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I'av been admitted o!
Greatguru22, mhizzhoney, obseqieuos, funmercy, et al. Where are u o? It's testimony time.

angiography:
Yes they have.

Rimini, up there, was just testifying he was admitted into Medicine

Join me in thanking God. I av been admitted

MhizTessy:
My curiousity led me to talk to a doctor, he said he would check with his fingers to see if there is a wide entrance.

He was wearing his gloves when I told him, 'dont bother again, thank you sir'

But seriously were u expecting him to just tell if the hymen is intact or nt from ur face? He'll av to examine nau, if u ain't comfortable wt a male, ur can always go to a female Dr
Besides why are u so worried abt ur virginity status?

MhizTessy:
Yes, at 6.

And u're sure he penetrated?

MhizTessy:
Now this is what happened to me. I'm not gonna say it happened to a friend like some used to. I am just curious and would appreciate meaningful comments.

When I was much younger, precisely 6years, I had this quickie with a neighbour. He was around that Age too, we just did for the fun of it, I don't realy know what led to it, I just saw that this boy and I had some kisses and sex, twice.
I grew older and I blamed myself for doing that trash then, there hasnt been much exposure as it is these days, I had been a bad girl for doing the 'mummy and daddy's game'.
This year, I will be 24 years. I have never had any sexual intercourse after the one I had 18 years ago though I have had some boyfriends But sex was out of it.
To the Best of my knowledge then, there was nothing like pain or blood. Now, I wonder, wasnt the hymen torn then? How come girls even below 6 years (who were taken advantage of) now have blood stains and experience pains?
This hymen, do they vary in flexibility?
I wonder if I have been deflowered back then?
Now I experience mighty pains if anything comes around the V area, as tiny as a finger.
I am just curious..

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Comments like 'who cares if you are a Virgin'
Who Virginity don help
Should please not be typed here.
I have been sincere enough to type this, I will respect Matured contributions.

Cc:Lalasticlala

At 6yrs old? Are u sure the boy penetrated sef, I personally don't think so.

Lanretoye:
Lolz...I beg make I laugh small ds evening jare,pls do you have the link to that comedy skit?,pls upload it for me I beg.I want to knw who burn it.

Lolz, can't stop laughing, as in no matter how many times I watch it it still cracks me up. Av u watched the one where he was asked the President of Africa?
Tht guy is a natural comedian

petkruz:
Some friends or would I say acquaintances are quite shameless. I threw a birthday party @sailors lekki and had prominent friends in attendance including my best friend who didn't hesitate to spend lavishly as he kept ordering drinks and food. I noticed this friend of mine was exceptionally quiet all through, probably observing the whole thing.Next thing I knew she was glued to my buddy,dancing,laughing and all that.I was totally ok with it because everybody was having fun,they exchanged numbers and everybody left happily.I warned her to be careful as he wasn't single!

2 weeks later this lady started insulting the guy,saying all sorts about him,if we are hanging out and he shows up she leaves angrily,this continued for about 4months. I got to find out she went to his mansion several times,they went to all the expensive restaurants in lekki and in 2weeks the guy hit the cookie

The annoying thing now is she wants me to stop being friends with him,someone i'v known since Adam,his fiancee is my friend,he has helped me in so many ways, I can't stop talking to him because of some careless act.

My so-called friend has stopped talking to me,she doesn't hang out anymore,she doesn't call and all but biko is it my fault? Is it a crime I refused to support either of them? We all are adults and solely responsible for our decisions. Should I call both for a hangout to settle the issue? Or ignore completely

Abeg ignore. When they were taking themselves round town, were u there? When they were putting the cookie in the jar, u sabi? Why is she nw crying over spilt milk, did u help her spread her legs. Carry face o jare. It's the man's fiance I pity in all this b4 tht randy olojukokoro man get her infected wt an STI

Sweetlemon:
Yeah Yeah. I keep seeing articles and epistles upon journals about why staying and marrying a virgin is the best thing ever. The fairy tale tell us that a Prince charming will find his virgin bride and they will live happily ever after!
Lol! Now look here ladies, men are very physical beings. They are VERY, much much more aware of the physical than they even realize. Meaning that how they perceive and handle a lot of things depends largely on what they see and touch. The excitement of the moment. That is why they say that a man can love you to death but still have one or two other girls he sees.
What am I saying? Virginity is physical, the tearing of the hymen a moment's excitement. You know why? The many issues of marriage will soon determine the real strength of the love between the both of you, and not just some piece of flesh honey. Yes he may forever honour the fact that he hit if first BUT there are just far too many issues to contend with in marriage. Too many.

Don't mind all these Team #IMustMarryAVirgin guys here o. Your husband WILL NOT treat you like a special egg just because you are a virgin. Just take it from me. Yes he hit it first, but he will eventually hit it. And just like any other normal man who has conquered something, he will get bored every once in a while or blue moon. Depending on how good the sex is. This coupled with the many issues of marriage will make him forget your treasured hymen when he feels like venting, ignoring, baiting, and all what married couples do when they quarrel. Your hymen is not going to protect you from passing through some fire every blue moon or so.

If remaining a virgin till marriage will not prevent;
1. Your hubby from cheating,
2. Real marital fights/issues,
3. Your body from sagging and eventually looking unattractive
And if it does not guarantee an automatic;
1. Influx of healthy babies
2. A happy life
3. Good sex life
Then my dear you are pretty much going to have to work on your marriage just like every other woman/man. Yours is not special after all!

The truth remains this; A man that will love you will love you. It has little or nothing to do with character or morals. I have seen the rudest, baddest, roughest girls marry even before her mates start looking forward to marriage. And these girls did not marry anyhow men o, and to the best of my knowledge, their husbands treat them as well as any woman would pray for. People have different time tables in life. This is of course not a license to start behaving anyhow you like because it's always best to have a good name people can refer to and it's much more helpful while dealing with in-laws. This is just an eye opener for our judgmental folks who like to point fingers at older singles like they are the cause of their singleness. A man that loves you will treasure and respect you just the way you are.

So why remain a virgin? For your own damn protection. Simple!
I'm going to advice my daughters not to give their bodies to just any assholes who will end up breaking her heart. I'd like to save them from all the trouble really. So you see, it's just basically about YOU and YOU and of course your God. God will in his own time direct the steps of the man who will be worth it to you and he'll marry you.

So to the #TeamVirgins out there, I say ride on. Keep on keeping it! Those riff raffs disturbing you are not worth it jare.
And to the #TeamNon-Virgins. Yeah we all understand what we've been through, but nothing spoil jare. At the end, we will all meet in the same association of married women! Lol.

Not bad. Why wld one even keep one's virginity for one guy who is probably sleeping around wt other girls. I'll say keep ur virginity for urself and God.

netizenbuzz:
I've never tried using two pads at once. Maybe I should try this.

U wnt regret it. I had a friend who had very heavy flow, she was so frustrated she turned to using clothes when no pad seemed to work. I introduced it to her and it worked for her

netizenbuzz:
Sorry I posted this initially in the health section but I didn't get any replies so I have brought it here where I know I will find you people. It is urgent please.

Please I was introduced to always sanitary pad by my mom even before I started my menstrual period. I knew she had a heavy flow so when I started I just assumed always would be the best for people with heavy flows. The thing is I'm never fully comfortable on my heavy days especially day 2. I tend to call in sick on those days because of the fear of getting stained. I stop feeling comfortable after about 2 hours of wearing the pad and at 4 hours maximum, I must have changed. My fear now is that I'm going to be serving with the next batch and we would be required to wear white all through camp. I'm really scared that I would not be able to cope. Yesterday I was in a supermarket and one of the attendant ladies (very nice) advised me to try ladycare. She says it would be okay for me since I'm not on the plus size. She says she has a very heavy flow too and always doesn't work for her. So I bought one ladycare pack and one always ultra pack to be on the safe side. The last time I used a pad that wasn't always, I stained my bunk mate's bed in under an hour. So ladies, what do you think? Is ladycare better for those of us with heavy flows?

I prefer always ultra tho. I dnt feel comfortable wt the short lady care and the long one doesn't seem to absorb as much as always to me.
My trick is on my very heavy days. I combine comfit pad wt always. Place the wingless comfit pad on the always and u're good to go. Comfit is soft so u wnt feel too uncomfortable

johnson232:
lol...
as long is ur brother u wont even feel that arousal....
it's natural....

even if he touches sensitive parts u still wont feel anything....
sexual acceptance is zero by default..
people who engage in inccest do it for rituals...
it has nothing to do with whether u re nuude or not....
but if its someone else, ur body will naturally respond...

lets put this in context; try picture ur brother romancing u, u will get a mudane scenario, it cant generate anything sexual....

Yap, if he touches me in sensitive parts, I wnt feel anything, but he sure wld feel a good slap on his face.
Pple who engage in incest don't necessarily do it for rituals, I just think they are crazy pple or pple wt no self control.
I don't av a brother so there is nothing to picture

johnson232:
there is nothing wrong with it my sister....

cant u un-dress in brother's presence?

Why wld I un-dress in front of my brother, I can't even UnCloth in front of my father.
There is something there, my brother, in this age, when in-cest is reigning wt father having sex wt daughters, mothers having sex wt sons and brothers wt sisters.
It's better safe than sorry

According to my religion and even any rational mind, once siblings of opposite sex attain puberty u av to separate their bed. Those are even teenagers o, not to talk of full adults. U might be thinking what's the big deal, but knw Satan is very powerful. Any where there are just two pple of opposite sex the third person there wld be Satan, whispering stupid things into their minds. U'll find urself getting attracted to someone u'av never or shld never think of sexually.
It's better safe than sorry.
And they av two beds, why shld they share one? Na wa o.

Onegai:
That man must be our former neighbour. He had a car but refused his wife driving it to the nearby estate market to go grocery shopping. She would take keke napep in the hot sun and the car would be parked in the compound (and she could drive). When my mum (doing mama of the close) mentioned it to him, he said she should buy her own car if she can't go to the market easily.

I should really knack le hubbs this night o. With all these stories, he's almost a saint. Abeg lemme keep him happy

Not ur former neighbour o, just his think alike.
Abi o, my sister. May God save we the single ones from such kind of men and continue to increase the joy in ur home.

OP pls flee for ur life, if u don't want to end up miserable.
Some factors tht cld influence his behaviour is poverty, his mentality and the family background.
I know of a man who will tell his wife he can't buy his children provisions or give them more than a certain amount or buy clothes for festivities for his children nt to talk of his wife cos his father didn't do such and didn't train him tht way. The man wld rather go and buy things rather than give the money to his wife. Contributes zero amount to the wife's business, bt has no problem taking thns on credit from her. This man while they were courting had similar traits wt the man u just described, he tried a little tho, he bought the wife just one scarf thru out the courtship. And do u think those other siblings of his, wnt come around to pester u guys. There is always a general notion tht d more educated man wld av more money so don't be surprised when they also start dumping responsibilities on him.
The man seems a gud man but ur way of viewing things seem to differ, and he is a stingy person, imagine nt paying ur fiance's bike fare, she doesn't even need to ask b4 a man knws what to do, ordinary first degree studt sef wld''t do such nt to talk of a PhD studt, wondering how he passed thru sch since his level of exposure still seems so low.

iAmCharis:
Recently I noticed some an influx of threads talking about virginity with several back and forths. Some claiming virginity makes a woman complete, for some, it's a woman's dignity while some believe it'll make your man love you more. The latter might be true as I have seen a young man that was so excited to find out his wife was a virgin that he had to give it as a testimony in church the Sunday after their wedding. That notwithstanding, as a lady, if you expect a man to love you because you're a virgin, a fatal heartbreak is lurking around the corner. There are several men out there dumping the virgins they deflowered.

One thing I'm not comfortable with is the way some of you continually come up with threads to talk about this overflogged issue. I also don't understand why non virgins seem to have high blood pressure at the sight of threads on virginity. What's wrong with avoiding such threads instead of arguing endlessly?

Then to the virgins, what are you trying to prove? What's the point in discussing the importance of virginity to a non virgin? or are you trying to prove that you're better off? Abeg leave matter for Matthias

But come to think of it. Are you really a virgin? You say you're a virgin but you've kissed, you've had your boobs manipulated, some engage in fellatío and receive cunnilingus. Many have had orgasms from these act yet you still claim to be a virgin. Funny! The height of it was when I read from a guy here on nairaland that said he had anal sex with his girlfriend because she was preserving her virginity. And she's still going to call herself a virgin.

Abeg leave trash for LAWMA

Have a great week ahead.

U said one thing while doing the opposite. The virginity issue is already overflogged, why bring it up again?
What I noticed abt the thread relating to virginity was tht most were created by non-virgins to wc many pple made comments, another common notion I felt was the perceived hatred against virgins by some non-virgins and men. Some pple were trying to hard to black name and soil the very term virginity like call virgins those wt low IQ, losers, weirdos, claim most virgins dnt av manners, or tht virgins are worse than non-virgins, talk like virginity is filth etc , still wondering what they gain from it.
If u want to commit fornication, fine, it's a free World afterall. Virgins don't av to prove anything to anyone, u make ur choices, they make theirs. And the claim tht virgins think they are better than other women is ur inferiority complex speaking, if u're a non-virgin, it is ur choice, I dnt knw why u'll now seek to black name virgins just to feel, shld I call it 'superior'?
Finally, let all this virginity whatever stop. This is the 21st century afterall, all we civilized and free pple can decide to do whatever we want, virgins are just old-fashioned, archaic pple, whatever reasons they may av for saying 'NO' to premarital sex is baseless.
No virgin is rubbing being a virgin or whatever in non-virgins face. Even going by those threads u wld notice most pple doing the talking were men, the same pple busy disvirgining willing (nt referring to rape here) women abt. They will even boast abt the no of women they av disvirgined and slept wt (shame is indeed gone wt the wind).
Those speaking against virginity shld pls place their girls and boys from the age of 13 on birth control and encourage them to av sex. This is 21st century afterall

I watched this thread from the 1st page but decided to comment now. What I noticed is tht most pple seeking for the hijab to be banned isn't even abt the security reasons, some were out of hatred they already had for Islam and anything regarding it, others out of plain ignorance and those seeking to mock Muslim women.

I'm a Muslimah, I don't use niqab but those who do av the right to. Most pple seem to be in support of the hijab (a part of Islam and the Muslim woman's identity) shld be banned. What we all fail to realize is tht even if the hijab is banned this minute, it wld''t stop the terrorist actions if the matter isn't solved from the root and necessary security precautions like bomb detectors placed in strategic places, better gathering of intelligence and being more security conscious. All the terrorist need is a way to blend in wt pple in the community, they probably use the hijab in the north cos it isn't unusual to see women in tht. I read of one in wc the terrorist was wearing a casual wear (probably France can't really recollect the Country), the man was wearing casual wear like every other person went into a restaurant but luckily for the pple there the bomb failed to detonate, just a mild offshoot of gas wc made the man faint, someone did CPR for him nt knowing he was a suicide bomber, it was when his cloth was pulled up, they knew. How big is a bomb abeg?
So I guess we shld ban all forms of clothing and go abt naked so there wnt be any opportunity to hide it under any form of clothing.
Solving terrorism goes beyond banning any form of clothing or cars or whatever cos these psychotic animals will always find other ways.
I pray God give us absolute and not '' technical' victory over the Boko haram psychos, and may the lost souls RIP.

Phero:
shut up there!!! u wan lie say u never collect konji b4 na so una dey form person wet do 3some and person wey do am with one partner formication is fornication

I didn't want to reply u at first but decided to. I guess u're one of the frustrated souls seeking someone to take it out on. I'av seen u but u haven't made any sense wc is expected of a rabies dog.
Are u trying to form holier than thou? Run along boy, u can ask ur sisters those stupid questions. Ode.
U can continue ur manifestation of madness, I'm certain u will, but u're duly ignored henceforth.
An advice tho, next time u mention me, pls seek ur brain first, pple who think wt their anus disgust me.

Na wa o, Her mates are in University, she is in junior sec school and being banged by 3 guys, when she is in her twenties she will graduate to uncountable (pray she repents). God help us and tht is someone's future wife and mother o.
The parents shld stop crying and try and do a better job of raising their children (if it's nt too late)

daretodiffer:
LMAO

Searching4love, where art thou?

Lolz, ur pseudo sweetheart is the main suspect here o. Sincerely, all the description given suits it perfectly

Thank u OP. I guess they are trying to feel better wt themselves by pulling others down, they want to live out the fantasies, feel like a boss unlike they riffraffs they are in reality.
And all the idiots tht take pride in calling women b!tches, most are surrounded by hoes therefore see every woman tht way

Pls what is the meaning of 'kissing'?

Tori Olohun! Such wickedness, this drew tears to my eyes. When u know u aren't ready to bear the consequences of ur sleeping around, why av unprotected sex?!
And there are lots of women praying and fasting for the fruits of the womb, just one! And one useless hoe just tried to waste one, let me stop here b4 I curse her and increase her Oriburuku.
And a man will still marry this one not knowing the atrocities she has committed cos this might nt be the 1st one, very unlikely. Why go thru 9mths just to waste the product? Maybe the baby had strong head sha.
May God bless all the women praying for the fruit of the womb with good lovely children, tht'll do them proud. And protect and uphold this poor baby

missKiffy:
The guy get time

lolz, they both av time. The guy sef seems a bore, and it's obvious the lady is nt into him bt just being nice enof to ans him

Decker:
One thing you guys fail to understand is that if a girl isn't interested in you, she won't feel the need to discuss anything with you or chat with you. Plus she also has more than 20 guys asking her the same boring questions at the same time. You should even be lucky that she is even dignifying you with a reply.

Most of you who claim that they reply you in such manner actually don't know these girls that much. Probably you just saw her this one time and collected her number or her pin and then you added her on whatsapp or whatever platform and then you expect her to just chat with you like you are old friends who grew up together? It doesn't happen that way.

You'd first have to give her a reason to want to chat with you. Let's face it, if a girl finds a guy intriguing or interesting or she admires something about him, she'd want to get to know that guy. And if he presents such opportunity, like chatting her up, she'd make full use of that opportunity.

Wa sere. U're so so on point

sickstars:
looooooool my day is nice already

All m saying i love virgins but rubbing it off on other girls is wrong

God said ask for forgiveness nd i will forgive u

Virgin or non virgin is of no man to judge but God

Cos did any one of u write ur destiny ursef?
can u write out wat will happen tomorow?
So dont judge any one
I dont judge anyone too cos i dont kno their stories

I saw 6 threads bashing non virgins i cudnt take it

Its nice meeting u tho so sorry for calling u dumb m quite crazy

U didn't read the OP's post or u misinterpreted it. She was not bashing non-virgins, she was against pple who like to bash and bad mouth virgins. Losing one's virginity is a choice afterall (unless raped) so I dnt understand why someone has to bad-mouth or make pple who decide to keep theirs feel bad, or sell them off as archaic, old-fashioned, or the only set of ladies tht can av bad behaviour or wt low IQ, some talk as if once u lose ur virginity u av more likelihood to av better behaviour. Being a virgin or non-virgin has nothing to do wt personality or having a gud home, yes. But some pple av to stop sticking their anti-virgin views up our noses.
I personally had to reply a lady that called virgins losers, if u chose to lose urs or even jump from a man's be to another, good for u, but leave virgins be.
But all these threads don do, let's find better topic

Abeg leave them o, it's fashion nau, the crazier the better.
Tht is someone future wife and mother sha. O ga. The future generation will wear only g-string as clothes, I tell u

I prefer neither unless just to get snacks. Never eaten at mama put joints tho
Why wld I spend thousands of naira on a food I dnt knw how it was prepared when I can easily cook a richer, as delicious food with sure neat conditions with less than half the price?

Hadez:
No because they find every reason to think they are better. Do you think being a virgin makes you a better wife material?

No, they don't even care if u exist, but u're the one tht feels inferior to them, and need something to justify it by painting them in a bad light. U were once a virgin weren't u, u chose to lose it, so leave those who chose to hold on to theirs be.
Virgins ain't losers, u are the one tht has lost somethn afterall.
Virginity doesn't make one a good wife, it doesn't make one a bad one either. A virgin is even more likely to be a better wife as compared to a non-virgin.
I know u're part of the crew '' this is 21st Century, we av every right and freedom to let go of shame, decency and dignity and those who hold on to these are the losers and outcasts'' . Good thinking

Ever wondered why all the pandemic STDs taking the World by raves were practically non-existent in olden times?
Because they had shame, dignity was encouraged and respected and pre-marital sex was at a low key. But what do we see now?
Lack of shame, pple who manage to keep hold of virginity and av dignity are seen as outcasts and virginity is seen as something archaic and shld be left behind.
Afterall we are in the 21st Century, an age where there is no shame, caution is thrown to the winds, promiscuity is celebrated and dignity is overlooked, we are supposedly civilized becos we can explore almost all sexual depravity, be it orgies, homosexuality, fornication, bestiality, etc. We av freedom afterall.
Yes, marrying a virgin doesn't guarantee a happy home or good behaviour, marrying a non-virgin doesn't guarantee tht either.
If u want to encourage women or men to lose their virginity since it's archaic start from ur teen children, place them on birth control from 13yrs and encourage them to av sex, we are afterall civilized like the Whites and shld shed all our African virtues.
If u wish sleep with every Tom, Dick and Harry, u date or don't date (it's a choice afterall), don't worry, u'll find like minds, to settle down wt. Virgins shld''t be discouraged too, no matter what they say virginity remains one of the qualities of a virtuous woman, along wt other characteristics. It's ur choice to maintain ur virginity for whatever reasons u may av, don't be intimidated by those who av lost theirs. Be Proud of it. I hail the guys who av been able to hold on to theirs too, such self control and very rare in this 'Civilized' age.
I agree wt the OP tho, do nt make virginity ur main quality to settle down wt a partner.

Not real. Nollywood I carry my yansh for u o!