₦airaland Forum

praizG:
@johnJS, based on the experience of a friend currently using Zhang and associates for his EB petition, you need to up your bargaining prowess when discussing attorney fees so you dont end up paying more (should you decide to use them). As far as I know, my friend drafted the recommendation letters for Zhang and associates to edit, dont't know about petition letter stage yet.

Thanks for sharing this.
I think I also prefer the petitioner draft the recommendation letters from technical perspective while the attorney reviews and adds legal perspectives to the letters. Such letters are stronger than those solely written by the attorney. For example, oil and gas industry, the petitioner can add all technical oil/gas and project specific terms to the letters which the attorney cannot or is not vast in, and the attorney sharpens up the letters with legal terms.

johnJS:
Hello all,

To cut a long story short I have basically struck out with getting an attorney through relatives in the US.

Helpout12345 you previously mentioned (thanks again) a couple of attorneys one of which was better for industry professionals – Zhang & Associates of https://www.hooyou.com/

I did a little research on them and though their reviews online appear a bit mixed (people with refusals are naturally disgruntled) the fact that one or two others here gave positive reviews of them helps.

So I am thinking of contacting them to get finally get this process started.

However, I would appreciate any further recommendations of attorneys experienced in the oil & gas immigration area as this is the specific industry the principal applicant works in. And like Helpout12345 hinted I would be looking for those who would give very hands-on help and direction in writing/drafting letters, petition and whatever else may be required.

The idea behind getting an attorney versus DIY is to get this exact kind of help and of course to enhance our chances of success especially as we are doing this from Nigeria.

For oil and gas industry. Add the following to the list of attorneys.

1. https://www.coane.com/attorney/francis-andrew/

Expensive attorney but helps review recommendation letters.

2. https://luishesslaw.com/

Reviews recommendation letters.

3. https://messersmithlaw.com/

You can ask for review of recommendation letters.

bummyla:
Till we hear from him!

Preparing for wedding, most especially traditional wedding is the ultimate text of a marriage!

Couples that hold their traditional wedding in peace, without quarrelling or fighting, tends to have the best marriages

I can bet you, as a married man, you people are putting this young man under a lot of financial stresses

Your aunty, I can bet you may or may not be exploiting the young man. And you know, but you choose not to fight for him, so not to displease your family.

I had that experience with my sister in-law.

As my sister in-law destroyed my marriage

I bet you that is how your aunt will destroy your happiness, in the guise that she is helping you.

Because he is a banker does not mean he is a millionaire.

Madam work with your fiancé's budget

I was working on a budget of 300K, they were working on a budget of 3M

Why wouldn't us have friction, every time

Your people's greed to show off is destroying your happiness.

I have been in your guy's shoes.

I can resonate with your experience here.

Kinzo0917:
. Let stop defending irresponsible guys. How come no one from the OP Family likes him? Does it mean no one in her family sees anything good about him? I think the guy is full of ego and pride. I am a guy and I have sisters .I can't allow my sister marry a guy too full of himself. A guy that can't respect my sisters parent

Yes nobody expects a potential son-in-law to be rude and disrespectful to his intending wife family. I am also not defending the guy.

But nothing in the write up confirmed that the guy is the one at fault yet.

We have seen over-bearing in-laws too that want their sons or daughters-in-law to be worshipping them just because they gave out their child in marriage

This is why we should not rush to condemn the man in this case until she tells us the details of their arguments.

Kinzo0917:
You wrote trash. Must we guys keep defending our fellow guys even when they are wrong? OP, ignore this guy useless writeup. You did the right thing. God made these incidence to happen so you want fall into the pit of regret

It is not useless. Ask the OP to give us details of what happens for her parents to say he is rude.

This is one sided story. See as people are rushing to say she dogged a bullet. She dogged nothing.

She cannot even tell us the details of her fiance's arguments with her family members.

ejimatic:
. Go to any community ask them to produce their wedding certificates hardly will you see 7 out of ten that will produce them.What many people do is Engagement which is not the same as marriage.

So, it is only people that have a marriage certificate that are married? Okay. I am out.

Anything for the November elections.

ejimatic:
It is a fact that 7 of 10 people in Nigeria only live as husbands and wives without any marriage.

Source of this "fact"?

Gboyega has addressed the part you wanted him to thank your aunt for driving you to market.

I am interested in more details of his arguments with your aunt and parents before I say anything further.

What was he arguing with your aunt? What happened between him and your parents for them to say he is rude?

OBABASH:
Pls. I need ur advice my Nairaland friend, my wife has been passwording her phone since I complain about her chatting with her coursemate that she was crushing for when she was in school. Pls how can I stop her from moving close to him or how can I make her realist what she did was wrong?

Grow some balls as a man. That's the advise you need.

Please move on. It's difficult to change people. Based on what you narrated here, it looks like he is a lazy fine boy and you both are not compatible in vision.

Olu1000:
Under customary law , introduction is equal to marriage.

If dowry was paid during introduction, it's a marriage.
If no dowry paid, no marriage. It remains introduction.

I am interested in the outcome of this case. It might be first time DNA evidence will be used to claim parternity in Nigeria.

This cannot happen in Naija. A woman cannot lack gbola in Nigeria. Maybe possible in western countries though

Another one. It's like APC is now paying online agents to discourage Nigerians from leaving the country

Mindlog:
They are adults who if Nigeria has a functioning social care system, the children ought to be taken away from them and now be serving jail terms for defilement and concealment of abuse on a minor.

If I had access to the 15 year old girl, the mother will not come in contact with for some years and I am very certain the step-father will be spending this Christmas in prison as I have done such severally.

We have heard stories of blood brother sexually assaulting blood sister. If you are their parents, will you send your son to jail for it?

Mindlog:
They are adults who if Nigeria has a functioning social care system, the children ought to be taken away from them and now be serving jail terms for defilement and concealment of abuse on a minor.

If I had access to the 15 year old girl, the mother will not come in contact with for some years and I am very certain the step-father will be spending this Christmas in prison as I have done such severally.

So you will come into their family matter when the family says they are not pressing charges?

And who says their children will be better raised in foster care system? We hear several bad stories from the foster system too.

Mindlog:
Agreed, the girl needs therapy. What of the mother and the step-father based on the information from the narration?

What about them? They are adults. They can decide what they think it's best for them and their children.

If the mother decides to stay in her marriage and live in same house with the man, it might be better to give the girl a new home to help her healing process.

Mindlog:
In the light of the abuse she suffered, the mother covering up and the step-father going scot-free?

The girl should be taken for counselling. There are so many information lacking from the narration above about the girl but notwithstanding, counseling will help her to heal faster.

Mindlog:
So what happens to the 15 year old defiled by the pedophilic step-father?

Happens in terms of what? Accommodation or what?

And to the advise on screenshots. The man misbehaved for sure. However, it's the woman involved that knows her family situation better. This is a very deep-thought family issue and go beyond what you use adrenaline, testosterone or progesterone to make a quick decision on. Seems like they have other children together as well.

Based on other children shared by both the husband and the wife, the economic condition of the woman and many other factors, the right advise might not be what the OP is expecting, "like call the police", "lock the man up", "leave the marriage" etc.

Nobody should endure domestic violence and verbal abuse

Mindlog:
You should be looking at your own parents' marriage not a neighbour's.

Hope you give this advise if the man is your brother or son or if it's a woman being maltreated in the name of "love".

CNN should go and prove all they call him in court.

Fake news CNN.

Bloggers news are more authentic than news from CNN.

I hope you didn't buy her love with money. I hope she truly loves you. Because it looks like you are as good as the gifts and money you give to her.

Good women don't lack husbands. Good men don't lack wives.

...Helpout12345

Nebes:
You never see something. It happens everyday all around you. Just that the men involved are most often too ashamed to speak out.

If not in dreams, maybe you see it in movies.

oloyeagbaakin:
Meet this girl recently, my mum told me I should not ask anything about her educational qualification, but she is a hairdresser. Got to know after our introduction that she just finished from J.S.S 3 she did not even go to S.S.S 1 in short she doesn't even have a WAEC certificate. And our wedding is coming soon, what can I do guys?

What's your highest educational qualification now? What's your aspiration concerning your education in future?
Does the lady have any interest in furthering her education?

My questions are to help you check compatibility now and in future.

Nebes:
Almost everyday we hear of how women love money and how they prefer rich men. But I have seen another specie of women that not only love poor men but wish their men to remain poor.

They are mostly women who are better off financially. They pretend to support the poor guy but the reality is that they never want their men to become financially stable. The man's financial weakness is what gives them pleasure. These are very wicked women.

As a guy, the moment you start getting established, that's when they start having problems with you. You might love them but the relationship will suffer as you become more stable.

For the men always looking out to feed off a woman, be careful lest you eat the one that will tie your financial destiny down forever.

For dreams ba? Because what you put here is not reality.

What is sparking reaction in this? I just don't see anything spectacular. Her life, her problem.