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I dont see this as suprising.

I can bet the same news will have been re-produced by the Daily Mail.

They should tell this to all the oyinbo people who are willing to die than to leave Lagos. When their visas expire, they run helter skelter and bribe all immigration officials just to try and extend their stay.

Anyone can use their own parameters as well to come up with a list completely different from that list.

Anyway, what do you expect from these people?

What exactly makes it wrong for the government to makes laws it considers good for the generality of the people?

Why must the will of a few wierd people be imposed on the Nation?

Those perverts should not try promoting their perverted ways as being right.

touchmeder:
Nothing, unless its something ive always wanted.

Its probably something that the husband always wanted for his wife to take his surname

Reverse the question - whats wrong with dropping your name to take your husband's name?

Nothing to do but to move on. You are never gonna be able to trust the woman again and that cant be a healthy relationship

There is a little more to it than we have read.

However, its definitely a highly unhealthy relationship and the best thing is to move out of that kind of marriage.

Best of luck

webprince, oyinbo names no dey get meaning

Ok. . . make I talk the meanings

1) Carpenter - a person who builds or repairs wooden structures, as houses, scaffolds, or shelving.
2) Brooklyn - name of a town
3) Ikeja - name of a town
4) Brick - a block of clay hardened by drying in the sun or burning in a kiln, and used for building, paving, etc
5) Lockwood - just plain meaningless

Badriyyah:
Hmmm, you seem to be forgetting something. His wife already has a kid, so this probably means when they first met she had no problem with sacrificing her looks for this child. So they were probably interested in having kids at the beginning of the marriage, but now one clearly isn't interested anymore. You are basing your points on common interests at the beginning of the marriage, but anyone can have that, as the marriage grows their opinions may begin to change, so must learn to work around it.

As for her moving out of the home. I can't comment on that because I have no idea how her partner was treating her. But for a woman to move out of her husband house means she probably didn't trust him.

The part in bold tells you that the guy married the wrong kind of woman for him. If you know the things that are important to you, you should try and marry someone to whom those things are also important deep down. Not someone who is just willing to accept them for the sake of the relationship; just my thought.

Names. . . okay,

1) Carpenter
2) Brooklyn
3) Ikeja (if someone can name their child after one town, so can you )
4) Brick
5) Lockwood

I dey come (time out)

IN AMERICA:

http://news.sky.com/skynews/Home/Sky-News-Archive/Article/20080641253695

Woman Sold Her Child To Buy A Car
9:57am UK, Thursday March 01, 2007

A woman has been arrested for trying to sell her baby boy as a down payment for a new car.Police in Colorado, in the United States, found the child and arrested the mother within hours of getting a tip-off.

Mother "sold child to buy car"

Nicole Uribe-Lopez, who is 23, is accused of trading her five month old boy to Jose-Juan Lerma, 47, and his wife, Irene, 27, in exchange for the down payment on a used Dodge Intrepid and an unspecified amount of cash, police said.

All were arrested on suspicion of trafficking children and were being held at the Pueblo jail under £25,000 bail each.

All three suspects are Mexican nationals, and U.S. federal officials have been asked to investigate their immigration status.

According to Captain John Barger, of the Pueblo Police Department, the "healthy" infant was sold for £750, of which £250 went for a down payment on a car. The child is now in the custody of the Pueblo County Department of Social Services and is said to be healthy.

Police would not speculate on any furthermotives behind the deal.

Six months ago, a month before the baby was born, police investigated rumors that a woman in the city was trying to sell her baby, but detectives say the investigation never panned out.

IN EUROPE:

http://www.mirror.co.uk/news/top-stories/2008/04/07/italian-woman-admits-to-selling-12-babies-115875-20375200/

Italian woman admits to selling 12 babies 7/04/2008

A woman claims she gave birth to 12 children - then sold them all to give them a better life.

Caterina Annarumma, 70, walked into a police station to make a confession to clear her conscience.

She insisted she had not sold them for the money but to give them a brighter future.

The children were born between 1961 and 1979 and were sold or given away.


Only four have been officially recorded as adopted.

Caterina, of Angri in Southern Italy, said: "We only had a little money. I sold the children, I had to, but not so I could gain but to give them a brighter future."

Police said it was unlikely that she would be charged.

Iranoladun:
If you are not in a profession where your identity matters a lot e.g acting, musician etc I'd suggest you give in. By the way, if you guys are truly in love such a thing would be trivial

Sometimes in marriage, love becomes not as important as it was before you got married. . . especially where there have been a few disagreements.

Badriyyah:
lol, In Nigeria, anything is possible. I've seen men with 2 to 4 wives or even more. Sad but true.

obviously youre not referring to legally contracted marriages.

Nigeria has laws. The fact that many people are ignorant of them doesn't mean that some people dont insist on them

To be honest with you, I'd gladly go back to the 1800s with what goes on around these days.

Seriously anyway, if a guy is the type who feels strongly about such a thing as having children, sont you think its a wrong move for him to marry a woman who places more importance on her looks than having children? You think these little things dont matter but I can assure you they matter a lot when it comes to marriage.

Is it not also instructive that the woman has moved out of the home as a result of this disagreement?

When you have many kids, there's no way you're not going to have to raise your voice sometimes. It's just the way it works. kids will always be kids and you should not woryy yourself too much that you sometimes have to raise your voice for them to do stuff.

touchmeder:
ok ive been in a wonderful relationship for a while and our aim is to get married. We keep talking of things we expect and all. one of the things i'd always loved right from when i was a kid is answering my fathers name in addition to my husbands. The first time i told him this he was like ''ok,we'd see'' .Over time he has changed his position on someother things (and so have i)but on this fathers name issue he has bluntly refused to budge. i have tried to explain,plead,beg lovingly and every other means but he is adamant. Why wont he allow this, if it means so much to me. he is a loving man whom i totally adore and is not the usual stuck up traditional african man. so whats with him and this issue. How can i convince him other wise because i think i'm fast losing this goal i always dreamed of.

If this is so very important to you, you need to move on and find a man who is willing to accomodate everything that you want.
Important things that are overlooked will always crop up once you are married and living together for a few years. every simple disagreement will then be magnified by those differences of opinions.

JJYOU:
i think 1800's atitude is allowing some other womans son educate you to keep your body. greed.

You obviously dont know what a marriage involves.
The wrong attitude is to go into marriage without knowing what it entails. The horrible modern attitude is one that says you should date any man do whatever you like cos you're a woman and the man will always bear the brunt. . . you can be as daft as you want in a relationship and no one will ever point out your stupidity because you are a woman

make you go Europe and America, you go bow for that one. Dem fit advertise vegetable and bread with naked women. Everything there has to have a sexual connotation

How can the guy marry another woman when he is still married?

I dont think any mother ever decides to interfere and disturb her son's family. It is the way of life that both wife and mother love the man. They both have to find a way of making things work and the man should play a conciliatory role rather than make things worse.

The girls will have the same problems when they become mothers so they need to think about what will happen to them when their sons get married, especially with the way the whole world is getting so wild and independent and uncaring.

JJYOU:
this thread is not about you bros. you have moved from America women to western women. didn't know America = western world.
can you kindly tell me where in the west women are falling over themselves for your Nigerian men. stop believing lies. i lived in London for ages cant remember seeing Nigerians being rushed by western women.

i am patiently waiting.

as for getting a job, surprise surprise by Gods grace i dont need one will never need one. just tell me where i need to go and watch me go with a one way ticket.

can i ask why you think it is okay for a man to go about deceiving this young lady and her family?

Ok so the thread is about you

Just so you know, American women are western women!
If you lived in London as you claimed, you will know that white women fall over themselves to taste black men . . . oh maybe you just restricted to the Nigerian community in Peckham (as I already told you, you need to go out and mix a little more).

If you really understand English language, please show me where I have said it is okay for anyone to decieve another. Are you a woman by any chance? Just trying to be the winner in every discussion even by twisting things.

while you're at it, can I ask you why you think it is good for a girl to be stupid and to date married men?

Badriyyah:
This is just Pathetic. Marriage isn't about having kids, what if she can't have more children? What are you going to do then? You have already been blessed with a little girl, why don't you be patient and wait for it to be her choice before you decide to have another. To all the men ranting here, are you going to carry the child for 9months, breastfeed, change diapers, etc. What he is doing is forcing himself on his wife. She has a right to choose, so let her be. And we wonder why Nigeria will never progress, it's because of people like you who still live like they are in the 1800's.

I'm waiting for the Poster to say the only reason he wants a child is because he wants a BOY!!!!

Its not pathetic!

What exactly makes it pathetic for anyone to have expectations in their marriage? When I was getting married, my wife and I knew we expected to have children so it would have been unfair of her to tell me that she did not want children because she wanted to keep her body.

Rather than insult the guy, you should look at things objectively and from both sides. Does the man not also have a right to want to raise a family? They are both just wrong for each other.

spare us this thing about labeling some attitude as 1800s. There are many 1800s attitude that are much better than the wanton misdemeanours that go on these days in the name of advancement.

Women who want to keep their bodies should marry men who also want them to be that way. What keeps Nigeria down is the inability of people (both government and the governed) to reason well and not just apply things simply because thats what applies somewhere else.

Fhemmmy:
and what will you call Festac 77? when pple just feel like wasting money to celebrate, why couldnt they assign such money into projects that makes sense.
IBB allowed nonsense, what will u say abt OBJ, a messaih ?

FESTAC 77's legacy should still be with us but we have destroyed the infrastructures and everything that any other nation would have benefitted from hosting an event of such magnitude.
Why do you think nations jostle to host events and sports competitions?
Nigeria benefitted from Festac 77 but we did not make use of the benefits of the event. Look at the state of the National theatre. . . look at the supposed beautiful homes in Festac.

Although the Gowon regime did not have great vision, it did not embark on a looting spree like Badamosi did. Gowon had the chance to put Nigeria on a sound footing but he did not invest wisely but he was not stealing and encouraging others to do same. Babngida, on the other hand, embarked on a looting spree and encouraged everyone to become looters.

I knew enough economics to see that the main reason has gone so far into the gutters is the fact that we allowed Badamosi Babangida to rule over us.

Udode:
Ich wohne und arbeite in Zürich! Warum sprichst Du deutsch?

Ich spreche es, weil ich mit Ihnen sprechen wollte

That was the day we welcomed graft in administration. That was the day we rejoiced in the triumph of the devil over his own agents. That was the day we accepted that we, as a people, do not like the bitter truth because it tastes bitter initially.
That was the day we gave the devil the right to dig the gutters for Nigeria.

Badamosi Babangida prepared the way for every evil thing that we see and experience now!

We were cursed the day we celebrated Badamosi Babangida's coup

Are they not Nigerians?

If you cant put out the fire in your own house, you wont have the resources to help your neignbour put out the flame in his boys quarters.

It is good to know that we know we need a good database