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bamidelee:
when you're fifty years and earn bogus salaries, you'll marry then.

Already married

You can go ahead and marry with 20k salary. But don't open a thread like the op to complain.

dre11:
I got married when i was earning that amount..... But now my salary is in '5'zeros..

Who says you can't.... Its your determination to make a success and your wife effort and understanding that makes the difference

So you would advise a man get married with that amount in this present economy? Who knows if you had another source of income to augment.

Even in marriage counseling, money is a topic on its own. They advise couples because money is one of the major causes of divorce.

smasher1:
By the way, what if someone who earned well before wedding loses his high paying job after wedding.

What matters most is money management skills. Secondly, if you have no choice than to ask for recharge card. He should not have informed her on the purpose of the purchase. It's not everything a man or woman should tell his or her spouse because the reaction would be terrible

You cannot compare someone who lost his job along the line to someone who dives head in with a little amount. I am sure you know they are different scenarios.

Money management matters but obviously his money is not even enough to manage. His wife is handling the bulk of the bills. What if her business wasn't doing well?

Whether he told her it was for his father or not, in his mind he knows that he is also adding to her burden.

Besides, a man should be the one handling most of the house needs especially for his ego. A man's ego cannot handle it

nwanneni:

I swear you are wicked

husbandsnatcha:
The lady is showing d old fools maturity ,

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Funny enough she said all those bashing her ,ar in her dm

Confused guys

jeff1607:
it is possible, if one can't manage a small amount , when a larger sum comes he or she will say the same story.

some guys earn 200k monthly but can't boast of any savings and yet they complain it's too small

In other words, a guy earning 20k without any other source of income can get married and manage the small amount so that he will be able to handle a bigger amount?

The guys that earn 200k and still misuse it are either living above their means or cannot handle money. That is another story.

Deepfeel:
Lol but the other day I said I don't have taste for women with artificial beauty, my taste is for women with natural beauty, female monikers here attack me that my bank account is too low to maintain those type of women that's why I go for low maintenance women that are natural

At least you know that it is not about your bank account.

Being too artificial or trying too hard doesn't appeal to me either.

SageMK:


Well before you start smashing your keyboard about her lacking morals or courtesy, when was the last time you gave up your seat for an elderly person or help that blind man cross the street or carry a pregnant woman's load?

To begin with, it only shows lack of courtesy and respect to start sweeping when you've got a guest in your house.

So she did the right thing. After all, she was there as a guest, and not for a domestic help interview or anything.

Besides, the mum knew she was expecting a visitor and she couldn't sweep the house earlier. It's a stupid test.

A lady could collect the broom and sweep the whole street but it doesn't guarantee that she will be a good wife and DIL. Pretence is easy.

When someone says marrying on that kind of salary is not advisable, they will say we are materialistic.

Imagine if a child is involved. You will know that it's not about being prudent or being a wife material.

Meanwhile, on this forum, a guy has been urged on to get married on a 40k salary. You guys should tell yourself the truth and stop hiding under "a good woman will manage"

This is real life, real expenses.

They are moved by the flashy and artificial babes and "slayqueens".

Then they end up running to Nairaland to open a thread and wail when the lady manifests her real self.

Inastrait (Ibadan)
Mama Ope (Ibadan)
Amala joint (Bawala palmgroove and census close to bode Thomas surulere)
Amala joint (Agbowo express Ibadan)

You need to take charge of your home and stop letting her create an uncomfortable atmosphere for you. You are taking all the nonsense without putting a stop to it.

She feels your happiness depends on her. So when she starts acting up, you are miserable and she goes about like she has conquered you.

You need to put your foot down and say enough is enough. Tell her that if she cannot manage her emotions and attitude, you are taking her back to her father's house.

This is not what marriage is supposed to be and I am wondering why you married such a woman.

egojeny1:
But why won't ur sister do what she asked her to do? That's a disrespect to her. If u bring ur sister back to that house she should do whatever she asks her to do, ur sister shld know that the house is for ur wife and not her's. She shld give her max respect if u want peace to reign in ur house. No need for your younger sister to rub shoulders with ur wife they are not mates. I'm sure ur sister must have been saying rubbish things abt ur wife to ur other siblings and parents. That's how some siblings will come and be causing trouble in someone's house, common message she couldn't help out. That is very bad. If we should hear ur wife's side of this gist now we will not believe our ears.

Why should a man like u think of eloping with ur daughter, hian! Biko man-up and take care/charge of ur home, talk things out with ur wife and make things work. You are the head of the house.

The sister is not actually the problem. The wife has a bad attitude... fighting with everyone and being disrespectful and rude. Do you know how she treated the sister to make that one refuse an errand?

Whether younger or older, people need to be treated with respect. If she can disrespect her husband who is supposed to be the head of the family, how do you think she would have treated the sister who is probably younger than her?

She must be really dull. What will she achieve with an elaborate wedding? Just to get hailed or what? Forget elaborate wedding and invest in the future

Are you guys even supposed to have a sex life?

She is probably just doing it to please you and is not completely ok with having sex.

I just wish she was bold and wise enough to say No rather than just go with it

When your guys anger you, do you beat them? Why not? Because you know they could brush you?

Why don't you extend the same restraint you show with your friends to your wife? The one you promised to love and cherish. The one that you have become one with.

It's not rocket science to refrain from hitting people that cannot match your strength. It takes a sound mind and self control.

iCauseTrouble:
Yes. Am a 10 seconds man. Sometimes less. You wanna try?

I am ok. Thanks

iCauseTrouble:
My diick couldn't withstand ur rusty and smelling kitty. Had to run for my life and my future wife

10 seconds That is finishing before starting

Tundemanias:
Welcoming a child into the world is a very joyful feeling for couples and their well-wishers. This is understandable seeing as giving birth is not an easy feat.

Nollywood actress, Bidemi Kosoko, has welcomed a child into the world. Friends and well-wishers of the Yoruba film star took to social media to share the good news.

Bidemi and her partner welcomed their first child, a baby boy, to the joy of fans and the new born is no doubt a great addition to the Kosoko family.

Recall that Bidemi's older sister, Sola Kosoko, also gave birth to her second child five years after her first daughter on April 13, 2019.

The actresses who happen to be the daughter of veteran actor Jide Kosoko have no doubt made him a grandfather of many.


https://maniagist.com/2019/05/28/nollywood-actress-bidemi-kosoko-welcomes-first-child/

Why post Sola's picture instead of Bidemi

It is just a scheme to make the girl bend to their will... making her think that if she doesn't agree, she will end up going to "Shiloh".

Any guy that thinks that way should not be taken seriously.

Maybe because people see men cheating as a norm already. A man can be sleeping with his househelp, cook, driver(if she is a woman), secretary, etc. People make a fuss about women who cheat but men are still ahead.

bukatyne:
I want to assume all these threads coming up are from trolls.

If there are real, young women have a lot on their hands o.

To revenge not giving number again?

It is a pity. I kind of hope the story and the people endorsing are made up. Because I don't want to believe that guys behave this way

It's good to know what you want and go for it. A friend of.mine(a guy) always surrounded himself with rich guys...now he is in their league.

Why do some guys on this forum feel hurt when a girl mentions rich guys. Are you guys planning to be broke for.life? You guys defend being broke like it's your heritage

SweetBuns:
I knew idiots like you would like to quote me for cheap "likes".
When sex goes wrong, why do the females have to bear the brunt?
You put it out as if she was the one who took the camera and snapped the pics. Was she the one? No!
It was one sick MAN ,a childish bastard who doesn't understand that sex is a secret and intimate act that must not be put in record. So how is it her fault? Did you know if the poor lady knew about the videos or not?? You're bearing false witness on something you don't know! Disgusting!!!!
Its clear that you can't reason beyond your nose before thinking of the " likes" you will have. Slowpoke

She didn't take the pictures herself but she allowed it. I believe that when a person allows intimate pictures to be taken, nudes transferred, etc, they should be ready for the eventuality if things go sour.

Not everyone understands that sex should be secret. So it rests on us to take precautions and protect ourselves from future headache

lilwetdick:
i didnt make anything personal.. you said only thugs have reproduction right.. i asked if you were a thug, for you to bring something like that you must have lived the life to write something like that

if a man says something he truly believes, what is wrong in asking that man if he is talking from experience.

You seem to be derailing your own thread

Everyone likes money...male and female. Show me one person who prefers the hard life to a life of luxury.

It's just that some guys here who are still struggling with their finances end up pouring their frustrations on ladies.

Ladies are not your problem. Lack of money is the problem.

helinues:
That's normal responsibility of normal people

How many have you rehabilitated?

Her mother looks happier than her

That everything is not as it seems...all that glitters really isn't gold. A lot of packaging is involved

LesbianBoy:
Meanwhile....

Why is it that when a celebrity in Nigeria is accused of something SUDDENLY other people from no where will start claiming he did same to them.

Why didn't they talk since if he really did what they say he did.

Probably because they didn't realize that they were being duped until stories like these ones spring up

It explains why some people just like to flaunt private jets, luxury cars, etc. They are probably trying to fill a void and prove to the world that they are living well and happy even if they are not.

chimhigher:
"He killed his Daughter just go get back at his wife for dumping him" Does this Even make sense..This is the more reason i am always careful outside,always careful who i quarell with on the road,i say sorry to any slightest argument i have with any stranger because some people are not human..Them fit chook you for unnecessary reason..Now imagine a man killing his own daughter to get back to his wife..

NOW I BELIEVE THE SAYING,ALL FATHERS ARE MEN BUT NOT ALL MEN ARE FATHERS

It's sheer stupidity. But I bet he wouldn't have done it if it were a male child. Really sickening