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She did the right thing. You can advise a child however, you can't be there at all times thus, it is better safe than sorry.

This topic is food for the holier than thou category. Those who at 16 did worse things now acting like saints.

Akposy:
Uncle Gboyega, gimme one lap abeg

Come carry am although e dry small sha ooo.

Akposy:
Jollof rice, dodo sauce and peppered beef

Oga, after you, na you remain!!!

bokondogi:
Hello Nairalanders, I will appreciate your comments and advice on this post

I have been married with 2 grown up kids for more than 2 and half decades, 2 months ago my wife got in contact with one of her secondary school classmate, someone she has lost contact with since they left school 3 decades ago.

So they started calling each other, though my wife told me about him and sometimes they talked on phone in my presence but later my wife will go to her room to talk with the guy, most times in the night.

This calls always excite my wife that I could hear her laughing and I begin to get jealous and I decided to get to know what they usually talk about.

They later moved to chatting on WhatsApp and will be doing call at night. I noticed my wife started making sure her phone isn't within my reach, making sure she didn't leave her phone carelessly. We both know each others phone password, One day I get access to her phone and I open her whatsapp. I noticed that my wife is flirting with the guy, the guy wil be refering to my wife as his wife but my wife usually won't respond to this,
They were exchanging pictures, and admiring each others pictures.

The guy was proffesing love to my wife but wiffy won't reciprocate to this advances.
Once a while I use to check wiffy's phone for any new development, and I find out wiffy use to send both money and airtime for data to the guy (my wife is into a lucrative business and money isn't her problem).

So one day a friend of mine send me a short porn video which I showed to my wife, she requested me to forward it to her, (I was surprised by this her request because she usually frown at porn), I sent it to her on her Facebook messenger instantly, but I was suspicious of what she wanted to do with the porn video. 2 days later she called me that she wanted to send the video to a female friend of her on WhatsApp but she didn't know how to forward the video from messenger platform to whatsapp.

I now forwarded the porn video to her on WhatsApp because I was curious what she wanted to do with the porn video, lol and behold my wife forwarded the video to this guy with a vulgar comment. I can't imagine my wife using the word 'toto', I have never heard this word from her
I now find out that this guy has earlier sent to my wife a porn video which she later deleted. I was shocked by these discoveries. My wife that frowns at obscene words is now using one in a chat with a man and even exchanging porn with him.

Even some gift items I kept in the house, I discovered my wife gifted them to this guy.
After these discoveries, I confront my wife with the evidence but she find it hard to deny and she said that she didn't know what she was doing with the guy was wrong that she didn't know the implications,
She told me she did not have any sexual contact with the guy and she swear about this, but I find it hard to believe, though I didn't find any evidence of this in their chats,
I am heart broken, this is a woman I trust so much,
Though she begged me and told me she won't have contact with the guy again, but I find it hard to believe.

I plan to throw her out. Is this the best decision?

Is the bolded some joke? You shouldn't be asking such a question. You know your wife better and know what you guys have agreed on instances like this. That said, since she assured you nothing happened and she was perhaps carried away by the attention, my advice will be to forgive and let go. She has at least learned a thing or two from this incidence.

Rubbiish:
All these things u are saying happens in the movies. What do u mean by love & be ur friend? In marriage real stuff comes in, school fees, house rent, feeding etc. The word love is pure deception. Didn't u read a story of a guy on this section whose wife left him because he is unable to provide for the home? We should stop deceiving intending couples with love, it is misleading.

Love is not just the mushy feelings. There is an intentional part to it and for those who leave each other because of challenges, they are the only ones who can tell why.
In marrying the one who you love and you make your friend, the easiest way to explain it is that "and they were both naked and they were not ashamed." Therefore, there isn't any issue you guys can't talk about and there is that mutual respect that helps guard you and your heart from straying away.

It is a little difficult in the Nigerian context considering that things are tough however, siblings should try not to involve themselves in each other's marriage. They should learn to look the other way.

Why wait till now?

That said, governors who are intentionally trying to subdue opponent parties from campaigning, what punitive measures are in place for them?

Thinkam:
Waste of time

campaign wey go pack up latest December.
After December LP will die a permanent death..

Obi will drop out of the race latest December

Atiku is coming

Aren't you tired of your rants? Oga, find better thing to think about instead of killing yourself on top Obi mata.

This is a very intelligent analysis. Unfortunately, many graduates who are saying this is rubbish went to school to read and pass.

descarado:
Looked perfect.
Happy thanksgiving.


You guys try, I can't grill whole turkey for the life of me
Last yr, at the 11th hour, I cut and roasted everything. Loved it, then bought more and repeated the same. That's what I use for my bitterleaf soup. Very unique taste with dry catfish.

Previous years, I cut it but I just felt we should try differently this year. It came out dried so we will be using it for soups and pasta. Might buy another one today, I need to get it right.

Table your concerns and how you intend helping to ease her stress. If the accommodation is free, then let her sleep over there twice a week. She could go Monday come back on Tuesday and do the same on Wednesday. She could take a day or every other Friday. It will reduce much of the physical and financial stress.
I wouldn't encourage you move apartment since you think you live in a good environment to raise your kids and it is also economical Horace, so talking about the names of your workplace to your home. Don't make yourself look like a nag.
Once this aspect is settled, address the fundamental issues you have. Trying to understand what it means for a marriage not to be joyous and peaceful. In sure if you both are not threatened economically, you can work out reasonable solutions that will keep your bond very strong.

ahnie:
Sir D...you entity you wasting your precious time schooling is a known and renowned lunatic.

Pls save your strength.
Person wet vex almost drink sniper years ago on food session when he spewed this kind of gibberish and he was taken to the cleaners.

His real moniker is GOTV.

Thanks madam for bringing it to my attention.

Who is be comfortable with Tinubu representing the country at meetings where other presidents are? As the largest black race, we need to do better in presenting ourselves to the world. The Tinubu bros is becoming a clown with his continuous gaffe.

GOTVee:
Even though I'm a born again Christian, I knew he would soon die when he started living an adulterous life. He sang fake gospel songs to deviate the minds of true Christians from the ways of our lord Jesus while sleeping with several women behind the scenes. Very unfortunate to share Same religion with him. It's better we Christians adopt polygamy like our Muslim brothers than deceiving ourselves in front of our lord Jesus

Sir, I thought the Bible said we shouldn't judge others? Your allegations, let's assume it's true still doesn't give you the right to condemn others.

Pierocash:
this is for 2020



https://www.pewresearch.org/fact-tank/2022/02/03/what-the-data-says-about-gun-deaths-in-the-u-s/

Take your time to read through and see you exaggerated things. You said 45k died in mass shootings meanwhile the figure is for gun murders, gun suicide, and others.

I would want to think you attributed all to mass shootings because you are in a rush however, it isn't right.

Gun murders involves neighborhood clashes (some kind of cult thing), mass shootings, fights that involves shootings, murder/assassination etc.

BunmiBie:
Lol
Same here, we ended up not eating our food because we were out all day...
Happy Thanksgiving!

Good thing was it was eventful. The side I don't like is my company works today and I have to go to work. I sometimes envy those whose company makes Thanksgiving a long weekend. It is well sha...

Onolulu:
It's a lie . People don't die in the abroad. They have a working system.

Find attached

Thanks. Was waiting for home to respond. Some people like to throw out figures without facts.

Pierocash:
I was telling some morons here few days ago who always curse Nigeria and telling everyone to japa that life is not guaranteed in Nigeria, about mass shootings in America,of how America have recorded over 40k death due to mass shootings. But one of the i.diots was busy still cursing me and the country. Not even In terrorists infested north have Nigeria recorded 40k death this year.


Can you imagine,606th issue of mass shooting,yet same hypocrite America will be issuing travel and security advisory to its citizens about where not to travel to in Nigeria. Tell me where is even safe in USA?Same with UK with gang violence ,knifing and shooting.

Please quote the source of your dead count. I will like to read.

His mother on agidigbo "Kokoro Alate" said it was phone they had an argument over and she promised getting her another one by the morning.

Happy Thanksgiving!
Was invited to lunch so we only grilled our Turkey. Not sure what to do with it but las las, like every other year, na inside stew pot e go end.

You lose some of your freedom. No more sleep overs, no 100% privacy, more people want to know about your shit.

Ayosman1:
Let an expert do your visa, you guys said no. This are the issue with you people, when it hock na you will finally run to an agent.
I will advise you take a legal action against them.

Agents are not necessary. If one could apply to the schools and get admitted, the person should be able to apply for a student visa by him(her)self.

Your post is confusing this, difficult to advice.
You said you deferred to Fall, 2023. If this is true, January will be too early to attend a student visa interview.

To get the advice you need, post information on your resumption date, your supposed interview date, was the inevitable canceled or rescheduled, and a summary of why your interview was either canceled or rescheduled.

You should be fully informed to know your next best option and those who can advise you need full information of the current status.

If Tinubu had to cancel the discussion with Kadaria, it speaks volume that he doesn't have anything to offer.

Shouldn't we be thinking of diversifying into other things particularly, at this time the world is trying to move out of fossil fuel?

ibkayee:
As if you aren’t used to it, your food always looks delicious

Thank you madam. I am not ooo. My wife feels I complain about my food too much even when people eat and make very good comment on my food.

Kasdat5:
I don't think it's helpful , but then Nigerian happens to everyone , millennium kids can't be doubted tooo , I was way ahead of my peers during sec school , na woman spoil me for uni, if not enh ,wetin be 1st class wen I no fit achive

Woman no spoil you, na immaturity catch up with you. There are broses wey knack pass you and were focused all through.

Read your diary, guess I'm encouraged to start mine but not sure I can keep tabs.

[quote author=paschal47 post=11281153][/quote]Bros, abeg, overlook the guy for the food thread. Biko, no vex for him matter.

ibkayee:
I literally drooled

Wow!!! That's such a great compliment for me.

Kasdat5:
I was 12 years in JS 3 too , pupil write waec @ 14 now

This is so true but is it truly helpful for the child? I don't really think so.

naijamanyoutube:
Yes o! LV na home na, I hear say una don improve am well well.

You sure say na home e still be abi you don move base go South America.