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Confusedgirlie:
Before I left Canada for Nigeria in 2020, I had heard severally that it was very lonely there for Nigerian immigrants. I didn't quite understand what people meant exactly when they said this. However, over time I now have a very good understanding of this particular challenge with migration. Here are some of the things I've learnt on the way. But first, a little background about me.

I'm an introvert and I like my introversion. It gives me a lot of time to think and to be in my own space which I enjoy a lot. I read, write and love to watch documentaries. Those are the three most important things to me in life. When I lived in Nigeria, I lived a mostly secluded life that didn't have a lot of people in it. Regardless, it wasn't boring to me. I went out when I wanted to and took my time for my own activities.

Since being in Canada, my observations have been that it is a lot lonelier here. The reasons are very obvious: there are not a lot of people around me from a culture I'm familiar with (Nigeria), so it's definitely a lot more difficult to interact with others. .

Nevertheless, there are steps I'm planning to take to change a few things. I am now taking more opportunities to actually go out and buy things even if I don't have to, e.g groceries, clothes, etc. Secondly, I say hello first to strangers and neighbours and get to ask them a few questions. This I wouldn't have done on the first place. Finally, I downloaded a social media application called clubhouse and have been making new friends in my area using this. As a cautious person, I'm taking baby steps here and not jumping straight into friendships I may not like.

Overall, what do I think of being in Canada as an introvert? I enjoy it. My life and choices are a lot better and I find that I have the time to do much more than I was doing back in Nigeria, not hampered by lack of power or resources.

. It's just because you need to dig deep and find yourself in a new country where family is absent and culture is unfamiliar.

pansophist:
Just make him look good outside, and feel good inside. Like a pot of soup, you have to get a lot of ingredients to make that single pot of soup. The ingredients to make a man look good can be summarised in three words, such as being fit, feminine, and friendly, or the three F's.

When I see lots of spinsters in need of a suitor, one thing many suffer from is being overweight. In a man's head, an overweight woman will never click as his ideal partner, the same way a poor man will never register in a woman's head as an ideal man, except in circumstances where they have been dating for a long, and she became overweight over time, for example.

Be feminine. One thing about femininity is that it's very fragile, and if a woman has been exposed to hardship (eg no parents and brothers to secure her), femininity may be lost for life. It is sad to see women that interpret having traits such as being disagreeable, combative, and argumentative as good traits. The kind of strong man you want will never tolerate such, and the weak men in your friend zone tolerating such treatment just gave you a wrong idea of men.



I personally think that it is unfair to a man for him to be with a woman that has enjoyed her prime being polygamous, sleeps with as many men as possible, collects money from her collections of friendzone brothers, and wants to settle for a good man that worked his way up and expect him to be monogamous to you alone. Argue all you want, it is unfair to him. If you want monogamy, you should be that when you were at your best look, that's the ultimate test. You cant fork your way through life and expect men not to exercise such options when he finally worked his way up to be attractive to most women.

Jovialjune1:
Personality disorder is real, the ability to shift goal post at will, depending on where the wind blows per week, is a constant reoccurance for them boys here

All of a sudden, baby mamaism isn't the IN thing anymore to nl resident males, I thought y'all said it is better to have kids outside marriage than marrying Nigerian ladies?

What happened to "Marriage doesn't benefit men only women" regular banter on here? I guess sensibility chooses when it will manifest once in a blue moon, before going back to default daftness and senselessness that is rampant for y'all

Bleh......

LordAdam16:
Because that "Angel" does not stand a chance.

Total number of PVCs in Kano, Katsina, and Kaduna is more than 10m. I don't know if you guys can't do arithmetic or don't have access to calculators.

There is NO path to victory for Obi. NONE.

Let me tell you this, if Tinubu wins, it will be because of Obi. And I will not join Obidients to complain about Tinubu's administration. Personally, I've accepted Tinubu's victory.

You cannot cook with firewood and complain about smoke. Play stupid games, win stupid prizes. A bird in hand is worth two in the bush. Secure Atiku's mandate. In 2031, it'll be Osinbajo v Obi. That will be 16 good years of exceptional leadership.

-Lord

codemaniacs:
rich people were once poor people or middle class people but they created a product that was popular and making sales so they made money.

to create a product they needed to get education or university degree, then work experience, then get a loan or investors to sponsor them then they started their own small companies which later grows to become a big company

Kobonaire4 has explained everything but your hate for rich people is blocking your brain...

Hunchogee:
Yes oo That will add to this to make Akwa ibom an industrial home ..
BUA is in stub creek island forest in Ibeno eastern island territory

CaveAdullam:
You don't like the tune ANALLORD used in describing his post, however, he's right, and same as you.

1. It's true that women's sexual side is hidden, as they will only reveal it to men who aren't judgemental of their slutty side and able to satiate their sexual fantasy. Women might claim independence outside, but they always surrender in the bedroom. For women, a man that's able to dominate them sexually can be likened to a man who is a great warrior. Both possess strength women always fall in love with.

2. Now, you must understand that men have a higher testosterone volume than women. And testosterone hormone is responsible for libido. (Though, as observed by scientists, testosterone level for men is seriously declining).

Also take note that, other hormones like progesterone, oxytocin also play alongside women's testosterone thereby making them less interested in sex than men. Unlike women, men run on only the testosterone sex hormone 24/7. Only as men grow old their testosterone volume declines.

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Unlike women, men aren't picky, the reason they always date down plus can fvck any woman provided she got a pvssy. This difference is as a result of different testosterone volume. Men want to fvck and go while women want to fvck and stay. (However, monogamy still remains human primary mating strategy).

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Men can ejaculate as many times in a day when it comes to reproducing and that's all. But once a woman gets pregnant she becomes vulnerable. This fact is also a reason women evolved to be less sexual than men.

7. Judging from the indecency of women via social media usage you will think women are more sexual than men, but no! What you must also look at: Who are these women customers? What's their number? Men is the correct answer.

8. Men experience more sexual fantasy than women. Men are more promiscuous than women. Men are more willing to get laid on a first date. Men dream about sex more than women. Men are the highest consumer of pornography.

The aforementioned boils down to testosterone hormone.

Thanks.

Niceguy06:
Basically, everything is fucking cheap in Nigeria relative to other countries, especially the western countries I have been to. The rent I used to pay in the US for a month will literally buy two acres of land in Lagos, and the amount I spend on food when I went to the US is enough to last me for the whole year in Nigeria if I spend extravagantly. This is what I noticed over time. Is it because wages and salary are not that great in Nigeria or there are other reasons to This?

Niceguy06:
Cheaper than at least 80% of all the countries of the world combined. The only problem I have with Nigeria is insecurities, otherwise, Nigeria is good, at least to me and my family

Niceguy06:
Can you see how confused you are? Is the price of food, housing, gas, bills the same for both countries? Seriously, Nigerians have it way too easy, since everything is free. Education; free. Food; cheap. That's why her youth don't know how to give thanks. Had it been we have it rough like most countries, you'll know whatsup

Niceguy06:
Not necessarily. I have a Ghanaian friend wey we suppose hustle H1B together that year, dude told me he ain't interested no more and left to take a job with an insurance company in Rwanda. I left the west few years after, too. Too much of hidden bureaucracies. H1B has turn to game, and they use it to control us, especially when they know you have no other options than to stay and succumb to crumbs. I didn't regret leaving. It's been 5yrs and it can only get better. I give thanks to God

spiceadole:
Nudity sells



Nudity is seen as classy.

Men like ladies who expose sensitive body parts.

That's why no groom has ever complained about his bride's unclothedness

Niceguy06:
Just cuz H1B is your only dream and ambition in life, and success doesn't mean it's the same for everyone. I've seen and spoken with individuals who just desire to make money while working in the US for few years and just get the fuvk out. They said they can't withstand staying donkey years feeling not among just because of H1B. These categories spend some thousands dollars getting a degree, and quickly convert to a job. Get their ROI, and get out

While living and dying in the west is what ah average Nigerian dream for since time immemorial due to the way we've been conditioned to be a pavlovian dog to anything West, some people don't actually care, they just want to reap the money and keep it moving

1stGenAmerican:
No, it doesn’t. It’s even worse for people like the guy who was laid off while out of the country. Those people are denied re-entry until they apply for and get approved for another visa.
The companies that are doing the layoffs are ruthless about reporting everything to USICS immediately so that visas they sponsored can be cancelled right on the 61st day if the employee hasn’t found work because they don’t want to be responsible for the employee staying behind, risk their ability to hire foreign workers in the future.

ednut1:
Worried about her dog I can never understand the obsession with dogs for these people. I see posts like that on LinkedIn regularly when they lose their jobs and have to find another in 60 days. The usa immigration is very brutal, thats why many resort to marriage whether real or fake

In some cases, laid-off tech workers find themselves in an uneasy limbo, as in the case of Neuman Vong, who until December worked for Twitter on a temporary work visa available to Australian nationals. Mr. Vong was on vacation in Malaysia when he learned he was laid off.
To avoid complications, he has been staying in his home country of Australia. His neighbor in Los Angeles has been taking his car for occasional drives so the battery won’t die. Another friend is watering his plants. His apartment sits empty.
As a worker on a temporary visa, he says he has felt a constant pressure to hustle and prove his worth.
“I’ve been fighting so hard to stay in the U.S. for the last decade,” says Mr. Vong, who has lived in California for most of that time: “California is my home; all my friends are there.”

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Dripty:
All of you saying here saying other wise, you guys are completely ignorant, and I will not engage with your ignorance, you mean something I witnessed with my own eyes is a lie?!

Note that some departments are singled out for failure while others aren't, this is done on purpose. I'm 100% sure of this. And some students have already started paying to pass this same course. What a shame!

pansophist:
Are Nigerians with western citizenship coming to Nigeria to pick a wife sexual exploitation and manipulation?

Why did you also underestimated these women in underdeveloped countries as idiots who can't think for themselves? You probably know little about non-western women.

Are Nigerian women docile and easily exploited? Or is Nigeria not an underdeveloped country again? If a wealthy man marry a poor woman, is he exploiting her?

Was men marrying low not how marriage have been from the beginning of time? Why is this one (going abroad to find a wife) surprising?

This is exactly what I discussed with you two days ago. The tendency for women to judge and interprete men's behavior with the most negative angle.

Nigerian women in the West also go back home to pick a husband. Are they exploiting these men? Ned Nwoko, a billionaire married broke Regina, is he exploiting her?

Is this not the dream of every woman to marry a man above her in social status? So how can this natural dynamics be interpreted as exploitation nitori olorun?

For the passport bros trends to stop, then the society have to be repaired to accommodate men interest, because at the end, everyone suffers.

You don't attack this men trying to protect themselves by insulting them, but Repairing the laws, social problems and reason why they are leaving. Responsibility is needed here.

Na by force to marry a masculine feminist? Na wa o. Lol

SIRTee15:
Europe has lost it and they going down. This proud and arrogant civilization thought they achieved it all by their own strength. They will be shocked!
Any river that abandon its source will dry up.

Europe was nothing before they embraced christ- they were barbaric pagan worshippers with backward civilization. They will become nothing again now they abandoning Christ.

Already Islam is the fastest growing religion in that region. And will know what happens to 'infidels' when Islam becomes the majority religion.

IbeOkehie:
The most important motivations for human beings is genetic relationships...family, tribe, race and ethnicity. You can clearly see that in polygamous families in Nigeria.

ALL the examples you cited above with Trump in USA, Ardern in Zew Zealand, Truss in UK and all others, were motivated by RACE and ethnicity. Anyone can go research the details of those governments and figure it out.

Nigerians should give this matter some deep thought. The best countries in terms of HDI are small AND homogeneous OR have a generally accepted DOMINANT tribe/ethnicity, with democratic, free market capitalist systems. Think Norway, Sweden, Switzerland. In terms of big countries think Japan, China, USA. Humans simply PREFER to be governed by their own kind. There's NOTHING strange about that.

Where a country must remain diverse for whatever reasons, that makes it even more important to adopt a free market, capitalist system so there's less chance of government being involved in so many things and being accused of bias

Have a good day.

onatisi:
people no longer care who wike works for, Nigeria politics has gone beyond that now, he had the opportunity to make an impact and to declare his stand but he is a coward and didn't have the balls to do that. If he likes he can even work for Joe Biden or Donald trump, no one cares again, Nigerians are now more focused on better and more important issues. EVEN TINUBU WILL BE SO STUPID TO TAKE WIke SERIOUSLY AT THIS STGE , THAT MAN IS HIGHLY UNSTABLE

wike that can wake up tomorrow again and say that he is now supporting Atiku or peter obi and that he never mentioned any candidate's name, he can even tell you that he never said he will never work for Atiku and that after all Atiku is part of PDP!!
wike is highly unstable

Tired2022:
I'm not catching cruise...I have tried by cutting wasteful lifestyle...in fact I stopped womanising and drinking.

But the reality is I want my kids to go to the best schools and live in a decent environment.

In Abuja here, a decent 2 bedroom is 1.5-2 million. With my 500k per month, it will be very foolish to live in such apartments.

So, I have to do everything possible to double or triple my income to live in such environment.

The fact is that a 500k income in today’s Nigeria is very meagre.

Elock1:
My point is this; it's social media and anything goes,pple say things to chase clout or find engagements. we should nt always be emotional about such frivolities. People engaging her just played into her motives

pansophist:
In every area of society, your past matters, but somehow, women wants to change the game where it suits them.

Want to get a loan? or be promoted in your job? , how about assuming a political office, or even applied for upper level degree, your past qualifications and financial behavior matters.

Elock1:
Alot of Nigerians are bitter and seriously need help.
Any sane person knows she is just catching cruise but trust Nigerians to rain their frustration on the poor lady.

NOETHNICITY:
Plus fake nails and fake flat stomach. I encountered a girl who seemed to be within my specification of flat stomach, only for her to remove her clothes and behold there is one tight fitting gear they call girdle that she had on. The moment she removed it the whole stomach just spread out yaaaaaaa. And I was like I had been scammed.
Those class of ladies really disgust me. I wonder how men get along with them