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Anonymousqueen:
@Op, Thank you so much for this thread. By God’s grace , I shall come back here to testify very soon.

Please I’m a professional Realtor with some year’s experience although I have Bsc ED in accounting, having reading through the post from the beginning and still stuck. Can someone kindly help which category I belong to?
I have received few awards and I’m sure and could also get publication from the social media handle of the companies I have partnered with.

Thanks for your response in advance

If I understand you completely, you are thinking of claiming the following criteria out of the 10.

1. Evidence of receipt of lesser nationally or internationally recognized prizes or awards for excellence

3. Evidence of published material about you in professional or major trade publications or other major media

5. Evidence of your original scientific, scholarly, artistic, athletic, or business-related contributions of major significance to the field

6. Evidence of your authorship of scholarly articles in professional or major trade publications or other major media

Is that correct ?

This is a completely unnecessary legal tussle.

Now she is asking for donations through Gofundme.

As a lawyer herself, she is supposed to know she cannot take her children out of Nigeria without the acceptance of the other parent, who is their father.

It's my pleasure my people.

Honestly Indians and Chinese have been taking advantage of these routes for years. I know many Nigerians are qualified for these visas, just that they are not aware or lack all required information on their processes.

ednut1:
side chick later stole his car and has been arrested

Oh. Even the side chick is on a mission.

descarado:
No matter how educated, exposed and rich a Nigerian man is, his greatest weakness is inferiority complex and identity crises

And both are psychological.

Fallacy of generalizations. Though I agree that many black people have that problem. Both black men and women. But not all

I hope the guy has collected his green card before this.

If he had collected the pally, cheating cannot depot him.

Please take her back with the baby. 5 months old baby is too young to be left without the mother.

Remember the baby is still your grand child.

From "Stay away from Nigerian girls" to a whole "stay away from Nigerians"

AlphaTaikun:
If you're clearly intentional in
seeking out any woman who has emotional intelligence among your pool of female friends, then marry her when you find her, and she'll give you near-absolute peace of mind. This applies to Diasporan Nigerian woman and non-Nigerian woman.

To be the better man for any woman, a man has to learn the specifics of emotional intelligence as well then define what you want and place a value on yourself based on self-respect. Without these aspects, a man will experience punishing lessons down the road from women be they Black, White or
Brown. No doubt!

When you get to the U.S., UK, or
Canada, relate discretionarily with everyone and learn about the eclectic mix of cultures but you must socialize with discretion with
Nigerians in the Diaspora to hit the ground running.

The Indians, Chinese, Jewish, Russian, Norwegian, and Irish Diasporans help one another. Why should anyone encourage new
Nigerian immigrants not to mix with the rest of the Nigerian Diaspora? That's a knee-jerk advice.

I tire oo

drphantom:

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=1729wD_TOL8

See the result and the complications they don’t tell you about

Some these complications are mentioned in that article as well.

MrBrownJay1:
dont take only part of what i sad.... again, i said:"STAY AWAY FROM NIGERIANS and make your own path in life; make your own journey, make your own history, go look for people of different culture, different mindset and enlighten yourself with a different way of life."

And I am telling you nothing stops you from achieving all you typed there while staying with Nigerians.

There are bad and good Nigerians. Same with those people of different culture and mindset you are referring to. There bad and good people among them too.

Correct statement would have been "STAY AWAY FROM BAD PEOPLE AND PEOPLE THAT WILL NOT ADD VALUE TO YOUR LIFE.

But not "STAY AWAY FROM NIGERIANS".

1stGenAmerican:
Not speaking for all but the reason why some Nigerian marriages struggle abroad is because one or both partners refuse to let go of certain aspects of Nigerian culture that might make sense and work in Nigeria but makes no sense and doesn’t work abroad.
Not everyone willfully abandons their culture but being in a new place kills tunnel vision and people begin realizing that some things in their culture are toxic and need to be stopped.

Yes. I agree every culture has one or two areas of improvement. My point is that many black Africans ignorantly believe everything about their culture is bad and that everything foreign to their culture is better. And they will end up copying both the good and the bad of their adopted culture.

I agree your exposure to new ways of doing things in other cultures should help you to improve your culture, not to copy bad practices of the other culture.

Those things the foreign culture called toxic, are they truly toxic? What is their origin, politics or humanity?

An example, in Nigerian, Indian, Chinese and many Eastern European, Arabian cultures around the world, the man is the head of the family but in American culture, both man and woman are head of the family.

When you find immigrants from Nigeria, India, China, Eastern Europe, Arabs in America, only Nigerians will massively be debating or challenging why a man is the head in the family. I am not saying it's not happening in other immigrant communities all in the US but it's very rare.

At the end of the day, we get ourselves in this type of discussion we are having here, whereas there are better things we can start adopting or copying from the western technologies and know-how to better our race.

MrBrownJay1:
again, there are Nigerians everywhere on earth, and i suggest you associate with local people when abroad, rather than Nigerians.

I agree we must associate with local people but I disagree completely we should "stay away from Nigerians" as you put it.

I agree you must obey the laws of foreign countries so that you don't end up in Jail. But I disagree that you must forsake all your own culture and your own people to accept all the foreign culture. You can learn new better ways if it’s actually working better than your ways at home, but I bet you, everything cannot be bad about your culture that you have to completely embrace foreign culture over yours.

Only we black people make this mistake in the world. Arabs, Indians, Chinese don't do that. Even the westerners don't do it.

This issue here is mainly in the black immigrant community in western countries, where we neglect our ways the moments we land in foreign lands.

This type of behavior is very rare in other immigrant communities all over the world.

Ordinary relationship and marriage, we cannot manage within our community once we are in foreign land.

MrBrownJay1:
open your mind and stop trying to follow-follow the failure and/or footsteps of others. why would you want to associate with Nigerians when you can associate with local people who A) know better about this new country than Nigerians, B) will open your eyes and enlighten you 100 times better than Nigerians about this new country?!

i will even go further and say:" STAY AWAY FROM NIGERIANS and make your own path in life; make your own journey, make your how history, go look for people of different culture, different mindset and enlighten yourself with a different way of life.dont go listen to other Nigerians who will advise you to do what they did (where they failed) as if you cant do it on your own. if you go to the US, dont go looking for Nigerians, go look for Americans to mingle with, there are millions of them there.

And who says having fellow Nigerians around you will prevent you from achieving all these?

There are still good Nigerian women in abroad, both single and married.

Yes. Many of our women become overnight "woke" or forget their culture or even start telling you how they dislike their own culture at home and how they believe oyinbo culture and ways are the best. This is why Nigerian marriages struggle abroad. Of course, some Nigerian men too have some blames here too. Some of them will start practicing "red pill" nonsense that is not according to our culture as well.

My advise to any single Nigerian abroad is that once your potential partner is already showing the traits of "wokeness", "oyinbo culture is best in the world", "red pill" and you still believe in your native ways, set boundaries around that relationship. Otherwise you will regret it later if you get over involved by marriage, children involved etc.

MrBrownJay1:
the most importat question IS: why would a Nigerian person pay thousands of $$ to travel accross the world, to then associate with people he/she can meet back home?!?!? i think that is the most senseless thing to do.

open your mind, discover the world, indulge, get out your comfort zone, mingle with different people with different cultures and get adventurous with the world.

What's this? What do we call this you wrote here? So because you leave Nigeria, you don't want to associate with your fellow Nigerians again?

Seunn11:
Please Help with the following question

How can one make payment for the I140 form processing from Nigeria?

Thanks

You may pay the fee with a money order, personal check, or cashier’s check.  When filing at a USCIS lockbox, you may also pay by credit card using Form G-1450, Authorization for Credit Card Transactions. If you pay by check, you must make your check payable to the U.S. Department of Homeland Security.

https://www.uscis.gov/i-140
https://www.uscis.gov/pay-with-a-credit-card

In summary, you pay with a US Bank personal check, cashier’s check, or credit cards, or a money order drawn from a US organization.

In practice, from Nigeria, if you are using an attorney, you give the government filling fee to the attorney and the attorney will use any of the acceptable forms to pay the USCIS. If you DIY from Nigeria, you will need someone in the US to help you buy money order or cashier’s check, or issue a personal US check, except you have a US bank account yourself.

Also, note from the second link attached that only US Bank issued credit cards are allowed.

adedammy009:
Many thanks to you for addressing this affidavit of support part because it has been an area of concern to me. I like to know for like a family of 3, which the expected financial support according the 125pct is around $29k. Can I present savings of $20k in USD and the remaining $9k in naira equivalence of official rate? Looking forward to your reply. Thanks

Hmm. This is a tricky one because of the high disparity between official and common exchange rates in Nigeria.

To answer your question, you can present your savings in both USD and/or NGN. You can even add more other liquid assets like stocks etc. But I will advise you use common black market rate to present equivalent of your NGN in dollars to be on the safe side because the VOs know many individuals in Nigeria cannot get dollars at official rates.

Your organization is very important here. The VO has just 1 to 3 minutes to review everything around this. Do a listing of all your asset details in a printed excel format, back up with all required documents to proof all the listed assets (raw cash in banks, stocks, other assets).

If you are presenting other type of assets like stocks, real estate, remember to back them up with stocks certificates and other official documents.

All well arranged and put together in a folder you can just hand over to the VO at a go.

semmyk:
Just to add-on a bit on consular VO, extract of earlier post: FAQ

Thanks. I like how you are helping merge these information together. It's alot of information and can be all over the place.

This topic is better in romance section for children to feast on.

OP, this example you mentioned up there is nothing honestly.

You don't live with them and don't know the initial discussions they have had about "the woman selling provisions".

Please don't scatter your brother home except you have more examples to tell us here. As par this one, nothing special here.

praizG:
@Helpout12345 can't thank you enough for being very informative. It was indeed a long read and educative. Indepth knowledge about the laws that govern the INA is very important, but can be tedious to follow.
Thanks again.

I know it's a long read. But focus on section 212a number 1 to 10 line items and their waiver section. If you need more deep dive into any of them, just ask here.

Samantha123:
Why?

I think its normal for men to send you DM as you are a lady and you even put your picture on your profile. It's not worth creating a thread for. Just ignore if you are not interested.

Wizzyonyxphoenix:
It's not a question of forming woke, it's a question of being realistic...if he continues this way he might stumble across something that he might misunderstand and cause trouble for me. He's already banned me from having female friends as it is, what's to say he won't ban me from having a life completely. But the issue here is that he should trust me enough to understand that I'm no longer a kid now, and it's wrong to just wake up one day and start going through Ur grown sons phone!! And forget all that brouhaha about living under his roof and what not....I didn't ask them to give birth to me,so of course I'll live under his roof!!! I'm just waiting for ASUU to call off the strike so I can start from there...let's call a spade a spade bikonu

Who told you, you are grown up? Yes physically but not in mind.

With the amount of madness going on and being promoted as normal in this world today, any parent that love his or her children will do similarly. Especially from the way you are talking. You sound very naive of life and you truly need your parents guidance for now.

Like I said before, your father loves you and that's why he is doing this for you. In 10 years from now, you will look back and cherish what he is doing for you now.

And even after you move out of the house, you still need your parents sincere guidance and advise sometimes to navigate certain aspects of this life until you are experienced enough about life.

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https://www.medicalnewstoday.com/articles/326590

Wizzyonyxphoenix:
I just want to know guys. Is there really any reason for this? Even though he was the one who got the phone for me, but shouldn't he still respect my privacy as an adult despite that? I'm just curious because when I challenged him about it this morning, he went berserk and almost broke my teeth. I'm just really concerned as to know whether or not I should have kept quiet and let him comfortably go through my private messages.

And no, I have absolutely nothing to hide. I just feel it's wrong, especially because he has a tendency to do it again, and because he has no iota of trust for me. I just need some clarification guys, to clear my conscience.

Thanks.

You will love what he is doing by looking out for you now when you become a man, because you are still a boy now. Forget that theoretical 18 years is an adult thing.

Start building trust so that your dad will not have to doubt you by forcing his way through your phone.

Rozross:
Eiya sorry about your sad story, I believe your mom needs deliverance. Don’t hate her please, she’s still your mother and believe me she’s not proud of her lifestyle. Pray for her and ask God to save her.

Very good! Hope you will give this type of sincere and unemotional advise if this involves a father ?

Samantha123:
Guys please, I'm not here to exchange emails with anyone, so stop bothering yourselves with the hope that I may reply them because I won't.

I'm just here to have fun, engage in discussions and just go with the flow.

Try next door, maybe you might get lucky.

You don't have to open a thread on this. Please remove the thread.

You must be devastated for sure. It's good you see her by yourself. Now you will be in better place to know how to do things with both your parents.

As your uncle said, forgive her because she is still your biological mother. Maybe one day, she will change her ways and become more responsible.

My advise to you is that you should not allow this to derail your focus in life. Use her as an experience that most bad behaviors are not sustainable in the long run. Be focused on your studies and if you decide to learn a trade, be focused on it too. Hard work pays.

Move this to romance section please.

Don't do it because your mother said so. Your mother is acting out of emotion and vendetta she wants to settle with her husband.

Don't listen to men haters here ooo. This is the type of topic they will come all out for, to spill their hatred as usual in form of advise to you.