₦airaland Forum

Don't be desperate rather be ambitious.

Desperation will lead u to problems that could cost u more even imprisonment.

Don't get ur hands dirty,because after u must have made it,u will live to regret it. Any proceed that is not worked for should not be used to raise a child.

That might destroy their future,haven't u asked yourself these questions,all those old politicians of ours whose parents stole our treasury,where are there children? What are they doing for a living,the shagari's,the Tafawa Balewas,the Zik's of this world ?

Most of then ended up becoming miserable just because their parents soiled their hands.


In all ur desperation,pls avoid what may cost u ur life.

May God bless u richly.

steeltrust:
bro
Cut your coat according to your size
4million can build you a standard 3bedroom
Stop blabbing and ask me how
Were you no know another person know from there

Na fowl house u wan build abi na turkey.

Pls,let us always say it the way it is.
Window alone is close to 400k,doors about 280k in total or more. Roof alone will or might take u close 1million and above.

My roof alone took me 1million and above,that is both wood work and the aluminium sheet together with their labour.

Let us not speak in the past,things have gone crazy especially this year.

This is very true.

HEAVEN4444:
why are youu wasting money to roof ? roof is old style. no roof is new style

Cost of material was crazy around the month of March this year and the design was another reason why it went up too.

Without mincing words,if u just need a house it will complete it but if u need a home,it will not near roofing depending on how many bedrooms u need.

My two bedroom bungalow took me about 1.5million to roof early this year.

For me,I will ask u to up ur budget.

Cement are sold in trucks of about 600 or 900 in bags.

And if u must buy,u need a dealer to supply u from Obajana kogi state.

My bro in law is a major distributor and a popular one for that matter.

Just try and find out more about the business and if u are in Abuja,I may help u out proper.

Good luck to u.

They were all laughing during Jonathan but today,na cry every where for north. If not in Katsina,it will be Kaduna and Zamfara.

They just want to infest us with their wahala.

The same people Elrufai bought guns for to wage war against Jonathan are the people killing u guys.

For me this cry will not solve the problem.

How can a country like ours move forward when the only thing we talk about is oil and nothing more. U sold NITEL that would have been generating billions even more than oil in a month and nothing has been replaced other than MTN,GLO and AIRTEL,which are privately owned.

They refused to connect every home with water,yet they are shouting our economy everyday when there are many things that will bring money for us as a country,connect every house with water and see the revenue the govt will generate in just one month.

Same with electricity,many are willing to pay only if u can Guarantee that there would be constant light. With our population,the government should not belabour itself with foreign loans if the above mention infrastructures are well managed and properly worked out to serve majority interest rather the interest of the few but greed ones.

While u are learning in a hard way,pls do not save ur money in Banks.

Go to investment houses,and open accounts with them. At least u are sure of making something out of it on a monthly basis.

Dailyparrot:
I have an elder brother who got a girl pregnant at age 36. The wife is much younger, less than 30 years as at the time he impregnated her.

To us, it was a prayer answered so we ensured he married the girl. He was 36 and wasn't making any move towards getting married and was even saying that he wouldn't be ready even at 40 years. So, when we heard he got a girl pregnant, we put resources together and got them married.

The marriage has been marred with domestic violence. He beats the wife at will and we have tried to intervene as much as we can.

They both had additional 2 children after the first one making it a total of 3 children, 2 boys and a girl.

He isn't doing well financially and feeding has been a problem for them. My siblings asked him to leave Lagos to settle in the village. I kicked against it because a man who couldn't feed his family while living in Lagos will suddenly get resources to feed them in the village.

One of my elder brothers who happens to be more financially buoyant gave a condition that he will only provide further financial assistance to him if he agrees to leave for the village.

Since, I am the only one who insisted he wasn't going nowhere, I had to bear the burden of finding a way to alleviate his financial predicament.

I had to get him a Toyota Sienna to be using for transport. The agreement was that he will be remitting 100k monthly to me until he completes the exact amount I bought the car.

I put the total amount that I used in purchasing and registering the car at 1. 9 million (that car currently sells for 2.2 million and above).

My fight is not for my brother but for his wife and children. But it's unfortunate that the purpose I coughed out that amount of money to buy the car has been defeated.

My brother till date never ever paid me up to 100k in any month from the time I got him the car till date. There was a month he paid 35k. 35k in a full month? I got mad and threatened to withdraw the car if he isn't making money from it because I don't know how much of such peanuts that I have to collect to recover 1.9 million. The next month, he paid 80k. That's to say he's making the money but don't just want to pay me.

I have been very considerate with him in making the repayment putting his wife and children into consideration, I never knew that I was wrong.

This man doesn't care about his children. Whether they are eating or not, he doesn't care, their clothing and everything is in the hand of God. If the wife asks him money for feeding or to buy drugs for their sick child, he will say that he does not have money. If she insists, beating will follow it.

The peak of his irresponsible and wicked act was when the wife caught him pants down having sex with a widow living in the next compound.

The widow is a wife to my brother's friend. My brother was a regular visitor to their house when the husband was alive and all of a sudden, the man fell ill and died in less than a week.

The man's family suspected the wife of killing their brother, so, they excommunicated her. Now that the husband is dead, my brother took full responsibility of footing the man's children's bills and having unrestricted sex with the woman.

On the faithful day that the wife caught him, my brother's child was sick and he was supposed to get drugs for him on his way back from work. When he said he was very close but was taking long to get home, the wife decided to go outside to see if she could get a little drug for the sick child only to find her husband's car parked outside.

She tiptoed into the widow's apartment only to find her husband having sex with the widow. She said she waited and watched as the husband was humping on the woman but when the scene became unbearable for her, she had to raise alarm and people gathered.

They live in the remote part of Ikorodu where houses are not fenced so they basically live communal life like people in the village.

When people gathered, all my brother could say is that he is a man and can marry the widow if he wishes.

When he got home with his wife, he beat the woman to stupor that blood started coming out of her nose. She got hospitalized and all the money she spent treating herself, she bore the cost.

The children as small as they are have understood what's going on, how irresponsible and carefree their father is towards them and their affairs.

Now, he has concluded plans to send the woman parking. This is seriously giving me sleepless nights. The wife and children that made me buy the car are no longer benefiting from the returns.

I have two plans in mind, threaten to retrieve my car just to dissuade him from sending his family to the village.

But should he go ahead to send them away, I will ask the wife to learn any business of her choice and I will give her capital to start it.

I cannot live and watch my nephews and niece suffer for the callousness and irresponsibility of their father, my brother.

My sister tends to support them to separate so he doesn't kill his wife one day. Of course when that happens, he will rot in jail and the responsibility to take care of the children will fall on us. The wife doesn't have anybody from her side and this is the major reason my brother feels he can treat her anyhow and nothing will happen.

Please, I need suggestions. Should I call police for him or report to any welfare office in Lagos?

The last paragraph will never solve the problem because everything in this country has been terribly compromised and dysfunctional so to say.

But,why did u go against the wish of the family by not allowing ur brother to be sent to the village. Now,that he has shown his disdain for his family care,what do u think?

Your brother is a typical "black sheep of the family" and hardly will ever change and I feel something was wrong in his up-bringing may be he was pampered.

Solution:
Take away that car from ur brother with the help of an officer,such that he wouldn't know who collected the car from him,then give it out to a stranger and get ur money as fast as u can.

The car is helping to fund ur brothers adulterous life,if not, how is he expected to get money to fund such a terrible life with a widow?

Finally,allow them to go the village,where his excesses would be checked properly and then,ur brother can now help them the way he deemed fit.

DoggoneDogg:
RIP Mama

Small thing you take senior this lifeless mannequin...

Hahahaha!
U are funnily wicked!

This man is the biggest thief in Abia state today...his son is the second while the current governor is the third in command.

If they can quiz him and his son very well,they will find out why the current governor of Abia state has not been working.

They are simply the two God fathers we have in the state.

TeamLeader:
Thank you I like this. I can actually increase it but like how much. 400 - 500?

U need at least 2million naira or more to be able to pay up a child's fees per annum. And this could be on the current going rate on Tbill or fixed income.

That is also if ur child's fees is within the region of 40 or 45k per term.

It would have been better to pay these people rather than going to court with them.

In fact,her case go too bad.

Matter never start,they have started bailing u with almost an equal amount owed to these people.

That means,before this matter would come to an end,she must have spent close to 100 million naira.

If she has a sensible advisers,let her opt for out of court settlement with these people forthwith.

They were in Abuja some weeks back,begging govt through Brekete programme to help them get their money,when many could have opted out when we were telling them that it was a scam.

Now,they are spending their monies,sweat and time just to recover what has been lost.

If ur organisation is honest with this business,let them go to the bank.

This is a good write up.

Pls and pls again,be careful.
Transportation is one of the riskiest businesses in this country. If u don't have BP at the beginning,u will surely have it before the final payment agreed sum.

Sometimes,I feel it is good to continue to help that man than buying a keke,reason is,it's not manner used in approaching u that would be used to pay u as time goes on,even if u monitor him like class monitor.
I am telling u this based on my over all experience. I have done car wash business,i have done hire
purchase business with two taxis....it was everyday police until I lost so much cash.

U can still help him if think u have done ur home work well.
Take note: Never u do any business out of pity.

TO SAY IT AS IT IS:
The money is very small to earn reasonable interest that would pay ur child school fees for now,even of u invest in Bonds or treasury bills,it'll still not get u any where.
But for one not to discourage u from this good intentions,pls,try to increase the money until it gets to a certain amount that will give u real value for ur money.

My kind of person.

When u graduate first.

Na so many of us talk.

Fahdiga:
All thanks to Islam. Same way Yoro Muslims will be clinging to Biafran planes when Biafrans will be leaving them and shoe shiners behind

Hahaha...guy u are wicked.
Won't u help the shoe shiners and goro sellers to enter ur plane?

Then read more about the Guyanese people a good number of them has their routes in Nigeria.

In the midst of this ugly situation,pls focus on ur goals.

Yelling is nothing as far as it does not affect ur job.

Inheritance is loading.

If u are a rider,try as much as possible to avoid being too early and not too late. The days are not just bad but evil.

Pls,If u love ur family and ur life reject that offer.

Kaduna is the most violent state against other faith. Apart from herdsmen crisis there,it is the only state in Nigeria that experienced more riots and violence than any state in Nigerian.

Most people are running away because of the insecurity that has befallen the state and the current governor isn't helping matters at all.

Pls,remain where u are and I am sure u love ur family.
Abuja is far better than any state in the entire North.

Goodluck to u.

I can't be surprised lai lai.

A President who is fond of rejoicing when people go bankrupt.

He keeps worsening the problem on a daily basis.

Rubbish!

Marriage according to my personal experience,is a union of two like minds that have come together to define their future such as family goals,child bearing and upbringing which all involves extreme work.

This can be made so difficult if one party to the union is inactively passive and decides to do what he or she likes which may affects the growth of the marriage.

Marriage is in fact a blessing if both party to it,contributes their quota adequately and that involves alot of work and with love in it,marriage becomes sweet and beautiful.

MALIGNANTGuest:
Please avoid it.
After all you are a MAN.
Of what Joy do you anticipate to derive, if not kids and sex. U can get all these bountifully out there.
These New Generation Ladies are completely different from our foundational mothers who knew what they wanted in marriage.

An average nowadays Nigerian Lady goes into marriage with DAGGERS.
PLs. calm down & engage urself meaningfully.
Please tell me what you need a woman for and I will tell you why you don't need her.
I Live abroad & we have millions of well-to-do bachelors. These Men are now allergic to women.
They look healthier.
They still eat Good Food.
They have kids and drive Good cars
They sign prenuptial agreements a lot too because the Lady whom you think she loves you will definitely give you the shock of your life.

If this is the way ur parents lived I don't think u will be talking like this.
Whether u guys like it or not woman is the greatest gift ever given to man on this earth. Her beauty has no comparison. In fact,I can die for my wife and my two daughters. My only son,shall grow to treasure and respect women irrespective of her colour,tribe,race and religion.

Whatever u think is ur reason for condenming women and upholding single parenting,pls keep it to yourself. We don't need ur likes in our society. Stay put in ur over-sea after all it's not heaven. Don't use ur mouth to cast what God has made holy.

My fear is that,in 19 years time,our oil I mean Nigerian oil will no longer have any monetary value both to local and the international markets.

The world must have left us behind if we don't tap into the new ways of doing things by tapping into electric cars and green energy.