₦airaland Forum

Godoverevery:
you just talking about when you visit your brother place......

my question is do you treat your own people/siblings the same way when they visit you??...Do they ask your permission for everything

Godoverevery:
typical woman response... respect which space

Her family will have free access to the space and mine won't??

Godoverevery:
that the problem....am sure you will do same when you get married.
is her home meant for her relatives while the husband relatives are now intruders.

Well my mum is also guilty but I told her to her face it was wrong.

Godoverevery:
My question.....why is always an issue if is the husband relative

So because am married my family can't have access to my house anymore

Like I said is foolish men that takes such.

RisenPhoenix1:
As long as neither promised to marry the other, I don't see the big deal. Why isn't she being considered as the one who wasted someone's son's precious time?

24kmagic:
I hope and pray for a good sister in-law in the future, I really do. But in the event that we don't like each other, there's going to be some serious troubles.

I will try as much as possible not to encroach her space. But in the case of kitchen affairs, she dare not.

Who told women that the kitchen belongs to them only? As if they even know how to cook mtcheew.
If my sister in-law tries this rubbish with me, I will make sure I frustrate her life as long as I live.

She'll never wish to step into our family house again I swear. Even that my brother I will deal with him.

The only people I will spare are their kids.

But both my brother and his wife will not have a happy marriage, cos I will turn the whole family against them.

Rubbish.

Richy4:

I can just imagine what would have happened assuming OP dished out the food she (the sister in law) prepared by herself to his friend ... His luggage would have been at the entrance gate to their estate.. .

All we wanted for them is peace my brother nothing more..

what I disliked in some people's attitude here on Nairaland is that sometimes they seems good at playing 'culture card' when it suits them perfectly.. like in this case, majority have already became Europeans all of a sudden, They have started forming nuclear family on OP.. they have seen OP as someone who has committed a great taboo by staying with his married Elder brother... But did the African culture permits that? that's a question for another day...

But when situation shifts bases, and sh!t hits the roof in a relationship between married couple,, the same people dishing out Europeans style advise; that were forming nuclear family will be like why not call his family, don't u have uncle, sister, bla bla bla..They just remembered African culture when it feels convenient...It's just annoying..

emi1000:
Why can't we just live in peace in this world? Your brother's wife is now part of your family, there should be peace and love between the both families, op I'm not saying you are at fault o, I'm just wondering why people keep having issues with their brother's wife, it baffles me�

freetheking:
I'm so sorry that she throw your belongings out of the house of which I know it's not good. Secondly,you did not behave well by going to her pot without her concent. Let me tell you this and every other person reading thread, there are two things that women don't tolerate.

(1) Going to her pot without her concent.

(2) Interfering in the matter that concerns her and her husband.
You will be a good brother in-law or sister in-law.

Gang90:
You are so myopic that you think marriage is the most important thing in life, I had given you reasons, for my disgusts, deal with it or locate the closest transformer, and hang yourself with naked wire. Don't go and focus on your life, keep trying to defined for another person what should disgust him and what should not, I had moved on

Gang90:
Why would my brother disgusts me, these things looks simple to you but it disgusts me, and as she keeps doing stuff like that the rate of disgust increases, there are aspects that my brother is not cool in but those are minor for instance my brother knows how to lose phone charger, even when charger is cheap, in a month he can loose like 3 phone chargers, he will go out with the cord to use in the car and before long he won't come back with it, but that's weird, I can't say he's careless becuase he had never lost his car key or misplace money, but thats not disgusting.

Gang90:
You need to be specific, if you keep doing things that disgust me, at a point you begin to look disgusting, it depends, I had told you what disgust me in particular, and I had told you that after sex they took their baths, so why would they leave the room dirty, is it healthy for her to go make food right after sex, both her and my brother took their bath so why wont they wash the sheet, focus on the issue at hand, by the way I left the house since yesterday, currently in another town

Gang90:
Who is talking about grown here, I'm talking about tonight, where I'm I going to sleep, washing it is not the problem, I can get a new one tomorrow or get the dry cleaner to come pick it up and wash, I'm talking about today, where should I sleep, i had told you that sex from strange people disgusts me, so it not about pick it up and wash, that bedsheet currently looks like puke to me, or even worse

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sloo1:
The truth is your might be a good person but you have not been a good wife. I will give you reasons when I wake up.

The problems:

You are jealous, insecure and a bit arrogant.

The circumstances surrounding you wedding - your pregnancy, rejection by your family, your perceived inlaws perception of you, made you insecure.

You are jealous of your husbands attention to his family and you are either arrogant or suffering from inferiority complex or both.

The solution:

Love and respect those whom your husband love - his family. Engage his siblings in healthy conversations. Made them your friends. Show them care and love. Sometimes join their conversation with your husband. Remember that your husband has been showing such care and love to his family long before he met you.

Work on acquiring a humble heart. Asking your brother in-law to wash his plate when you and your sister are there is example of your arrogant or inferiority complex in action. From your description of him he is not a small boy. Does your husband wash his own plates too.

If you become humble and stop thinking much of yourself you will be at peace with yourself and will be a lovely woman to both your husband and in-laws.

Your husband also needs advice but since he is not here no need to go on

Cutehector:
Husband's side of the story first... Una too dey like to blame even ant for everything

Justkatty:
This just made me laugh and also made me remember what used to happen between my brother and I,
We always have to quarrel whenever he comes back and see his shirt on me, reason being that, I always expand the front of shirt and most times even remove one button because am busty.
But he wasn't finding it funny again, so I had to stop.
So, Mister just try to get more shirts and you can actually leave some for her.

NextD18:
I can't remember saying such, but even if I did said such, marrying down doesn't necessarily mean you should hunt a life partner from a very poor and broke family.

You can marry from a comfortable family that is still financially beneath you.

LordKO:
ImaIma1 avoid drift from humanity to chauvinism. There's a difference between "judging" and "advice." When someone comes for the former, it's normal for some people to ask what happened, while in the latter, almost everyone will state their opinion based on the information available.

KosiGee:
Go and make peace with your wife. Sit down and talk like you’ve always done. Stop asking for ways to punish your fellow human being. If it’s not working for the both of you...separate, divorce...go your separate ways in peace.

Asking for ways “to punish” your wife sounds silly and very disrespectful.

She could as well come online to ask for help on how to punish you. How would you feel? Treat others the way you want to be treated. Treat people with respect.

All you people dropping suggestions to him, have you asked him what the wife has done to him to warrant the awkward help he is soliciting online?

helinues:
If a woman feels less concerned that her husband is not eating from home, then lots are wrong with such woman except if there is no love/joy in the marriage

southniyikaye:
Whosoever wrote this trash is Senseless..
If ladies don't give out their bodies for money or material things, no guys will not sleep around..
We are in a generation where being naked to entice followership, monetary gain and money is the order of the day...
On WhatsApp and Facebook status, they use affiliate marketing as cover up for their olosho businesses.. After every advert, they also advertise their unclothedness...
What brought about the issue of paternity today?
Some girls bleeps for fun
Money
Monetary gains..
Everyone of them wants to be like and live like Bobrisky forgetting Bobrisky is a smart businessman..
Bob gave an advice (a useless one at that) some days ago, I was surprised the numbers of braindead endorsing such advice, it shows how very shallow our girls reason

BluntCrazeMan:
Na Waa Ooo.
Why would the NIN demand that the name on the BVN should be changed first?
NIN doesn't require BVN..
Rather, it is BVN that requires NIN.
..
Why is it that our Nigerian system and our Government always making things very difficult for the citizens?
Who did we offend in this country? Na Waaa Ooo..!! I can relate very well.

RisenPhoenix1:
Feminists want to be men. Here's a BBC ad you might enjoy. It was meant to be satire, but reverberated with women everywhere.


https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=UCftJ8Hf0kI

Ishilove:
La click la purge watery shit

iamrealdeji:
Only God knows how you would also behave in marriage. If you are not a virgin,you have no right to say all these,you are likely to do even worse. Most girls have given all they should reserve for their husbands to their ex boyfriends. I know a bros that knacked his ex-girlfriend on her wedding night