₦airaland Forum

Olu1000:
Under customary law , introduction is equal to marriage.

If dowry was paid during introduction, it's a marriage.
If no dowry paid, no marriage. It remains introduction.

I am interested in the outcome of this case. It might be first time DNA evidence will be used to claim parternity in Nigeria.

This cannot happen in Naija. A woman cannot lack gbola in Nigeria. Maybe possible in western countries though

Another one. It's like APC is now paying online agents to discourage Nigerians from leaving the country

Mindlog:
They are adults who if Nigeria has a functioning social care system, the children ought to be taken away from them and now be serving jail terms for defilement and concealment of abuse on a minor.

If I had access to the 15 year old girl, the mother will not come in contact with for some years and I am very certain the step-father will be spending this Christmas in prison as I have done such severally.

We have heard stories of blood brother sexually assaulting blood sister. If you are their parents, will you send your son to jail for it?

Mindlog:
They are adults who if Nigeria has a functioning social care system, the children ought to be taken away from them and now be serving jail terms for defilement and concealment of abuse on a minor.

If I had access to the 15 year old girl, the mother will not come in contact with for some years and I am very certain the step-father will be spending this Christmas in prison as I have done such severally.

So you will come into their family matter when the family says they are not pressing charges?

And who says their children will be better raised in foster care system? We hear several bad stories from the foster system too.

Mindlog:
Agreed, the girl needs therapy. What of the mother and the step-father based on the information from the narration?

What about them? They are adults. They can decide what they think it's best for them and their children.

If the mother decides to stay in her marriage and live in same house with the man, it might be better to give the girl a new home to help her healing process.

Mindlog:
In the light of the abuse she suffered, the mother covering up and the step-father going scot-free?

The girl should be taken for counselling. There are so many information lacking from the narration above about the girl but notwithstanding, counseling will help her to heal faster.

Mindlog:
So what happens to the 15 year old defiled by the pedophilic step-father?

Happens in terms of what? Accommodation or what?

And to the advise on screenshots. The man misbehaved for sure. However, it's the woman involved that knows her family situation better. This is a very deep-thought family issue and go beyond what you use adrenaline, testosterone or progesterone to make a quick decision on. Seems like they have other children together as well.

Based on other children shared by both the husband and the wife, the economic condition of the woman and many other factors, the right advise might not be what the OP is expecting, "like call the police", "lock the man up", "leave the marriage" etc.

Nobody should endure domestic violence and verbal abuse

Mindlog:
You should be looking at your own parents' marriage not a neighbour's.

Hope you give this advise if the man is your brother or son or if it's a woman being maltreated in the name of "love".

CNN should go and prove all they call him in court.

Fake news CNN.

Bloggers news are more authentic than news from CNN.

I hope you didn't buy her love with money. I hope she truly loves you. Because it looks like you are as good as the gifts and money you give to her.

Good women don't lack husbands. Good men don't lack wives.

...Helpout12345

Nebes:
You never see something. It happens everyday all around you. Just that the men involved are most often too ashamed to speak out.

If not in dreams, maybe you see it in movies.

oloyeagbaakin:
Meet this girl recently, my mum told me I should not ask anything about her educational qualification, but she is a hairdresser. Got to know after our introduction that she just finished from J.S.S 3 she did not even go to S.S.S 1 in short she doesn't even have a WAEC certificate. And our wedding is coming soon, what can I do guys?

What's your highest educational qualification now? What's your aspiration concerning your education in future?
Does the lady have any interest in furthering her education?

My questions are to help you check compatibility now and in future.

Nebes:
Almost everyday we hear of how women love money and how they prefer rich men. But I have seen another specie of women that not only love poor men but wish their men to remain poor.

They are mostly women who are better off financially. They pretend to support the poor guy but the reality is that they never want their men to become financially stable. The man's financial weakness is what gives them pleasure. These are very wicked women.

As a guy, the moment you start getting established, that's when they start having problems with you. You might love them but the relationship will suffer as you become more stable.

For the men always looking out to feed off a woman, be careful lest you eat the one that will tie your financial destiny down forever.

For dreams ba? Because what you put here is not reality.

What is sparking reaction in this? I just don't see anything spectacular. Her life, her problem.

Many people don't have sense in Nigeria including those turning this to tribal and ritual killing on this thread.

Allow proper investigation outcome to be revealed before you start jumping to senseless conclusions

Did the man agree that the pregnancy belonged to him when she got pregnant? Did he accept the child?

If he rejected the pregnancy or the child, you first need to overcome the hurdle of making him accept the child before thinking of any child support.

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That arrangement your wife told you is not what is called Surrogacy. That arrangement is just giving out your child.

The sister-in-law should pursue IVF, legal adoption or legal Surrogacy.

Don't do this arrangement they are pushing to you. It looks like only "women" arrangement without deep thought about it.

@Meteoritey, is there anything not true in what your husband has just narrated?

CNN can lie sha. Tufia

This cannot be true. I thought CNN, MSNBC and rest of western media have been telling us how Russia has been losing in Ukraine.

No lawyers in Saudi Arabia again? Get a lawyer as soon as possible.

I have observed same thing also.

abbey621:
Everybody knows that it can be contested that was never my argument, he is saying all prenups are useless because the judge will side with the woman for any reason which is a comical way of reasoning. A competent lawyer makes sure all the conditions of the prenups satisfies the legal requirement and beyond.

Okay. Got you now. But where can we find data on prenuptial agreement success in court? Do you have any trusted source?

abbey621:
Come on you're better than this, stop being vague, show me the percentage of prenups that were prepared by a lawyer, signed in good faith with witnesses and a notary and were later on invalidated by a judge or jury. If it is more than 10% of all cases over the past 50 years in the USA, I'll personally deposit $100 or 70k Naira into an account of your choice, come on I dare you!

I don't have the data but he is right that prenuptial agreement can be contested and thrown out completely or partially if entered into by duress, no legal representation for both parties before signed, have terms contradicting laws etc.

You are also right that duress must be proven by the party who claims it.

The key message here is that people should be aware that prenuptial agreement can be contested in court.