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Mindlog:
The brother-in-law is a guest in the home and not his parents' home, accepting abuse and disrespect has nothing do with being godly nor an indication of being well raised.

You chose a gentle approach to point out the flaws in the way he reasons. Let's hope he understands. It's disconcerting how many people on this forum praise women for their capability to tolerate abuse.

Threads like this are the reason why I laugh in Swahili when some members on this forum form 'critical thinking' and 'original' when they pretend like Nigeria is an egalitarian society.

Easyincome24:
Your husband younger brother slapped you because you didn't prepare dinner on time, As a well trained & godly wife what will you do?

And if you are the husband, what will be your reaction when you got home?

I will kick the motherfvcker out of my house. May God help him not to cross ways with any member from my family.

An achievement is something you do successfully using effort and skill.
Some women work really hard to be a Mrs so let us give it to them.

This story has made my day. Kuddos to her daddy. Lucky girl.

Read 1/3 of the story until it stopped making sense. Why wouldn't she have the ovarian cyst removed? Most women have ovarian cysts at some point in their lives. Most of them disappear on their own.

truthsayer009:
Madame, stop trying to play the victim card here. You were projecting your fears on me. I was only stating as regarding the post & the realities behind it.

Mr Fake-Psychologist stop psychoanalyzing me. You know shit about me or my family. Next time stick to the topic and don't behave like a skunk.

cococandy:
He says he only talks the truth but he doesn’t like different point of views. How can you get at the truth if you refuse to see another person’s POV?

What I said is not even complicated. It’s just obvious sha. But they wanna stay acting like all women are dumb and can’t see through the cultural and social manipulation

The issue is this. It is not about logic. A person like him is actually smart enough to understand what we are saying.

But our opinions challenge their position of privilege, lack of accountability and entitlement so all defense mechanisms pop up to mask the fact that the status quo is unfair and even abusive.

truthsayer009:
Yes, because you are simply projecting. My opinion doesn't need your validation.

Your opinion should not be shared in public because any opposition brings out the worst in you. You don't attack people's families just because they disagree with you.

truthsayer009:
I don't know why you are pointing fingers at me. I am not your spouse, neither am I the one cheating on you. You are simply projecting what is going on around you as If I am responsible for that. If you are upset that someone is cheating on you and justifying it, take it out on them.

I said my opinion, Men and Women think differently as regards sex. Women mostly tie love to sex while men don't necessarily do, that is it.

If a man is cheating in marriage, it is most definitely problem of indiscipline and it must have started before marriage. She would have noticed all the while and kept mute.

I don't need validation from you regarding my opinion, so you can stop trying to fight me on this.

You must be very touchy for you to bring my spouse into the discussion.

truthsayer009:
Your believe or disbelieve won't change realities of life, I didn't say men should go ahead and start cheating on their spouse. I said it's just Sex to them. So stop attacking me for speaking my own opinion. I don't know why you want to silence my voice by all means.

When you decide to state your - as you have correctly termed it - opinion online, people will react and respond to it. You can speak out as much as you want and I will react as it suits me. It has nothing to do with me trying to silence you.

There is biological differences between men and women in regards to sex, your anger doesn't change it.

I get that people have the responsibility to be faithful to their spouse, It is something they have to be conscious about, If they are passive about it, they will surely cheat. If your male spouse is cheating, it is your duty to hold him accountable but doesn't change the fact that men do not necessarily tie sex to love.

I neither preaching to you or trying to change your mind, so whether you believe it or not, it is irrelevant.

Here we are again. It's totally irrelevant whether there are biological differences or not. The wedding vows do not take any biological differences into account. Both spouses vowed to stay faithful.

Or have you ever heard a husband say that he will stay a little less faithful on his wedding day because he doesn't tie sex to love.

Honey, I will stay faithful on most days but on some days, you know, biological differences. The other woman does not mean anything to me so let me fvck around a little bit. Be so kind.


Maybe it's ok for your wife to cheat if she is one of those women who can draw a line between sex and emotion?

Is it less of a crime if after the act she tells you something like: 'Baby, don't take it so hard. I didn't feel anything for this man other than an orgasm.'


Do you people listen to yourselves?

truthsayer009:
Does this mean that she would felt better if he cheated with an MGBN winner or Most beautiful girl in an ekiti state beauty contest?

Sex to most men is simply just sex, without any classiness involved. it's hard for women to grasp this.

Sometimes i wonder why God created men and women to cohabit, when we actually think and behave very differently. It's a constant battle every one has to fight, it pisses me off so much.

The best way to solve a cheating problem is before marriage, not after. You just have to hope and pray they don't do it again.

Another one selling his truth as universal.

But this thread is not just about what sex means to some or as you authoritatively claim 'most men' but about adultery aka shitting on your spouse (=family) whom you promised to love and honor and remain faithful to. So it's not about biological differences but a matter of principles and (family) values.

djon78:
The only thing that man may do is hide it from his wife
Which many do
Some of them that are chronic
And can hide it very well
Even if you tell there wife to swear
They will vouch for them


You are a woman
You can not understand the experience from a man's angle


The only thing that even makes men behave sexually is religious ingrained teachings
That's the only thing

You are not the spokesperson for all men so speak for yourself.

thebosstrevor1:
Me.

You couldn't even summarize your gloomy point of view.You couldn't explain your gloomy point of view rather your were nagging but then you call yourself literate

You have no brain even before the start of your rants, so what are you amputating

Do they even amputate brains

What an educated being

I thought I should summarize the article and not my point of view. You are not only slow, you are confused too.

cococandy:
The battle to brainwash more women is still happening and consistently too. You see low IQ dudes going around public forums vomiting word for word false information they saw some frustrated misogynist dishing out and now that’s all they know.

I’m wondering if they keep repeating it in order to convince ladies to believe them or maybe they are actually trying to convince themselves.

Maybe it's a combination of both.

But they will shamelessly demand loyalty from their spouse. Any woman who enables such attitudes and behavior has herself to blame.

thebosstrevor1:
Write it in the language they understand....see logic.

They or you? I can't stoop to your level. I would have to amputate 99% of my brain.

thebosstrevor1:
Exactly, since you are literate, sumarise for the illitrates....instead you were ranting and nagging.

So how will illiterates understand summaries? See logic.

djon78:
Any Man that sleeps around while single can never be satisfied by one woman

Never

It's already in born

To avoid sexual misconduct
It must be a carefully disciplined life
God helping the man

Na only God's help

How some of you people come up with such claims as if they were scientific facts baffles me. I could equally claim that a man who has not explored his sexuality while single will never be satisfied in his marriage. Both statements are baseless opinions, not more, not less.

thebosstrevor1:
Summarise and stop ranting

I am sure your summary will be filled with negativity even though the report says otherwise.

How would a semi-literate like you know what the article actually says?

thebosstrevor1:
I should be asking you the question.

Summarize for us

Seriously? You need a summary of an article as short as this? Your mental laziness is on another level.

May she burn in hell.

The title of the thread is misleading.

thebosstrevor1:


Some people will be in pains now. Wailing and causing

Sadness and anger after hearing good news will not be your Portion in JESUS NAME

Have you read the article? Don't embarrass yourself unnecessarily.

Lamanii22:
I am from a polygamous home.... Yoruba will call it 'ogba werey' (home of psychos).... So many things happened when my stepmom was living with us... So many things I don't like to remember.... When your rival will even go spiritual on you.... The two wives will want their kids to supercede each other and blah blah blah.... May I never experience it again... I cover my husband with the blood of jesus... May my husband not look at another woman in jesus'name.. he should only have eyes for me....

Amen.

I want to unwatch it.

Nice one!

In a nutshell, teach by example.

I like the part where you wrote that sitting still for 5 minutes is a major achievement for a 2-year-old. Parents should have realistic age-appropriate expectations.

No rocket science.

He didn't say 'becoming'. He said 'has become'.

Richy4:
I feel really bad sometimes when women who were hurt immensely cannot vent enough anger as they wanted because they were afraid the man will totally abandon them....
If she took some time off from her matrimonial duties in the bedroom because she was angry, the man will continue from where he stopped according to the writer....I feel really blessed being a man....No wonder some women were really fighting this gender stuff... e no balance at all...

They have been brainwashed to believe that all men cheat and have therefore accepted to set very low standards for themselves and their relationships/marriages.

Will be back later.

I don't know what to say.