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This topic is better in romance section for children to feast on.

OP, this example you mentioned up there is nothing honestly.

You don't live with them and don't know the initial discussions they have had about "the woman selling provisions".

Please don't scatter your brother home except you have more examples to tell us here. As par this one, nothing special here.

praizG:
@Helpout12345 can't thank you enough for being very informative. It was indeed a long read and educative. Indepth knowledge about the laws that govern the INA is very important, but can be tedious to follow.
Thanks again.

I know it's a long read. But focus on section 212a number 1 to 10 line items and their waiver section. If you need more deep dive into any of them, just ask here.

Samantha123:
Why?

I think its normal for men to send you DM as you are a lady and you even put your picture on your profile. It's not worth creating a thread for. Just ignore if you are not interested.

Wizzyonyxphoenix:
It's not a question of forming woke, it's a question of being realistic...if he continues this way he might stumble across something that he might misunderstand and cause trouble for me. He's already banned me from having female friends as it is, what's to say he won't ban me from having a life completely. But the issue here is that he should trust me enough to understand that I'm no longer a kid now, and it's wrong to just wake up one day and start going through Ur grown sons phone!! And forget all that brouhaha about living under his roof and what not....I didn't ask them to give birth to me,so of course I'll live under his roof!!! I'm just waiting for ASUU to call off the strike so I can start from there...let's call a spade a spade bikonu

Who told you, you are grown up? Yes physically but not in mind.

With the amount of madness going on and being promoted as normal in this world today, any parent that love his or her children will do similarly. Especially from the way you are talking. You sound very naive of life and you truly need your parents guidance for now.

Like I said before, your father loves you and that's why he is doing this for you. In 10 years from now, you will look back and cherish what he is doing for you now.

And even after you move out of the house, you still need your parents sincere guidance and advise sometimes to navigate certain aspects of this life until you are experienced enough about life.

For people arguing about Trans surgery and what to expect after the surgery. Read below

https://www.medicalnewstoday.com/articles/326590

Wizzyonyxphoenix:
I just want to know guys. Is there really any reason for this? Even though he was the one who got the phone for me, but shouldn't he still respect my privacy as an adult despite that? I'm just curious because when I challenged him about it this morning, he went berserk and almost broke my teeth. I'm just really concerned as to know whether or not I should have kept quiet and let him comfortably go through my private messages.

And no, I have absolutely nothing to hide. I just feel it's wrong, especially because he has a tendency to do it again, and because he has no iota of trust for me. I just need some clarification guys, to clear my conscience.

Thanks.

You will love what he is doing by looking out for you now when you become a man, because you are still a boy now. Forget that theoretical 18 years is an adult thing.

Start building trust so that your dad will not have to doubt you by forcing his way through your phone.

Rozross:
Eiya sorry about your sad story, I believe your mom needs deliverance. Don’t hate her please, she’s still your mother and believe me she’s not proud of her lifestyle. Pray for her and ask God to save her.

Very good! Hope you will give this type of sincere and unemotional advise if this involves a father ?

Samantha123:
Guys please, I'm not here to exchange emails with anyone, so stop bothering yourselves with the hope that I may reply them because I won't.

I'm just here to have fun, engage in discussions and just go with the flow.

Try next door, maybe you might get lucky.

You don't have to open a thread on this. Please remove the thread.

You must be devastated for sure. It's good you see her by yourself. Now you will be in better place to know how to do things with both your parents.

As your uncle said, forgive her because she is still your biological mother. Maybe one day, she will change her ways and become more responsible.

My advise to you is that you should not allow this to derail your focus in life. Use her as an experience that most bad behaviors are not sustainable in the long run. Be focused on your studies and if you decide to learn a trade, be focused on it too. Hard work pays.

Move this to romance section please.

Don't do it because your mother said so. Your mother is acting out of emotion and vendetta she wants to settle with her husband.

Don't listen to men haters here ooo. This is the type of topic they will come all out for, to spill their hatred as usual in form of advise to you.

praizG:
Great!
Thank you @ Helpout12345
Sharing the interview experiences of 2 individuals who got their EB2- NIW approved.
One had some savings but no where near the 125pct figure for family of 5. He however had evidence of an online job for a US based company which he had in Nigeria . He was drilled repeatedly by the VO to show proof that he'd still have the job when he moves to the US

The other individual, a medical doctor and a specialist in a field, had stated in his EB2- NIW application and proposed endeavor/letter of intent, to engage in research in his field. He had some savings ( did not bring that up and was not asked), however, he was offered a residency training position in his field and his annual salary was above the 125pct figure required for his family size, and included medical insurance. The VO asked why he was going for the training in the field he claimed to be a specialist. He asked questions hovering around the EB2- NIW application and how he intends to carry out his proposed endeavor and if he really had exceptional abilities he had claimed to have.
Both individuals got the visa but had a sour taste in their mouth after the interview.
@Helpout 12345 and others with experience or information, please what advice would you give to someone in the first and/ or second scenario or other scenarios you know of.
What other factors can make the VO deny an EB visa?
Does multiple prior non immigrant visa refusals, prolonged stay at a prior US trip, inability to get police report from another country e.g China, Russia, etc, affect the interview negatively.

Thank you

Good questions.

1. I think the first person in those interview scenarios was in a good situation so far that online job is in their field of expertise where they claim to have exceptional ability

2. The second person was in a tight situation because of taking a training or trainee position. Anyone in that situation must be prepared for lots of drilling by the VO. I will not advise anyone to show trainee position going to interviews. It's better you have interviews and communication with US employers about top positions in your field than go with a job contradicting what you claimed to be. Honestly, the person must have really done a good job to convince that VO that he or she is not just a medical doctor like millions of doctors around the world or the specialized area must be very important to the US.

Concerning other reasons that EB visa might be denied. This falls under many factors that make an intending immigrant inadmissible to the US. Please find below full information on inadmissibility. Some of them have waivers opportunities while some don't.

https://travel.state.gov/content/travel/en/us-visas/visa-information-resources/waivers.html

It's a long read but it's worth it because I have seen people denied based on one or two of these grounds before.

Is he a comedian? If not, then only God can save him.

frozen70:
Flogging was part of
Those days

But with this present generation, counseling is the way out

I think you should just advise her but am sure, she is just pouring her anger on those little children

You may not know what she is going through that made the children to be the recipient

Everything counseling. They have deceived you people far.

Just like married people are advised to seek "counseling" from young unmarried counselors using textbooks to solve marriage problems.

Here we go again, everyone is forming "woke"

Nothing wrong in one or two spank for a child. Just don't flogg the child like an animal. Even oyinbo spank their children when required.

You think all risks are mitigated by planning to adopt children?

If both of them are medically fertile, the risk is still there because even contraceptives sometimes fail. Except they plan to abort any pregnancy that comes with failure of contraceptives. Or they are ready for hysterectomy or vasectomy.

it's better they go their separate ways.

kollykolly:
Thank you once again. Can you share the savings hhreshold one can think of?

Here you go. Based on states or Alaska or Hawaii. You will use 125pct figures.

https://www.uscis.gov/i-864p

Those figures are expected to carry you and family for a period of 1 year without needing any public charge benefits.

Promiscuous husband has finally killed his wife.

Elders say a Promiscuous spouse will either kill self or the partner.

shaybebaby:
Oh, we do. He should get down on his knees in prayer. There is nothing the good Lord cannot do.

A wise man keeps his home, so he should work on his tone ( maybe all that shouting is why she cheated ), keep fit and hit the gym and make sure he looks attractive and smells nice at all times.

But as Chinenye has demonstrated, there are many waiting to take his place so he should stay and fight for his marriage.

Do you have father, brothers, uncles or sons in your life? Think of them as you are practicing your misandry.

Same goes for Mysogynists, think of your mother, sisters, aunts and daughters as you practice your beliefs

And a cheating partner can lose spousal support if there's evidence that they are already having affairs during the marriage and that affair lead to the divorce.

Not an affair the cheating partner in the past and the couple had reconciled over.

poseidon12:
Not true. In most States, if you have documented evidence of infidelity, you can divorce without your spouse getting 50% of your assets. That is one of the reasons they hire private investigators to catch a spouse they want to divorce.

You are wrong. Cheating partner only lose assets if evidence shows they have spent parts of the marital asset on their extra marital affairs.

https://www.lawyers.com/legal-info/family-law/divorce/how-adultery-can-affect-property-division.html

Mindlog:
They don't own the house because from the video, she claims to be the one paying the rent.

Okay. If truly the woman is in better financial situation than the man and she is displaying this type of anger on video. Then, the man has lots to gain from this divorce if the man has a very good divorce lawyer. A woman can pay spousal support, lose her property or investment too to a man if she has more financial power in the marriage.

This anger on display here, and if the man can get more evidences, she might end up losing more if she loses the custody of the children to her husband

juman:
@bolded.

Can man take care of the children like their mother?

In most cases, mothers take care better but some men take care of children very well too.

Many marriages get to this level. Unfortunately some didn't make it out of the stage while some survived.

I have seen both.

To learn new perspectives. And to give out free truthful information to whoever wants them

Na wah ooo. Things dey ooo.

How is your social life like?

praizG:
Thanks a lot!
The affidavit of support and financial documents are not required in EB2 -NIW, am I right?

Yes. Affidavit of support is not required for NIW. But there are things required to serve same purpose as the Affidavit of support in case of NIW.

The purpose of Affidavit of Support is for US government to ascertain than the immigrants will not become public charge after getting the immigration benefits. In other words, that the immigrants will not end up collecting public poverty alleviating benefits.

So for NIW applicants going through consular processing, the public charge requirements are tested at embassy stage. The primary NIW applicant must convince the VO at the embassy that he or she has a job offer waiting, or has a high prospect of landing a job as early as possible when they arrive in the US. If the primary applicant has no job offer waiting, the following are tips to use to convince the VO that they will not become public charge

1. Present your letter of intent submitted with your I140 from the first stage. But you must have written your letter of intent to serve this purpose as well when you were preparing it at USCIS stage. In the letter of intent, you must state your intention is to work in the field you have demonstrated extra ordinary abilities in the past and that you are still demonstrating those abilities at the moment.

2. Before your embassy interview, go into indeed.com and other job boards to apply for as many jobs as possible. Have communication and interviews with as many US employers as possible. Print those communication and interviews and take them to your visa interview. If you can get interviews with prospective employers in your field while outside the US, most likely you will land a job very soon when you arrive.

3. If you have enough savings, show evidence of it against the US poverty guidelines based on the number of people in your family.

Rozross:
I have sense, just admit it.

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You have done well here.

praizG:
@Helpout12345,
I observed that a lot of family based immigrant visa applicants handle the NVC processing stage by themselves. Can the same apply to applicants in the employment based category at the NVC stage? Do you have experience with the steps involved?

Yes. EB categories applicants going through consular processing can definitely do the NVC stage by themselves. In fact, the process becomes same for everyone at NVC stage, except very few differences in visa priority dates, affidavit of support, job offer (if required).

I also always recommend that EB consular processing candidates DIY the NVC and embassy stage cos attorney has very little inputs at those stages.

NVC steps are as below.

https://travel.state.gov/content/travel/en/us-visas/immigrate/the-immigrant-visa-process/step-1-submit-a-petition/step-2-begin-nvc-processing.html

Let me know if you need more information on any steps involved.

Rozross:
It’s not really about her but her kids or haven’t you read or seen where a man refused to marry a lady based on her mother’s history? It may affect their daughters marital life as eligible bachelors may avoid them based on their mother’s misdoings

You have a point here though.

OP, go run DNA tests on your kids first and do whatever you want after. But if you decide to keep her, be careful.