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noobody:
Thanks for the recommendations my Oga,we promise never to let you guys down ever,we would always deliver exceptional service to you guys,but not to sound like i know it all thou,

None of my clients are yet to face this kinda issue,since the last time i raised the alarm,i remembered i adviced members here to always tell sellers to put a certain description on there items,at least that would keep prying eyes off the items..and glory to God it has been working well so far,and again i heard some post offices are the culprit behind this charges thou...

But still express deliveries are the way to Go,

Faster,reliable and better


Cheers

Pls what description and price should we tell sellers to put?

Patiently waiting for Mi Max 3.
Anybody in the house with me?

Confiman:
Please this might be a little lengthy but bear with me, everything here is needed to get the story out and ask my questions. Thank you.

This will go down as one of the most embarrassing moments of my life and I'm deeply confused. But before I go on, I'd love a quick intro.

I just created this moniker to chronicle all of my confusions and to feel free asking for help without any of my friends here tracing them to me. I'm 22 and a serving Corp member. I'm a hustler and I can say I'm doing fairly well for a Corp member.

I am still a "virgin" iff that term can be loosely applied to someone who masturbates. I'm deeply disturbed by my masturbation, but that is not the purpose of this thread.

I recently met a girl - also a Corp member - whom I'm really, really fond of. However, I strongly believe that sex is for marriage (I'm a devoted Christian) and so I have always stayed away from it. With this girl tho, we get frisky a lot. I shared my first kiss with her, and we've since gotten more intimate than I'm usually comfortable with. Sadly, that doesn't help my desire to stop masturbation as I always do that after making out with her. When doing so, I imagine all we had done and it gets me off.

However, this is where it gets embarrassing. When making out with her she sometimes gives me a head. Despite all of her efforts tho (and she is sincerely really good), I can't get myself to remain aroused. No, my hands don't give me half the sensations I get from her mouth, but it still doesn't matter as I just can't remain aroused enough to get off as is the case when I'm by myself.

Today was the very worst as I kept shrinking rather than edging towards release. It angers her cos she believes I don't want her, or how else does she explain it? She feels if I wanted her as much as she wanted me that it would be different. I know my conscience pricks me while we're at it but I don't know if that is the cause. She says I think too much about it... but I can't help the thoughts. Now I'm torn.

I need to know just two things:
1. Is it my 'plenty thinking' that's hindering me when with her? I've already put away most of my inhibitions to get that far with her, but I can't seem to go further. And I don't really think I want to.
2. How can I tell her to take away the sexual edge of the relationship without coming across as offensive, and without confirming her belief that I don't want her?

P.S: Before you begin bashing the lady, note that she is also a virgin. Her vagina is still very much sealed. I doubted that at first, but I've seen it and... So I know. I don't want to lose her but I don't want to go so far either...

@op what you're experiencing is not strange and quite common with first timers or those who have stayed off sex for a while. Most times, it boils down to anxiety.

To remedy this, there are certain practical steps you must take.

1. Try and relax your mind. This is quite difficult because the process of actively trying to relax may make you more tensed. An easier way is to tell yourself that it would soon be a thing of the past. Something you both would laugh at. Soon enough she may be the one complaining of too much sex.
Remember, you can't force an erection

2. Let her know that you're a virgin. Also, explain to her that you've read up on it and its quite common with first timers and it has nothing to do with your attraction for her. Let her know that she can read up on it too and that it would soon pass. This way, you're both relaxed.

3. Stop Masturbating for now. Soon enough, you would be able to build up more sexual pressure and make your erections harder and longer.
Always remind yourself that if you must release, it must be through sex.

4. Take your mind a lil off sex for now. Cuddle each other and get comfy around each other. You can have BJs and hand jobs but never release through this means. This way you'd learn to only release through penetrative sex. When you think you're hard enough, you can proceed to penetrate.

5. Adopt a position that enables you achieve and maintain erection quicker. Lying on your back may help.

6. The process of putting on the condom is likely to be when you loose it. Since you're both first timers, you could screen yourselves and try without it. Then she could stimulate u both rubbing the head of your peniz against her clit. But remember to do this in her 'safe period' and also use 'morning after' pills to prevent pregnancy as you're likely to release inside her as a first timer.

7. RELAX because it would soon be a thing of the past

Finally, remember abstinence is the best and sex is best enjoyed within the confines of marriage. The choice is yours.

Amarabae:
Which one is consultant johesu?

LOL. Who doesn't know u as the chief consultant nurse who is a multi millionaire, owner of several schools and chief defender of JOHESU on Nairaland.

Again, greetings!

Amarabae:
I really doubt it that you are a doctor!
The way you sleep and wake up on nairaland, trolling from one thread to another is "undoctorlike"
Are you really working?
How can a self acclaimed medical doctor have all these time you have to be wasting on internet.
Even if you are, you must be all these private university products that crammed their way out,
You don't sound like an intelligent doctor that knows his onion in the medical profession.

Consultant JOHESU... You're back again...
Greetings!

JoannaSedley:
Enough of the jabs. Arguing with you is just wasting time, you lots believe you know it all. You are having your ass.es handed over to you here.
Go cry to yo mama FG & NMA as always to shutdown nairaland

Even though you seem to be a nurse, you should be able to stand for the truth when it's so obvious.

While I fault the docs for being too expletive (which seems an easy path when someone continues to show crass ignorance), the superior knowledge in their argument is obvious


Like one of my lecturers would always say, the man who knows "how" would get his daily bread but the man who knows "why" would always be his boss.
These are cases of people who know "how" and "why" vs. people who barely know "how"

The principle ("why" ) behind which a normal commensal can become a pathogen (in those cases mentioned) is so basic that even a secondary school art student would understand the concept in minutes.

We should all work together, understand and respect each persons role in moving the Nigerian health sector forward.

jumper524:
you can't counter my reasons without insults or feeling too intelligent?
bro your just an opportunist, I won't talk much with you.
since you're the kind that uses one incidence to judge..
maybe you've forgotten shites are Muslims and northerns.

My apologies if you felt insulted. I felt rather annoyed by your post hence my seemingly harsh reply.

Fact still remains that Southerners need to wake up

jumper524:
crime rate in the south is much worse..
when a criminal kills in the north he runs to Lagos, when cars are stolen in Abuja they are being sold in Lagos.
where there's more crime security agencies tend to be more versatile and sometimes attack the innocent, but chill if your innocent they would surely free you..
take north for example.
in north east if you dress in kaftan with full beards you'll surely be interrogated by soldiers, sometimes beaten in maiduguri if your unlucky you'll be shot instantly sef..
if this sars officials play calm I swear na innocent people go suffer..

It's better to be quiet than display crass ignorance in public. I'm sure maybe save for Abuja you have never step foot in the north. I'm sure you think they wear suits in Maiduguri shey
I asked this same question on another thread.
I was opportune to have witnessed an incident that occurred recently along kaduna - Abuja road where tanker drivers blocked both sides of the road in protest for over 12 hours because a tanker while trying to dodge the road block fell. The GOC who is a general came to beg but they insisted they must be given 3million first. The guy left them there. It was through intervention of top politicians that they decided to move. Mind you, this was a first hand experience also confirmed by one of the soldiers involved. If same thing happened in d East or South, they would have sprayed people with bullets.

Fact is Southerners are too docile. Little wonder why almost all the successful coups in the past were led by the less educated Northerners

Toks2008:
It varies a lot.

1.If a foreigner has a child in U.K with a Briton even without marriage it will take 11years to get citizenship.

Or a foreigner has a child with a partner who is mot a citizen.. both parent and child will be citizens after about 11years if lucky to remain as illegals that long



2.If you marry a Briton the proper it takes 6years.

3.If you stay as partners it will take years

Too many ways but let me stop here.

Seems quite a process but 11 years seems rather long

Toks2008:
False requirement info.
The 5years period only applies to a foreigner who marries a Briton in the proper way or an EU citizen.

So what's the requirement for a non-EU citizen?

I see pre-2015 loading when some northern govs went to report the Jonathan led govt to the U.S on the Boko-Haram issue.
The "letter" has already been written by Gov. Ortom accusing Fulani herdmen of sponsoring a jihad against middle-belt ethnic groups just like that written by Nyako the former Adamawa sState Governor

Amarabae:
Nurses have seen shumtin.
I think it's time we leave JOHESU and stand on our own.
And if we leave johesu, that will be the death of that union.
Johesu leaders met with Saraki and collected bribe and betrayed the union.
You called off a strike without a public signed agreement,
They gave you bribe and made an empty promises to you and immediately you call off a strike.
Shame!
It's time for the Nursing profession to leave JOHESU!
We can't afford to be used as foot soldiers all the time despite our contributions to the health sector.
The health minister threatened sack, so what?
Who really depends on salary?
I own a private school and a pharmacy.
So I saw his threats as a joke.
Johesu leaders messed up by collecting bribe.
Shame again.
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Happy new month all

Hahahahahaha
Consultant JOHESU.. . Accept my condolence

BREAKING NEWS:
Fall out of the JOHESU strike: The Physiotherapists in the world cup bound Super Eagles team are threatening to go on strike, if not paid the same allowance and bonus as Victor Moses. After all they are all contributors to the sports team

descartes400:
My father died this afternoon because of this strike. He had stroke caused by a tumor in the brain (high grade glioma) and was supposed to have been operated on in university of Abuja specialist teaching hospital before they went on strike.

Sorry for your loss. May his soul rest in peace

Minister on point.
Small but mighty man. He has finally broken the greedy union.

If you're willing to go on a useless strike, be prepared to permanently forfeit your pay. After all, that's how it's done in developed climes you all clamour for.
The fear of loosing their jobs on a hungry stomach is the beginning of wisdom.

Fact is that this release may go down as the biggest of his career thus far.
I wonder why musicians are afraid to sing against ills in the society. African China became popular because he tapped into that

All this SARS talk seems funny and distant to me. Never heard of anything like this in any part of the North. Is it that southerners are too docile? or that Force men learn to behave when the come up North?

ROSYL:
Many Nigerian doctors KNOW NOTHING! Many doesn't mean a few are not good! Those few like you said are proving themselves all over the world with the foreign knowledge they had acquired in the long run!!!

They know nothing! Every belly ache is appendicitis, fever is malaria! pregnant women dying from pulmonary embolism just because of olodo doctors they have in that country. They nearly cut my friend open when he visited Nigeria two years. They said he's got an appendicitis, and my friend said nope! no one is cutting me open, he ran back to the UK, lo and behold it was chest infection. No inflamed appendix. Lmao, those guys know nothing!

I'm done doing this... Good day you can run along

Stoicbaba:
This is getting messy and embarrassing by the day and so much for "World's Best Practice"...

While the Doctors/Ministers in charge of Federal Ministry of Health and his Co Doctor in charge of Federal Ministry of Labour and Productivity are busy making deals to perpetuate the sufferings of Nigerians, their colleagues are impatient to take over other professionals duty...

A radiologist currently in the absent of those licenced to dispense RADIATION, went ahead, unlicensed and dispense radiation to the unsuspecting and helpless patient... This happened at Federal Teaching Hospital, Abakaliki (FETHA).
And one may wonder why there is so much yearnng for Professional Autonomy...

Quark practice of the highest order...

Information getting to our news desk, shows the picture and video of a Radiologist in the act of dispensing medical radiation; a function, that is meant only for the Medical Radiographers; recognised by the laws of Nigeria...

Take Note:
Nigerian Nuclear Regulatory Authority (NNRA)
Radiographers Registration Board of Nigeria (RRBN)
Medical Imaging Society of Nigeria (MISON)
Association of Radiographers in Nigeria (ARN)
Nigerians Medical Association (NMA)
Association of Radiologist in Nigeria (ARiN)

(Note:video too large to upload)

Mr. OP before you start spewing rubbish and attacking others you should have at least learnt how to spell "quark"

Go and ask for a refund from whatever institution you graduated from because they obviously did a poor job.

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ROSYL:
I still stand to say that most doctors from under developed countries, like Nigeria know nothing. I haven't got time to narrate to you how they killed off my dear dad with wrong medication and wrong diagnosis. My aunt also recently went into coma for two weeks and died from there because of the quack injection the doctor gave him. I have asked my friends who are doctors in Nigeria how to diagnose and treat simple medical problems, none could come up with correct answers. Simple Pulmonary embolism, most of them don't know basic tests to carry out and how to approach treatments.

Yes, no one is above mistakes, but some are borne out of sheer ignorance and poor training.

I see you are talking out of emotion and sheer ignorance. Just under 50% of docs under the NHS come from developing nations and are largely responsible for the healthcare received in the UK. Without them, the NHS would absolutely collapse. Developed nations are continuously harvesting such professionals. Just few months ago, Saudi Arabia recruited over 100 Nigerian consultants and many more medical officers- this says so much about their "poor training".

Looking at the instances you gave, even a second year medical student would see through your ignorance. I would like to know what injection the doctor gave that resulted in your aunt going into two weeks coma. The picture you painted is typical for diabetics or hypertensives who vehemently refuse to take their meds but keep jumping around from prayer house to prayer house only to look for who to put the blame on when they develop an end stage complication. You should say the truth on her case or tell us the injection you said she was given
Secondly, it's ignorance that makes you call PE 'easy'. You should have rather asked how many Fed Teaching Hosps in Nigeria have the required facilities to run a CT angiogram or V/Q so you know where to heap the blame. Also while at it, why not ask the average UK trained doc how to manage severe Malaria or marasmus/Kwashiorkor which are among the top killers in Nigeria Mr Google doctor.

The fact is that whether you like it or not, docs from Nigeria have and are proving themselves all over the world and they are being sought after by countries that know their value. Also, you have inferiority issues cos like I said, docs trained in the developed world have performed worse blunders and people like you have kept mute simply because of your inborn ignorance.
Finally like I asked from my first post, why not tell us what field you're in and the exploits you've achieved before calling others poorly trained

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ROSYL:
This isn't about advanced medical care, it's about incompetent doctor. Big reason why most UK citizens are kicking against bringing in foreign doctors from under developed countries, they know nothing!

Funny how you sit in your corner and brand people putting their best to improve healthcare as being empty headed. One would really want to know what field you're in and the giant strides the "all-knowing you" has accomplished.

The consultant in question is a top fellow and would have most likely had her post graduate training in the UK with years of successful UK experience. I'm defending no one but yes, people make mistakes. I wonder what you'd have said if it was a "Dr. John Woods" who was on the hot sit. As a matter of fact, she may even be born and fully trained in the UK. Even the UK media didn't make mention of where she got her basic training but you're quick to draw erroneous conclusions because of her name. I've interacted with a lot of UK trained docs and they wouldn't describe foreign trained docs the way you did. You seem more like someone with inferiority complex.

Finally, like I said, it would be good to know what field you're in and the giant strides the "all-knowing you" has accomplished.

Hello house...
I've been waiting for Mi Max 3. Max 2 was the bomb but got to know about it late so I decided to wait for Max3. Does anyone have an idea of the possible release date and price?

Leopantro:
there is a group on telegram where information regarding various countries to travel to as well as requirements are constantly updated.
PM to get the link.

That's really interesting

I don't watch the show (though I get to see tips on social media) and have never voted in big brother but I admire the way she has stood strong despite all the persecution.

I don't

Congrats girl. That's impressive. Beauty with brains

wirinet:
The bolded red quote is a sad commentary on the state of our medical profession and in fact all professionals in Nigeria. A doctor advising patients to seek medical advise from a pastor has zero medical knowledge. The Doctor's license should be withdrawn.

Before castigating doctors, you should brush up your reading and comprehension skills.
The fact that perhaps you are the only person who could not understand the post out of hundreds that read it goes a long way to show the level of your IQ

Oga gazzuzz pls I need ur help

I have a problem with my Accord 2003 4cy. The full beam lights suddenly refused to go off. The electrician said it's the relay advised I change the whole engine fuse box after her tried to fix it but failed. Recently, my central lock stopped responding. I have to open and lock the doors manually. I'm thinking the problem is also from the fuse box.
Is it possible to repair it or do I need to change the whole engine fusebox?
Also, is it something I should do immediately or can I wait a little longer as I'm quite strapped for cash now

Good day house.
I have a problem with my Accord 2003 4cy. The full beam lights suddenly refused to go off. The electrician said it's the relay advised I change the whole engine fuse box after her tried to fix it but failed. Recently, my central lock stopped responding. I have to open and lock the doors manually. I'm thinking the problem is also from the fuse box.

Is it possible to repair it or do I need to change the whole engine fusebox?
Also, is it something I should do immediately or can I wait a little longer as I'm quite strapped for cash now