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What ?? Ordinary drones, Ukraine cannot shoot down?

Na wah ooo. Is this how Ukraine wants to win this war with Russia?

bisqit:
but most will argue its becos of old age?

That can be true for people marriage is meant for.

For example some people are so irresponsible to be married. Their marriages will mostly likely end in divorce or produce dysfunctional children.

Such people will not even be able to manage their marriages till old age.

Emperor88:
I love this .. same way not everyone will have or deserves to have kids.

You are right. Not everyone will or deserve to have children.

It's best for some people themselves, for the children and for the society at large if they remain childless.

bisqit:
then why is everybody getting married

In Nigerian, almost everybody wants to get married or are getting married because of "what our society demands". The society demand of marriage is coming from our culture and religion.

But the truth still remains that marriage is not meant for everyone irrespective of what society is calling for. When people that are best single get married due to societal demands, most of the time, the marriages are full of troubles and mostly result into divorce and dysfunctional family and children.

The dysfunctional children from such marriages will go on to negatively affect the society at large.

Which good candidate among all the thieves parading themselves as the current presidential candidates in upcoming elections?

I hope you know children of almost all politicians in Nigeria are also running or currently living abroad.

When elders are advising young boys of nowadays to keep their third leg in one place and young girls to close their yansh, you people will not hear.

See where you land yourself and both families now?

Terminator0x0:
My mum is trying her best but the baby is not cooperating she don't want milk or foods she want breast milk

See, there's nothing online strangers will tell your girlfriend father that will make him take the child with his daughter.

Your girlfriend is currently sick and undergoing treatment herself. Let your mother continue to take care of the baby for now. The baby will be fine. With time, she will get used to baby formula. Try different baby formulae for her age to see the one she will eventually like. I know your mother can handle this part.

Though I don't agree with your girlfriend father to separate baby and mother at this age of the baby but I want to give him the benefit of doubt that he just wants to concentrate on the medical treatment of his daughter for now.

You and your family should hang in there, take care of the baby for now until your girlfriend is medically okay. Then approach her father again.

If after your girlfriend is medically okay, and the baby is still young, you can involve the welfare system.

Both the boy and the girl messed up in this case. Both brought headaches to their families. Both should be blamed.

And we should train both our boys and girls to stay away from sex until they are grown up to face the consequences.

doggedfighter:
How much is condom ?


We should start training our boys to know the kind of homes they come from .

And what should we do for our girls ?

doggedfighter:
I got my girlfriend pregnant I accepted the responsibility I am not financially buoyant I am not doing anything for now

The bolded is what I find really hard to understand about some boys


A broke foolish guy with a sharp dick will only bring misery to himself and those around him.


Now the poor girl is traumatized and sick while your parents are struggling to feed and carter for you, the baby .


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I agree the boy is meant to be tongue-lashed as you did. But you seem to put all the blames on the young boy alone.

What about the mumu young girl also that cannot close her yansh? She should be clapped for?

You cannot force her to marry. Marriage is not for everyone also. Some people are better off single for themselves, for the family and for the society.

Terminator0x0:
She will clock 6 months on the 30th

What off your own mom?

Terminator0x0:
He said he will arrest anyone who will put feet in his house my parents said I shouldn't go there

How old is the baby?

saddyn:
Ok thanks,
It seems we have one more year to wait

It's difficult to say actually. It all depends on number of people in F4 before you vs number of available F4 visas in a year.

I will recommend you check the visa bulletin, that link I shared monthly to watch the movement of the priority dates.

Laudbtc:
3. Is it possible to have my fiancée move with me since she is a licensed nurse in Nigeria where she can work?

She will have to apply separately as a student herself since you are not married if you are going with a student visa

Samantha123:
The person wouldn't have died mysteriously, but he would've died of a heart attack or a kidney failure because I'd make sure that an autopsy is done and that I've covered all my tracks.

I am telling you there's 90pct chance you will be exposed once your relationship with your husband is toxic or full of problems and your husband died of sudden heart attack or kidney failure.

Except you are in a country like Nigeria where we have infrastructure decay for forensic investigations and lazy detectives.

Dainy1:
He doesn't. She has been covering for him all along. Too many sineros she explained, I can't explain all her.

It has not gotten to divorce yet. For sure the wife should not get pregnant for another child for now, but not up to divorce.

1. Get elders from your family, probably your dad, to call the husband and discuss the issue

2. If 1 didn't make him sensible, the elder in your family should escalate discussion to his elders, probably his father too.

3. They should make him be a responsible husband and father to his wife and their first child; and watch how it goes for some time.

4. If he gets the message and change, he and his wife can increase the family size.

Mindlog:
If she gets visitation rights from the court as the noncustodial parent, OP can not decide when to allow the visits because the judge would decide that.

I agree.

Samantha123:
Who's gonna cook, wash his clothes, and clean the house after that thunderous slap?

Don't forget that apart from the Kung Fu, there are also some poisons that can make it seem like the person just died from a mere heart attack or a kidney failure to a point that even an autopsy won't show anything.

This method has been busted. Even investigators know this. So once a man or woman dies mysteriously, they first set down wait heavily on the spouse. And once they find any evidence that the relationship is having any form of abuse or issue, you will most likely be exposed.

How you people end up marrying this kind of women ?

Please take good care of your children. As for the woman, give her some taste of her bitter pill for some time before you allow her visitation to the children.

That's why wise people don't rush to judge from one sided story, most especially when coming from a woman, even with tears.

Samantha123:
Well, I'll never stay in an abusive relationship or marriage and do nothing about it.

I attended[b] those Kung Fu classes back in varsity for a reason, I even have a belt[/b].

You think it's a movie ? Where a lady will beat a man or even men with kung fu. Or one man will beat almost 100 men at once with "skills"

Nigerians working at all Nigerian embassies have carried their bribery and corruption plague from Nigeria to these foreign countries.

They want you to pay bribe but you are trying to do the passport official way. That's why you will not get that passport in 5years. It's same thing they are doing in the Nigerian embassies in the US too. In the Nigerian embassy at Georgia, U.S., they have agents close to the embassy that collect bribes on behalf of the embassy officials before you can get anything done inside that embassy.

If you fail to pay the bribe, you will be subjected to same treatment as OP.

Championxxx:
I am scared to move in with her because my parents will disown me for good. they have told me to quit the relationship and forget about her , as I am typing this I am at her place but they think that I am at work. If they came to know that i am with her they will hate me.

Tell your parents and siblings that you are not marrying her yet. You just want to move in with her temporarily to further know her and test some of their worries about the relationship.

And truly, don't marry her yet or impregnate her during that period.

Just go in and test the waters.

Championxxx:
Thanks so much for the advice I really appreciate it. I love her from the bottom of my heart , I will never mock her age , her children are not a problem too. I want to marry her in the future but my family are against her and I don't think it is a good thing for me to marry her without their blessings. She knows that my family hate her but she still love me and she want me to move in with her , I am in a dilemma

Okay. Since you are adamant. Let us start like this.

How about you move in with her, live with her for 6 months to 1 year and come back to give us feedback.

There is over generalization in your submission.

The only thing that is valid in your submission is that couples should not allow arrivals of children to affect their alone times.

This is not a big deal. Furniture is small. There are women that support their husbands financially in building a house.

You don't have a problem. Believe me. Though you didn't mention the specific things she leaked out.

Just don't tell her what you intend to keep as secrets.

Do NOT cut her off or over react. She is your mother and above all, a woman. Many women cannot keep secrets.

Wonderful! Na express you dey go so.

Go and listen to your parents and siblings. They are right.

many of such psychos, both men and women are in Nairaland now. Most especially in romance section.

WatchYourSix:
Wait.....so u think a redpiller doesnt have a girlfriend and doesnt love his girl?? You women keep getting this redpill wrong....and its because u are always seeing it as an attack against you gender.....

redpill doesnt say dont love your girl or dont care for her.....redpill says dont be stupíd or a walkover, knowing fully a lady is using you and yet u continue to be used in the name of love......redpill says..look out for redflags and and dont be blind by love when u are being treated like trash....

Redpill is having common .....u women are naturally redpilled...and that thy the op is thinking twice b4 bringing a man to canada....a simp wont think twice ....he would just rush, even take loan to get her to canada without being sure he's not being played

I agree with this your submission. I just want to add that some redpillers have actually gone extreme to become women haters. Same for some feminists, they have gone to the extreme to become men haters.

BABANGBALI:
she is not in any love with the guy, he is just an alternative and I'm sure she would kick him out at any time

I want to believe so too. She said the guy is doing well in Nigeria. I hope the guy has sense too not to jeopardize his career in Nigeria for selfish reason of a woman to move to western country where the woman has more rights than him.