From my wife

Giving your man an ultimatum is a dumb move.

If it were me, I'll let you do your worst.

As a wise woman, you're supposed to try to see things from his angle, then plead with him, not an ultimatum.

Ogalanyaidi:



Thanks for your response. I just got married and I don't want a divorce.
Agreed, she is extremely intelligent and I can't really predict her intentions. How did I know?
I play card games well but she would always beat me to any game we played together, even card games. She thinks very deep and it marvels me.

Clown

She's going to fry you with evidence.

Take it from one bro abroad to another, leave that marriage bro.

bigpicture001:


Ok.. but why didn't he hand the bizness to his wife.. thier mother

Don't u think the achievement he listed is too much..? People change na.. what if he hasn't achieve them and his sister got married.. so her husband would be controlling their bizness..?

Because mothers easily spoil their sons.

The mum was probably a contributor to the boy's way of life

Babara1994:
There is this lady I liked. We met three months ago. Recently, she asked me to lend her 5k, adding that the money will be returned back in a week's time.

I had the money, but I knew from experience that lending females money, especially the ones you're crushing on is a waste of money. I declined and told her I wasn't interested in her any longer.

4 hours later, one of my male friends asked me to lend him 10k, stating that he would repay in two weeks' time. I sent him the money immediately.

Did I do wrong?

Always give the benefit of doubt brother.

GeorgeTheCoder:


Religion is too valuable a tool for subjugating the minds of men. The gatekeepers will find a way to keep the illusion going.

That is why they've hired religious scholars

GeorgeTheCoder:


You are so indoctrinated that you miss the point. When aliens are eventually discovered revealed, it will prove that religion is a lie and that will cause global confusion. Aliens are real, you only need to research a little to know this.

I wonder why they don't understand this.

Alien discovery will invalidate religion.

Lol

Send her away.

Greystone:
OP, the true wife materials don't fall prey to yahoo boys.

Most times, the problem with the victims is Greed.

Every girl has a price. You'll know when you make an offer.

Without these monies, some families would have starved to death.

If you now add the ones sent through btc, it will be double the amount.

chyckxx:
every sane person knew this.

You over estimate nigerians.

Baawaa:

Ask nnamdi

There are more yoruba guys marrying igbo girls than igbo boys marrying yoruba girls.

You should have focused on the fraud instead of talking trash

Damilolly:
Ladies, date widely, very widely with respect to race!

Withhold physical intimacy until you have what you want; if it's marriage then wait till then. Don't give marriage benefits outside of marriage. No cooking for him either. If he can't happily date you without physical intimacy or you feeding him then he's not likely to be loving, thoughtful and kind towards you in marriage.

Let the best man win. Don't narrow your pool to your tribe or race. The average Nij man in the diaspora is open not only to his tribe in his preferred age range but he's open to women of his race and then even women of all other races add on top of that women back home including some they couldn't step to prior to emigrating.

Is it then wise that when in a country where your tribes men are .025% of the population and this same tribes men have widened their pool to 100% of women in the country, add on top women they could and couldn't step to prior to emigrating ), you limit yourself to that? You need to widen your pool to men of every race then have a strict criteria to help sieve them. This is the best formula for a happy stable marriage.

Caucasian men are generally more loving, kind, loyal, faithful and romantic. More so as you're an immigrant having a man who is from the country you've settled is a plus. Less strain on the relationship and more time to focus and enjoy all that's around you. Better opportunities for your children; who are most likely not planning to emigrate to Nij yet your Nij husband is building homes in Nij. For who

You actually have an edge over most wives as an African wife. You're much more family oriented and loyal. Asian men have begun to notice this too. Asian women are now marrying oyinbo men and the men can't believe their luck! The Asian or Black woman wants to build relationships with the husband's family who don't even require her to come to theirs to clean or cook ie display her wifely material etc. She cooks and is a home maker.

Be open to new interests, hiking, theatre, cycling, swimming, gardening, jogging, bird watching, camping etc. Everything is online these days. Put up a nice, simple decent profile. Clear photos and your interests in your bio. If no interests you have to begin to build hobbies. Please stop limiting your dating pool and totally avoid going back to Nigeria to find a spouse. It usually does not work well for a loving happy marriage. Most Nij men are uncomfortable with the dynamic and are either distracted showing those back home how well they're doing or annoyed that no one is deferring to them and sucking up to them in their immediate environment even as they're earning more than they used to. God speed!

Intimacy is one of the cheapest things in Canada. Withholding or hard to get won't score extra points or make a man commit. It will only save a lady from unnecessary body count.

Nigerian women don't wat to split bills but thy ant equality.

No be ment?

Fahdiga:
They might be doing it who knows

You're damaged

Abdul05:
Wetin l hear, release a terrorist ke?



Is he not the same man who dramatised in a video telling his followers to burn down SW
and go after tinubu

Abeg,

He should be incarcerated and political silence

Aboki always trying to divide SE and SW.

DoggoneDogg:





House visitation was conducted for your bank accounts?

It was done for you too.

I used to be a kyc officer for keystone. I visited all the addresses and asked about their customers without their knowledge or authorization.

Icouldhave:
Hi all

We the children have sat my dad down and talked to him, to the extent we are tired, how can an old man at this stage in life still fornicating.

Money we sent to him for his upkeeps, he is using it to feed another man's children. several times my mom have seen vega 200 in his pockets during laundry.

The annoying thing is this woman he is frolicking with is a known area miscreant, I don't know if he's jazzed or it's something else.

A man at this age is not supposed to have sexual urge, besides while he was young he didn't do like this.

(no insults on my dad please, we respect him, he did alot for us his children both male and female)

Please how do we the children handle this issue?

Hey buddy, relocate him.

Out of site = out of mind.

KingOfAmebo:
Every liberation movement in history takes its battle to the enemy and defends its own territory with suicidal determination. Only IPOB makes its own territory a battle frontline, mindlessly destroying facilities and other infrastructures that would rather serve well, the so-called sovereign state it craves.

"Now it is clear for all to see that IPOB miscreants are a special breed of stupidity personified, daftness popularized and dumbness specially crafted for a senseless bunch of identifiable idiots.

Should I increase the volume?...

Sadly, The affairs of the South Eastern cowards are dictated from obodo oyibo without any resistance by the same people suffering from self inflicted misery...Buhari has successfully given them the juju that will make them self-destuct without them even knowing it.

Me: Southern Easterners, Who have bewitched you?

Answer: Buhari, using IPOB miscreants and not Fulani bandits

Last bullet: Secession or no Secession, Biafraland will still be located inside the very Zoo you are trying to run away from...You are surrounded by Zoogeria...It would make more economical and political sense if it were Lagos breaking away from Zoogeria than a senseless bunch of idiots from a barren and surrounded Biafraland". - Village People spokesperson.

You are dull.

So IPOB should invade other people's territories just to fight the government?

Chai

BigBelleControl:
This election will be a true test of who's more preferred in the East between the FG and IPOB.
But if IPOB really want to achieve their aim, it's not by boycotting elections but by trying to get their own people in power.

And what happened in imo state?

Born2conquer:
I hope someone will read this because it’s on page 10 already,


If my DADDY wasn’t a giver, we probably wouldn’t have gone through hardship.

My dad was a senior officer back then in the civil service and man worked for over 20years, he was giving his money out gannnn! To church, to community projects, and a lot of his siblings children lived us, we had nothing less than 10 kids living with us back then man had no savings because he was disbursing his salary.

He lost his job in 2007 and that was when his siblings came to pick up their kids and till date, those kids are doing fine and non of them even visit my dad again.

He lost his job and he was forgotten, church and Alfas first took the few changes he had left all in the name of praying for him before they all left!

Hardship CHOKE!!! we were living in an estate and we had to move into my mum’s 2 bedroom uncompleted project, lol, I left my private school to a public school..


Arghhhh! My dad was in one social club when he was balling but they all left when he lost his job.

A big shout out to my Mum for raising 4 kids singlehandedly without anybody knowing.

Glory be to God, things are better because we’ve finally built our house and we now 2 rides and we all are gainfully employed

Guess what? The leeches are coming back they finally remembered we exist again

Happened to us
Same to my wife's family. My FIL died in regrets. I swore to never repeat it.

Lol

I dont think this lad understands what's going to happen.

IPOB is not going to cause problems, its the people that won't come out to vote.

Commentor:


If they are coming in a group of 35, there's little the police can do.

Even in the US, if a gang of 35 storm the local police post, it would be a bloodbath and likely the police would lose because it is random.

The difference of course, is that the perpetrators would ultimately be caught but , efficiency is often related to wealth.

False,

Where I dey, they spot you from afar through cctv, even if they don't, they take cover and shoot defensively until backup units arrive.

I've seen swat show up less than 3 mins, backup units can do 1 - 3 minutes.

Nigerian police is poorly trained.

darkstar6971:
Hello fellow Nairalanders pls I'm here for a suggestion and let it be positive pls ain't need no insult...
I'm having a girlfriend which is 29yrs and I'm just 23 years, We both love each other to the extent that we don't even knew the time we start the relationship... pls I need your suggestions here...

Please moderators help me to move this thread to front page so as to get more positive suggestions.

Can she submit to you?

Tayosteve:



Well, I'm sorry if I misinterpreted you.
Big hug

Nice one...

Tayosteve:


He did, go back and read again

Tayo, you have real comprehension problems

pansophist:


The irony. Many will even beg like they want to die, and without your intervention, they are doomed. You're the only one that can save them, and they've exhausted all options.

Usually when I give, I do it with the impression that the receiver will go and solve their problem, and won't come back. But I have folks that have been begging me since 15 years ago, and you till now, they still do. So I stopped helping. Since its like pouring water in a basket, it's futile.

Strategic greed should be integrated into the life of every person. Because if you think about it, you can't solve everyone's problem. So how about focus on yourself and live well instead? Of course this doesn't mean i dont give, but I give with sense.

Happened with my wife, I told her to ignore. A week later, we saw the person, hale and hearty, throwing a surprise birthday party for her husband.

Throwback:


CC: Idamond

My Facebook, WhatsApp statuses have been dormant for many years. I don't upload pictures or congratulate wifey on birthdays or post lengthy sophistry on wedding anniversaries, or comment or like posts on Facebook unless it is very necessary like condolence messages for people I shouldn't avoid. All just so I don't reignite my existence in the consciousness of people who feel they must always depend on others.

I ensure I live within my means, and even when I had little income in my early work days, I never showed any interest in the money earned by my family or friends who were better paid. Maybe it is pride, but it is pride everyone should have to help curtail the nuisance of dependence on others.

As for picking calls I do not have in my contacts, maybe on a ratio of 1 out of 20, while notorious contacts I already know are kept calling till they get the message.

Happy New Month on WhatsApp? guy I no dey reply am.

But do these cunning measures of mine eliminate the nuisance of begi-begi? It only help to reduce it, as there are people begging at every interpersonal interaction these days.

If you avoid the friends and family at the home or social front, can you avoid the security and cleaning staff in the office? Despite all my measures, many still consider me a cheerful giver.

You can only console yourself that you are the one in a position to be assaulted by their needs, rather than you being in a position to be assaulting others with your needs.

Don't let them pull you down with the burden of their bukata.

They are everywhere lurking around, looking for Simon of Cyrene to bear their cross.

Well said.

Tayosteve:


Ode, I can show you my transactions, I give more than I receive. I'm an economist ! If you give more than you receive, you will go broke and it's very possible many people will turn you down if you are broke.

He must not give to some beggars like you , or else he will cry and nothing will happen

Did you realize your error?

Tayosteve:



Instead of you to advise him to give with sense so he won't go broke, and you don't even care about his own financial status. You are here making him look like a villain.

That's the way beggars talk. They are encouraging their ministry.