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Toks2008:
The day you stop juxtaposing sexual decency of a man and a woman is the day you will be liberated from your warped mindset on sexual matters regarding both genders.

What if the man comes out to say she lured him? Will it not be foolish for any lady to say why did he not resist?

Think in this light maybe my point will make sense to you... And mind you I'm not passionate about my opinion... It is a fact and you can stick to what you believe if thst makes you sleep well at night.

Cheers.

Only on Nairaland...la la land

BLOODYSPERM:
So you don't believe in abortion except the child pose a risk to the mothers health or life

I respect you for these strong decision you took

Yeah.

What strong decision did I take?

Adakintroy:
Nairaland is partly a derivative of the real life.

Events here are drawn from reality out there. They are mutual inclusive.

Nairaland is a female prejudiced forum. Real life is different.

Toks2008:
Not again

Honestly I get scared of ladies who reason this way cis it comes as if they are trying to balance an equation that can never ever be balanced.

A man can chase anything in skirt and Infact a man can be attracted to any lady regardless of who she is but the code of morality is more demanding on the lady.

A man can sleep with 20 friends if they allow him and only a foolish person will blame the guy for chasing 20friends but the onus always falls on the lady to say NO.

AS LONG AS SHE OPENS HER LEGS, NO REASONABLE PERSON POINTS A FINGER AT THE MAN...

Oh yes it is shameful and the man will only share the shame and not the blame.

Please you ladies should stop this unhealthy comments of Blaming the man... What if he says the lady lured him? Will you now blame a man for his sexual weakness?

Toks seriously the way you back men for sexual irresponsibility is quite disappointing and unbelievable. How can the code of morality be only the woman's cross while the man is applauded for his own immorality? This is clearly double standards.

How did we get to the point where a man's sexual recklessness is now accepted as a norm and shouldn't be condemned. While the women should therefore take the blame always, since the man cannot help his sexual weakness as a baby that he is.

Instead of seeing how faulty this mindset is, you are trying to fault ladies for their thinking, for not accepting the trash...calling it unhealthy comments. It's a pity.

Adakintroy:
Yes that's how. Reality. Did you not know he grew him.


The child is the father of the man.

Fortunately, that is only how it works on Nairaland not in real life.

Toks2008:
You are playing the emotion card but you have to come down from your high horse and accept that you goofed in that statement.

It is totally ackward for any lady to blame her sexual indecency on a man cis nobody can make you do what you are not capable of doing...

It will shock you to find out that the lady in question must have urged the man on but I'm not even delving on that for now.

Incase you don't know that the mindset you projected is a very bad one please know now...

Some men will demand sex from even their own daughters and sisters but if these ladies don't give in then we can start castigating the men but once she gives in the table automatically turns and that is how the cookie crumbles... And ofcourse except the lady is a minor or was raped then you can bring the guy into the picture.

In this case it is very absurd, foolish and out of place for anyone to opine that people are not Blaming the man so please accept you goofed and rest this matter.

Have a great weekend and sorry of my chastisement of your commment appears strong...

So the men can demand sex from their daughters and sisters but will not be blamed because it is their right abi.

I am not playing any emotion card especially with someone that doesn't seem to have the ability to emote.

On the contrary, you are the one projected a faulty mindset; putting all the blame on the woman for being indecent but commending the guy for the same crime.

I know when I goof and this is not one of it. You on the other hand just cannot accept the fact that your almighty gender can be at fault or blamed for anything. The woman must be the only one at fault.

The man was very decent and responsible to sleep with his son's wife. Let's give him a gold star and a round of applause.

I know you are passionate about your opinions. No offence taken.

Great weekend

Adakintroy:
Madam she will be blamed more. The man will be blame of curse but she will carry all the blame. Because she consented. Period.

Father and son will work it out. They are blood. She is not. Thats why we ask women to be careful. But they want to be careless like men. Yet they can't deal with the honest ramifications of their actions.

She will go.

She did not have much in her life to do. Other that eat free food Bleep and sleep.

Indeed. That's how fathers and sons work it out. La la land

Adakintroy:
You keep pointing at the man as a way of defelcting attention from the woman. Ok. Let's play this game.

Let's say my father betrayed me Guess's what? I can't change father..so I will have no choice than to forgive him after I follow this line of thought.

He paid for my health care growing up, paid for my intuition, I live rent free in his house for yrs and so much more I can't remember. If not for his contributions to standing me, my wife would not have seen me as man enough to remotely think of marriage. That's how I will feel about my father. Betrayed, painfully but. It's ok. We will work it out.

My wife on the other hand had no responsibility than to live rent free, eat my food and sleep with me. It's not much to ask. My father at some point proved he loved me. What has she proven?

Let go real deep..are you ready.

I am not absorbing the woman of blame. She takes half the blame.

So because your father paid your fees, gave you food, etc. ( things that are his responsibility for bringing you to the world), he doesn't get blamed.

So let's assume your father was not available for you and you met your wife since. She's the one who paid your fees throughout your university and gave you feeding money all through, will she be absorbed of the blame too.

Since it is about who spent money on you and had responsibility for your upkeep

Kimjongun:
This is a lie! She said she is Yoruba and she is speaking with a strange accent

The accent is not an issue. It depends on where and how she grew up. Afterall Tejiri in flatmates (she has deep warfi accent) is Yoruba

Toks2008:
That is the best way to respond to that post you made.

It only goes to show your mindset. How could you even write such?

Blaming a man for the sexual indecency of a lady.

May GOD grant you wisdom.

Toks may God grant you wisdom to understand and to communicate your opinions and disagreements more maturedly. I can't help but think that the kind of response you gave is because I am a woman, but that aside.

Blaming a man for sexual indecency of a woman? Didn't he participate? It's not like he was decent enough to say NO. He is also indecent for sleeping with her.

You guys only see wrong from the woman's side but turn a blind eye to the man. God will give you guys wisdom like King Solomon to judge wisely and without prejudice.

Adakintroy:
Vindicating the man.am saying women hold the high ground in any sex transactions. They just hate responsibilities when they slack.

Men make offer. She has right to refuse for her marriage sake. If he force him it's rape.

That's why men are jailed for force..if she permit. It's on her. It's like being giving the key to the city.

If you are man...married, how would you feel if your father has sex with your wife. Will you only blame your wife? What about the person who calls himself your father who should also look out for you?

A man has the right to make an offer...should that offer be extended to his son's wife? Just because he needs sex, can he ask his own daughter? There should be sense in who a man approaches. If he doesn't have sex, he cannot die

SocialJustice:
Lala your attention is needed here.

Most parents these days fail at everything. I have friends who let their kids do whatever they want, I mean whatever. It is crazy. People think the girls above 20 are bad, just wait for the babies to turn into young women.

That said, there are beacons of light in this perpetual darkness-properly trained girls who know their place, abhor feminism and see no reason why they shouldn't be able to manage their homes.

At the bolded, it is not hard to believe. An example is the thread where a parent said their 3yr old watches cartoons till morning and they didn't know what to do. They don't realize it was what they allowed that came back to bite them.

Children need guidance, routine and not to do whatever they want.

BLOODYSPERM:
Personally do you support abortion?

I believe that every child has a right to survival except otherwise advised by a doctor.

testimony1089:
Why is it dat we usually overlook the other side and blame the 'woman' only. Who's more dangerous between a father sleeping with his son's wife and a wife sleeping with her father-in-law? But these days, it seems the majority have no blood running through their veins! This is disgusting and despicable. Very hard to trust anyone with all these happening around...

You should know by now that NL is filled with men who are prejudiced towards women. Even if it is the man who slept with his mother inlaw, they will blame his wife and the mother inlaw and be silent about the man .

E be tins

BLOODYSPERM:
1)Women vocal about rape and domestic violence, bullying and emotional abuse is one thing

2)Women vocal about the oppression of a patriarchal society and gender equality is another thing

3)Women vocal about the girl child education and against gender discrimination or bias is another thing

The problem is that women should speak out and not call themselves Feminist

Feminism is a sexist bigotrical socially acceptable female supremacist and privilege movement


Personally I don't believe 2)

Any woman that wants to be feminists should feel free to be one. But she should follow it all the way. When out on a date, the feminism should apply there...she should split the bill, etc.

Not most Nigerian feminists that want to be feminists on their own terms.

danilmo:
she's still d demon.. who opened pussy for the father in law?? would it have happened if she had closed leg up?? did d father in law rape her?? who did she swore allegiance to b loyal to inspite of any temptation??

Did the father inlaw have a gun to his head to sleep with his son's wife?

Would it have happened if he was responsible enough to say No?

Did she force him or was he under duress to sleep with her?

Don't get me wrong, I am not blaming the FIL alone. The woman also has half the blame. But it is just very annoying to see the woman blamed solely while the man just gets a slap on the wrist.

Toks2008:
Will you just shush please.. Gosh!

If you cannot communicate sensibly, you shush!

Wunna:
@emboldened just proved how brainless and untrained you are.
And I guess the brainless skull malfunctioned when you only saw the wrong in the man but never the woman. Quote me at your pussy's peril

If you were well trained, you would have had the sense on how to communicate with people. But obviously, that department was left to the househelp. I mean, we cannot insult your mother to assume that she was the one who did this terrible mess

Rather than rant like a mad dog, communicate like a human or else SCRAM!

BLOODYSPERM:
I agree
The question is why don't they speak up?

They probably have been made to believe that submission means not speaking up to maltreatment or how you feel about issues.

Even on this forum, a guy described women who are vocal to be feminists.

Abeg we will all be fine. What is important is mutual love and respect. It works things out

mezico96:
Pls don't say that again... my case is different, though,if somehow it happens then I might kee person

All this guys making dog sound,rat or bird sound to lure my daughter out...ma no just talk

All the best

brandsoncharlie:
Why can’t she resist him.
You need some lashes.

You guys all sound like you will approach your daughters inlaw for sex. Is it hard to see that the man is even more wrong than the woman betraying his own son

Wunna:
Did he force her to open her legs? You don't have to answer cos I'll spit on your face. Brainless sh!t

Spit on your mother's face Robot.

Your brain will rather malfunction or shut down completely instead of seeing the woman is not the only one that is wrong.

Adakintroy:
Women hold the key in sex transactions..

Men always want sex. Always...if giving the opportunity we want it all the time. We even bribe you with money to give us..

Yes u know you want something real bad if you have to pay for it.

That said Women want to come out for real in the twenty first century they have to do as we do and that is be more responsible. Not find
Men all the time to blame.

That mean if your father in-law approach you for sex. Tell your husband. Don't fuccck him. I repeat tell your husband. Don't fuccck him.

Yadayadayada...

Blame the woman and vindicate the man. Men always want sex, so it is ok to approach your son's wife for it because she's a woman.

Princedapace:
Yea.. naturally, men chase. If a woman says no, nothing will happen. She has the key to lockup her V.

In other words, naturally, fathers chase their son's wives. No limits, no loyalty to their sons, no shame...as long as she is a woman.

You guys on this forum should learn to be objective for once. Just once put your bias for women aside and comment

001spice:
ImaIma1 r u defending the woman or wat

In what way? Did she not betray her husband?

Tajbol4splend:
Don't be ridiculous, are you trying to vindicate her of what happened?

Ridiculous, how? I am not vindicating anyone. But it is only the norm for guys on this forum to heap the blame on the woman. Meanwhile his own father won't get as much bashing because he is not the endangered specie

BLOODYSPERM:
I'm a pragmatist
Suffer in silence?
Is it rape, domestic abuse , mental abuse emotional abuse,
Ladies have to be specific

I don't get the point suffer in silence where is the survey , scientific data, research, we don't reach conclusion by consensus but rather by objective results

Exactly as I said, some women do not speak up to their husbands in the name of submission. They could take all the bad treatment and stay silent. So they suffer in silence.

mezico96:
Aww....congrats to you guys

But I no want! thank you

Don't be shocked if you have all girls. Many men that run from having female children and the ones that have them

BLOODYSPERM:
I'm a pragmatist
Suffer in silence?
Is it rape, domestic abuse , mental abuse emotional abuse,
Ladies have to be specific

I don't get it , you

Being maltreated, withstanding bullying, insults and all sorts of bad treatment in the name of marriage and submission.

BLOODYSPERM:
My point is that Feminist want equality in marriage 50-50 will that make submission feasible since love and submission can be rationalized and negotiated rather than it coming natural from the heart

From your points it seems you are not a feminist for you to emphasize scriptures

I am more of a realist. I am no feminist. I respect people but I will speak up rather than suffer in silence. Even though my husband is the head, he is also my lover, partner, father and close friend. Creating a balance of all these roles is key

Magnoliaa:
[color=deeppink]Of course. Not everyone will be a feminist - which is a valid identity for some. [/color]



[color=deeppink]Lol...there are people from all walks of life, with different value systems and religions that are in marriages that work just for them.

There are feminists who are married -- a decision that most people still consider void. I mean, I don't get how being a feminist should rule out that or singleness. If they get married to someone like themselves, where's the clash over principles going to come from? If a feminist stays long in a marriage, which requires work, people will say, 'Look at her. A feminist putting in efforts in her marriage.' As if they are supposed to be mutually exclusive or that makes her an hypocrite? If she opts out, that'd still be used against her. If she gives birth, they are like, 'so you like motherhood abi.' If she doesn't, wahala.

Feminists do not cease to be humans because they talk about equality.[/color]

It's almost impossible for a lady to be a feminist in a Nigerian marriage with all our culture, practices and way of life. They have to compromise their principles to make it work. There is no way she will bring all that feminism principles into her marriage and expect it to go well.

Dayoebe:
Leaving him because of adultery is baseless. 75% of married men engaged in extra marital affairs. Its an abnormal norm

Nigerians and baseless and unverified statistics.