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JosephXavier:
The first governor to be installed by the Uba family that helped to drain Anambra state coffers and also the only one-term governor in Anambra so far (Soludo may be the second)

I can't forget how during his regime both secondary and primary school teachers went on strike for one full academic year because their salaries were withheld

It was the terrible things Ndi Anambra saw under him that made them choose Peter Obi who turned the state around from being "Home for all criminals" to the "Light of the nation"

May his gentle soul rest in peace

I can't forget how he owed pensioners and when they protested at the government house at Awka he labeled them "dead woods"

There is no peace for the wicked.

We would all one stand before the Creator and receive his righteous judgment for our earthly deeds. Some eternal life, some eternal condemnation.

The man still left this realm without taking a dime with him, sad part is that some of his counterparts would attend his funeral and not still have a change of heart from their wicked ways…

..later someone would ask why Hell Fire has to be eternal. If it was for a time - 500 years, there are people that will intentionally live with reckless abandon without regard for their fellow man. Even as at now, if eternal torment doesn’t move them, what will.

blaquebelle:
What is wrong with them? Make your critiques clear

Don’t they look like “Gone too soon” posters to you 😹

They sure do to me 😹😹

1Sharon:
We all know rudeness is no excuse. The woman is devious. As soon as OP got rude, she jumped on it. That will now be her defense.

Rudeness can never be a defend for criminality.

1Sharon:
You messed by getting rude to her. Now she'll cling onto that and use it as an excuse to not refund your deposit.

If there's a way to leave a review do that.

Lol being rude to you is no excuse not to refund money for service you didn’t provide.

No matter who how he insulted her, doesn’t change the fact that her refusal to provide a refund is fraudulent in nature.

@OP report her to the authorities asap, don’t care what happens to her. I am sure this is not her first time of doing this. I must confess most Nigerians are evil-minded. I as a Nigerian deal with other Nigerians at arm’s length.

Even up to transactions with family, we go sign agreements, no cash, electronic transfers, clearly defined expectations etc me that hate stories that touch.

Jennyclay:
I don't even mingle with young men... Young men are so rude and unromantic. They can't even take good care of their girlfriend.

Elderly men all the way! When I mean elderly men, I mean from 60 years of age and above. These set of men are the most romantic men living on earth.

If you're below 60 years of age, biko aviod me! I'll curse you if you approach me.

Nonsense!! Rubbish!!

Lmao. You better go and get a job so you can take care of yourself.

If you are unable to cater for your own needs, you have no business being in a relationship.

Mark them down, note the girls with daddy issues and avoid them like a plague.

If their own father was never and will never be good enough, brother if you like carry mount Everest for them; nothing you do for these kind of girls can ever be do enough.

elipheleh:
Madam you were fine and looked younger on the before picture. The other difference is you used bad camera to snap the first picture.

When these young wives see their husbands grinding to provide for their household, they think it's easy and their females selfishness start acting up. This man is not giving me time, he is not spending time on me. Blah blah blah.

When they now leave they can't even woman up and bear their loads.

See the frog above saying she is worn out providing for her own children plus career.

Learn to respect and honour your men

Bro, very selfish individual oo.

Your husband can’t provide financially, so she as the wife can‘t take up the challenge. Providing for her own family became a burden to her? Lol

God would not allow us mis-marry. Her Husband is not able to provide financially for that singular reason, he is of no use to her lol. It is well.

A man feeds his whole family for decades nobody hears about it, let a woman feed her family for just one week: the whole nation would hear the news

Check the mentality of your potential, make sure poverty hasn’t misaligned it. Some are not created to be helpers, they are the problem itself.

@baralatie

Can you see this, this is a type of sexual incompatibility situation. This particular situation (opposite sex marrying a partner that is attracted to same sex) happens rather often.

In my graduating set in Uni, atleast two babe have gotten divorced rumors has that their husbands were closet gays. One of them i can confirm, he had been showing gay symptoms.

I am not homophobic but i think it’s not right to put any man or woman through such when you know the truth within you.

When i said i support finding out one’s partner’s sexual capability, some people would say I am just trying to make free sex before marriage a thing. When in reality, you can find out if your partner wouldn’t be able to satisfy you sexually before marriage. Is it not worth the happiness and peace of mind you get for the rest of your life by not going through with that marriage that would make your life miserable if you and your partner are not on the same sexual frequency.

Sleekfingers:
You are absolutely right.
I have hidden cameras everywhere in the house. Except in my kids rooms , bathroom and toilets . And I have visible cameras in the compound.
Early last year , our cleaner was caught on camera stealing raw rice , frozen meats and turkey from the food store . I was just laughing, when she was leaving I just called her. Show her the footage. She started crying profusely. Telling me all kinda stories about what she and are children were going through. I felt for her. Gave her some money and foodstuffs. And I didn't sack her or tell my wife.

Oga there is a particular story I am looking for, I read it when I was little. I think it is popular but I can’t seem to find it on the internet. I would try to tell it from memory, please read it, reflect and use it to advise yourself; for the present days are evil.

Anyways it goes somewhat like this: A knight was walking through the forest suddenly out of no where jumped out a very little monster with a small knife challenging him to a duel. The knight laughed so hard, he rolled over in laughter. Seeing the seriousness of the very little monster he accepted. He didn’t need to draw his sword. After the monster took a beating the very little monster cried out for mercy. The knight out of pity didn’t slay it, he let it go.

Several months later, this same knight walking through this same forest. Crossed paths with this same monster, this time the monster had grown to the size of a young lad. The duel started and the knight had to draw his sword to parry the sharp mid-sized sword in the monster’s hand. Again the knight won after taking a cut or two. The monster cried for mercy. The knight let it go.

A year later, you guessed right. They crossed path again. This time the monster was just the same size as the knight. The knight was bewildered at the strange growth. Battle resumed and lasted several hours, the knight and the monster were exhausted battered and bruised. The knight was inflicted with a non-fatal deep stab. In his exhaustion he managed to get the monster to loose it’s weapon. He was about to strike the killing blow, in a loud voice and tears the monster cried for mercy. After quite a while in thoughts the knight let the monster live.

Several years later. Yup you know it. They crossed paths again. This time the monster was towering over the knight. The Knight was terrified at the strength and viciousness of the beast. He fought bravely but his strength was futile against the now overgrown monster. The monster beat the knight an inch of his life. By now the knight had lost an arm and was at the very edge of death, bleeding. As good fortune was on the Knight’s side, a lucky strike to the monster heels stroke a vein and the monster was down in pain, a opportunity just enough for the knight to summon all his last strength to take a swing at the monster’s head. Down it’s head came. Beside the lifeless body of the monster was also lying the knight, bleeding to death.

Lmao.

O boy collect your phone back. The rationale is simple: when you get a job in some organization, you are given a Laptop, Phone, ID Card or even an official Car.

By the time you resign or you are sacked… you guessed right. All these things are collected back, they are company property lol.

But seriously if she longer wants the relationship, why not return the asset gotten from that association. Na wa.

Karma is so beautiful, what goes around would eventually come around.

I hope y’all maintain the same energy when a man with Yoruba/Hausa heritage wants to govern Anambra and He can’t speak ibo.

This would happen sooner than you expect. When you open a door don’t think you are the only one that would walk through it.

Do you know that there are people in Lagos that understand only Yoruba just as there are people in Anambra that understand only ibo. Shouldn’t the language be a prerequisite to choose their leader?

The people saying it fake, please give us proof that it is fake or is it fake because LP was mentioned

I can vouch for some of the stated information.

There were indeed allegations of terrorist financing against Emefiele, it was somehow swept under the carpet and if my memory serves me correctly it was that period He abandoned his presidential aspiration. A simple google would show this.

Needless to say, Emefiele has been a catastrophic embarrassment.

Don’t forget this is a National newspaper, the legal implication of them just opening their mouths like parrots without evidence can cost them their company.

baralatie:
If a woman is denying the husband sex how are you sure it is low libido.how are you sure the woman is not weaponing sex to overpower the husband in the house

Now you are just purposely going off the road to defend yourself.

There are women and men with low libido, it is as real as the day. They don’t just enjoy sex, nor do they have the urge to engage in it.

I think this is the junction I would leave you to educate yourself more before arguing blindly on the internet. I pray you don’t fall into the pit of sexual incompatibility.

baralatie:
I did not argue about marital infidelity as been listed in their write up

You have argued so much you have even forgotten the basis of the argument.

Is sexual incompatibility a ground/cause/contributing factor of/to divorce? Yes is it!

baralatie:
No
I did not say so o

That’s what are you saying, research said it is a cause, ChatGPT said it is a cause.

With your limited knowledge of logic, maths and martial law you insist it is not and keep “trying to help me”

Ask yourself, your wife keeps refusing you sex cause she genuinely has low libido while you are high on testosterone. How long is this marriage going to last sir?

OLULAW:
Your English grammar is so bad, you're not communicating. Go and get an English teacher.

Please go easy on the man abeg lol

baralatie:
I am trying to help you but you refuse
What you brought is that a research/study telling you the results or you are quoting a paper write up

I see the problem you are more intelligent than various academic research and chatGPT lol.

I hear you.

baralatie:
No it does not
Unless you will cancel out the first group and rank all.atributes into a global ranking which the source did not do

You are obviously bad at research. Let chatGPT help you.

Did you see the part where I told you why it is not a widely known issue. Why is it just gaining prevalence? Or just just choose to ignore it and keep arguing against all facts presented.

There are many causes of divorce and sexual incompatibility is one of them brother.

baralatie:
Let me put in proper perspective
Causes of divorce
Amarital infidelity
2.financil hardship
3.marital abuse/trauma
4.divergence
5external pressure of the workplace/family
6 peer pressure

Now these above are some of the major causes of divorce and research can give us a ranking of which of the above is prevalent at a certain point in time.

Now let us take marital infidelity
Causes of infidelity
1.lack of sex drive
2 sexual divergence
3.sexual.incompatibilty
4.sexual.dissatisfaction

You get it now

You don’t understand logic sir.

If infidelity is a major cause of divorce, doesn’t that make the top factor contributing to infidelity the major causes of divorce?

if you read the research i posted, sexual incompatibility has significant impact on divorce but the issue is not widely know due to the shush shush nature of matter.

Because most married man and woman and not willing to disclose sexual inadequacies in their marriage.

baralatie:
Marital infidelity is one of the reasons for divorce and under marital infidelity .
Sexual incompatibility is a @subset of which others under infidelity are not mentioned

The concept of sexual compatibility and sexual satisfaction are even not mutual

Therefore the notion of making sexual incompatibility as a big issue is not justifiable

Read what you wrote again, this time slowly.

Infidelity is a major reason for divorce, sexual incompatibility is a major reason for infidelity. Doesn’t that make sexual incompatibility a major reason for divorce. Its very simple logic.

I wish i can draw sets for you write now. Beside thats just one source (from a Legal firm), google is your friend do your own research.

Sexual incompatibility is so prevalent yet most people give it very little thought. So I don’t blame people when they attempt to argue its not a issue, meanwhile it is increasing in mass.

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Talking Causation and Correlation. This is a big positive correlation between Sexual incompatibility and Divorce. There is also direct Causation between Sexual incompatibility and divorce.

https://www.academia.edu/67220641/Sexual_Incompatibility_among_Couples_in_Gombe_Metropolis_Rates_Perceived_Causes_and_Effects

baralatie:
Can you quote source

I don’t know if i would be ban for posting an external link. Just copy the words in the picture below and google it.

Sexual incompatibility is very real.

Interesting15:
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Do you know that Sexual incompatibility is one of the leading cause of divorce?

The preacher might be wrong for advising to engage in pre-marital sex but it is advisable to know you and your partner’s sexual capacity in other to avoid frustration in marriage.

Marriage is a life long commitment, before you commit be sure all the basic requirements are in other.

Imagine a woman with high libido getting married to a man that hates sex, that is just a disaster right from the bat.

AmotekunSW:
Once GRV loses this election, the benefits and advantages Igbos in Lagos enjoy will never be the same.

Yorubas will treat Igbos the same way you treat Yorubas. We both know what that means for your future in Lagos.

When I tell people this and they want to take it the wrong way, I set them straight.

Every action has consequences, after a failed invasion it is only logically for the people of the land to protect themselves from such an event reoccurring.

So some people from a certain part of Nigeria should not cry foul or fawn innocence when the axe comes down. They deliberately took actions which they knew the indigenes of Lagos would find provocative.

You can’t kick the hornets nest and expect everything to be jolly afterwards. As you lay your bed, so you must lie on it!

Kobojunkie:
Na true talk be this.

God gave Op brain but OP refuse to use am before now. Him know say na ashawo woman him need but Op instead go marry woman way be SU for bed. Whose fault? Na OP fault. If say him marry that ashawo woman now, him for no get this wahala to complain to us about.

Honestly part of the blame goes to our up-bringing and lack of education regarding things like this. Part of the blame even goes to our church/mosque.

Sexual incompatibility is so real. These are the kind of things one should find out about his/her partner during courtship.

Marriage should be something you enjoy but when something you should be enjoying start turning to work, very difficult pain taking work. Brethern, You have nobody to rely on except God oo.

luminouz:
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Hmm another angle. Most of what you said is true.

It is just a wahala that keeps on producing wahala lol

One of the leading cause of divorce after Finance is sexual incompatibility.

How do you salvage such a situation, there are situations you are far better off not getting yourself into because the solution(s) can prove more difficult than moving a mountain. The end result is always adultery, frustration, adultery and even more frustration.

@OP God will help you oo

Any woman that can’t marry you now cause you live in a self-con should never be with you or even anywhere around you when you finally build a 100 room Mansion.

She is definitely not the one for you. Oga move and don’t even give her a second glance.

Zechariah 4:10 NLT
Do not despise these small beginnings…

To me I don’t think Obi nor Atiku want the peace of Nigeria above their own personal aspirations.

If they both did, from the beginning they knew that an alliance between themselves would guarantee victory yet they failed to take the opportunity just cuz one person decided he won’t take anything less than the tag “President”.

Nigerians better wake-up, these jokers are already billionaires. Any small kasala they would jet out of the country.

You are ones that would suffer the consequences of any unrest.

Houseontherock1:
You guys can't tolerate a guy from Ebonyi in Enugu, yet you want Yorubas to tolerate a Chinedu in a Yoruba land! Your intolerance knows no bounds! Iragbiji is Yoruba land,same as Ondo and the rest. First allow the Ebonyi man in Enugu

The fact that the matter has to be resounded is a slap on the Yoruba heritage honestly.

You see a fine young igbo boy born in 2000s, he has that Ndi-ibo fire and proud burning in him. He would not back that down nor accept anything contrary to his cultural belief. Nowadays you see Yoruba adults losing their sense of identity.

I don’t support Thuggery but when it comes to Yoruba pride, I still admire MC Oluomo, Tinubu and Co, I strongly believe a large % of the Yoruba pride would be lost with this current generation.

On that Saturday, Some Yoruba Adults would willing to go and vote LP just to prove that they are not tribalist, when the person they are voting for his already ingrained in his own ideals to the extent that he has the boldness to call you “Af0nja”. Is that not just plain foolishness.

One needs to stop the Yoruba Adult voting such a character and ask, who is your father? Where is your father’s house?

You find that there are people always testing others with what they themselves won’t tolerate. Once you take a stand against them, they cry foul and claim they are victims.

What is happening in Lagos with this LP candidate would never be tolerated in anyway in any part (inch) of Igboland.

At a point, One would even became ashamed of some Yorubas that want to vote for the LP after seeing all bigotry he has vomited. Where is your sense of prestige, like someone said “The man you want to throw your hat in the rig for, would this guy ever think Yoruba first?”.

Years from now, the people shouting “Lagos is a no-man’s land” would lay claim to your land. This would be pivotal point they would use to back up their claim.

When you are being sold an idea, even the seller wouldn’t take into his own home. Smh, Lagos people better wake up.

thesicilian:
Even this election has exposed easterners as the most intolerant set of people in Nigeria. I fear who no fear them.

I didn’t want to say this but thank God you said it. It is the Paradox of tolerance at play. When you tolerate the intolerant you would eventually create a world without tolerance cuz the intolerance would never tolerate you whenever they have the upperhand.

Happy Birthday Sir Adeboye, God anointing would never run dry in your life and you won’t miss your reward in heaven IJN

I usually don’t bother myself with political matters but there is overwhelming evidence the LP governorship candidates for Lagos is a tribal bigot.

It is evident he is no Yoruba, It would be a big disservice to Lagosian for their governor to be chosen by people that are not even indigenes of the Lagos, this can’t happen in Anambra or any other eastern state.

Lagos has developed further than any other state this far cuz of continuity in Leadership.

If anybody else or LP candidate wins that election, I envisage trouble cuz Sanwolu has performed win thus far, deserve a second term and is obviously the choice of the indigenes of Lagos. When someone keeps you as a guest in his house, your actions must always be guided. You don’t do the one that would make your host chase you out of his/her home.

NB: the evidence of his private disdain for the people he wants to rule are still on twitter for those that would bother to verify. Remember, In abundance of the heart the mouth speakth.