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Going by your previous posts and this. I can say you don't really love the guy to make this type of sacrifice freely for him. You remembered him after you see your low chances of marrying someone already in Canada.

And you didn't tell us if you are the one pestering him now about moving to Canada or if he is the one pushing for it.

If you are the one pushing him to move to Canada based on your own selfish reason that you couldn't get a Canadian based dude, please abort the mission. It might not end well.

For it to work out, you must be genuinely in love with him to freely do such a favor for him and he must be very willing to relocate to Canada, not by you pushing him.

Don't fall for her emotional blackmail. If you cannot afford to take care of her sisters, continue to stand your ground.

Just continue to be available to be in your child's life. After delivery, hormones gone and she found out that the emotional blackmail is not working, she will accept your help or even come back to you.

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This is it. She drugged the man with Rophypnol so that she can incapacitate him before stabbing him to death.

She is a murderer. Hope she gets a death sentence.

saddyn:
Please does it mean no one has been scheduled for interview since the batch interviewed in May?

Am F4
PD 07 2007
DQ Dec 2020

Please response please

Interviews are being scheduled as usual for current cases as per priority dates.

Your priority date is not yet current for F4 visa. They will not schedule your interview until your priority date is current for visa issuance.

The priority date for F4 visa issuance is 22MAR07.

https://travel.state.gov/content/travel/en/legal/visa-law0/visa-bulletin/2023/visa-bulletin-for-november-2022.html

Back to answer your question.

Selling or dumping a child is barbaric, but nothing wrong with giving the child up for adoption if the woman cannot take care of the child.

ObalendeCMS:
I wonder why a woman who carried a child in her womb for 9 months will end up selling, dumping and giving the child up for adoption. Where is the bond that has been formed between the mother and the unborn child? Women will continue to disgust me.

Bolded makes you sound like a misogynist and Samantha123 was right to ask you that question.

Here we go again. Nobody forces you to remain in the UK. Go back to Nigeria where you will have to go on strike to get paid.

It's purely a scam. Show her Canada Permanent Residents Visa thread on Nairaland and the Canada PR government websites to prove to her that it's a scam.

Then, she should get the agent arrested for fraud. The agent must vomit that 700k.

yemmit90:
Individuals experiences are better than Google.

@op, it all depends on individual and nature of delivery. If there is no complication and the blood stopped in time, you can have sex after 4 weeks.

For the second question, if your wife is the type that dont menstrate during breastfeeding, she cannot easily get pregnant during this period. However, the best preventive method for the first 6 months after child birth is Condom.

Correct. Just to add. I have heard of couples where the wives were not menstruating but still became pregnant. So, I agree the best form of protection is using condoms.

Socratiz:
It seems to me that those who intervened do not have the requisite skill to handle matters like this.

The first step would be to fully explore the reasons your wife started this affair. It's most likely that some unresolved childhood trauma was the cause. Unless the whole spectrum is explored and resolved, the incidence of infidelity would always be present in your relationship.

Considering the fact that you like to preserve your marriage, I advise you see a professional marriage counselor.

The task of a counsellor is to help you take a wiser decision, not necessarily to preserve your marriage at all costs.

You may choose to contact me for guidance on this.

He doesn't need to spend money on any counselor. It is obvious that woman did not, does not, and will not love him like the ex.

OP, I went back to read all your previous posts about this your "wife".

You have no wife actually. You married someone's woman that settled for you. The guy is the actual owner of that woman body and heart.

You better wake up because as soon as the owner is back from abroad with cash, that woman will leave you and she will not consider those children you are considering now. That's if the children even belong to you because the guy was knacking her under your roof before he traveled out.

Go and do DNA for your children first. Then you should act like a man. This question you are asking is making you look like a sissy.

We need to hear from the other person, pick holes or investigate both claims before any judgement.

We need to hear from the other person before any judgment.

1. If she intends to keep the pregnancy, she should inform the boyfriend's family. Keeping the pregnancy is her sole decision in this case. If she intend to abort, she should visit an hospital and not do quack abortion that can claim her life.

2. Her choices should be based on her current financial status and her own family support available.

3. If she has good financial status or her family supports, she should approach the welfare system to get her son back from the boyfriend's family. Otherwise she can leave the son with them if they can take care of the boy better but fight at the welfare for reasonable visitations between both her and her son both ways.

4. She should remember that she has no legal backing to compell any of her boyfriend's family members for any financial support towards the son. They can only do voluntarily.

eakhilomen:
Please how long does it take NVC to schedule an application for Visa interview at the embassy

According to NVC currently as below.

https://travel.state.gov/content/travel/en/us-visas/immigrate/nvc-timeframes.html

After you submit payment and all documents, it is currently taking about 2 months to review your documents. If all documents are complete, your visa priority is current, depending on how busy your embassy is, you should expect interview letter within 1 or 2 months.

And I just don't understand why some children in Nairaland jump on all topics to talk on what's beyond their young brains. If something is beyond you, please shut up and learn.

loliapoopy2013:
What will I gain, please.

I am so sorry madam. This is disheartening.

1. Please don't hide it from your husband. Yes. He warned you but you forced it upon him to accept the cousin into his house. He will be angry for sure and tell you that "didn't I warn you". Apologize to your husband on that and both of you will deal with this problem together. This is a matter both father and mother should handle. You will do more harm to your marriage and your husband if he finds out from someone else.

2. Get that paedophile and gay boy, your cousin locked up by the police. Teach him some lessons before you ask the police to release him.

3. Get your boy a professional counseling and home counseling as well. You and your husband can do the home counseling.

4. Put continuous eye on your boy to ensure this experience doesn't make him develop sexual attraction or feelings for men as he grows up. This is very key please.

Celebrities are being paid to come out and say this now.

Will you follow them enter bedroom to confirm ?

Raalsalghul:
Hard to find balanced takes these days.

I already know two people who embarked on this U.K journey and have been successful based on their targets and expectations.

Does it mean everyone who goes there will be successful? No.

But opening threads upon threads 247 predicting doom and gloom is nothing short of witchcraft.

People will always migrate for reasons best known to them so the over arching theme/message which should be tailored to such individuals is: do your research, manage expectations and be ready to reskill/upskill.

Whether someone sells their property, quit a high paying job to migrate is non of your fucking business.

It's their decision and their life. They will deal with the consequences, not you.

Nigerians and taking panadol for another person's headache.

Haba!

And to every story of people that failed, there are many stories of those that are successful.

Majority of the bad stories even come when the immigrants just arrived and still in that phase of doing any survival jobs. When they have found their feet and navigated to more rewarding careers, they don't tell you again, except the person became comfortable or lazy in those low level jobs.

Like I said, there are plenty of opportunities in western world you can NEVER find in Nigeria. You can take that to the bank.

Let me just add. A rat in Nigeria cannot become a lion in western countries. A lion in Nigeria will most likely remain a lion in western Countries. If you succeed as an hustler in Nigeria, you will most likely succeed in your hustle in western countries and vice-versa

This is very important for everyone to set their expectations correctly before moving to western world.

I think there's lots of rumors and "my friends" case or "my friends said" in this UK discussion.

Yes. It is very risky to spend circa 20m naira to pursue immigration on students visa route. Assuming it's permanent residency on arrival, it would have been better.

Having said that, many people will still succeed in this journey. Many will regret it too. What makes the difference is individual focus, ambition and handwork.

All these talks of Nigerians with degrees doing care job, warehouse work is not a big deal. Even many Nigerian that went straight on permanent residence to Canada, US, Australia also did some of these jobs on arrival. It's only an issue if the Nigerian becomes comfortable in such jobs without finding ways to navigate themselves to more paying careers in the country.

One thing you cannot take away from these western countries compared to Nigeria is the pool of opportunities that exist to excel and succeed. The ball is only in your court to work hard and purse these opportunities. Yes it's always rough temporarily on arrival but if you know where to look, you will succeed.

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I think your brother has made good decision on this. Unfortunately their aspirations are not aligned, they might have to part ways.

It is because you just arrived. You don't understand the dating scene in Western world yet.

Start from dating apps. Na you go run later. Just be careful before you are accused of sexual assault

OP, out of the issues you have with her "standard", I think major ones are the education level and physical attraction. The age is not that far from your preference.

You said she is a Virgin, a good person and loyal to you.

1. Put her loyalty and love to tests to be very sure she is not coming after you because of your money and status. It's always difficult for good men with money to filter our genuine ladies in their relationships because even the likes of online misandrists looking for husbands will pretend to be good women when they meet a man with money and status. To do this, take away benefits you give her now for sometime, pretend like you lost your job and struggling financially for sometime and watch her reactions.

2. Being a Virgin does not guarantee a good character and good woman in marriage. You have to watch her character beyond the virginity stuff. Does she really have good character and good heart? You also need to find ways to find her true character and her true mind. To do this, follow her on social media to follow her comments, watch her reactions and comments on real life situations happening around you both, watch different Nigerian movies together and spark discussion over the happening in the movies. Most times, women get carried away in movies and pour out their true minds during the movies.

3. If she is good based on 1 and 2 above, and the fact that she is a virgin in this century, then you have find a good one. Please don't lose her because you might never find another close to her again in your lifetime.

4. Education status can be improved. She can enroll in a university online or distance learning to upgrade herself to become a graduate you want. But I must warn you, marry her before you sponsor her in education. Don't ever sponsor education of a girl friend with hope that she will marry you in return.

5. On the physical attraction, I know you cannot change her height. To enhance your attraction, tell her how you want your woman to dress and appear but be careful not to body-shame her.

6. It's not wise to tell boy or girlfriend, they are not "your standard". It's demeaning and can make them hold resentment for you if it eventually works out between you both.

Summary, be careful not to lose a good woman because of minor standards that you can improve or enhance to have a happy home.

Desireeee:
Hello young lady. Your story no complete. When this guy paid close to 300k to get you a job, you did not ask us maybe he loves you. You did not add that you are the first born and your parents wants one of your sisters to move in with you after the wedding so he can start taking care of them. You did not speak about how much he has spent for venue and the exorbitant amount your family asked him to bring for food during reception.
A proper yoruba family will make sure an introduction takes place before the wedding no matter what. Can you tell us why your family want to rush everything and make sure all is done on the same day? If your aunt who only followed you to the market to buy stuffs expects thank you, what should the person who sent you the money to buy the stuffs do then? Or you don't know many people contributed to get you that money.
Someone has spent close to 3.5m for a wedding, your aunt destroyed everything just because of "thank you". How much did she contribute? Please note that this guy has not received salary as he just got a job too and just got captured to IPPIS.
Don't come here to play emotional blackmail. You threatened him with the wedding, he found out you and your family has been using him as ATM and he left.
If you and your parents have put in efforts and funds in the wedding, will you threaten to put it on hold? It was because he bankrolled everything.
Lots of receipts dey here in case you want to press further.

I said it. It was one sided story the lady told us here. She has run now that other party is here.

Blessedmercy8:
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So my women though.

For me, I don't always expect him to notice my outfit or dressing but he does and will always compliment my looks.

Leave him if he chooses not to notice. That shouldn't be an issue.

Make I no talk.

Blessedmercy8:
So sad.

Why all this body modification? Just to look appealing to the opposite sex or please them?
That's one stupid thing I'll never do. Change my body to please a mere man.

That was how one nairalander was telling me my tommy is big. I just laughed within.
so he expects me to go and do something about it meanwhile this fellow is short but I never complained or told him to go and get taller. There he was, pointing out my tommy. Human beings.

I've not seen that fellow that will make me go under the knife or reduce the quantity of food I eat because I want to have a flat tommy to look appealing to one coconut head.

See how this beautiful lady just ended her life.

https://www./1731104613862417/permalink/2891985407774326/?mibextid=287BMF39jioiPNbE

@bolded. Your Nairaland boyfriend ba? I just like your truthfulness sometimes.

It's not worth it for sure.
Hollywood is still deceiving many women in the world with billions of dollars being pumped into advertising and indoctrinating women into cosmetic surgeries.

So, the trend will not stop.

RUDEBOYY:
Please this have been giving me serious taughts and worry when ever I think about it.
I don't know if what I know as my age is really my real age.
Me elder brother was born on November and I was born on June of the following year,so from my calculations my elder brother only senior me with just 7months
Please how possible is this??

Go and ask your parents. But I think both you and your brother were not born by same mother at least.

Something tells me this OP is one of the famous "misandrists" calling themselves "feminists" in Nairaland but opened a new account to open this thread.

Her aim was to get encomiun from her comrades here for being "a strong woman" who does not tolerate "nonsense" from men.

johnJS:
Hmm, thank you for sharing this. Some of the reviews on them that I read on yelp and other websites had complaints in this regards. I thought they were just unhappy because of unsuccessful applications but it appears they do pile on the bills a little?

From the little I have seen online some attorneys will charge a flat fee for all the work they put in from A to Z which should be preferable.

Do you mind sharing what kind of fees your friend has encountered with them?

Flat fees are better. Don't do hourly fees, they can get you hooked and give you surprise charges down the line.