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Terminator0x0:
He said he will arrest anyone who will put feet in his house my parents said I shouldn't go there

How old is the baby?

saddyn:
Ok thanks,
It seems we have one more year to wait

It's difficult to say actually. It all depends on number of people in F4 before you vs number of available F4 visas in a year.

I will recommend you check the visa bulletin, that link I shared monthly to watch the movement of the priority dates.

Laudbtc:
3. Is it possible to have my fiancée move with me since she is a licensed nurse in Nigeria where she can work?

She will have to apply separately as a student herself since you are not married if you are going with a student visa

Samantha123:
The person wouldn't have died mysteriously, but he would've died of a heart attack or a kidney failure because I'd make sure that an autopsy is done and that I've covered all my tracks.

I am telling you there's 90pct chance you will be exposed once your relationship with your husband is toxic or full of problems and your husband died of sudden heart attack or kidney failure.

Except you are in a country like Nigeria where we have infrastructure decay for forensic investigations and lazy detectives.

Dainy1:
He doesn't. She has been covering for him all along. Too many sineros she explained, I can't explain all her.

It has not gotten to divorce yet. For sure the wife should not get pregnant for another child for now, but not up to divorce.

1. Get elders from your family, probably your dad, to call the husband and discuss the issue

2. If 1 didn't make him sensible, the elder in your family should escalate discussion to his elders, probably his father too.

3. They should make him be a responsible husband and father to his wife and their first child; and watch how it goes for some time.

4. If he gets the message and change, he and his wife can increase the family size.

Mindlog:
If she gets visitation rights from the court as the noncustodial parent, OP can not decide when to allow the visits because the judge would decide that.

I agree.

Samantha123:
Who's gonna cook, wash his clothes, and clean the house after that thunderous slap?

Don't forget that apart from the Kung Fu, there are also some poisons that can make it seem like the person just died from a mere heart attack or a kidney failure to a point that even an autopsy won't show anything.

This method has been busted. Even investigators know this. So once a man or woman dies mysteriously, they first set down wait heavily on the spouse. And once they find any evidence that the relationship is having any form of abuse or issue, you will most likely be exposed.

How you people end up marrying this kind of women ?

Please take good care of your children. As for the woman, give her some taste of her bitter pill for some time before you allow her visitation to the children.

That's why wise people don't rush to judge from one sided story, most especially when coming from a woman, even with tears.

Samantha123:
Well, I'll never stay in an abusive relationship or marriage and do nothing about it.

I attended[b] those Kung Fu classes back in varsity for a reason, I even have a belt[/b].

You think it's a movie ? Where a lady will beat a man or even men with kung fu. Or one man will beat almost 100 men at once with "skills"

Nigerians working at all Nigerian embassies have carried their bribery and corruption plague from Nigeria to these foreign countries.

They want you to pay bribe but you are trying to do the passport official way. That's why you will not get that passport in 5years. It's same thing they are doing in the Nigerian embassies in the US too. In the Nigerian embassy at Georgia, U.S., they have agents close to the embassy that collect bribes on behalf of the embassy officials before you can get anything done inside that embassy.

If you fail to pay the bribe, you will be subjected to same treatment as OP.

Championxxx:
I am scared to move in with her because my parents will disown me for good. they have told me to quit the relationship and forget about her , as I am typing this I am at her place but they think that I am at work. If they came to know that i am with her they will hate me.

Tell your parents and siblings that you are not marrying her yet. You just want to move in with her temporarily to further know her and test some of their worries about the relationship.

And truly, don't marry her yet or impregnate her during that period.

Just go in and test the waters.

Championxxx:
Thanks so much for the advice I really appreciate it. I love her from the bottom of my heart , I will never mock her age , her children are not a problem too. I want to marry her in the future but my family are against her and I don't think it is a good thing for me to marry her without their blessings. She knows that my family hate her but she still love me and she want me to move in with her , I am in a dilemma

Okay. Since you are adamant. Let us start like this.

How about you move in with her, live with her for 6 months to 1 year and come back to give us feedback.

There is over generalization in your submission.

The only thing that is valid in your submission is that couples should not allow arrivals of children to affect their alone times.

This is not a big deal. Furniture is small. There are women that support their husbands financially in building a house.

You don't have a problem. Believe me. Though you didn't mention the specific things she leaked out.

Just don't tell her what you intend to keep as secrets.

Do NOT cut her off or over react. She is your mother and above all, a woman. Many women cannot keep secrets.

Wonderful! Na express you dey go so.

Go and listen to your parents and siblings. They are right.

many of such psychos, both men and women are in Nairaland now. Most especially in romance section.

WatchYourSix:
Wait.....so u think a redpiller doesnt have a girlfriend and doesnt love his girl?? You women keep getting this redpill wrong....and its because u are always seeing it as an attack against you gender.....

redpill doesnt say dont love your girl or dont care for her.....redpill says dont be stupíd or a walkover, knowing fully a lady is using you and yet u continue to be used in the name of love......redpill says..look out for redflags and and dont be blind by love when u are being treated like trash....

Redpill is having common .....u women are naturally redpilled...and that thy the op is thinking twice b4 bringing a man to canada....a simp wont think twice ....he would just rush, even take loan to get her to canada without being sure he's not being played

I agree with this your submission. I just want to add that some redpillers have actually gone extreme to become women haters. Same for some feminists, they have gone to the extreme to become men haters.

BABANGBALI:
she is not in any love with the guy, he is just an alternative and I'm sure she would kick him out at any time

I want to believe so too. She said the guy is doing well in Nigeria. I hope the guy has sense too not to jeopardize his career in Nigeria for selfish reason of a woman to move to western country where the woman has more rights than him.

Going by your previous posts and this. I can say you don't really love the guy to make this type of sacrifice freely for him. You remembered him after you see your low chances of marrying someone already in Canada.

And you didn't tell us if you are the one pestering him now about moving to Canada or if he is the one pushing for it.

If you are the one pushing him to move to Canada based on your own selfish reason that you couldn't get a Canadian based dude, please abort the mission. It might not end well.

For it to work out, you must be genuinely in love with him to freely do such a favor for him and he must be very willing to relocate to Canada, not by you pushing him.

Don't fall for her emotional blackmail. If you cannot afford to take care of her sisters, continue to stand your ground.

Just continue to be available to be in your child's life. After delivery, hormones gone and she found out that the emotional blackmail is not working, she will accept your help or even come back to you.

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This is it. She drugged the man with Rophypnol so that she can incapacitate him before stabbing him to death.

She is a murderer. Hope she gets a death sentence.

saddyn:
Please does it mean no one has been scheduled for interview since the batch interviewed in May?

Am F4
PD 07 2007
DQ Dec 2020

Please response please

Interviews are being scheduled as usual for current cases as per priority dates.

Your priority date is not yet current for F4 visa. They will not schedule your interview until your priority date is current for visa issuance.

The priority date for F4 visa issuance is 22MAR07.

https://travel.state.gov/content/travel/en/legal/visa-law0/visa-bulletin/2023/visa-bulletin-for-november-2022.html

Back to answer your question.

Selling or dumping a child is barbaric, but nothing wrong with giving the child up for adoption if the woman cannot take care of the child.

ObalendeCMS:
I wonder why a woman who carried a child in her womb for 9 months will end up selling, dumping and giving the child up for adoption. Where is the bond that has been formed between the mother and the unborn child? Women will continue to disgust me.

Bolded makes you sound like a misogynist and Samantha123 was right to ask you that question.

Here we go again. Nobody forces you to remain in the UK. Go back to Nigeria where you will have to go on strike to get paid.

It's purely a scam. Show her Canada Permanent Residents Visa thread on Nairaland and the Canada PR government websites to prove to her that it's a scam.

Then, she should get the agent arrested for fraud. The agent must vomit that 700k.

yemmit90:
Individuals experiences are better than Google.

@op, it all depends on individual and nature of delivery. If there is no complication and the blood stopped in time, you can have sex after 4 weeks.

For the second question, if your wife is the type that dont menstrate during breastfeeding, she cannot easily get pregnant during this period. However, the best preventive method for the first 6 months after child birth is Condom.

Correct. Just to add. I have heard of couples where the wives were not menstruating but still became pregnant. So, I agree the best form of protection is using condoms.

Socratiz:
It seems to me that those who intervened do not have the requisite skill to handle matters like this.

The first step would be to fully explore the reasons your wife started this affair. It's most likely that some unresolved childhood trauma was the cause. Unless the whole spectrum is explored and resolved, the incidence of infidelity would always be present in your relationship.

Considering the fact that you like to preserve your marriage, I advise you see a professional marriage counselor.

The task of a counsellor is to help you take a wiser decision, not necessarily to preserve your marriage at all costs.

You may choose to contact me for guidance on this.

He doesn't need to spend money on any counselor. It is obvious that woman did not, does not, and will not love him like the ex.

OP, I went back to read all your previous posts about this your "wife".

You have no wife actually. You married someone's woman that settled for you. The guy is the actual owner of that woman body and heart.

You better wake up because as soon as the owner is back from abroad with cash, that woman will leave you and she will not consider those children you are considering now. That's if the children even belong to you because the guy was knacking her under your roof before he traveled out.

Go and do DNA for your children first. Then you should act like a man. This question you are asking is making you look like a sissy.