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folake4u:
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If he really wants a cuddle, let him define the "relationship" he has with the girl. Period!

Agreement is agreement. Good and fine. But there was no contract signed for such, she has every right to back out.

It is also dishonest of him not to define the relationship with the girl. I totally understand what was running through the girl's mind. She doesn't want to be "anybody's fool".

On this topic, we agree to disagree.

Davefed:
Looking at the way Nigeria economy is, 6m doesn’t amount to anything that can set someone up.

If you are Yoruba or part of a Yoruboid group, use one million to learn cococa export trading from your kinsmen. If you don't triple or even quadruple your investment after one year, please place a curse on me.

Sladem05:
Probably Black Brits and Blacks in Europe. Blacks in Europe are probably the most sensible and prudent of the blacks in the world.

Probavly so as they are direct descendants of African and Caribbean migrants who willingly moved to Europe.

IbeOkehie:
The richest Nigerians are NOT based in Nigeria. I've done a long explanation on how I know. It's simple to figure out. Just one outstanding example is TY Danjuma. He's one of a handful of dollar billionaires in Nigeria. He doesn't live in Nigeria, neither does his daughter who is likely to inherit his businesses.

The day I figured out the thing rich people are doing in Nigeria, I was very pleased. All you have to know is that the UK & Europe is 6 hours flight and USA is 12 hours. These rich people show up for public events and go to their village once in a while and it gives the impression they're in Nigeria. When I was little, I remember you would go by some of these mega mansions, when you talk to the gate man they would always say "Ah, Oga travelled". It was only when I got to be an adult that it dawned on me that Oga travelled ABROAD and LIVES abroad to make money. In an earlier discussion I named such people from my own hometown.

This one still makes me laugh like die
ou're not alone. My advice to you if you care, is go and get informed. Internet will help you.

Good Luck to Nigerians.

I recalled when we had the same disagreement, Donald might be misconstruing it, but the fact remains that the majority of Nigeria's wealthy generated/made their wealth from Nigeria. Whether they live in Nigeria or not is immaterial (no evidence to support your claim that they don't) as wealthy people no dey stay one place. But Nigeria's wealthy made their wealth in Nigeria. So, the odds of being a wealthy Nigerian are higher while in Nigeria than outside. Indians for instance have multimillionaires and even billionaires who made their money outside India, Nigeria has just the Calendly dude and Ogunlesi.

ExudeLoveToAll:
Why don't you convert that visa route to doing your master's in Finland and then transit post study if your benefactor can stand beside you. Some have pointed out the probability of been scammed by these scammers calling themselves as agents.

It is actually possible for him to get a Finnish company to recruit him on a standard work visa while he is in Nigeria, but certainly not for the role of a cleaner.

koolsammie:
Please, is it possible to gain admission into one of the applied universities without earning the GCUB scholarship?

I mean when one applies to these schools through the GCUB platform and your name doesn't come out, can you still get admission in the university?

@Ger.rard59
@unta.medd

You ask @Tensazangetsu20, na him sabi Brazillian admission process.

Honestey:
No wonder she ran to UK where such immorality are seen as freedom. Honestly the first woman no give Adam all the apple collected from Satan, these are the outcome of the remaining she ate all alone.

She is in the US*

grandstar:
What happens when lesbians divorce-who keeps the child?

Will it be given to the biological mother as only one parent has any biological linkage unlike a traditional marriage where both are biological parents.

It makes no sense to me.

This is important as many gay marriages have only one child.

Another reason homosexuals should not be allowed the possession of a child or children. They are not biologically or mentally fit for child-rearing.

DevilsEqual:
Our Nigerian old woman na the wife
Even with that strong face, na she suppose be the husband but now, na she dem go dey chow

Honestly, I thought she ought to be the "man" just like Makispoke.

Igbo women doing the lesbianism and feminism that they are famous for. Never beating the allegations.

Davefed:
Looking at the way Nigeria economy is, 6m doesn’t amount to anything that can set someone up.

So being a cleaner is better? Not a tech worker o, cleaner.

Tomorrow, una go come berate Ms Remi Tinubu for her viewpoints.

P.S. Visa is fake. No agent can get you a job which requires a work visa in Europe. How many times do we need to state this here?!

GerogeI:
What a disgusting human being.
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In all of this, she could have declined the request to cuddle him. We make it look like women cannot or don't have the right to choose or independence of thought. "I am not doing, I disagree to cuddle, I am not coming to your house for that reason" etc.

folake4u:
My thoughts exactly.

Showing desperation for sex is a BIG BIG RED FLAG/TURN OFF especially if the "relationship" isn't defined.

It's a sad situation really. Some men feel if you're nice to a lady, the lady needs to repay them with sex.

This is how some of them get into trouble abroad.

In all of this, we should remember OP requested cuddling prior to her presence in his apartment, which she agreed to. Upon arrival, she disagrees, which she has the right to. OP is not at fault. Agreement is agreement. It is dishonest to change the goalpost in the middle of the game.

GodHimself:
What’s the top thing you need right now, to make this happen faster?

Money. Like I mentioned, one of the reasons African nations aren't major players in the field of research and development is because we are the nadir of the Maslow Hierarchy of Needs. One needs to chop and belly full before embarking on certain projects.

I see the initiative as my form of philanthropy as results could lead to more insights into a particular topic with the aim of solving the challenges that topic presents. For instance, if we realise that top JAMB scorers who studied numerical courses went on to have lucrative careers compared to their humanities counterparts, we could invest in better mathematical pedagogy for the upcoming generation as we have evidence to support the claim that by knowing maths, one can have a flourishing career. Also, we would know why certain areas excel better at mathematics than others. How can those failing areas be improved? Again, it is because there is existing research to support the claim. Not anywhere belly face.

AndrewTate:
The mistakes of this generation are plenty… one of them is young men not having the right knowledge about women.
s of men is very different from that of women. Women need a lot more guidance from care. As for men, the universe wouldn’t even cut you a slack before you face the consequences instantly and there’s only betterment as a result. But for women the damage is mostly permanent.

Treat women with more care and love today lads! She’s someone’s little girl 📌

Agreement is agreement. Stick to the terms and conditions. You don't like a deal? Don't agree to it. She was dishonest. OP was honest. Call him whatever you like, he was honest and explicit. She had the right to choose ab initio, which she did, but changed the goalpost in the middle of the game. That is not fair. Stick to the agreement.

Amayabor1:
How is OP selfish? It's like your brain is paining you.

OP called her to come to his house for cuddle. She came. He bought her things. When it was time for the cuddle, she refused. If she didn't want to cuddle OP, why did she take her 2 legs and go to his house even after OP had told her what he wanted? If you can't keep your end of a bargain, don't go to where the bargain was made.

This is it! OP knew what he wanted, but she lied. She was dishonest.

NoahHadNoArk:
So much gaslighting in the comments above me

She knew what she was coming for and she came for that purpose, only to chicken out at the last minute. It’s normal as a human to feel frustrated and believe you’ve been played on. Sending her out to create space for another female who is more than willing is fair if you ask me.

Don’t allow any vaginarian manipulate you for any reason, all you asked for was a cuddle. That girl is having her brains banged out on a daily by a guy who is not doing even half of what you’ve done for her and that’s the irony of life.

My peace I leave you

That is the thing - she was clearly dishonest. Stick to the agreement as stated initially. Don't change the goalpost. Stick to it.

It is OP's fault anyway. Another Nigerian lad who rather than pay sex workers directly wanted to be cuddled by a girl he gives money randomly.

AndrewTate:
He needs her? So her body is what she should just give up to any “friend” who needs it for comfort?
If your “wife” told you she used to give her body up for cuddling to her “good friends in need” before you married I doubt you’ll be proud of that.

He requested and she agreed. Agreement is agreement. If she did not want it, she could have declined.

AyobamiOluwole:
So this girl has been coming to my place, eat the best food and all that. I've asked her if she has a boyfriend and she said no. I do give her money without asking her for anything on return because I could see she is not the lazy type and she is really hardworking. I am very much ok with finances and I see no issues with some of her demands.

Yesterday I called her and told her that I'm not happy and that I need cuddle only and not sex(I lost so much Dollars from futures trading that night). She later called and said she will come to my place for that reason. In my mind I was thinking this will go down as sex and all, but I don't really want sex.
k home and everything was going well. We were both on the bed when I reminded her why she came. This is someone I've been doing quite a lot for without even thinking twice out of pity. She wouldn't give in and wouldn't let me know why she can't just allow me to cuddle her.

Mehn, from the loss I had earlier and all that, I got infuriated and called another girl telling to pls come over for the night. Then I told this girl t

Modified: Anger is a bad thing. I am wrong sending her away at that time of the night. This is probably the judgement I'll get 😔

Sending her late in the night was not appropriate, but she was not honest ab initio. Agreement is agreement.

Also, as it is, it is important for young ladies to be mindful when men give them money for no just reason. Be very explicit and ask what the money is for. If you agree to visit a man to cuddle him, please do as you say. If you know you cannot, state it explicitly before going there that you cannot.

Don't change the goalpost in the middle of the game.

tensazangetsu20:
It's why I laugh when people shade the UK. If only people understood the visa process to other European countries eh . Anyway, Wetin concern me.

Kini kon I prefer Switzerland, Sweden or Austria....

tensazangetsu20:
Someone from poland contacted me off nairaland about coming to do his Phd in Chile. He did his masters at a polish university and due to no appointment ended up having to complete his studies remotely from Nigeria . I think you need to be well connected to get a polish visa from Nigeria not agent connections, connections inside the embassy itself.

Why did he not drop out after like six months?

Our people and optimism.

A ton of cocoa is close to $10K per ton. If you see anyone dealing in cocoa, bill am!

Due to weather disruptions, the Ghanaians and Ivorians are not producing enough, so Nigerians and Cameroonians are filling in the gap.

The farmers will make money No wonder Tinubu did not institute a commodity pricing board. Good decision.

Christistruth00:
Have you noticed that in Japan it is hard to find Japanese that are 6 ft tall
but In California 6 ft tall Japanese are common
It is the food
that is why so many kids are taller than both of their Parents

It is genetics. East Asians are not usually tall compared to the rest of the world, especially Northern Europeans or Eastern Africans. Exceptions exists, but that is why there are exceptions. Compared to other West Africans especially those West of the Sahara, we are not even that tall. As for kids who are taller than their parents, somewhere in any of the parent's lineage exist someone or persons who were very tall. Please read about recessive, co-dominant and dominant genes.

I wonder how food overtook the aspect of genetics. Mind you, genetics go back far in history. If it didn't dey, e didn't dey.

GodHimself:
I like the sound of that.

Will you be making the questions available to all?

Yes. Something like this: https://www.science.org/doi/10.1126/science.aad6359

The question is asked (stated clearly as the subject), a discussion begins followed by the results and final discussion which dissects the results. Researchers are mentioned and it is published in a scientific journal and across social media forums/platforms. The aim is to ensure there are fact-based evidence for any claim. Rather than I no fit lie give you, you see reasons why something exists or happens or cannot happen or did not happen or does not exist.

https://www.nairaland.com/7763389/top-jamb-scorers-where-today A thread about top JAMB scorers. This aspect is open to many questions in unravelling who are/were the top JAMB scorers, what they did eventually study, where are they today, those who made a first class, why did others not make the same first class even though their JAMB scores were high etc.

GreatAchiever1:
I chop beans well well during my early teenage years even till now years later. Las las, I still end up being 6'2. The goal was atleast 6'5. Mtchewww.
Go chop better meat for protein diet.

You are tall because of your parents, not because you ate beans.

GodHimself:
Have you applied this in any way?

In the process of applying. For instance, I have compiled close to 100 questions on socio-economic topics that must be answered with evidence backed by hard research. I decided to do this because of the too many I no fit lie give you answers Nigerians provide to general discourse. The aim is to employ journalists and researchers (graduate students and even professors) who will be on the ground to ask hard questions, get the answers, write about them and publish them in journals. Think about a science journal with lots of citations and references. Na so I wan do am.

So that if a topic is brought up for discussion, one can provide fact based evidence to support or demystify a claim. The era of trust me bro has to end.

ednut1:
https://www.instagram.com/tv/CX9T7zFBV6r/?utm_medium=copy_link

https://www.nairaland.com/6911766/bbn-miracle-ex-share-more#108842187
She claimed he didn’t marry her for papers sha. But we know the deal . He joined the army before she divorced him too. Like i said baba don hustle

She went to jail because of an alteration.

Wahala and women with African American culture. Good luck to those involved.

Demigod22:
When I am ready for marriage, and she is a virgin and she is not billing me, I will date her for one year, then we will marry. That's if she is my kind of woman, but honestly, I will cheat on her for that one year. I can't stay two weeks without sex, I almost die during NYSC camp.

I think ladies who want to be celibate while dating should stick to men who are also celibate. Dating a sexually active man yet complaining that he cheats on her is foolhardy and dishonest. I like being straightforward. Should I date such a woman when I am sexually active, I will inform her that I will fvck outside, but she should not complain.

I dislike dishonest people.

Another Nigerian man gets into a relationship where the lady doesn't genuinely like him. I don't understand some of you people. A woman who likes you would spend on you and do things genuinely. My Burkinabe friend had this Burmese girlfriend cook for him, buys him clothes and iPhone accessories WITHOUT him asking. To date, he has not spent a yen on her. It was all genuine. If it didn't dey, it didn't dey. She even stayed in his apartment for a week before returning to where she studies.

Jeans601:
How much mr eazi won pay otedola as bride price.

We know the tribe that collect millions as bride price.

My tribe the father collect bride price and return it back immediately in front of everyone stating his daughter isn't for sale.

Wealthy men don't need there son- inlaw paying them bride price.

Since you know them, stay off their women and focus on those who don't accept or request bride price. That is how life is. Focus on what you can handle. BTW, how sure are you Eazi didn't pay bride price? Also, are you in the same class as Eazi?

Balablue64:
I was listening to the radio today, lagos talks 91.3 fm when 2 simps agreed that 1.5 million is okay

Why? Why would you throw away 1.5 million into a over used puzzy that will give you problems, pressure and can even end your life quickly if you don't use your sense.
Only a simp would waste 1.5 million for a Nigerian girl that is street property, even a charity organization would spend wisely.
A philanthropist would not throw away his 1.5 million naira , if cubana want to bless you he would put it on his Instagram so that other people can see it too and help thank the lord. Same with even otedollar, Davido, Press go carry am.
But a simp would use his 1.5 million to marry problem, marry a Nigerian girl with baggage into his house, that same lady you married with 1.5 million would be selling her towtow to highest bidder while in your house.
Simps are the worst set of human beings on earth and that's why guys like us needs to be protected at all cost and appreciated like national treasure because WISE GUYS ARE VERY SCARCE in this country.

I am not a fan of bride price, and I hope never to pay one. To those who pay, I wish them the best.

However, it bewilders me when I see people say if a philanthropist does this or that. Forget it, you are not one and CAN never be one. You don't have money, so why do you think you have the effrontery to dictate how much another person should spend his? What is the problem of you people that don't understand elementary economics?

Kini kon simps - one of the most abused words on the Nigerian Internetsphere.

babasolution:
The majority tribes who should be championing things like this are doing Suegbe Suegbe all over the place

Thanks for this. Certain cultures are more enterprising and daring (in a positive way) than others. So, should they collaborate, they will bring up a lot of solutions which will be useful for other groups within them. Since OP referenced my thread about racism, it means the solutions invented in Nigeria can be applied to Liberia or Suriname. At the end of the day, blacks benefit.

common roads,they have to bring a white skinned man to build it. A state with thousands of matured men,they will not feel an iota of shame that a white skinned man as to build road for them.

I have always wondered about the same. Is it that we don't or cannot grow a competent civil engineering manned by Nigerians or even blacks involved in construction? Is it that we cannot learn from others how they did theirs? If so, what exactly are they teaching in the civil engineering departments scattered across Nigeria? To be fair though, some of the projects are financed by foreign countries. So, part of the loan agreements is for their nationals to be involved, which is appropriate. He who pays the piper dictates the tune.

nearline:
I’ll start by saying this is not about politics. Yes the current state of the political atmosphere of the erned. And no this is also not about being able to export agricultural produce to other countries. That is, in my own opinion, still very mediocre. What I’m talking about here is that we as a country need to invest heavily in and make serious advances in scientific research and development, and local manufacturing (hi tech and low tech). Anyone with half a brain knows that this single fact is what allowed the white man to be above us blacks in nearly everything. The wealth of knowledge they have gathered over many decades of research is why they are able to develop a great diversity of products that they sell all over the world today and this is what has made them richer than Nigeria (Africa in general) today. Scientific research and development in any context does not have to mean you need to set up a And it may be as advanced as literal rocket science. Things as trivial as non-stick cooking pots and non-stick frying pans are products of advanced science research. Manufacturing can also be as simple as making tomato paste and others like that locally and shipping them abroad.

Cc: suk.kot, Gerrar.d59, Konq.uest, Tread.way

This post is partly inspired by Ger.rard59’s post linked below:
https://www.nairaland.com/5886610/racism-against-blacks-reduce-drastically

I am pleased someone found that thread worthy. If it were Twitter, I would have been lampooned because of kini kon. Thanks for the compliment.

To your concerns, the foundation for scientific development must be laid: basic mathematics, chemistry, physics and biology. Mathematics and physics need to be taken seriously, as those are the bedrock of scientific research. Chemistry and biology come in for medical treatments but are built upon the successes of mathematics and physics. For a start, we perform poorly at mathematics as we score poorly compared to the Chinese or Indians on the GRE Quant section. We even have lower verbal scores on the same test compared to the Chinese whose first language is not English. So, we have to start by ensuring the majority of the populace LOVE mathematics and logic. We have to inculcate a culture of questioning concepts no matter how sacred they might be. We have to grow a culture of curiosity in the populace. Curiosity and questioning, I believe, are necessary ingredients to kickstart basic research. Why? How? What? When? Who? These are questions people should be free to ask, and when no answers, they should press further for them or conduct research to know why there are no answers. In summary, people should be free to ask questions and get answers to them. No question is too sacred to be asked or institution to be questioned. We should do away with trust me bro, I no fit lie give you mentalities and sniffing statistics from the Bureau of Imaginary Statistics

Basic research, not applied, is the bedrock of scientific development, but it is a long term stuff. It is not something one does today and expect profits tomorrow. It is the reason Nobel laureates in the science category are judged based on works they did donkey years ago and in a few cases, some years ago as the recent winners in the Medicine or Physiology category because of COVID or Chemistry because of the speed CRISPR has grown and its applications. However, one of the reasons why basic research and its applied sister haven't been taken seriously is because we are at the nadir of the Maslow Hierarchy of Needs. People who have focused on the basic necessities of life would not be thinking of inventing or innovation. Na when person don chop belly full, him or her go begin think of discovering a cheaper or novel way of treating an ailment.

I watched a post by the BBC where traditional healers in the Southwest are paired with nurses and psychiatrists to treat or cure mental health issues. Sponsored by the World Bank, it is a good initiative as I have always questioned the efficacy of traditional healers. My argument is: that if they are so good at what they do, why are they not rich? Yes, if someone claims his or her solution is the best, they should commercialise it and become rich. Don't hide it. That is how the White man operates, ditto the East Asians. They use the proceeds of a discovery/invention/innovation to fund future research works. So, it is a never-ending journey. So, if the solution is good, then commercialise it. Make money out of it. If, because of financial constraints, it cannot be commercialised, publicise it so others fund the process and make money out of it. That was Artemisin was created by either Sanofi or Roche after the Chinese woman discovered the bark of the Artemisia tree could effectively treat malaria. The pharma company made money, and she won the Nobel prize in Medicine in 2015. So, anyone who tells you his or her solution to Problem ABC, tell that person to commercialise it or sell the methods to those who can. Any solution that works but cannot be commercialised is largely useless as it means it has no real-world application.

Watch making is another thing (one I personally have plans to go into in the future). The possibilities as you know are endless. So by exporting and generating revenue for business owners and Nigeria (if we put aside the political climate of the country) Nigeria (and other African countries if they follow suit) will be come so rich we will be respected by other countries.

Edit: I strategically set my eyes on watch making because everything required to make a quartz watch can be sourced locally in Nigeria.

This is a good idea. If your watches are so good and stylish, you can pair with a good marketer and both of you collaborate to sell them. That is how to make money, which is then used to fund the company and future expeditions. So, you could find one of those folks who markets and sells watches at good rates and make a business out of it. Capitalism is the reason the white man progresses ahead of others. Humans are greedy, so money is important. Don't allow anyone to tell you otherwise. Capitalism remains the only economic system that has pulled people out of poverty than any other economic system. I say this because I read one Nairalander questioning whether capitalism promotes prosperity, whereas ALL prosperous countries today practice capitalism. A good way of assessing whether a country is prosperous is by checking the eligible countries under the US Visa Waiver Program.

So yes, there are countless examples. One is cassava processing into many by-products. We produce more cassava than any country, ditto for yams. So, nothing stops us from applying the basic research by IITA or NRCRI (they have been good with basic research into certain cash crops) into producing enough products from cassava. Cassava is a supercrop as it has many uses and derivatives. Thailand is the world's biggest exporter of its by-products. Sometimes, I think we are not risk takers; if not, why should the biggest crop producer not be the biggest exporter of any of its by-products? IITA and NRCRI are good examples of basic research, and to answer your thread, research output from those institutions should be commercialised by risky entrepreneurs who will put their money to fund the production of by-products. In return, the business environment should be free of any price regulation. I say this because should I, for instance, go into massive production of HPCF or ethanol, fellow Nigerians would moan that the price of garri has ballooned and the government should regulate the price of garri or set-up a commodity pricing board to dictate the prices at which farmers sell their produce. I hate price control; the economy should be FREE! God bless Milton Friedman.

A way to leapfrog research is by learning from others who know it. At this point in human existence, I dare say there is no point in reinventing the wheel. For instance, there is a research institution in Kaduna that studies a certain class of crop and the national chairman of its growers said the best species is in Serbia. In that case, the government can invite those Serbians to teach those in Kaduna. In return, publicise the research results so that risky entrepreneurs go into the large production of the crop and harness its entire value chain to make money. Making money is EXTREMELY important in research o. So, meet someone who knows it, pay the person to teach you. Once grasped, go on your own and build on it. That is what the Chinese did. Just know that when you are progressing so fast and even faster than those who taught you, envy will come in. The reason the US is fighting China is because of the latter's massive advancement in semiconductors and other advanced forms of scientific research. https://www.nairaland.com/7801886/multipolarism-versus-hegemonism-great-power

Finally, thanks once again for referencing my thread as that is the ONLY way to reduce racism. So if any clown cries of racism while sitting his yansh in the abroad, tell the person to move to Africa to contribute to its economic development as that is the only way to solve the issue rather than protesting and chanting wE wAz kAuNgS or bLaCk LiVeS mAtTeR. Black lives matter ONLY when the lives of sub-Saharan Africans have been improved tremendously and that work can only be done by black people. No one is coming to help us develop our environment.

Twice.

One in secondary school. I and a group of my classmates went to a sit out opposite a bank across the road. I followed them because of peer reasons as the school stated that those who didn't pay their terminal sporting fees will not be allowed into the school. Meanwhile, I paid mine, but stoopidly followed these boys. Few minutes while seated there, a dude came to tell us that we're seating in a place where bad boys congregate and we should leave immediately. None of us took it seriously, but looking back, I think the majority of the boys got mentally prepared, which I didn't as I wasn't used to running because of an emergency.

Few minutes later, a group of policemen surrounded us pointing guns at us. In split seconds, everyone ran away at various angles. The main capon - one who led us - had his shirt grabbed by a policeman, only for him to use his fist to forcefully hit the policeman's hands off his shirt. I and one other lad were apprehended. I couldn't run as I saw that gun pointed at me. I just freezed!

They took us in their van and drove round the area, first to a petrol station where they bought fuel and we saw someone who recognised our uniforms and begged him to inform the school. While inside the hilux van, they told us to sing popular songs then, especially the ones by artists from the state. The other lad couldn't sing it well, but I sang mine with tears running down my cheeks so well my fellow classmate started laughing. I put in my best as the policemen stated that anyone who sings so well will get released. I believed them, foolishly anyway. Later, we were informed we would be taken to the station but before then, they'd branch somewhere to drink. Taken to the police station, that statement made me shed tears as my mom warned I and siblings never to get into trouble with the police as she doesn't like them. So, if anyone gets into trouble with the police, that person is On Your Own (OYO). It means I would have to contact my dad, but he was out of town. Well, we got to the drinking spot and luckily, the folks who managed the place were the kinsmen of the other lad. They spoke to him in the local dialect and further discussed with the policemen. Obviously, to know why he got arrested. Few minutes later, they told me to go home as everything was OK. I was so relieved!!!!!! Till date, my secondary schoolmates use that experience to taunt me. I still thank the other lad for his kinsmen assistance.

Second was when police men barged into our house stating that a hotel of us (we live close to it) harboured an underage girl, which was entirely untrue as we had a policy never to lodge an adult man with an underage girl no matter who he was or how much he offered. My dad wasn't around, so they arrested or better still kidnapped my mom. Before then, a gun was pointed at me when I came into the house to rectify something. I freezed! I wept as my mom got kidnapped as I couldn't do anything. My siblings who were sleeping woke up later to hear the tale. I had to go to the station to bail her out with 50K. Terrible experience.

Till today, two things are dread are dogs and the sight of a Nigerian policeman with a gun.