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HealthRe: I'm 34 Years Old And I Bedwet. I Need Help Please by Hamachi(f): 11:30am On Jul 01, 2023
shocked

You've got a problem here, and it's not an easy one to find a solution to. And it's a problem which I understand very well indeed.

As I see it there are three lines of attack here:

You need to see a doctor about it immediately to discuss some sort of intervention. For example, an enuresis alarm could help, but this is perhaps unlikely in the case of persistent primary nocturnal enuresis at your age. Alternatively, medication to slow down urine production at night could help.
Tell your wife-/husband-to-be about the problem in order to guage their reaction. You risk them rejecting you out of hand, but you might find that they are happy to live with the problem.
Remain single, ensuring that you don't have to tell anyone.
I'm 33, and have primary nocturnal enuresis. I have tried enuresis alarms at various stages of my life, without success. In my mid-20s I got into a relationship with a guy and it got to the stage that we wanted to sleep together. I'd already tried the first step above with an alarm, including when I was 25, but my bedwetting had persisted. And so I either had to tell him about it or back away and keep my secret. I chose to tell him, and luckily he accepted it; he could easily have walked away, but didn't. Eight years later we're still together, and my bedwetting still happens, but our relationship is strong enough and loving enough that we disregard it (and we also disregarded the one time it inexplicably happened to him!). I do take medication to reduce the risk of accidents, but only infrequently such as when we're away from home since long-term use is not recommended.

The choice is yours, but if you're going to share a bed then the other person needs to know in advance.


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FamilyRe: As A Person, How Are You Helping People This Period? by Hamachi(f): 11:29am On Jul 01, 2023
Yes by carpooling using DriveinHud app on Google play store.

Use it and thank me later.
FamilyRe: What Is The Brutal Truth About Life After Marriage? by Hamachi(f): 11:26am On Jul 01, 2023
shocked
shabashola:
I regret been married, my hubby is making my life miserable...
RomanceRe: What Happened To The Relationship You Were Building? by Hamachi(f): 11:26am On Jul 01, 2023
shocked
shabashola:
Me I suffer for good eight years in the building with ( five kids), the guy man became rich n said to me that I am a mistake... Gbam na d matter we dey now
FamilyRe: Help her by Hamachi(op): 11:15am On Jul 01, 2023
A single mom based in Alimosho area of Lagos needs a cloth washing, cleaning job urgently 09068472397
RomanceRe: Immigrant Couple Who Moved To Canada In Their Early 30's by Hamachi(op): 6:57pm On Jun 30, 2023
lipsrsealed
tumababa:
imagine putting the amount in a bond or even savings. insurance na scam jare. except its compulsory, im not doing.
RomanceRe: What's It Like Dating A Nigerian Girl by Hamachi(f): 6:56pm On Jun 30, 2023
huh
Aaaaarghmed:
Nigerian girls are good,the problem 90 percent have is they expect you to shoulder their Bill's automatically.
FamilyRe: Are Men Really Polygamous? by Hamachi(f): 6:55pm On Jun 30, 2023
Congratulations 👏
Alvin212:
Your panties is my handkerchief
PoliticsRe: Genral Leo Irabor Orders 50 Generals To Resign by Hamachi(f): 1:16pm On Jun 30, 2023
wink
BusinessRe: Naira Now Undervalued After Float, Bank Of America Says by Hamachi(f): 11:44am On Jun 30, 2023
jmoore:
The analysts are obviously myopic. Nigeria is an importing country, therefore expecting a dollar to be 650 naira next year won't happen. Tens of billions of dollars from crude oil revenue is not enough to meet the demand of forex.
Yo! You damn smart.
RomanceRe: Immigrant Couple Who Moved To Canada In Their Early 30's by Hamachi(op): 11:40am On Jun 30, 2023
undecided
livenija:
Boring mode of advertising
Jobs/VacanciesRe: Your Experiences With Chinese Bosses As Nigerians by Hamachi(f): 11:37am On Jun 30, 2023
lakesider2006:
are u a pastor?
His a fake one, cruise pastor
Jobs/VacanciesRe: Your Experiences With Chinese Bosses As Nigerians by Hamachi(f): 11:33am On Jun 30, 2023
wink
b3llo:
what an experience!
BusinessRe: Naira Now Undervalued After Float, Bank Of America Says by Hamachi(f): 11:32am On Jun 30, 2023
Let me share this beautiful story that explains the Nigeria situation perfectly. It was told by Awdhesh Singh

A man was travelling through a muddy road when his car got suddenly trapped in the pool of mud. He tried very hard to move but his car failed to come out of it.

Suddenly, he saw a villager coming toward him in his bullock cart.

Once the bullock cart came near, he requested him to pull his car out of the mud. A deal of Rs 100 was negotiated between them for the work and the villager pulled the car using his bullocks.

The man felt greatly relieved and paid him the money.

He then asked the villager, “There may be so many cars that would be getting trapped in this mud.”

Villager: “True sir. You are the seventh person since morning whose car got trapped in this mud.”

Man: “Oh my God! Did you have to pull all of them.”

Villager: “Yes Sir.”

Man: “You must be busy full day pulling the cars from the mud having no time to do your own work.”

Villager: “Very True Sir. I have to do all my work at night only.”

Man: “Oh I see! By the way, what work you do in the night.”

Villager: “I just ensure that this mud is never dry.”


Look at Nigeria, look at it carefully from every side, are we lacking in manpower or the resources to develop this country?

Nigeria is complete because all that is required to make this country great is readily available but they won't let it.

There are people; the ones we celebrate, the ones we respect, some of us even consider them mentors and political godfathers, the reason they are considered rich is simply because of the present state of the country.

Boko haram is using the finest of weapons to fight the Nigeria military, same thing with the now inoperational Niger Delta militants. How where they able to acquire such weapons, weapons the West won't sell to the Nigerian government.

How about the hundreds of people working for the dozens of NGOs at the IDP camps, do you think they would ever wish for those programs to end? What job will be left for them to fall back on when things completely settle down?

Are NGOs bad? No, but the likelihood of people turning such developments to a life-long business in Nigeria is quite alarming and should be observed from the start.

There are so many people, both locally and internationally, working terribly hard to keep Nigeria exactly as it is or worse, to ensure that the mud is never dry.

Until Nigerians unite to fight such people, those who rule the country from the comfort of their homes, generations to come will keep inheriting the so-called sleeping giant, but then, when you fight corruption, corruption fights back.
FamilyRe: Growing Up As A Son Raise By Singlemother. How Has Life Be ? by Hamachi(f): 10:40am On Jun 30, 2023
Dc14:
. When they no they will comeback why do they leave before
I don't get.
Jobs/VacanciesRe: Your Experiences With Chinese Bosses As Nigerians by Hamachi(f): 10:39am On Jun 30, 2023
Natotogokillme:
Don't mention Chinese first. Talk about Indians. Those ones are both physically and emotionally abusive.
They are animals.
Jobs/VacanciesRe: Your Experiences With Chinese Bosses As Nigerians by Hamachi(f): 10:31am On Jun 30, 2023
The bolded if they are the last job in earth, don't take it
b3llo:
some people say Chineses are better than Indians. I don't know of Lebanesse and Palestinians, I can't say much for them.
I have worked with
Local Indians (Don't bother)
Foreign Indian (those that didn't grow up in Indian, they are the best)
Asians (it depends, you have Japan ( if you see them in Nigerian know they are technical school drop outs, Korean drama induced people, China - it depends but those located not in the city are heartless)
Lebanese (After my experience at their office in Ogba & VI, I vowed never to work with them again Park n shop & cash & carry)
Arab ( they hardly leave their country but if you find them here just know they have been banished and they are heartless)
Singaporean (They have the same genes as Chinese
Palestinians (They have some Indian vibes)
America ( work hard & party hard)
British (They don't joke with vacation, tea break, maternity or paternity leave, no pressure)
Germans (If you are a dullard, you will learn, they are technically gifted)
South Africa ( it depends if you meet the racist, it over)
Kenya ( They are lovely set of people but their money do t have value)
French (These people know how to enjoy life, they live it like today is the last, just look at the francophone countries in Africa then you will understand them)
Jobs/VacanciesRe: Your Experiences With Chinese Bosses As Nigerians by Hamachi(f): 10:18am On Jun 30, 2023
johnnychuks:
you not serious bro! I don't think you have work with them sir.
The Indians that stay in the West are the best to work with and not Indians who stayed all their life in Indian, those ones are devil incarnate.
Jobs/VacanciesRe: Your Experiences With Chinese Bosses As Nigerians by Hamachi(f): 10:15am On Jun 30, 2023
b3llo:
I heard they are terrible bosses and they short change their staff. They don't give proper safety equipment and gears when working in hazard environment
This is true.
Jobs/VacanciesRe: Your Experiences With Chinese Bosses As Nigerians by Hamachi(f): 10:15am On Jun 30, 2023
Because they know employees don't know their rights.
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Even if they do, there is scarcity of jobs so being sacked and not having a job immediately would make employees stay put and condone their rubbish!
RomanceImmigrant Couple Who Moved To Canada In Their Early 30's by Hamachi(op): 10:12am On Jun 30, 2023
This is a story about an immigrant couple who moved to Canada in their early 30s. Let's call them Jane and John.

As it is common with the immigrant community, they were quickly sold a Term Life Insurance by an agent who advised them to protect their lives and loved ones with life insurance coverage and invest the rest of their funds in other asset types.

This made sense to the couple, so they got a Term Life Insurance for themselves and continued to invest in RRSP, TFSA, real estate and other non-registered investments.

At the time they got their Term Insurance coverage, they were both 35 years old. Based on their family experience in their home country, their parents and grandparents had only managed to live upto ages less than 65 years old. So, they were pretty comfortable that a 30-year Term Insurance (T-30) will be sufficient for their needs.

As expected, the cost of a T-30 insurance was pretty affordable at a premium of $75/month for John, and $55/month for Jane. So, they had more than enough to invest elsewhere while their lives stayed protected with life insurance.

There was only one problem. They lived to be older than 65, the age when ther term life insurance terminates!

John had developed some health concerns at the age of 63 and expected to pass on before his 65th birthday. Shall we say fortunately, the Universe had other plans. He lived past that age but passed on 3 months after his 66th birthday.

Because their Term Life Insurance had now lapsed, that left the family with nothing to claim from the coverage. They had to source for funds from their personal savings and investments to pay for his funeral expenses, probate fees and final taxes.

This experience got the wife, Jane, thinking she needs to get another life insurance coverage in place immediately. By this time, she was already 66 as well. So, her cost of insurance for a 10-year Term Life Insurance was already over $260 monthly.

Considering that some of John's assets had rolled over to Jane, her passing will trigger significant amount of final taxes. So, she decided to get that insurance for another 10 years as this will last her till age 76.

Life can be tricky atimes. Jane refused to die before age 76, and lived until she was 80 years old. At this age, getting a life insurance had become unreachable and impossible for her.

Upon her passing, her family had zero claims to any insurance coverage because it had lapsed yet again.

With the probate process, funeral expenses and final taxes, the financial burden was quite significant for their children as they had to dip into their savings to sort things out while they awaited resolving other issues arising from Jane's will.

Throughout the period of their Term Life Insurance, they paid over $78,000. Yet, they and their beneficiaries were not able to enjoy any benefits from it because they lived longer than anticipated.

Are you planning for long life? Do you want this to be your story?
RomanceRe: If You Are Above 30 And You Are Still Single As A Guy by Hamachi(op): 10:11am On Jun 30, 2023
tongue
kaywhy09:
No be small thing o angry
FamilyRe: Growing Up As A Son Raise By Singlemother. How Has Life Be ? by Hamachi(f): 3:30am On Jun 30, 2023
I just want to emphasize that a boy does not become a man because he’s learned how to be masculine.

My ex, the biological father of my daughter, was a male. He mas masculine. He liked things that interest a typical male. But I do not believe he is a man. Because a man does not abandon his own child. A man does not make promises he cannot keep or commit to. A man holds up to his responsibilities instead of making excuses. A man does best by the people he owes out of self respect and gratitude. He failed to do all that. So he’s not a real man in my eyes.

If I had a son, I would not be worried at all. Because I can teach him about being a man more than anyone can. I think I can be more of a man than most men I know (which is really sad if you would think about it).

I acknowledge the need of a boy to have a male role model growing up - there are just some things both physical and emotional that only an actual male can guide him through. This he can find from his extended support system - grandfathers or uncles or even older siblings, teachers and mentors from the community.

If I had a son, I would be confident raising him with the right values. I would raise him to treat others with kindness, to keep his word, to own up to his responsibilities and to respect other people. And that’s really all that matters.

For my sister, it has been very hard. She was widowed when their son was just a baby, and my heart broke for him that he didn’t have a dad in his life.

Financially, for a while it was a struggle - I have major envy of all of those women that can be stay at home mums, or just need to work part-time - they have more money and more time.

Society is hard and judgy on single moms. People can be mean. I was probably more strict and had very high expectations of behaviour, as people almost expect the offspring of a single mum to be a bad asrse.

The hardest thing I found was there was no one to talk about the stuff the son was up to. If he did something cool, or funny, or reached a milestone… it would be nice to tell the person that loved them as much as you. Or even if they do something worrying… you don’t want to be slagging off your kid to your friends or even their grandparents.

I wish I had been better at asking for help.

In all though, it has been hard but it’s also been a blessing. The boy is an amazing teenager now, and a really good and hard working person.
FamilyRe: How Do You Handle It When Your Wife Can’t Stand Your Mother? by Hamachi(op): 2:40am On Jun 30, 2023
Bukola94:
like relocating to another state, what if they still come around
They make sure they don't come around.
RomanceRe: What's It Like Dating A Nigerian Girl by Hamachi(f): 2:29am On Jun 30, 2023
Fruit4me:
some of una here on Nairaland Dey write like say na goat milk una suck undecided
I just tire for them
RomanceRe: If You Are Above 30 And You Are Still Single As A Guy by Hamachi(op): 2:22am On Jun 30, 2023
cool
kaywhy09:
Vowed not to marry until certain things are achieved.

Close to 4.0

Things getting worse.

No good income.

Can be so tiring sometimes!

But still will never do anything st.upid!
RomanceRe: Entrepreneurship Is Hard. I Duff My Hat For Every Business Owner Out There. by Hamachi(op): 2:15am On Jun 30, 2023
cool
helinues:
Being a boss is even more complicated than being a worker
FamilyRe: Are Men Really Polygamous? by Hamachi(f): 6:28am On Jun 29, 2023
Men aren’t monolithic group, some are polygamous and some are monogamous. The same is with women, some are polygamous and some are monogamous. Human nature is very complex and people tend to choose what works best for them. Monogamy works out best in the long run for both men and women, so monogamy dominates the human society.

Monogamy for the most part has been imposed on women then men. Ironically, in cultures such as African and Asian culture where polygyn is common, polyandry also tend to be common even though unlike polygyny, polyandry is illegal. Because if in a culture one men has multiple wives then it leaves other men who would have no wives unless they share.

In polygynous marriage where one men can have multiple wives, results in a large number of children per men but children also have high mortality rate than monogamous marriage because raising children is harder and require resources as well as individual attention, which is difficult. Women also have high mortality rate, stress and less rights in these marriages that increased the chances of abuse for women.

In polyandry, where one women can have multiple husbands results in lower number of children but offspring survive better with multiple men providing for the family and helping the wife raise the children. However, the problem is identity of the father is difficult to know in some cases and it may give men less incentive to provide for the children that aren’t theirs.

In monogamy, both men and women tend to get what they want the most in return. The man knows that the the children are biologically his so he can provide and pass his resources to the children and he doesn’t have to share his wife’s time with other men. The women don’t have to share the resources and the husbands time with other women, which ensures better survival for her and her offspring. It’s a good compromise that works out best for the men, women and the offspring in the long run.
FamilyRe: How Do You Handle It When Your Wife Can’t Stand Your Mother? by Hamachi(op): 6:27am On Jun 29, 2023
Bukola94:
A man said in a thread that is girl is good but the girl family are so toxic. What will be your advice for him,is like the man in question wants to wife the girl. Just that her family is toxic
Marry her and distance themselves from the girls family
CareerRe: Salary Earners: How Far Did Last Month Salary Take You This Month? by Hamachi(f): 6:26am On Jun 29, 2023
wunmi590:
Wo ju mi le jor undecided
Yoruba te e ko ye mi
RomanceRe: Entrepreneurship Is Hard. I Duff My Hat For Every Business Owner Out There. by Hamachi(op): 5:46pm On Jun 27, 2023
shocked
GodWrites:
If you are not a good marketer, you can't succeed in business.
Are you sure?
CareerRe: Salary Earners: How Far Did Last Month Salary Take You This Month? by Hamachi(f): 5:45pm On Jun 27, 2023
wunmi590:
For congratulating me just because I've spent my June salary even before collecting it 😢
This is an opportunity to make a difference. Make the change now

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