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PSTEMMA1960:
A Dying Soul Needs Ur Urgent Advice B4 It's 2 Late.

Good evening my good people of nairaland..hope everyone is doing fine?

don't know the right section to post this but I think i'll get mature response here...

Note: the post is going to be very long, but pls read to the end, I just want to pour out my heart to get an answer to some issues about my life.

My Name is Emmanuel born December 25-1991 from isiala mbano local government area of Imo state.
My grandparents gave birth to 11 children, as I type now all 11 of them are dead, none of them married b4 death, my dad was the only one that married.....

My dad died December 25 1997 and my mum died in the year 2000... it hasn't been easy since then.....my mum's people rejected us saying that my dad did not legally married my mum...

my 2 sister are in Lagos now (married with children) I came to Abj in the year 2006 with a woman that owns a restaurant at area3 (my aim then was to save some money and go back to the village and start doing okada)

after working there for 2 years I was able to raise some money (my salary then was 3k) when I told the woman that I wanted to go, she asked me not to do so, that she really wants to help me...(I was happy) she asked me to go and learn how to drive with a promise of buying a car for me on higher purchase.

after the driving school no car, she sacked their driver and I became their driver (1k was then added to my salary) I didn't complain I waited till December again, I told her that I want to go, she now explain that I must drive her for like 4 good years b4 she can buy the car, i lost interest immediately. .

then to give my my 3 years salary became a problem (I was telling her to save it for me because i was naive then)

the woman did plus and minus money for driving school, shortage of beer and other stuffs....i was left with only 1500 after 3 years of my hard labour.....I had no option but to carry my Ghana must go bag and start sleeping with Hausa guys outside. ..

that wasn't still enough the woman arrested me that her life was in danger because she has sacked me.....police asked my to sign an undertaken that if anything should happen to her I'm responsible which I did.....after 3 days I was released. .

I was still sleeping outside..... so many other experiences...but the last one was in Asokoro hospital canteen.....my salary then was 15k I was able to save 270k there was an Alhaji that was always coming there to eat almost everyday then "mr Haruna" there was a sallah period that he even dasshed me 20k.

so one evening I met the man he was telling me that he doesn't like the nature of my job, that I should give him my C.V for a better Job...when I told him my qualifications he was not impressed ..

then on my own i went to him after one week that since he is already willing to help me that he should assist me in getting a car. ..he said it was a minor thing, that his brother a custom officer at zone3 was in charge of auctioning......I told him how much I had, he said he was going to add it up to make it 500k I went to Oceanic back then and withdrew the 270k gave to him. ....till today I didn't set my eyes on the man ..

it was not 2 long our madam employed a new staff, David from Cross river state......in less than one week the guy ran away with the money that our madam kept with me (she has been keeping money with me close to 2 years) to buy drinks and chicken the following day....87k. I had to work and pay her back...... after that I decided not to work again .....

in 2011 December 31st I gave my life to Christ and started going to church.....

because of my zeal and commitment I was ordained a minister in 2012, the following year as a pastor.... in 2015 I was sent to a state to open a branch which I went.... in less than 6 months I was having close to 74 members....

but the offering was not much, I pleaded with the head qtrs to give me time let the place grow numerically first. but they refused and closed down the branch.....(I was sad, so I left the church in 2016)

I tried driving work I always have issues, if I get a car today the same night I'll hear audible voice telling me that I won't succeed unless I come back and serve them in the village...(my grand mum was an idol worshiper she was always going to the native doctors meetings with me when I was 4-7 years)

Right now things have gone worse for me, no food no clothes no house no job....... stange dreams I am even tired of praying......

I am loosing my mind and sleep as if I am running mad, I always ask am I going to die like my uncles without any achievement...... I haven't seen my only brother since 7 years.....i'll always think that this year things would be better but it will turn out worst.....

even a small car that I managed to buy last year broke down I had to sell it anyhow when my younger brother told me that our old house had collapsed in the village.......

I don't know if I can cross this stage of my life .....has anyone been in my situation b4? is there hope for me? pls someone should talk to me, i am frustrated.............pls no 2 much insults....thanks and God bless...

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Sorry for all you have been through

First of all, from your narrative, the mantle of taking over from your grandum fell on you.

She must have initiated you because of the love she has for you and you can't run away from it so you might not be stable if you don't follow up

But bear in mind that you can take it up and perform it in a religious way, there us a way they do it and it gets combined

Most of these pastors are modernised herbalist

She is absolutely right

Let me add to what she just said and the reasons behind it.

When a woman acquires property on her name, it belongs to the entire family and more especially the children

But when a man acquire property, it will also favour another wife assuming he marries another wife to the present wife

If any issue comes up, the name in the paper is what the judge will follow

Women learn to use your head very well, the world belongs to men because they feel they will always have another woman, but as a woman, you still have the choice to remarry but would you be moving up and down with the kids from the previous marriage ❓

Any money you have for investment, inform your husband but make sure your names are boldly written, incase one idiot wants to make claims over it

Use your head and don't get deceived, if he insisted that his name must be there, I will rather you choose to add you and your children names than buying any property in his name⚫

She is absolutely right

Let me add to what she just said and the reasons behind it.

When a woman acquires property on her name, it belongs to the entire family and more especially the children

But when a man acquirea property, it will also favour another wife assuming he marries another wife to the present wife

If nay issue comes up, the name I the paper is what the judge will follow

Women learn to use your head very well, the world belongs to men because they feel they will always have another woman, but as a woman, you still have the choice to remarry but would you be moving up and down with the kids from the marriage ❓

Any money you have for investment, inform your husband but make sure your names are boldly written incase one idiot wants to make claims over it

Use your head and don't get deceive, if he insisted that his name must be there, I will rather you choose to add you and your children names than buying any property on his name⚫

What kind of calamity is this ❓

That's the best place for him to be as he is out of this world and in another planet at the moment

People should allow this lady to leave whatever life she wants to live

It's her business

OgbanjeProphet:
please warm your FROZEN brain to some 70 degree's, it will help you. If I will get no time for my children, there will be no need bringing them to this world full of idiots like you.

Hope you have got my message now.

I have confirmed what I needed to know, that you are an idiot.

So he could not cope and he decided to take his life, a father of three with pregnant wife.

Now how does he want the wife to cope with her present condition and three children ❓

Low esteem man

If she is demanding for sex,
What's the big deal about it

Would she do it her self ❓

OgbanjeProphet:
must everybody have a child or children? My statement may be senseless to you because you are an African woman, but to some non African women it is sensible.

Now I get it,
So How do you want to enjoy life being childless ❓

OgbanjeProphet:
Whoever did that to that innocent baby will suffer impotence.

Meanwhile people should stop bringing innocent children to this world to come and suffer like this. If you love money too much, or you are too busy to take good care of your own children by yourself, please remain childless.

You made a senseless statement, "what do you mean be remain childless"

Who wishes for that ❓

His enemies have succeded in disgracing him

Stay away fro sugry things, too much bread, alcohol

Do that for 3/6 months access yourself

That suggery of a thing is 50/50

From frying pan to fire

Abalado:
Sir,, help me, I want to join the Nigerian Army, please help me sir,,

He has nothing to offer to you because you can't access him

Just Google Nigeria Army employment and you will see when their recruitment is coming up

Both defence academy and regular course

rotadota:
A Nigerian Man has come out to say that virginity is the best wedding gift any man would receive from his newly wedded wife.

See screenshot of his post below:

https://www.everywherestew.com.ng/2019/04/virginity-is-best-wedding-gift-any-man.html?m=1

And what does she get from you as a man, or are you not supposed to be a virgin ❓

NapoleonBonapor:
Hello guys I would be 24 in August. I really want to further my education more. I got my National Diploma in 2016 with Lower credit but I went to hustle instead of furthering more. Now I don't want to go to polytechnic, I want get my degree.

My plan is to go for Msc abroad after getting my degree. I am contemplating on 3 options now.

1. thinking of going to private university in Benin Rep (it's an accredited uni) because of their fast programme.

2. Or do DE to a university in Nigeria.

3. Or forget about getting degree..

Can I go for Masters in America or Europe with a Benin Rep degree? And which university can I go for DE with Lower credit in Nigeria (even a private uni?). Please I am getting depressed on this, I am regretting my late decision but I am the one sponsoring myself so hustle first.
Please I need a serious advice, this is my future..
Am I too old for all these?

At 24yrs, you are very young at age to build your educational carier

Since you are the one hustling, how will you cope with education and hustling with one affecting the other especially if its regular or conventional university ❓

Am glad you want to further your education, both here and abroad, but I don't know how recognised the Benin Republic degree certificate is abroad ❓

You are still on track and you have not missed much, so you can still fix up yourself

While you do your hustling, save some money and either plan to go on regular study or part time,

Be focused in anything you do because after this time, you might not fit in again

If you think you can afford going abroad to further your studies, go ahead with the plan, it will pay you more by working and studying there in a more conducive environment

Finally, there is no time, so get focused and don't get distracted⚫

Those from that side are used to mud house so he won't even appreciate a Morden house

There is a reason for everything, true love or no true love

The guy is abroad, that's a plus for him

You and I knows that getting their papers complete before coming home is a great challenge

If she doesn't want the wedding to hold because he is abroad and can't come home, another person will accept the wedding to hold just because he is abroad

Marriage is just a ceremony to entertain witnesses, the most important thing is being happy with your partner in the marriage

Great ability in disability

His choice, let's leave it for him

FuckBots:
Thank you

You are welcome

FuckBots:
How do I end this habit in me?

It's a habit that was developed over time

If you really want to stop it, then you must be able to control your sex urge

Get a girl friend you can afford to keep and bond with her,

Engage yourself with meaningful things that will be keeping you busy

One of the problems of masturbation is weakness of the viens which leads to poor erection

jose45eve:
The issue of cheating is rampant if there no different taste from your lover why do people still cheat apart from other factors

It's not the same taste because the parties involved are loved differently

The way you love one person is different from the way you love the other person

So it's the strength of love on a person that determines the taste of love making.

I blame most families who breed kids as if they don't care about their future

This boy have been deprived by his parents

Exposing him to dangers at an early age

They have been targeting him before that time

He was more credible than you

Once they start producing the one that will lift itself in a hold up and fly away to another road or less traffic lane, that us when I will appreciate all thus technology and engineering works

They are on a mission to attack

But to God be the glory, they end up attacking themselves

Aplaudez:
I'll be as brief as possible, please pardon my errors!

It happened that my brother get married after impregnating this girl, and six months after the wedding the two parent of the girl died, so it's been my mum taking care of everything and we're fatherless too, the wife is a teacher in secondary school, but my bro Is managing In one hotel.

Each time he get paid he'll always lie to mum that they've not pay them, he always appear pitiful, always telling you about the weakness of his family, I'm just in my mid twenties with my National diploma awaiting to further my education by June, it's affecting the house, mum don't have time for we other siblings again, any money gotten is given to my brother and his wife, yet he'll come back and appear pitiful again!

Dear friends, please what can I do, it's affecting my mum, she doesn't ware better cloth yet she's a federal worker!

please help a friend!

Your mum is the one creating more problems for them

She will soon get depressed and tired of aiding with them to continue their irresponsible lives

As for you, learn how to present yourself to be pity full like him until she is done providing for your education

Be smart at this stage because you might be the one loosing if you don't start playing the same exact game him and his wife are playing

Time is running out, act fast

No man can change what God has destined for anyone

If God wants to blessed you, it will surely locate you wherever you are