₦airaland Forum

legacystore:
Who told u other siblings are not sending money to care for their parents. Money don't run errands, u can't quantify the miracle his presence brings to caring for their aged parents

At no point did I say that they don't send money. Even the older ones know that it will get to a point where he will want more freedom instead of being preoccupied with caring for the parents. It's not even a job he can do alone.

It's easy for the responsibility to be dumped on the youngest with emotional blackmail attached. But there's always an alternative that will.work for everyone.

The concept of the redpill especially in Nigeria and on Nairaland symbolizes hatred, disdain and bitterness towards the opposite, and that cannot be Christian.

Most of them come across as atheists. And I doubt that the ones who are Christians even understand that their redpill cannot coexist with christianity.

Wisdom is profitable to direct.

KingAzubuike:
Some of these kids can be very stubborn and make you do the unthinkable out of rage.

RiP to the kid and as for the maid, she needs a psychiatrist and a psychologist not a death /jail sentence.

So killing her is one of the unthinkable and it is justified?

Teleprompter:
For your ex to send such stupid blackmail text shows how gullible you are.

How dare she say that she is no longer your responsibility. was she your responsibility before?

She is very stupid to even ask you for money. She is more stupid to encourage you to give your life to Christ under this pretext.

Let her ask her own family. Did she not save during NYSC? Na wa oh.

Very manipulative text message; hiding under christianity to blackmail him. He should have seen right through it instead of feeling compelled to give her.

CalliDora1:
Let him speak for himself or do you know him in person? How could you possibly tell he's an adult?

He can only start paying bills only if he has a stable job which I doubt he has for now.

Whatever rocks his boat

As long as he's above adult age. And no, I don't know him personally (thanks for asking).

Caaz:
and I just made free #17k this morning frying akara as profit.... maximum time spent 6-8:30)
I drank chilled maltina and fresh donut with pink toppings.

That means those people that have been selling akara for years have built houses in lekki

CalliDora1:
How old are you?
What kind of freedom do you seek?
Do you have what it takes to live alone?

Let me tell you, living independently is not childs play. I hope you know about the bills. You might want to consider these things first before going ahead with your plans.

You also know your aged parents need someone to take care of them and since you're still available, just stay back and look after them.

Everyone started from somewhere to start paying bills. Eventually he will have to start.

Caring for his aged parents is not his responsibility alone. He has older ones. They can all come together to decide on how they want to take good care of them.

Eventually everyone leaves home and tow their path as adults.

BRATISLAVA:
Must the blame always lie with the woman? What is the genotype of the husband? It's obvious he lied because he knows how everyone will turn eyes on the woman.

Read the post now before you start gender war .

Canvass:
Bro, no doubt, you are damn attractive. If I were a woman, I'll try tapping your resources. Let no one take it away from you, you are top notch

However, I read it somewhere that Nigerian women are attracted and go for a typical, every day guy, with average figure and aesthetic beauty. Why? I still don't know.

True to a large extent. I will just think that time that he should be using to make money, he is busy body building. It is except he is being paid to do it. Still, I prefer an average built guy.

nurez305:
Every scammer is always into oil and gas.... that business really suffer from scammer's hand.

No legit business man will ever flaunt cash online

Or real estate...lol

That's why the bible says we should guide our heart with all diligence...

The pastor may have spoken without discretion and wisdom but e didn't put the poisin in the guy's mouth.

We have to be able to sieve information for ourselves especially if it is not true or it goes against the word of God.

What does killing himself now signify? That he couldn't bear what the pastor said? That the pastor lied against him? Or that he was indeed planning to use his mother for rituals?

There is more to the story. Hopefully more details will come out soon

Him and his family have problems. So because she is "their wife", she should quit her job to help her husband's ego and to save her marriage at the detriment of her own career.

They should also ask her to change the names on the houses to the husband's name too so that all the children he has outside will come and contest her sweat with her own children

The man is really not ok. If he found out she had a child with someone else, will she still be there?

MLTR:
The only secret women take to the grave is paternity fraud i don't expect you to concur anyways.

Lol...

They also take their husbands sterility to the grave

MLTR:
I don't know !! and i don't know why women on nairaland all act oblivious of women nature ... if you understand yoruba there are many adages that corroborate women can't stomach secret.
This is not just my opinion, if you think otherwise corroborate with references tew.

Well, I am not Yoruba. And their adages don't qualify or concern me. They were probably talking about Yoruba women and their nature.

And my opinion is that it is a generalization even for Yoruba women. It was probably from a folklore or ancient story where a woman couldn't stomach a secret...and then it became written in the culture. That doesn't make it law or a standard for all women.

Women have been keeping their husband's secrets for ages and taking it to their graves

lefulefu:
wow that's great.quite a pity sha cos a lot of married guys would prefer carrying their side chicks rather than their wive on a valentine day.

Not the majority. When I follow my husband when he is hanging out with friends, the friends also come with their wives. So we too form our own circle.

There are men that are averted to the idea of a side chick. That's why they marry peace of mind instead of vanity. It's easy to shout side chick, baby mama. But when it comes down to it, they would rather not.

Kelvin3476:
Dear ur calmness is out of this world. Other ladies will start quarel at the wake of this thread, and some guys comment.

I guess there's a time to argue and a time to refrain from arguments.

MLTR:
Maybe he shouldnt have generalized buh trust you he aint fact from the truth ... by nature women are expressive, yorubas will even say obinrin o nii ogogongo !! i.e sumtin that denote women can't keep secret.
Women are the downfall of most powerful men, how? they get there secret n reveal it, did tiwa savage not reveal her hubby takes cocaine, tonto went as fact as tellin the world her hubby is a 2min man, who could av shown the world dangote black yansh if not a woman. smh

Do you know how many men leak their wife's secrets to spite and manipulate her when they have an issue? It's not about the gender; it has to do more with the character and integrity of the person.

lefulefu:
most wey I don see it's always fight and quarrel .u go see a guy wey no touch drink as a single man becoming a full fledged alcoholic as a married man.i believe any nigerian couple who have peace in their marriage and love reigns in that marriage then such couple should be greatful.hope u heard d story of a wife who used her high heel shoe to puncture her husband's skull over issue of infidelity.dats the typical nigerian marriage for u.

I read the story. I see the unhappy and problematic marriages but I choose to focus on the good ones around me. And like has been attracting like .

And of course no two humans can live together without disagreements; there will be fights no matter how high the voltage of your love is. But we know that it is we will be fine again..

weyreypey:
It is rude to take the picture of a dead man like this. It is utterly disrespectful.

Some will even zoom in to get a closer look...very disrespectful to the dead and family.

Jessepaid:
Hehehe I just checked your profile...

You are female...

E don do matter don end...

You are absolutely and accurately correct..

I don waka leave you

The truth is indomie has done a lot of good and harm to us as a people...lol.

If the guy gave her money to prepare something, what she bought says a whole lot about her. What happened to soup, stew, jollof or even concoction rice...

I might be judging harshly, because for me, indomie is not part of my menu. If you see me eat indomie, maybe I am sick.

lefulefu:
the couple look like indiana or maybe pakistanis from their appearance and dressing from the pic.well about nigeria it's a dad thing married couples don't love each other .nigerian marriage is too combative for couples to show each other love.always fighting and quarreling .wich time a nigerian wife go even get dat time prepare a surprise for her husband on his birthday .thats why u see most men after work na beer palour dem dey run go in order to have peace of mind

Na wa o Lefu, all your couples have problem and are unhappy. You better shift and let them not use their bad luck to touch you .

Me that I am brainstorming on where to take my papi for his birthday/valentine.

LordKO:
ImaIma1, you don't seem current; the lastest world releases on countries with men who make the best husbands in the world, Nigerian men top the list again, and it's been so for the tenth consecutive year. Give us our due credit.

Really? I know it's people like my husband that make that list (batting my eyelids).

But you know our Nigerian men especially on this forum try to form like they are herods and pharoahs in their houses. So I wonder how come about being the best husbands

mosdii:
Nigerian Girls Can Never Try Such because Nigerian Girls Are Useless...All Of Them

It's quite obvious she's a happy wife. Those Nigerian women you are comparing her with, do their husbands treat them well despite the hardship?

Some ladies are always looking for how to collect and they never give. It's the guy that I blame.
You put your babe on allowance to show that you are capable. If it hook somewhere, that's when you will understand the kind of entitlement some babes have.

Your mum should know that choosing a wife for you will not gurarantee that the girl will turn out to be the best choice.

Besides, snce she understands what it means to stand your ground on your choice (as she did and married your dad), you should be able to sort this out

It's a personal flaw of your wife and not a general thing. You cannot come and say... your wife leaked your secret in public, therefore all women will leak their husbands' secrets in public.

I know you feel betrayed and let down but try not to rope us all into it.

AlhajiImam:
Before the land use act of the 70's, have we not been grazing and making use of the land in southwest?

So the land is free and belongs to Allah only when it concerns grazing.

Is it also free for someone to come toyour compound to start a farm or a weed/marijuana business?

This entitlement mentality should not be only for the fulanis

iknowexperts:
Requirements and procedure for obtaining a Fresh international passport for married women.

1. Marriage certificate
2. NIN slip containing your new name
3. Newspaper publication
4. Sworn affidavit
5. Other documents required for all other passport applicants

You will use all this to apply

Below are the steps for getting the passport.

Step 1: Obtain marriage certificate.

Getting the marriage certificate is simple. It can be gotten at the registry, church or any other approved institution.

Step 2 and 3: a sworn affidavit for a change of name and a Newspaper publication for the same.

These steps go hand in hand because after getting the sworn affidavit, you will need to do a newsapaper publication.

You can begin by getting the sworn affidavit. This can be done at the registery of any high court near you. Next is to get a newspaper publication announcing your change of name.

You have to submit the following documents for sworn affidavit and newspaper publication.

Information about your current name
New name
Gender
The reason for the change
A copy of your marriage certificate
A means of identification showing your current name
(e.g drivers license, ID card , certificate etc)
Passport photograph

Marriage certificate, sworn affidavit and newspaper publication (the page of change of name) - you will be needing them almost everywhere else.

Newspaper publication costs around 5,000 while sworn affidavit costs between 200 to 2,000

Step 4. Modify your new name on your NIN slip or Register for a new NIN Slip if you dont have

The next document you would need is a National Identity Slip or Card. Especially if you want to get the Enhanced passport.

So, if you haven’t registered for one before, you should do so. But if you have, you would need to apply to modify your existing details.

To register for a new NIN, you need a valid means of identification (drivers license, voters card etc) and you need to fill the pre-enrolment form on the NIMC website
Pre-enrolment form ==> https://penrol.nimc.gov.ng/loginForm.tpl.html.php

Changing your Name on your National Identity Slip or Card in Nigeria

To change your name on your national identity slip or card, you would need to pay a modification service fee. It costs ₦500 to change most fields, except the ‘Date of Birth’ field which costs ₦15,000.

Payment Process for Modification to your National Identity Slip or Card

Go to www.remita.net to pay the modification service fee.

Select ‘Pay FGN and State TSA’ and then choose ‘FGN: Federal Government of Nigeria’

In the field that says ‘Who do you want to pay?’, type in ‘National Identity Management Commission’

In the ‘Name of Service/Purpose’ field, select ‘Modification of any Other Field Other than DOB – Per Transaction’

If you are updating multiple fields, you can choose ‘National Identity Management Commission (NIMC) Fees‘.

Fill in the other fields and click on ‘Submit’.

Pay the fee with any of the available methods of payment. Take note of your RRR fornqhen you might need it.

Print out a confirmation slip to take with you to the NIMC centre.

Documents Needed for Modification to your National Identity Slip or Card

• Filled form – this would be given to you at the NIMC office. The NIMC says this form is free, however, officials in some centres charge ₦50 to ₦200

• Letter of application for the change of name.
If you're based in Lagos, this should be directed to the ‘National Identity Management Commission, Alausa, Ikeja.
If in another state, I guess the letter will be directed NIMC headquaryers in that state.

• Sworn affidavit

• Newspaper publication

• Marriage certificate

• Confirmation of payment of modification service fee.

After making the necessary payments and gathering the required documents, go to the nearest NIMC centre for the final process of change of name.

Getting the Nigerian International Passport

After getting your NIN which reflects your new name, Newspaper publication and sworn afiidavit,

you can now gather the other requirements for Nigeria international passport and begin your online application at the Nigeria Immigration Service portal

Here ==> https://portal.immigration.gov.ng/passport/epassport

You can get a free comprehensive guide on the steps to apply and get a fresh Nigeria passport.

Just send "fresh passport guide" via whatsapp to 09060978669
And the guide will be Whatsapped to you

They also ask for the husband's passport data page

omojesu202:
he's someone that wants his car washed daily. Will you have two grown up boys of 20 and 18 at home and still be washing your car yourself?? if he sent for his boys to do that the wife will block it. giving him sleep and rest as reason

Seems your brother didn't bond with his children as they were growing up. Every parent has that obligation and responsibility to build relationships with their kids. It goes beyond paying school fees and bills. Once that bond is there, no one can just turn them against him.

Let your brother discuss with his wife how he feels about it. If he can't handle the situation, there's not much you can do. You have your own wife and family to mind.