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why not everyone is free to marry who he or she love ,
if two men can marry in spain , germany etc the african gay should be allowed to do the same thing
are them not all human?

nj11:
Thank you guys so much for your advise,you guys are awesome,i am finally able to talk to somebody about what has be en eating me up for years. I am very much trying to find something to love in my husband,all there is,is that he loves me genuinely,which is hard to find now and he is a very kind individual.

My thing is the attraction,when you are not attracted to somebody is hard to enjoy being around them,intimacy is a problem,when it comes to that am still withdrawn, feels like being raped,waiting for it to be over.

I don't trust my ex 100% ,but am happy when am around him can be myself,i think he feels thesame way too,at-least he showes to be so into me,has that energy I've been longing for.

My only pain in it all is my child,don't want to hurt him,but i want to be happy.

spikedcylinder:
She has been with him for 6 years and the love did not grow. When will it grow? When she's quarter to heaven?

redgalusa:
Please help me. I am a 29 yr old Afro American woman who has been dating a Nigerian man for the past 2 years. The problem is, I do not believe he wants to marry me. He has been trying o get me pregnant for the past 6 months, but I told him that in order for us to have a child together we must first get married. He agreed to those terms, but he said that we can not just jump up and get married. He told me that he has to call his mother who lives in Africa and we have to prepare for marriage. It took him 6 months to get in contact with his mother. He told me month after month that he can not get a hold of her, until I finally told him that if we do not get married I will leave him and I did. So after 6 months of trying to contact his mom, 2 days after I broke up with him he informed me that he spoke to his mother and she has one request, that she is present for our wedding. I respect and understand her wishes, however, now we will have to wait another 6 months for his mother to get a Visa.
I must include that he bought me a very expensive diamond engagement ring, as a show of good faith. All of his family and friends know me, and we attend all of the local Nigerian weddings, baby showers, and ceremonies together. I even attend his Nigerian church with him, but I can not shake the gut feeling that makes me believe that he does not want to marry me.

His older sister has not made any effort to try to get close to me as a sister in law would, and he lied to me about his age. He told me that he is only 35, however, as I was cleaning his room I came across a work document which he transcribed that stated that he was 43, and I found evidence that he is still communicating with a woman from his homeland who he promised to marry 8 years ago. I confronted him about it and he lied to me and said that it was a woman who wanted to marry him for a green card, but he declined. I suggested that we live together, but he has made every excuse to continue to live with his room mate. I feel like I am living a lie and I don't know what to believe. I asked his auntie (whom I am very close to) why he has not married me, and she told me as she rubbed my belly that he is waiting for me to have a baby for him. Is this really true? As prerequisite to an African man marrying an American woman you must first have a child for them?

P.S- He is a U.S citizen

I would greatly appreciate any input you have, as I have learned that dating an African man is very complex full of customs, mysteries, and traditions.

tpia:
can you explain how to "protect" the children from this alleged laziness?

tpia:
protect the children from who? Their mother? For what reason exactly?

because of a movie?

I bet U are lazy also.

**how about U both do the work.**~~You are probably the kinda man that leave all the work to the lady~~

chaircover:
You have just said it . . . . . .PND is a form of "madness" i.e mental disorder

tpia:
I'm sure there's thread about single fathers somewhere.

This one is specifically aimed at single mothers.

tpia:
Once again, being a single mother doesnt make someone more dangerous and dark than a non-single mother.

tpia:
lol.


A lot of them have resettled in Ghana and more may be thinking of returning to Nigeria since they feel they have roots there.

But true, returning to Africa isnt that unusual. Brazilians did it centuries ago and Liberia/Sierra leone were founded expressly for this purpose.

chikito1:
Guruofast,

I guess all this will apply to all men who has got a child outside wedlock abi.

It takes a deep and mature person to be able to handle that kind of situation if

he really and truly loves the woman. I think its the way the man handles the situation

that will make the woman make certain decisions. Some men can be very horrible, to a child that is not theirs

Not for shallow people.

JJYOU:
you guys are something else. everyday NL is filled with horror stories of nigerian men and women ill treating one another in relationships.

how does marrying white people disturb you? the same you calling white police racists said this nonsence about white women on another thread https://www.nairaland.com/nigeria/topic-242860.32.html
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Fhemmmy:
I have no problem with them going for whitey or mulatos, but the problem is how they treat the babes, meanwhile they would have maltreated some sisters if they ever have one, i guess it is all about inferiority.

Fhemmmy:
Racism and yet when such bro wanna marry, they will marry a woman and surround themselves with all but black.

JJYOU:
you bet he would. you know very well people who rob those types of shops always do window shopping before doing the robbery. you dont know how to police the streets better than the police so stop complaining. we get more harased by the nigerian police than this. it is not the end of the world.

i worked in the west end for 18yrs. i saw white peole being stop and searched almost weekly. why must seperate laws be put in place for black people and nigerians for that matter?

Pataki:
@ phuket,

Take your time to read my first input on this thread/topic. In case my point got lost on you, let me take time to reiterate it to you. In a country besieged by different woes and calamities, a country where issues fundamental to its development are abysmally missing, some gay dcikheads decided to march down to the National Assembly to be heard and asking for tolerance.

Very soon the association of paedophilia's would be storming the National Assembly requesting for tolerance and freedom of expression, in as much as they can indulge themselves in consenting sex with kindergartens.

What you do in your closet is none of my business. It becomes my business when you try to stick your shit in my face and the nation at large. For that alone, those mentally-challenged and inferiority complexed beings should have be STONED.

Keep your shit where it belongs - the CLOSET!