it, what do you expect from the child ❓

You might be pressed and because you are out of the toilet facilities, you can poo on a nylon bad a throw away
But your child doesn't have that option, he only does so in his diapers and if there are no diapers at home, how will you feel ❓

Your rent is due and your children school fees are due, what is your priority among the two and your source of income is slim

Above mentioned, how do you express love with your husband or wife ❓

Both of you are under tension and beefing for each other for not being able to meet up with family demands,

Under this situation, would you have the desire to call your partner a pet name ❓

Well the situation on ground determines when and how to address your partners

Ephetar:
Hello Nairalanders!
Please I need your advice. I'm a 28 years old young man who is at a cross road...We all know the current situation of things in this country.. Let's stop deceiving ourselves Naija don cast.. I want to leave Nigeria as soon as I can but here is my greatest challenge... I'm currently working in a company where I earn over 200k officially... But I have other side hustles which pay me between 800k-1M monthly.. Now let's say my average take home for the month is 1M...I have worked for over 3 years now and have cash and assets worth about 25M currently which I plan to liquidate and leave naija for good... Honestly I'm doing very well for myself here in Nigeria but the future of this country scares me... I'm still single but I plan to settle down before 30...I want to leave this country for the sake of the future of my unborn kids but I'm scared...Please I'll appreciate your inputs... Thanks

You are earning such a 6 digits per month and you don't know how to plan yourself ❓

You have uoto that digits in your account and you want to leave your job and go to another country to become a slave ❓

What makes you think you are going to achieve more outside the shores

My advice, get a land and start building, while doing do get married and don't wait until you are 30yrs

Establish your wife let her be your rear guard incase you travel and things doesn't really get settled and your kids needs to be taken care off

With your income, you can still establish here and go on vacation abroad or give both to your kids abroad

I don't know the type of job you are doing but, it's lucrative for you to be able to save up to that

Pls think twice before you resign and relocate

A bed in hand worth two in Bush

It's quite unfortunate for him

He knows that he is dependent on the wife to get his papers, yet he is displaying stubbornness with the wife by arguing with her

He should have known that he is already a slave to the woman until he sorts himself out

If they were properly married it won't get to this stage

Maybe it's contract marriage and the woman knows that he is using her

That is expected of any body

If any careless money is paid into your account, you have to return it

If not, you will be arrested for not returning such money and you will still return the money and still face persecution

Anyway good move by the state government

Akinolabadurs:
Am tall,. Lean muscles (skinny type), curly hair, and am fresh (i look like a black american) Its been bothering me for a while now.

Even with the fact that am an extremely handsome guy and am quite intelligent, i mean i would speak well about any topic you bring up.

But i have never had a girl friend....no matter any clique i walk with, chances are i will be the finest but even with that girls keep running from me even though i usually get compliment(on my looks) from some.

My friends would usually tell me that many girls are crushing on me, i dont usually sense that though. But when i finally get to talk to them they usually seem uninterested. One once told me i have a bad boy's look.

Please, guys what could be the problem? P.S today's own almost broke me.am really sad.

You don't have to be sad over an issue you can correct,

You may have a bad boy's look but the question is, are really bad ❓

Only you can answer that question

As you have claimed that you are good-looking, when you come across ladies, do the followings

Be nice and respectfull but don't elasticate yourself

Be romantic and gentle but don't be addicted to sex

Pay attention andgive affection to women that's a way of keeping them with you

Be a handy man and be caring but don't let them take you for granted

Be calm and cool, talk with respect and decency

Be tolerant with ladies because they act funny atimes and they have a complex nature

All I mentioned might sound difficult to you but if you apply them, every woman you handle will want to remain with you

It's now left for you to make your choice among the women dying to have you

You can see I didn't mention money,
Money is not love but a man with a good heart, wins it all

Then if you are not the stingy type,
You have a better advantage

May your soul rest in peace

Go after them and make life miserable for them until they join you

Afonjas

Na their work, one wife is never enough for them

Mumu guy

You set a mad man ablaze just because he sleeps in front of your shop

Now you will face justice and go to jail and the front of your shop will now becomes his permanent sleeping place

Such is life

Anger management is a must for every one

ednut1:
What a silly law. What is they can afford IVF??

What's the relationship ❓

If you had said, surrogate, it would have been understandable

hemartins:
I still find it difficult to understand why at every bit of offence, these people only option is to fight.

Majority of them are bastards and from polygamous family

So they don't know love and unity because you can't find such in such homes

The language they understand is fighting and quarrelling

There are area boys in every state but lagos own is the highest

No home training on them no future in them

Every little thing, people will just attempt suicide as if their death will end the issue

What about the families they put through pain because of their death ❓

monimekaz:
And if you are basing your argument on non-facts ..it is like advertising one's stupidity

Thats exactly what you displayed, stupidity

monimekaz:
eleyi tun ti gbe feminism werey kan waa

You don't have to be insultive to tag someone

It's a sign of low self esteem

mark2sunny:
Her husband has to forgive her first before God's forgiveness. That guilt will never go away until that is done. However, that might be the end of the marriage. That's what a good man would do. That way she can explore sex.

When God forgives, it suppases human forgiveness

There won't be any need to tell the husband because it will trigger somany things

How many men confesses to their wives about their sex escapedes ❓

Or where was it written that men should mess around in marriage and women shouldn't mess around

mark2sunny:
Her husband has to forgive her first before God's forgiveness. That guilt will never go away until that is done. However, that might be the end of the marriage. That's what a good man would do. That way she can explore sex.

When God forgives, it suppases human forgiveness

There won't be any need to tell the husband because it will trigger somany things

How many men confesses to their wives about their sex escapedes ❓

Or where was it written that men should mess around in marriage and women shouldn't mess around

If they were asked to bail themselves with 5000, its normal thing with the police and if they were asked to give sex in exchange of the money, its a normal thing with the prostitute

Marbella003:
I have a main account but I decided to create this one to post this in order to avoid embarrassment or reveal my identity.

I got married 4 years ago to my husband. He was in his 40s and I was in my 20s. The age difference between us has never really been a problem as we are both educated, well spoken, have similar personalities and share a lot of interests, and as a result we mesh well. My husband is a very caring and thoughtful man. This is one of the traits that made me fall helplessly for him, along with his intelligence and fun personality. I will not reveal anything pertaining to kids as this might punch a hole in my wall of anonymity.

I've always loved my husband and I still do. But I've never really been sexually attracted to him. This is not to say that I find him unattractive. No. He is okay as far as physical appearance goes, but his look has never been the kind to turn me on sexually. To put it plainly, I find that I'm only sexually attracted to young men around my age with tall, athletic bodies and with the energy and agility to please a woman satisfyingly in the bedroom. I met this kind of man in my work place and after we talked a few times I couldn't help but become attracted to him. I realized he was also attracted me, and fast forward to a week ago, we had sex in a hotel room.

I'm ashamed to admit that sex with him was glorious, but it truly was. It was better than anything I had ever done with my husband. I loved how he tossed me around the bed and did stuff to me that my husband doesn't do and I liked how ever part of his body felt firm and strong. After the act I felt a wave of shame wash over me. I recognized that I had committed an atrocity and I knew I had broken my marriage vows. The guilt of what I had done followed me around like a stench. I hated myself for betraying a man that had always loved and cared for me.

The problem I now face is that despite the guilt and the shame I constantly feel, I still yearn to experience another period of sexual bliss with my colleague. I can't help it. I'm torn. I already told my colleague that that one time was the last but deep down I don't want it to be. I know that if I tell my husband about what I did, that it would mark the end of my relationship with my colleague, but I don't know exactly how my husband would receive this information. I don't want him to look at me and see a betrayer of trust; a woman lacking integrity and virtue. No. I even thought of resigning from my job or requesting a transfer so as not to be in close proximity with my colleague but I know that wouldn't solve anything as I still have his social media info and occasionally stalk him(yes I do). I'm so conflicted. I don't know what to do.

I understand how bad and guilt you have been feeling about it

Just seat down and talk to yourself, take a transfer out of their to another location, just let your lover know that your relationship with him is affecting you psychologically

Try and live a new decent life, it all depends on your state of mind

Beg God to forgive you so far you know that you won't try it with another man again

Aa for your husband, don't tell him to avoid mistrust but teach him tjose sex skills so that you wont have any reason to search else where

Atimes in marriage you don't get exactly what you wish to have in your partner and once a single thing is missing, you keep searching for it, despite you are already hooked

Gforce2019:
God forbid. I will never have such experience ijn. Amen.
Women are weaker vessel but they are stronger in heart.

Lol @ God forbid

This guy is frustrated already even before meeting the lady

He is even ready to die any moment

He killed his firs wife
He was an ex convict and a jail breaker
He burnt the house of family of 8 and you think he is happy being alive ❓

Just take him to the zoo and hand him over to lions, come with packer and broom the next day

People should learn to do good and never expect instant rewards, leave that for God and nature to reward you

Gforce2019:
Most time , nothing will be wrong but the devilish in woman intentionally arrange it that way.

After the devil, fear woman.

Funny as it is, you must have or come across them in life as a man

Naijaalive:
Some women are wicked.....

Have you found out what led to it ❓

For a woman to impose another person pregnancy on a man, something secret must have led to it

This time around he won't come you will rot in jail

What a blessing, the child just want to witness the wedding, That's all

So what was in your mind when you were joining cult ❓

He will mention all those involved

They are always tired, that's why the new IG has decided that they should run shifts to give them time to have their own time, especially for rest purposes

Still better than skull mining, all na crime

I blame the buyer for buying it at such a give away price

As for the seller he wants to save his wife health condition

He has reached his final bustop