₦airaland Forum

arantess:
Calm down...
They push some of them too, especially if they try resisting

The last thing you should do as a Nigerian when outside the country is resist arrest. Don't try it.

@TOPIC: These boys don spoil the name of Nigeria for that side. Singapore dealt with this early by cancelling via free status for Nigeria in 2006/7 and tightening the visa process. Expect scrutiny if you go to Malaysia and present yourself as a Nigerian. Present a Nigerian passport and

PrinceofSarcasm:
You want to marry her because she is a citizen. That's the main motivation for you ...

S[b]o just know it won't be a marriage because this is purely transactional so don't go in their with warped expectations.[/b]

Don't go there looking for love because she is just desperate to have a family while you want documents

So don't call this what it is not. This is an arrangement

Modern marriages are transactional. Na why everybody dey marry their class. Why did she not go to Nigeria in search of a husband? You think she would have given OP face if he was in Nigeria shining teeth with Tinubu?

Smile4mee01:
I'm a single 39yr old Nigeria guy in diaspora trying to settle down and going to Nigeria to marry is not an option.

I'm an introvert who has been through some childhood trauma in my family and really fear marriage because of what I have seen and how bad it can be sometimes.

1. Fertility : I desire children. However, can she have me healthy children @ 39. How many can she have? I discussed us trying for a child , she appears to want a.marriage first. But what gurantees do I have to have children.

Should I be concerned? I dont want to enter one chance.

Please I use God beg you, no insults just advice. Abeg. God bless you.

I understand her desire for marriage and also yours for children. You both have to come out clear and be honest to unaselves on wetin una want. Does she desire children as much as you do? How many children does she desire to have, all things being equal? You sef, how many children you for like get? The age is not really the problem as it is possible to have children, just begin the copulation process immediately. There has been a rise in late marriages due to several factors, not limited to the state of the economy, advancement in education, building a career etc. So, late marriages are becoming the norm, especially for migrants who relocated in their adult years as singles. 4

But I am curious, why is going back to Nigeria for a wife not an option? You could get youngies there, you know. _{Abi na the Canadian passport you dey eye?}

EbonyCy:
The desperation of getting jobs has made some person's accept as low as $8 as salaries per hour. And sometimes when those in Vietnam try to discourage others from coming,they feel is coming from a place of hatred...No...it isn't, Moroccans, Algerians, Egyptians are bin paid higher cos of the skin color factor. You would reject a job cos of the low salary but a fellow black skinned will accept it wholeheartedly cos he needs to survive and obviously there are no jobs. Companies are gradually reducing their pay,if u complain they'll ask you to quit if u aren't okay with it cos there are people readily available to do it.

I am surprised to read those Arabs are in Vietnam. Which kind dem dey do for there? Are they with their families as well?

tensazangetsu20:
To be honest I will never encourage a married man to leave Nigeria. Probably plan to have kids in countries that can give you citizenship. Carrying your whole family on student visa is a very stupid decision even if you get a scholarship. Most scholarship funds are only enough to take care of one person alone and not a family of 4 to 5 people.

So wetin the married men who are students from most developing countries with wives and children in Japan go do? When I see them, I am intrigued because as I dey like this, if woman join me, let alone with children, I am finished!

lordnkem000:
I never told you I was complaining or lacking sex, I'm just being neutral and unbias about the situation,

Well, sex has never been free. Almost every man pays for sex at a point.

it wasn't like this before.

Poverty. The rise in poverty leads to social breakdown, with women resorting to sex work and men to criminality.

The risein hookup is alarming and many girls are getting so lazy to work.

Blame men who patronise them. No demand, no supply. The men who pay these girls like this thread have preek like you and me. You don't want hookup to continue? Stop paying these ladies, and the industry would crumble.

Imagine getting paid 40k for one night, times it by 30days bro. Na wa

You appear envious, which is fair enough. Many young men, even here on Nairaland, have confessed how they would have gone into hookup if they were females. That said, no sex worker has sex every day for one month straight. Sex work is real work o. It is energy-sapping, mentally draining and can be physically scathing. The body, mind and soul have to recover after a night's work. Also, basic women's biology of menstruation prevents a one-month straight sex work. Mind you, this 40K is not possible daily for the reasons I listed. As a result, business-minded sex workers (sex work is a business) stick to few clients who pay 40K for a night rather than have many clients who pay 20K.

It is better to have three steady clients who pay 40K. If each patronises thrice per month, that is 120K. When she adds it to what she makes from a regular job, that could be almost 200K. Now, if all the clients patronise her twice per month, that is 240K per month. Please note that for this to continue realistically, she has to be in either Lagos, Abuja and maybe, just maybe, Port-harcourt. Benin is another close contender. Outside these places, it is not common to be paid 40K for a night, and it is not reoccurring. The rare cases come from moneybags who visit that state, a sporting/political/business/musical activity which attracts outsiders.

lordnkem000:
If by handsome you mean rich then I am not, but if it's physical beauty then i am game handsome, very handsome

It is men who are actually rich that pay for sex without complaining. Anyone who complains about paid sex, in my opinion, does not have money. If you are physically handsome, you should be getting enough sex and stop lamenting whether women enjoy it or not. My classmate in Lagos gets sex for free (not hookup) every weekend. He is even tired. He does not pay a kobo. In fact, he turns down girls who offer sex for a fee..

Raalsalghul:
These are the kind of nonsense I am sorry to say you see black people (especially daft headed Nigerians) arguing about.

I see three unintelligent people in that gathering: the construction guy for not being able to empathize, the health care assistant guy allowing himself to be drawn into such an argument when the best line of action would be to ignore and lastly you for bringing such question here.

My reply is harsh and maybe unnecessary but it's the truth.

What would they now say should a software engineer who works for Google is in their midst?

But that aside, what do you recommend in such discussions, because in reality, one cannot run away from it?

lordnkem000:
Are we supposed to be paying? No be the same enjoyment? Men na problem to men

https://www.nairaland.com/7684230/how-reduce-hook-ups-nigeria

I already explained it here; the existence of testosterone makes me demand for sex more than women. That fuels a demand, and since women are the only providers, economics takes over. There is nothing like free sex o. Only handsome men have the chances of getting sex for free, and I am sure you are not handsome, and neither am I.

cc: Gainman

BRATISLAVA:
Even if he has one child he will still be poor.

Children are not the cause of poverty.

Jesus Christ!

No one is saying children are the cause of poverty. But having plenty of children increases the likelihood of being in poverty. That is a phenomenon from Norway to Namibia and Colombia to Cambodia. The more children a family has, the greater the likelihood of being plunged into multidimensional poverty, especially in the world's poverty capital!

This is a universal fact!

Lifeinlight:
having many children in Nigeria is equal to POVERTY

It is a global phenomenon. In almost every country, the majority of poor people have plenty of children. I watched an episode about a poor family in Switzerland, a mother with four children. Switzerland is one of the world's wealthiest places, where the average number of children is 2. In Japan, most middle class families have two children or just a child. The same applies to Singapore and Big Daddy China. Now, we have someone who comes from a family with FIVE CHILDREN, and someone is lying that the number of children has nothing to do with poverty?

Why do people lie so brazenly on the Internet for crying out loud?!!

BRATISLAVA:
Not all homeless people have mental health issues. There are a lot of single, childless people living in multidimensional poverty. Having many children doesn't determine anything.

There are also a lot of people with many children who are middle class and above.

LIES! All over the world, there is a straightforward line between having lots of children and an increased likelihood of poverty. It is dishonest of you to peddle the idea that many children don't lead to increased penury.

So dishonest!

BRATISLAVA:
Why do you people like to act as if having many children is the cause of people who have (financial) problems in life?

What about the people with many children who don't have that problem? Having fewer children is not the solution to lifes problems, so please, stop looking down on and bashing such people.

There are homeless people who have never been married and have no children, living rough on the streets. Which "5 children" do you blame for that happening?

That is entirely untrue. In anywhere in the world, everyone has one problem or the other. But the moment children, let alone FIVE CHILDREN, are added to the mix, the problem has metamorphosed into something else. There are homeless people who don't have children or are unmarried. Do you know what will be their fate once they have children?

JaskTime7:
Yes. It does align with my degree. I guess GRE is required.

Get a teaching job. Find good schools which pay above 70K to teach. Save money from there and plan your way. Seek and pray for helpers who will assist you with paying one or two fees along the way. That is what I did for a schoolmate who had a first class in Chemical Engineering, and is today in Canada. I paid his WES fees.

JaskTime7:
my GPA is 4.39/5.0. I studied Geography and regional planning

A good CGPA. I wish I could assist, but I never reach that level yet. My hope is that you see a helper, especially if you have someone abroad who is somehow related to you.

P.S. Don't marry or have children until you are financially stable. Don't let anyone deceive you that marriage or children brings blessings. You and your family are witness to how mendacious that belief is.

ThirdWorldThug:
He is lying. There's nowhere in Nigeria that an unattractive bunch of banana like the one in his picture sells for 3500, talk more of a rainforest, banana belt like Port Harcourt.

True. The OP lied. Bananas cannot be so expensive in a rainforest zone.

vintiz:
Most likely everything you’ve heard about this place recently has been a lie. If a Nigerian is offering you visa and promising you work when you arrive it’s a scam. Stop wasting your money and empowering some wicked Nigerians here by paying them $3k+ for a visa that cost less than $50 and then to have to return back to Nigeria 3 months later. Sad truth is that you’ll not even make any money in the 3 months you’re here. There’re no factory jobs. The only job for you here is teaching. Every other thing is a scam. (I don’t care about the proof your agent has provided you)
Everything has casted since the introduction of the 3 months visa. If you like come here on a visit visa you’ll still pack your bag after 3 months and go back. Whoever wants to hear should hear. Also, the teaching job is becoming a scam now. How do you compete with a teacher from the uk or from the USA. They don’t even need much, they can survive on the 3 months visa and keep doing visa runs via bus to neighboring countries. Where can you go as a Nigerian??

If you like come as student, your case is even worse. After paying agent, you go still pay school fees and you won’t even see work. If you like hear. If you like give away your money anyhow.

The person who even made this thread has left the country and japa. This place is NOT friendly to blacks. But then no where really is.

Vietnamese wey full Japan like wetin. One would wonder if they are fleeing the country. Although, the country's economy is growing with factories and all, I would not recommend it to a black African to move to. Asian countries worth relocating as black Africans are: Japan, China, South Korea, and Singapore. Anything aside, better be a successful or fast-growing business person looking for contracts or partnerships and/or have another passport other than the Nigerian one.

The fellow who mentioned Taiwan should know that the authorities there don't fancy Nigerian passport holders because we align with Mainland China.

1stGenAmerican:
People fall for deception and refuse to hear the truth. A group of Nigerians were told that the Southern Border was open and a smuggler took their money and gave them instructions on what to do. These guys told border patrol that they were Venezuelan because the smuggler told them that would give them entry. The border patrol agents switched from English to Spanish and handed them forms written and with instructions in Spanish—within a few minutes, their jig was up. They’ll be on a deportation flight with two Nigerians who claimed Cameroonian but could not respond to the interpreter’s questions during their asylum hearings because neither understood French.; D Even if those schemes worked, biometrics would’ve soon caught up with them.
Don’t worry, others will still fall for the shortcuts, give smugglers all their money, and wind up right back where they started from.

Guyana or Suriname would have been better. Illegal migration no good. I rather dey inside Ikot Ekpene dey till cassava.

obaidan:
looool. if she can adjust a bit. There are premium men out there. Maybe not as popular as she would want but there are premium men that would gladly have her. Well it may look a bit transactional but it is what it is. Why are u bothered about her body count actually, shey u get meter wey u dey use measure am ni. Even if we want to go by all the people wey she dun date wey we know, e never still pass 3 or 4. Lots of these other ones posing as good, church girls get 4 inside the same church.

Most of such men don't like public attention, especially when not related to what they do. She comes across as a very garrulous person.

lordnkem000:
That's the problem o, it made them have this entitlement mentality that men must pay

Men have always paid for sex na. I don't know why you people believe that sex is free.

Tallesty1:
40k for sex in a country where the minimum wage is 30k is madness.

It is not. She travelled between two states. If it were in Calabar, it would have been lower. Anyway, it tells you that there is an overwhelming demand for sex by Nigerian men, and they pay for it.

When the men in your family have failed you, this is the end result.

Kelechi009:
On a general note, when people ask for facts in any argument, they usually don't concede even when you present them the facts and most times they already know about the fact you presented. They are just not happy with the piece of information. Most arguments aren't based on lack of knowledge, they are based on disagreement of opinions so they just look for any thing to support their opinion even if they are wrong. I learnt this while debating an Atheist who said the Bible was a myth & I presented some fact about the early Bible manuscripts. Lo and behold, he already knew about all the manuscripts & was just poking me

For Nigerians, I beg to disagree. It is a total lack of knowledge. First class ignorance and elite arrogance. Havent you seen/read the way they issue out figures and percentages anyhow? 80% this, 90BN that.

Kokorokomanaoga:
wahala!!!
The only advantage my roomie had is, from primary school he already knew he would study civil engineering too due to his dad's influence so he strictly followed that part that as a secondary school student he had already read almost all the materials he needed from ND1 Till HND.
As a secondary school student his dad was already homeschooling him, giving him materials, in fact all the materials are surplus at home, from text books to drawing materials, measurement materials etc.

His dad even bought a desktop computer for him and his elder bro's to learn chart drawing and all those civil engineering drawings.
As a sec schooo student he could map and draw better than most HND students graduates.

Dude got admitted to auchi polytechnic and came out with distinction without breaking a sweat, dude normally tells me every class is just like a revision to him.

It is why I called him a retard!

It is a global phenomenon for children whose parents are academics or even primary school teachers to perform excellently in academics. Most Harvard professors had parents who were also professors. Even Nobel laureates, their children later become academics and some even win prizes. See Milton Friedman. There is nothing wrong with it. Even cancelling out nature because of genetics, nurture because of environment confers that advantage to such children.

The retard has been lamenting that David's dad influenced his grades. But ask him if David's dad also influenced the 5.0 grad from Systems Engineering? Did David's father, a professor of Civil Engineering, teach Ayodele Dada, a 5.0 graduate of Psychology? What course did the girl who had 5.0 in Cell Biology learn from David's dad?

See why I said he is a retard?!

Nauttyprof:
So, if his dream is to join Unilag, he shouldn't because of his father? Should also risk his safety because of his father?

Also, remember that there are courses he did outside his department too. Will you say his father also influenced them too?

Don't mind that retard!

I am sure he thinks Ayodele Dada cheated as well in school and even bribed his way into Stanford. There is a growing number of 5.0 graduates, with Unilag having the most numbers - 4. Covenant University has I think 2, and when her sister university Landmark is included, that makes it three.

alfarouq:
congrats Engr. All the best in your future endeavors.

By the way OP, you did not mention about his Jamb score. I am interested because there is a debate we once heard about people that score the highest in Jamb are definitely brilliant but there are candidates' more brilliants than them who did not emerge as highest jamb scorer. I have observed with most best graduating students, while their Jamb scores are usually great, they do better overall CGPA than some people that usually have higher Jamb scores than them.

You mean this thread: https://www.nairaland.com/7763389/top-jamb-scorers-where-today ?

David, just like Ayodele Dada, entered Unilag in 200L. With this, they avoided general courses, which could have hurt their grades trajectories. However, two other graduates from Unilag from Systems Engineering and Cell Biology respectively also had the same grade. The question would be to know if these two persons entered via JAMB. Another missing aspect is David's WASSCE grades. It is important to know that as well. Did he have the most As?

blowjohn:
Abadina college also won best in Waec
One school like that in Moniya also won.

I finished in 2002 after then all the teachers were sacked and stuffs like that.

So am still happy someone frm my alma mater is making waves

Why were the teachers sacked? And what happened to them afterwards? Where did the teachers end up?

easytig:
His dad na prof for engineering dept, definitely he was aided to his first class by his dad's fellow lecturers.they will want to be careful when marking his script .
If his dad was not a professor he won't smell 5.0 gpa.
Those vultures will mark him down ,if you know you know.

Why did they not mark Ayodele Dada down as well? What about the boy from Systems Engineering and girl from Cell Biology who had the same grade?

spiSeyi:
If it will give a good job it is worth it else Agbero might live better than him. CGPA doesn't make sense in the Nigeria labor market nah God's grace + man know man + ability to solve real-life problems, and Nigeria universities don't equip anyone with modern skills all is to read & pass and then get 1st class

A management consultant at any of the MBBs is an elite job anywhere in the world. McKinsey receives more job applications than Google. It is the holy grail of paid employment. This guy works for a direct competitor and I can recall Ayodele Dada, the first 5.0 grad, was invited to the opening ceremony when BCG opened its Nigerian office.

CSTRR:
He had a lot of undue advantage.
That's a fact, that even he himself would not deny if he is honest.

No parent would not want to give their children an advantage, if it is within their power.

It's not even very ethical for him to gain admission in the same department where his father is a professor but that's a question for saner climes.

That's my own valedictorian.

Go and tell that to Boston Consulting Group.

Bloody retard!

CSTRR:
I am not saying he is not naturally brilliant.

But his father being a professor and his lecturer in the same department would have played a huge part in his CGPA, especially in this corruption ridden Nigeria.

He may not even have gotten a first class in a different university.

Total nonsense!

He graduated from a top secondary school, did foundation courses in Unilag and aced all his courses brilliantly! I ask again, was the father a lecturer to other 5.0 CGPA grads from the same university? Recently, Deborah from Landmark University graduated with the same 5.0 CGPA in Mechanical Engineering. Did David's father teach her too?

Most of you people talk stoopidly and foolishly. This guy performed excellently across all levels and currently works in an elite firm. Does his father work at Boston Consulting Group?

CSTRR:
His father is a professor in the same department where he got 5.0 and lectured him in four of his Courses.

It's alright. I laugh in man know man.

Was the father also influential in him acing his other courses? Did the father also teach Ayodele Dada who was the first 5.0 grad from the same Unilag? Was the father a lecturer to the Law grad from LASU with the same grade? What about the girl from Cell Biology who had a similar grade?

Children whose parents are/were professors or even teachers tend to pick up traits (nature vs nuture) while growing up. As a result, they perform excellently in school. David is just the norm, not the exception. In fact, most top grads from elite universities in the US had/have academics as parents.

omoredia:
All ur first class is only good enough for japa and that's it.

Please Google what Boston Consulting Group is. The BCG here is not for Bacillus Calmette–Guérin vaccine o