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It just seems that majority of them have problems with their marriages. Could be that they are chosing the wrong men. . . could also be that they have become too independent for the kind of commitment that is required to make for a long lasting marriage. . . could be any reason at all.

Just my observation

Kobojunkie:
Another dumb move to sink to suck money out of the system. Why in the world would the police put forth this idea when it is yet to ensure that it can even effectively identify each citizen in the same country? Let me guess, when GSMs are registered, identification will come? ugh!

@kobojunkie, just a question. . .
would you be against this if the idea was from an American company or some foreign group? I have my reason for asking

Does anyone have a list of the pastors who went to seek recognition in Aso rock?

I prefer Bakare to all the other politico-religious leaders whose main ambition is to make money and always seek fame. The fact that he refused to go to such a stupid meeting shows that he still has some clout.
Any man who truly serves God has to know that God is bigger than all those stupid thieving politicians.

Somebody asked a question about OBJ's romance with GO Adeboye. . . did their romance help Nigeria in any way?

From what I have seen in life, I'd advise a man to marry a girl who lives with her parents rather than a girl who has learnt to live alone.
there's just something that seems to happen to a woman who has lived alone for sometime.

Just where did you get the idea that Nigerian parents are no good?
If you want to make some money via a blog, must you make unsound and unfounded statements?

Big B1, please go back to bed.

Some of us are old enough to know that Badamosi developed the atmosphere which made OBJ what he became.
Badamosi developed the biggest problem Nigeria has today - CORRUPTION.
Badamosi's name in governance is synonymous with corruption.

Please spare us your stories and lines. . . we are all not that stupid.

Badamosi Babangida was the devil's gift to Nigeria.

Every Nigerian should curse the day that Badamosi Babngida was born

I could never marry any other race.
say who die?
Proper naija babe were always my desire. Inter wetin

Its a common thing abroad (doesn't make it right for either men or women to smoke).

I could never imagine myself marrying a drinker let alone a smoking woman. But then, it's their lives and they are free to do what they like with their lives. Burn off their lungs if they wish. . .i dont care

If you wanna insult a short person, make sure you're taller than them.

and you think we should be taking loans that we clearly dont have the ingredients to use judiciously?
Dont we still have thieving politicians at the helm?
Dont we have the same system (or worse) that we had in the past when such loans were misapporpriated?
Why must we put the cart before the horse everytime?

did I hear someone say Nigeria might just become the next 'Congo'?

The Home Office published yesterday their quarterly bulletin (immiq408.pdf attached) on Asylum statistics Oct/Nov/Dec 2008, also included are breakdown of statistics for the whole of 2008 (LastQaurter2008.pdf/Whole2008.pdf).

Figures for Oct/Nov/Dec 2008
Enforcement & Compliance: In Q4 2008, 16,525 persons were removed or departed voluntarily from the UK, 2 per cent fewer than in Q4 2007 (16,855). There was a fall of 16 per cent to 2,570 for those leaving who had claimed asylum (including dependants) but an increase of 1 per cent to 13,950 for non-asylum cases.
155 children were recorded as removed from the UK upon leaving detention in Q4

Top destinations Oct/Nov/Dec 2008
Brazil 1,810
India 1,410
Afghanistan 1,135
Iraq 920
Nigeria 740

Top destinations Jan/Dec 2008
Brazil 6,395
India 5,175
Afghanistan 3,710
Nigeria 3,600
Iraq 2,925

Persons detained solely under Immigration Act powers
Statistics are published on persons detained solely under Immigration Act powers as a snapshot as at the last Saturday of each quarter. They exclude people detained under both criminal and immigration powers and currently exclude people detained in Prison Service establishments on the date the snapshot was taken. Key findings as at the end of December 2008: * A total of 2,250 persons were detained in the UK Border Agency estate, 7 per cent higher than as at the end of December 2007 (2,095).

Management information shows that of the 2,250 people detained (84% of capacity), 675 had been in detention for less than 29 days, 475 for between 29 days and two months, 410 for between two and four months, 240 for between four and six months, 295 for between six months and a year, and the remaining 150 for over a year. These figures are not directly comparable with previous figures on length of detention due to a revised methodology being used.

Asylum * The number of applications for asylum, excluding dependants, was 2 per cent lower in Q4 2008 (6,735) compared with Q4 2007 (6,870). Before this quarter, there had been 5 successive year on year increases. * In Q4 2008, 4,720 initial asylum decisions were made, excluding dependants, an increase of 3 per cent compared with Q4 2007 (4,570). 68 per cent of initial decisions were refusals, 20 per cent were granted asylum and 12 per cent were granted Humanitarian Protection or Discretionary Leave.

Figures for the whole of 2008
Asylum * The number of applications, excluding dependants, for asylum was 10 per cent higher in 2008 (25,670) compared to 2007 (23,430). * In 2008, 19,420 initial asylum decisions, excluding dependants, were made, a decrease of 11 per cent compared with 2007 (21,775). Total figures for 2008 show 70 per cent of initial decisions were refusals, 19 per cent were granted asylum and 11 per cent were granted Humanitarian Protection or Discretionary Leave.

Enforcement & Compliance * In 2008, 66,275 persons were removed or departed voluntarily from the UK, 5 per cent higher than 2007 (63,365). Compared to 2007, there was a fall of 15 per cent to 11,640 for those leaving who had claimed asylum (including dependants), but an increase of 10 per cent to 54,635 for non-asylum cases

It can only lead to a TOTAL and ABSOLUTE breakdown of law and order.

Dont compare Nigeria with America. Are people in America as poor as those in Nigeria? Do they have such desperation to get rich quick? We need to consider that we are peculiar and what works elsewhere does not necessarily have to work in Nigeria.

Is she a Nigerian? I ask because I dont think this is something the average nigerian woman would give as a reason for not wanting another child.

biina:
Basically traits that are more commonly associated with afro-americans. Example, "at the slightest sign of marital trouble I would file for a divorce or send your a*** to jail".

They have been brought up to believe that that is the best way to do things, so you cant blame them really. . .or can you?

biina:
4. The naija man, deep down, usually desires a naija woman. At the slightest sign of 'akata' tendencies, they will rule the girl off the marital list.
If mothers would train their sons better, men would be less promiscuous. Unfortunately, typical of women, they sing one tune as a wife, and a different song as a mother.

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@ Akina, you dont seem to understand some of these people.

Its more about themselves and not necessarily about their partners as well. it is what happens with the wrong application of independence and freedom which has become very prevalent these days.

Its the reason why there are fewer stable families by the day.

JJYOU:
you are just bad. she stands taller than you and your likes.

being stupid is not what it takes to stand tall

sara j:
What a coincidence that the first time he cheated on you in 4yrs, that he picked up an STD? And he gave it to you. If he really was sorry he wouldn't have slept with you after sleeping with that tramp. The first thing he would have done is go to the STD clinic and treat it straight away. Its very straight-forward really. He knowingly put your life at risk. And by the way I hope he hasn't destroyed your fertility because for all you know he could have given you Chlamydia years ago!!

Thank you jare. some people would rather not use their brains and then they will cry foul later

crownroyal:
am not sure he's been truthful to you their's more than what he told u,just try n sit him down,plead with him to open up to you what really is his reason for wanting to leave and also pray for him.am sure if u are sincere God will answer you.

Thank you jare. The woman is scared of losing the guy and so she is not wanting to think about the fact that a clubbing man who says he's only cheated the time that he transmitted a disease to his wife is most likely a cassanova who's been playing around all the while. Besides, he still goes clubbing . . . no doubt he's still doing same things

OMG i'm a pessimist but I have read of several world bank loans in the past and they have had no positive fruits on the economy. The only fruits are the burden of loan repayments.

How much do we have in reserve

Fhemmmy:
And how much will they use out of all that to monitor the use of the funds and how would they measure its success?
Who will have access to the funds? lemme guess, OBJ Farm and the rest.
God will save Nigeria, only if they could truely use the money wisely and create some real good agricultural scheme that will feed the nation and we can export good produce as well, but i am sure they already know the formular of sharing.

They should also answer the question above.
The strings always attached to such loans are a burden on their own

Too many Nigerians think that it is alright for others to be fraudsters even if they are not into it themselves and we'll all pay for it one way or the other

Fhemmmy:
Only Thief knows the foot prints of a thief on the rock.

he he he

My brother, I can only go by what the thread starter has posted.
A guy that cheats, regardless of the circumstances, is a scumbag.

If he's fallen out of love with her, that's fine, it's not compulsory he remains married to his wife.
He might as well divorce her, and bed all the women he desires, both thin and fat.

Brother, why did you place emphasis on the woman in your above statement?
It would appear that a woman's statement's not valid?

DeltaVAGTM

There are always 2 sides to every story and because men are generally not good at discussing their family issues openly does not mean that they must always be to blame.

the emphasis on the woman is because I wondered if your reaction would be same if a man made same claims about a woman.
Suppose a man has developed a pot belly and his wife decides to start cheating on him, would you be inclined to call his wife a scumbag (just wondering)?
Or is it alright to show disrespect to men and spoil women rotten as some would have it on here; and still turn around to claim that women and men should be treated equally?

spikedcylinder:
Don't bother with that dude. His disrespect/disregard for women is known by all and sundry.

oh my gawd!!! a few women who want to make themselves fighters for women's lib on a nigerian forum now consitute "All and sundry"

what delusional trait!

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marijuana is not good for the brains

davidylan:
God does not condone lies told intentionally meant to decieve and hoodwink someone else. You did not make a mistake like femmy said, you deliberately betrayed your husband, if i were in his shoes i wont take it lightly. For how long have you been refering to your own brothers and sisters as cousins? What if he just made a "mistake" to forget to tell you he had other children by another woman?

I would like to hear the answer to the part in bold. It's a question that deserves to be answered.

Na because he give you disease wey you take know say he cheat on you. You think say na only one time? mumu

funny how no one on facebook has bothered to ask him what kind of job he does.

Every Nigerian on there is just saying big up to him. What does that say to anybody about our mindset?

why you sef marry that kind woman?