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You work 8-6.also on Saturdays and Sundays?

Maybe you didn't sound firm and convincing in your refusal.

Keeping an ex around can lead to Okafor's law if you are not strong.

As long as that chapter is finished, don't encourage chats, calls except it's absolutely necessary. And your man should be aware of everything.

Op Nairalanders are really not this nice... giving you these sweet comments. The default mode of NL is bashing. The surrounding in your last picture "might" have something to do with the positive comments.

Expect PMs

Oluromantic:
Lol.. may be you shd be reminded It's difficult to save from a goodies given. It's the one you work for that ignites the instinct of saving.

If they don't save from d goodies but share with ppl sef, it's still ok, at least with that, one can say she has a liberal heart. But most naija girls are stingy to themselves let alone sharing or saving yet live large on given goodies. What a shallow life

Stingy to themselves? Such girls that like buying the latest trendy things for themselves... Peruvian hair, iPhone, designer bags, etc.

They are not stingy to themselves at all. They probably don't use the money wisely to upgrade and develop themselves in terms of education/trainings but use it on frivolities.

Only happy people can make a happy marriage.

LilMissFavvy:
Fact is, today's women should go into marriage ready to face whatever will be the outcome. If it works out, lucky you! If her life is threatened she can quit peacefully with her kids. Children to me, are the main gifts women should look out for in marriage, my opinion anyway.

Everyone should expect the best in marriage. And it is supposed to affect the choice of spouse we make. It is not to marry for marrying sake.

And marriage has more benefits beyond children. Afterall, the children will grow up and leave both of you alone. That is when a mother will keep going to interfer in their children's houses instead of enjoying her own home.

Each marriage is how the parties involved make it to be

Okijajuju1:
I learnt this from my father..

The first face we (my sbilings and I) saw after that of the doctor was his..

The doctor births the baby, cuts off the cord and handed us over to him..


That was the day I knew I would be right by my wifes side in that room.. We concieved them together, so we would birth them together..


_{Although My fiancee has warned me that I may be scarred for life.. And might need psycho-therapy afterwards.}

True.

My friend's husband has closed child bearing after the second time. He cannot bear it

virgoquin:
As if this is full statement she made..you just carry the one that suit your own narrative.

So that she can be termed "feminist"

donbachi:
feminism is a woman that cannot stand and pee,challenging a man that can...can u spell girl with ur pee?

I see

fieryy:
I totally agree with you. A lot of Nigerian men embrace a very toxic form of masculinity. The more misogynist a society is, the more you see this toxic masculinity ish.

The Nigerian society for example puts a lot of pressure on men. Their worth is usually defined by material things like their salary and not their character.
We all know how fickle material things are and truth is majority of men will always belong to either the middle or the lower class.

Since a lot of men also do not know how to communicate properly because it is interpreted as showing weakness, they tend to bundle up all their emotions.
The inability of not being able to handle your emotions and talk about how you feel means you having to eventually let it out in other ways.
This is usually done by hiding their vulnerability as well as insecurities behind anger.

A broke man, who knows society approves of men with big pockets is more likely to complain about gold diggers, even though he doesn't even really have the gold.

It's a man whose worth and respect is tied to his pocket that will feel insecure when he meets an independent lady. He'd rather go for a woman who depends on him financially, so he can complain with his pals about how women are useless and bring nothing to the table.

He's more likely to never date a woman who has more money that him. His excuse? "They can't handle succes".

From your comment, it sounds like men are confused and narcissistic.

These days, it seems like the test of a man is in how much he can insult ladies and call them lewd names

donbachi:
What is the low esteem there?you just sounded like a total feminist and like a woman that will never be submissive to any man,knowing your grandmother and mother did same to their husbands..as christians,we all know that the bible also talked about women been submissive to husbands.i don't know the point you are trying to prove..stop discouraging other women out there.most men are what you women made of them...it's you that really need to be reoroentations on how to respect and be submissive to men.

It is so cliché these days for guys to counter such discussions with "feminism" and hide behind it.

What is feminism?

Thank God i don't know any men with such features. Have only met them on nairaland.

Tell your friend to choose his next girlfriend with clear eyes.

The way people jump to conclusions. Because it happened with someone means it is all ladies. Some people just think one way

Charelsz:
You want me to post pic? cause I got evidence

Be my guest

Charelsz:
Says a married bltch, who keeps flirting around

I pity for your poor husband, only heaven knows if he's the father of that Creature you called a child stupid h0e.

Disillusioned boy.

Dickhead02:
She is married? I thought I saw her flirting with one male Nairalander here

And you, continue peddling rumours like a petty man

Flirting indeed!

Men that are always looking for how to put women down.

Charelsz:
..

If your mother was sleeping around, deal with it. Get a shrink or something

And stop using her to classify every woman.

Not every woman is like your mother.

Rapist wanted to kiss

I listened to a radio programme today that gave me an insight into this illness. We should read more about depressed people and people prone to suicide. It is sad

khiaa:
I respond to you the way I do because you are undeserving of respect. I made a post to another person which had nothing to do with you, yet you brought your moronic azz to my mentions with insults.

Every name that you called me I simply flipped it over to your mother and you can't stand it.
Now, I will flip what you said about my deceased parents over to you.

Go ask your mother how many abortions she had before she shyted you out and why your father left when he saw how disgusting you look?

He is probably part of WAN, The Wailers Association of Nairaland.

Ryan03:
Most of them have been hurt by the one or two females, they find it hard to heal Hence they result to the only way they know to make them feel better. Most of them fake stories just to paint the female gender bad. Girls are not completely innocent, we have the bad eggs but so are guys. We have bad people in both gender

It is so pathetic. We keep seeing many cooked up stories just to paint women bad. These guys are just big babies... always ready to bash ladies. Such guys are quite annoying.

OgbanjeProphet:
Number 8 is not totally correct. I am right handed, but enjoy my chewing with the left side of my teeth.

Have you removed any tooth on the right side? Because though i am right handed, I got used to chewing on my left side because i removed a tooth on the right side.

eni4real:
You are thinking for all men now!

You can twist it any way that pleases you.

I am only responsible for what I say but not how you choose to interpret it.

eni4real:
You are not a man. You assume too much! !

Even a slow person would know that it is not kneeling that keeps a man if he doesn't want to be kept.

This is not an assumption.

Bossjakande:
if her hubby like it and shes OK with it den we shld not put mouth. small small things like dis make love grow

Off course it's her problem. But she should not deceive and misinform people out there that it is kneeling down that keeps a man

Even my husband will wonder if i am ok if I kneel to serve him... like is he God??

ibkayee:
Not my style but if she likes it I love it, her business

A man can literally have the ‘perfect’ wife and still cheat though

Exactly! Kneeling down is her personal wahala

Yimu!


If a woman likes, let her roll on the floor while serving her husband, a man that won't stay, won't.

Fyi0:
Fvck what you want to believe. The guy did the right thing.

Birds of a feather.

Revenge indeed

A wife is meant to support her husband. But they need to be able to communicate and understand each other and their expectations.

The husband should talk and make her understand instead of using silence to cover up. And the woman should be ready to contribute.

Theyoungmatron:
|Every other things like what When you are not feeding your family as a man, it nullifies every other thing you are doing. A man that waits for a woman to feed him. A man that shares his god giving responsibility of putting food on the table with his wife, that man is less OF a man. The new generation of men has watered down their responsibilities to the extent of delegating FEEDING, SHELTER AND SCHOOL FEES TO THEIR WIVES and still expect to be respected.

Let the wife provide the money, let the man buy and cook, i think the woman will agree to this since we are in the era of delegation

The bolded is so true. A lot of them are so scared of responsibility.