₦airaland Forum

Odod0:
This is ridiculous! So According to Aljazeera, climate change is reason for the massacre of Christians by Islamists in Nigeria. Chisos!! . Those that paid Aljazera to write this, may what befell those victims befall them and their households...

Looking at the big picture, they are right. One of the research centred on this.

Jeferious:
You've said it all. In addition, avoid girls from poor homes, unless they have been thoroughly verified as good people. And even at that, it is still a risk. Poverty has a way of making its victims look virtuous.

I think this has nothing to do with background but orientation. Orientation itself cannot be tied solely to background but a myriad of factors such as peer pressure, environmental exposure and so on. What I am saying in essence is that a lady from a poor background should not be ruled out as being needy.

Jeferious:
But why una dey talk like this sef? Open business for who? Has she run a business before? Abi na to lavish the little wey Op get using another format?

Me sef dey this Op shoes, though my own billings never too much. But I wonder why person go graduate from school and she no go find even menial work to keep body and soul together. Dey tell me say she go start to work once she don collect NYSC posting. In the meantime, na my pocket go dey support her for now.

I dey think of whether to serve her breakfast now, or maybe new year if she never still get the job. But the breakfast dey mandatory shaa. Because Dem no dey use wasteful spending become rich man

By the way, my standard rule of thumb to you men is that do not start a largesse that you cannot sustain. Most of you woo and win women over using gifts and money. Such relationships would thrive on the aforementioned and that explains why you will continue to be billed by my gender. I'm not saying you shouldn't be generous to your love interests, but tune it down so women can love you for who you are and not what you are or could be.

Jeferious:
But why una dey talk like this sef? Open business for who? Has she run a business before? Abi na to lavish the little wey Op get using another format?

Me sef dey this Op shoes, though my own billings never too much. But I wonder why person go graduate from school and she no go find even menial work to keep body and soul together. Dey tell me say she go start to work once she don collect NYSC posting. In the meantime, na my pocket go dey support her for now.

I dey think of whether to serve her breakfast now, or maybe new year if she never still get the job. But the breakfast dey mandatory shaa. Because Dem no dey use wasteful spending become rich man

E get why I talk so. If the person wey get this tori set up business for him woman and e flop, she no fit gather liver ask for money again and even if she does, he won't be bounded to bail her.

Naijagram:
Seeking your thoughts, everyone!!!

I work as a salaried individual and earn around 400k monthly.

However, my girlfriend constantly asks for money. I give her almost 100k every month and she feels it's not enough for her. She's even voiced discontent, suggesting I only send her money when she explicitly requests it.

I'm beginning to suspect her motives, as she seems solely focused on my income.

She never suggests saving or helps in cutting costs; her primary interest lies in spending everything.
Despite my genuine love for her, I can't keep up with her demands. I had hopes for our future together, but it seems unlikely now.

I'm considering a breakup as a solution.

Has anyone navigated a similar situation?

Perhaps you should set up a business for her. This may financially enable her to foot her bills and ameliorate the bane on your pocket(s).

MackIV:
My head was spinning, I was high. It was messing with my head.
Normally, I'm this I don't Give a fvck kinda Guy.
But she ticked all the boxes, and played me well.
I stopped doing all my vices to please her.

My advise for you now is to give her space to sort her feelings out. She is still young and hasn't figured out these things. What is meant to be ours always find their way back to us.

MackIV:
Please Help,

Good day Nlers, honestly I don't know where to start from, but I'd be brief as possible.

There's this young girl I'm dating and intended getting married to, I have gone to see her parent to make my intentions known. She has met my family as well.

History of how we met and started dating. She's in her 20s, a student in a private Uni in the South
.We were introduced by a cousin-sister of mine. In which We saw/met in lagos briefly as her parents live in Ikeja, Lagos, while I live in Surulere. At the early stage, while I return from work, i would drive to her parents house, we chill and hangout, Before she went back to school.
We continued communication, chatted and all. Shared deep conversation, secrets etc. Introduced me to course mates all of them knew me. She couldn't do without, Talking or Video calling me daily. If my number is unreachable, she would call my cousin-sister to know my where abouts or complain 1 or toos. We'd settle, we were inseparable. My parents observed I was always on Video Calls and started smiling much, because I would be in their place to chill to avoid traffic, before I head to my house.

Now the Dilemma, she came back from school this Christmas. I went to visit her, took her on a date/outing. After that, we went to my place to drop some stuffs.
Then we had sex, we already know we were gonna have sex, as we were already gonna get married already. Yeah, the sex wasn't the bomb, I was tired from work and outing, but the 1st and 2nd rounds duration was atleast 40 mins total. She was wet and creaming. After a while, She pushed me off and said she's tired and mood has gone.
We were still all in love, i come over to her place, we hangout and chill. The days I'd be off work, I'd tell her to come. She would give one excuse or the other.

Then, recently she sent me a text in the morning,
She can't get married to me or else she would be having extra marital affairs.
Haaa, my head burst. What did I do? She said she wasn't feeling me! Eh??!!

Immediately, I chatted about 2 exs, 2 hookup girls and a girl I disvirgined.

The 2 exs and the virgin, we all had a bad break up. Because I wasn't in love with any of them, I just wanted to knack that's all. When I was only handsome no cash, girls no dey like me like that. With cash, the girls started loving me, I felt any girl that liked me was about money. So I treated them bad.
1 of the Ex, said that she (my gf) doesn't love me, if not she will feel me. That I can knack well, she dey cum steady, if I remember when she used to tell me.

2. The other ex told me, that my girl might be wide down there. That my dick is OK, she feels it when we knack.

3. The hookup Girl:- She just said, Me na Knackerdemus. I no allow am rest. Small money wey i pay am, I wan kill an with fvck and she orgasm twice, say she no fit forget me.

The Virgin: was still angry, no reply. I used about 9 days to deflower her. Wasted many ky jelly etc

I did the tissue roll test, my dick struggles to enter the hole, but it enter when I force it.

So I forwarded the replies to her.

She got angry and started insulting me, that I am an idiot, bla bla bla etc

Me too i lost my home training, called her Borehole pu,ssy, how a young girl go get a wide pus'sy, When did she start having se,x ? Abortions, Too much Blue films
I HAVE ALL THE SCREENSHOTS, but for privacy.

I really love her, but I'm trying to move on. Right now, my head has been messed up.

I need your inputs, opinions.
I have tried messaging Sir Dickson and Agba to get a wider reach and opinion.

Thanks

Move to front page

Cc

It doesn't take two wrongs to make a right. You didn't have to contact your former rendezvous to proof a point. I see that as childish, but I guess her comment bruised your ego and you reached out to them to get it back. To make matters worse, you traded words with the love of your life?


It seems sex is a big deal to her and if you two are not sexually compatible, cease and desist!

adecz:
Another Yuletide is here.

However, under the APC life is
gradually getting to the point that
the cost of the traditional travel back
home to connect with our roots is now like
planning to travel to Europe🌁 or Brazil🏖️.

That notwithstanding, wherever we find
ourselves, we must kill & cook the
livestock we have in order to celebrate.

This thread is for showing what animals
you are using, the cooking process and
the final result...

May God bless our household
& tables this season and beyond, Amen🙏

This is good. I am coming back to this.

I can relate with your plight, op. I can't pinpoint which medication it was, but an antimalarial triggered tinnitus in my left ear. I had to discontinue the medication, else it could have been worse.

onobire83:
I have 2 kids (boy and girl) with my wife in a marriage of 6 years , and I needed another child but my wife doesn’t (she went for family planning) what should I do?

Advice please

You were warned about third party interference during your union, so why bring this here? This isn't a discussion to bring to a platform such as this, where massive toxicity exists. Have this discussion with your wife. If she insists on two kids, then so be it please, for peace to reign. If it is the will of God for more to come, then they would.


By the way, your reason for wanting out seems fishy. I hope the analogy playing out in my head is not the case?


Fix your home please!

No!

lordchiz:
I stay in Kaduna too Around Ungwar Pama.....
I did mine on June 2023....
I got it in a weeks time although I paid almost double ......65k precisely as of then through a connect!
I went with my NIN, State of Origin, maybe date of birth or declaration of age....
I dnt think passport is important but go with 2 atleast!
Mine is 35pages for 5years....
If had it been I did my capturing in Zaria then, it would have been 10years!
The new booklet fit don enter Kaduna shaaaa....
Goodluck!

65k?¿ Uh lordy lord!!!! I paid 35k to get mine, though the validity window is almost out. It is well!

reedone:
I want to Japa abroad and I have set my mind on either Australia or Canada as I noticed the popularity and all. But my question now is that how do I go about the passport part. I stay in kaduna and I plan to go to the immigration office but the thing is I want to know what I should before going there so as not to look or sound like a noob and get myself cheated or scammed.
Please those who has done their passport please help me and explain the processes to me thanks.




NB: PLEASE SCAMMERS STAY AWAY AS I WON'T REPLY TO YOU THANKS.

Kaduna immigration office offers express passport, but unfortunately at almost twice the normal price (at least that was what I was charged). Other than that, you are good to go. Walk into their office and follow the procedure. You Would need to carry along original documents proving your DOB, Nationality and so on.

Josephamstrong1:
I don’t really understand some schools this days. My baby girl cleared all her subjects with distinction, all As and she was given 3rd position. She has been sobbing uncontrollably since yesterday. Yes, she was promised Christmas gifts and present if she takes first position in class this term.
I think she deserves the 1st position. I want to go to the school on Monday and appeal for result recheck. It can’t be!
I am not taking this o! My baby deserves 1st position with this result.

You can only make a case if your daughter's cumulative average is 100. What determines position is not grade but cumulative average score. Ever seen a child scored 99 percent in a subject and still earns the last position?

GYBABA:
Country hard and food is expensive and as of now, I personally think beans is one food item that I get to eat which fills me up for long and at the same time, not to expensive. I normally cook 1 and a half cup & it's more than enough to fill me the whole day. For this reason, I've been eating beans frequently. It's about #1400 to #1500 per Congo here in Ibadan for Oloyin beans. Some other varieties are sold as low as 1k per Congo. This method would save your gas or kerosene & it's not for people in a hurry. I tried it after reading about it online. I think it's called "Dry Cooking Method".

So this morning, I decided to cook beans. I cooked Oloyin beans in particular and I cooked it in just about 32 minutes without using Potash (Kaun) or whatever it is most of you use. I know the next question on your minds is the "How?". LFG!

1. The steps matter.
2. I used a thick pot to retain heat (there's a reason for this).
3. I cooked at high flame levels.
4. The cover of the pot has to fit the pot so well, so tightly that the heat won't escape.
5. This will only work when cooking small quantity of beans. Mine is 2 cups. It will take longer when cooking in large quantity. This method is for students & single people who cook for just themselves. Family people, sorry you hear? So I'll head to the steps now.

Whether you're using gas or stove, all the time the beans is on fire, the flame level should be high.

I first made sure the beans boiled. Took about 10 minutes at high flame level, then I switched off the gas & allowed the beans soak in hot water for about 1 hour still inside that same pot. I used a thick pot as it retains heat more than light pots so this kept the water hot within the 1 hour period & it was covered throughout so the heat won't escape.

After 1 hour, the beans had gotten a bit soft. I switched on the gas & turned on the flame to be high. Within 15 minutes, it was already soft after which I added the remaining ingredients apart from onions. I added onions immediately after the 1 hour break.

The remaining 7 minutes was to let the ingredients seep in. Took me exactly 32 minutes with high flames.

There you go fam! Na hard economy make me discover this even though I'm sure some of you here know a faster way even without using extra resources or pressure cooker. If you do it please share, I'm still trying to discover how to cook beans within 5 minutes 😂 Oga Tinubu, you do this one. Na you motivate me. Thank you sir!

I am impressed that a male understands this logic. This has been my go-to approach for years. Saves up cooking time by over 50 percent.

adaperry25:
how do I reach u

You can send me a PM.




I hope that at the end of this experiment, you would create another thread or modify this to discuss your findings.

adaperry25:
Is it a Nigerian thing or something? Met 2 ladies already and its same old stuff.

I initiate all chats and calls. If I don't call..no communication..if I don't chat..no communication.

While chatting..you have to ask all the questions and bring up gists.

They can't call u randomly to ask after you.

I don tire o

Trying foreign ladies might not be a bad idea.

It is certainly the kind of women you are meeting. I am open to having a "social experiment" with you to buttress my point.

WealthyNigerian:
He found this and was advised to post it on Facebook so that those that knows much about treasure stones and minerals would help him identify it. But unfortunately, non of the comments has ascertained what exact treasure or stone this is.

I know that there are many greatly knowledgeable People on Nairaland that would be able to tell us what this is and it's value. I'm sending this Thread's Link to him immediately now so that he would follow the discussion to know it's value for certain. And so that he would take the necessary security steps in guarding that his Landed Property for the massive natural Wealth which this may indicate is abundantly there.

I'm sure that we shall be able to get our assured confirmation here. So, great Nairalanders, what do you think this is and its value?

That is just a quartz crystal.

godwinstringed1:
Not what you think, bro. I survive through SEO, and by God's grace, have been in the industry for over 6 years. That is Google Autosuggest. Cookies cannot listen to you or monitor you off-device. GDPR laws negate that.

Related searches with the highest search volume of what you're about to type get displayed first. The lower search volume gets listed down, and on and on in a descending order.

Attached is the screenshot of my similar experience with yours.

Tell other people to do the same and they'd get a similar result.

Aptly said.

Map1:
Brother next time when a situation like that arise kindly neglect it and moved on, such a retaliation can lead to some things else, avoiding a retaliation does not make you a fool, just for peace.

I share in this sentiment likewise. Many are 6 ft below or behind bars because of acts such as this.

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IamAsiri:
Then the landlord deserved every bit of that evil he invited. Such an evil landlord!

Absolutely!

Nwodosis:
It is still a win win for the Landlord. The Landlord will simply tell her to fix the apartment the way she met it and collect her caution fees. Na now she buy market that may take her to prison for malicious damage.
There is no way you will park into a house and the house will remain the same when you are parking out. What of the wear and tear on the house fittings like the doors, tiles, wardrobe, wall paints etc
Are they not damages? How do you quantity such damages?

As we speak, she is safely resting in her father's house here in Nigeria. This can only happen if the landlord is willing to make an arrest from Cotonou.

dominique:
She deserves to be arrested, is the caution fee worth the amount of damages she caused? How many months did she live there rent free? Tenants believe if they're given six months quit notice, they're free to live in the apartment rentfree till the duration elapses. How much did she stay without paying rent before finally moving out? The landlord must make sure she pays for every single damage caused, pay for the extra months she stayed then give her the caution fee. Insufferable people like these is why some of us are weary about building apartments for rent.

The caution fee is worth 200k.

sharone21:
I do not personally like any account I open to be inaccessible to family members if anything happens to one.

If I go by this your statement, it means family has to 1st go report demise at bank( even if via email) and go through ALL rigorous paths to get the money with LETTER OF ADMINISTRATION. It is enough for them to be sad, not good adding more burden to them. It is better they eat the money than for bank to use the excuse of nobody coming forth to claim the money due to some bureaucracies.

That is why I tread with caution banks with facial identifications that are apps, u don't put too much for too long there, because if anything happens, u can't get the money at the bank till the facial identification is done.... So, a family member with resemblance to the person has to do it or a twin.

You are right, ma'am. What savings option can you recommend?

BiasedNairaland:
Stop keeping money you're not using in naira. Stop keeping them in banks. Buy Bitcoin. If you keep large amount in Nigrian banks, it's a matter of time before the robbers in the bank (criminal staff) or the robbers on the street (bad police) or even the boss robbers (professional armed robbers and kidnappers) steal it from you. I remember once driving from Lagos to Abuja at night, how some policemen stopped me somewhere in Kogi or Edo and made me transfer some money to an account on a trumped up charge. If you're alone and at night, you just have no option. Folks, think crypto to save yourself from undue theft. Save the bulk of your cash in a hardware wallet at home and not on your phone. Nigerians are endangered species.

Good option. However, those who do not want to tow this path should simply have an alternative account. This account should be frozen (no Internet banking or USSD banking should be enabled). With this setup, one can only withdraw money from his or her account via the counter. Assuming any fraudulent withdrawal is meted on this account, the owner can sue the bank with his or her full chest knowing fully well that it is an inside job.


I have seen people vouch for piggyvest, but I am not a fan....

Gentlelox:
Some time ago, i was in a public place and a lady sitting next to me was obviously staring at me and drawing his face out anytime I turn.

Eventually, she took her phone and started a call with a guy. Discussing over love. I had the feeling the girl was doing it because of me and that it not to drive me away but to show interest in her.

Happened again at the airport. A girl I was sitting next to asked me to get her something politely as i took permission to go get something. When I arrived, she was obviously into me. But then, she brought her phone out and started a video call with another guy. She does it in a way that will make me notice by fire by thunder. After the call, my demeanor changed and I avoided her and I could see the girl somewhat disappointed. From her looks, she was expecting another type of reaction from me.

A lady friend met me and we talked. She wanted relationship and she was into me But then I asked her if she has a boyfriend and she said yes. Then i changed the topic and she could see my interest has changed. So she said it not a serious relationship and she doesn't even know if it a relationship because she doesn't love the guy... She started telling tales. Las las i nor give am line.

These things happened alot. Maybe because they are all up to marriage age. If a girl thinks that chatting or calling another guy would make a guy interested in them, then they need to rethink. Or maybe she just doesn't like me.

What's your opinion on this.

I guess we should call that botched reverse psychology... LOL! It just might be a mere coincidence.

Tbozun:
What me I sha know is that when you are rich you buy what you think you need but don't actually need but when you are broke you sell what you still need.

Your belief is tenable, but there is also a other version to it. Thus, when you are broke, you buy what you can afford and when you are rich, you sell what you have to upgrade. Not all sales are guided by being broke or faulty devices. I am not a fan of buying used items though, but I strongly believe this is a sane ideology for the act.

motta:
My mum always say that when a person decides to sell something two things are involved.
1. The person has a problem
2. Whatever been sold has a problem.

Either ways one has a problem.

God bless your mum, but this is far from the truth.

Osoboshi:
Flash am money make she see,na she go dey chase u.For now u are an option

He didn't say he wants a woman for hookup. If he flashes money now, I guess he would continuing flashing to keep the relationship and then marriage intact. It's best to have a woman love you at your worst. That's one thing you men need to figure out. Be yourself!

adaperry25:
I talked to an older colleague that I was looking for who to settle with and gave her my spec. Wanted a young ibo lady. After a few days, she recommended a lady.

It's been a few days and I'm tired.
I do all the calling and initiate all the chats. I told her a couple of times that I want the communication to be interactive. Sometimes I'll call and she won't pick or chat and she will read and won't reply.

I had to tell her wholeheartedly that if she's not interested..she should let me know. She apologized. I felt she would call this morning since I've been doing all the calling and texting to no avail.

I called this afternoon, she didn't pick and sent sms that she will call back. Up till now..she didn't.
I chatted her on WhatsApp and she said she's sorry that she went to lagos and she's tired.

Abeg all the guys..is this how stressful it is to woo a woman or she's not into me... I don't even know what to tell the lady that recommended her because im tired.

Your desperation is a tad bit scary. She figured that out and is using it against you. Slow your roll and let things flow naturally.

Massivedick:
I have a gf who resides in Lagos while I live overseas. I have seen her parents and done somethings. Planning to do a tourist visa for her as I have payed for documents to be gathered. She called me one day, to complain that a dealer who she bought a car from is delaying in delivering the car to her. I was aware of how she got money for this car(loan as she works). Then she gave me the contact of the dealer and I
Spoke to him. The dealer narrated his side of the story that my gf was to balance her 700k to
Pick up the car. To cut the story short, the dealer agreed to sell the car and refund her money as that’s what she wants.
The dealer said” you seem to be the only reasonable person in this girls life”. I was shocked and I had to ask him how many people have contacted him regarding
this. He said I am the third person. The question is could the 3 of us be dating her? One is a Major in the army, she got some military guys on the Major’s instruction to impound the car. The other guy is a married guy who I got his contact and did a background check on. I discovered that this same guy has sent 100k to her 3months back. And now same guy is helping her to get her car or money back. Investing time and money in a girl, for free?
I have confronted my gf and she claims they are friends. Please, are there still
Nice people in Lagos that invest time and money without wanting anything in return in this part of the world?
I even called this guy through a proxy(girl) and he was like” wrong number pls”. After mentioning my gf’s name that my gf’s phone was switched off and dunno her whereabouts. He was smart in answering as I perceived he was picking his words and didn’t admit anything or refute anything. Well, the dealer confirmed the guy drove my gf there severally and spent the whole day in his shop just for the car. Are there people who invest this same time in lagos and money as well(though one payment from the statement of account) available to me, without wanting anything in return? The military guy as well, who gets military guys in the country for jobs like this without anything in return?
Pardon my moniker, guys!😂

Clearly, bringing this here is a wrong move as you know what the outcome would be.


You have every right to think she is cheating, but then again, what if there is nothing going on between your woman and these men?

Consider this as a tiny glimpse of what marriage looks like. I believe challenges are bound to occur. Challenges that only your love and/or trust for your partner would enable you thrive through. Consider this as one of such.


Peradventure, you are not convinced, you could still continue with your findings.