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Mindlog:
Is the OP"s husband concerned about the well-being of his home that you demand from outsiders?

Are you married?
Yes or NO?

Marriage is about perseverance, patience and one party must try his/her best. There’s a reason for that vow in the alter during marriage.

Kobojunkie:
Oh, I see you have suddenly backpeddled from your initial course of action. Let's see...

1. This wife tells you she has played 'savior' to her husband for their 14 years of marriage, so tell us, what aspect of her contemplating, this time, to let life deal with the man instead do you consider Un-Christlike?

2. What exactly is immoral in a decision to accept that, in her case, life may indeed be the best teacher after all?

3. WOW! You are asking this woman to dedicate even more time to trying to fix her husband, something she has tried and failed at for 14 years?

By the way, Jesus Christ never said it is possible to fix anyone through character and prayer....the decision towards salvation is left to the individual alone. And clearly this we know from the example that is Judas Iscariot. judas over 3 years observing Jesus Christ in all His wonders, yet,what was said of him remained unchanged. So if Jesus Christ couldn't do it - He couldn't fix Judas -, why place such a burden on this woman or any other?

QED.

Learn to be rational and stop hyperventilating.
Read my post from the beginning very S L O W L Y.

Favfables1:
Are you serious right now?!
You know of an impending danger and you are considering keeping quiet and allowing your husband to walk into it...
Are you awk?!!

What If the set up makes him to lose his job?
What if it puts him in prison?
What if it takes his life?
What happens then?
Will he "learn his lesson" this way?

Or you sincerely think that you wouldn't be affected by the outcome of that set up... You think your kids won't be affected by it ba?

Continue....
Allow him awk?
Follow the advice of everyone who is telling you to let him be...
Let's see if those people will suffer the consequences of this decision with you ...

Aha! Here comes someone who’s thinking the way I think. Tell her the bitter brutal truth.

A lot of folks on Nairaland family section aren’t concerned about the well-being of another man’s home and marriage because they came from broken homes or are professional home breakers and as such they’ll give advices that will be detrimental to the success of another man’s home.

Mindlog:
Is the husband, the supposed logical one and the spiritual head of his home exempted from being Christlike?

Where a husband isn’t Christlike or rational and logical and faithful, do you suggest that the wife follow suit?
Do you suggest that she should become immoral and wayward just because her spouse is living an immoral and wayward lifestyle?

Two wrongs make no right and if we practice an eye for an eye, soon everybody will lose their eyes.

The Bible says iron sharpens iron, so shall a man sharpen another. The husband is not living a faithful life doesn’t give the woman the room to start living unfaithfully in the marriage. The woman can by her character together with prayer change things around for their good or walk away from the marriage on the basis of adultery.

And this is what I actually mean.

QED

Kobojunkie:
What is this one rambling about now?

What has Christ to do with a choice not to intervene when a person is about to get his comeuppance?

You say you pity a person's spouse, and I ask you this, did the same spouse show pity on his other hand when he went out digging these pits for himself against his own family?

Who one of them truly has wickedness as a mindset? The one who has spent years destroying his marriage of 14 years, or the spouse who is tired of playing 'savior' to a serial cheat of a spouse?

K

nairacountry:
Language bro. You don't have to disrespect and insult before making your point. Please note.

Your point is well noted. Such moves make litigation easier if turned out to be. Thanks

It’s rather shameful and saddening that Nigerians have become well known for their penchant to go rogue just as this stelmat folks has gone rogue.
I sincerely hope that justice prevails and they repay every dime they owe.

InTheCloudySky:
Why are you being emotional over my post? The husband who isn't faithful to his wife, why can't he be Chrislike or why're you deflecting? Since when is being Christlike a women-only trait or where in the Bible does it say that men (who, in fact, ought to exude it) are exempted?

OP said she's over his ways, meaning he has cheated before or has the tendency to cheat, flirt with other women, etc. If I wanted to be wicked I would tell her to step back and allow the lady to continue with whatever setup she's planning for him, but that's not me and that's obviously not a good idea because this is her husband we're talking about. There's no mention of harm in post nor did that cross my mind, so you're the one with the problem here, if that's what you got out of my reply.

That said, this is a good opportunity for her to teach him a lesson, which's why I suggested she gets close to the lady and plan something together. Something as simple as a public embarrassment isn't a bad idea (e.g. the next time he approaches her she tells him to leave her alone, go home to his wife and whatever else he needs to hear to have sense or at least make him think twice before stepping to another woman to cheat again).

Is it after he gets another woman pregnant or infects the wife with a disease that she should act? The lady's obviously not interested in him, hence the wife could make use of this opportunity to put him in check. He will simmer down after that. I've been chased by a married man before and some of them are stubborn as hell; it's not until you put your foot down that you're not interested in them that they leave you alone. In fact, if I were the lady in question, I would gladly work with the OP, lol.

If the OP were the cheat and the husband had opened the thread about her, you wouldn't be in here telling those responding to him to be Chrislike, nor telling him to be Chrislike, but would participate in calling her names and whatnot, but all of a sudden you're forming Christian in here. Yimu.

At the end of the day, it's only a suggestion; it's up to the OP to do as she deems fit.

Are you married?

YES or NO?

InTheCloudySky:
What you could do is get close to the lady and work together with her to teach him a lesson. Trust me, this is the best way for him to learn.

Must you breed of new generation ladies have wickedness as a mindset?

What about drawing someone away before harm comes to that person? Where is the love you folks profess to your spouses? Why can’t you folks emulate Christlikeness in your character?
If you could have this kind of mindset, then, I really pity your spouses.

No respond to me mbok.

CC: Ishilove, sisisioge

Kobojunkie:
You make your marriage wax strong by putting yourself and life in direct competition with the one in Sokoto?
So, in your mind, a one who will cheat, will not do so if you as a spouse do not become super human?

It’s no use trying to school or make a really mentally unbalanced and irrational fellow see things the way rationally minded fellows see things.

Isoni:
Please i need your advice.

My 2009 Toyota Corolla is not shifting to gear 4. My mechanic noticed it when he changed the fuel pump,

I have changed the transmission oil but the issue persists.

Gear one, two and three changes normally and the car is driving smoothly.

I don't know what the challenge is

If possible, please recommend a very good transmission mechanic in Abuja that i can visit?

Call 07034581213 to diagnose and properly fix it.

Deborah98:
Leave him ooooh let him walk into the trap and fall for it. A married man without self-control,sense of responsibility and wisdom. What again is he looking for? God please don't give a woman wrapper of a husband.

Bad advice,
Also, note you can’t have a 100% perfect spouse.

MadamVanessa:




Let him learn his lesson, possibly if that can take his head, better so you can rock your life my dear.

Vanessa, why this kind evil advice na?
Haba!

Orlamihde:
When is it enough to fight back ? So my husband and I have this routine of going out on Sundays to an outlet close by. So recently, a guy that knows both of us called me to caution my husband because he's leading one of the workers on,(relationship wise) and the lady is planning a set up for him, but he (bar guy) do not know exactly what she's up to. But my issues now is that Should I let him continue till he learns his lesson or I should give him head up? Don't know why some men find it so easy to disrespect their vow.
NB: our marriage is 14 years plus and am over his ways.

Candid advice, caution him now before it’s too late. Don’t forget despite his adventurous ways, you share a LOT in common and what affects him affects you and vice versa. You don’t want to stick your finger into the mouth of a viper and expect not to be bitten.

Candid advice #2: what he seeks for in Sokoto is in his sokoto, try spicing up your marriage and sex and try driving him wild and popping very pleasant surprises every time and here and there you’d be surprised how his interest outside will wane.
May your marriage wax stronger and happier as each seconds ticks away.

Cheers!

Jforme:
Hello Hyundai users,

Please can anyone give me a review of Hyundai Elantra 2013 as I am the process of getting one.
Is it a good buy?
Is it a good car for a lady?
I am based in Abuja, are the parts readily available?
Is there a good mechanic in Abuja for Hyundai cars?
I am buying it as second hand Nigerian used.
Please let me know your honest opinion on this car.

It’s a good car. Ensure you buy a good well maintained unit. I’m in Abuja and I fix them

PAQ:
Bros no vex, Corollas are 130HP. Even the newer models, apart from the 2021 models with 2.0 engines that give out 168HP. In older models only Corolla XRS is 158HP and its discontinued.... No give us false hope abeg.

If only Corollas could even give out 150HP, this story would be dofferent.

K

Siberia01:
After

We were using a Crysler 300 but I don't know the engine displacement..


We started off from IBB avenue through Aka road to
Udo udoma avenue....

He decided to refuel at the NNPC mega station along the airport road....

As we were fueling ...a 2003 Toyota Corolla was behind us ...and a neat blue Peugeot 504 bestline in also branched to Fill up.. I didn't see who drove it because it had a little tint and it's glasses were Up.....

Paid the attendant and we zoomed off every body knows the 300 is a very fast car!!

The road leading to the airport was very wide ...smooth and OMG !...
He floored the 300 to about 110kmhr cause I was sitting in front ..enjoy some jamz with its AC...

Then I now pictured the corolla we had left ... In the wing mirror well... I lost interest and we were chatting..
The next moment the corolla disappeared and was replaced with the Peugeot... It was catching up fast

It had dusted the corolla

Well, not surprised The fuvking Europeans always keep doing this shits on the road !

My guy noticed as it was horning to overtake and a Kia cerato was Infront of us..

I told my guy to give it a gap... We increased to 120kmhr and over took the Kia ... The next moment...it overtook the Kia also
Still tailing us..

I just told him ... U no dey respect your elders...

And we gave it space .....
And the legend roared past us...

A Chrysler 300 Isn’t a fast car. Except when it has the V8.

That said, the reason why the Corolla was over taken is because the driver is scared or the car has some issues going on with it. A Corolla also has max 160hp and no more than 150ib.ft which is similar power ratings as the Peugeot and it’s an automatic, while the Peugeot is a manual transmission.

An automatic transmission takes so much power.


That said, don’t engage in road racing, a lot of Uyo inhabitants behave like sheep and would rather cross or walk into a road and be expecting you to dodge them or slow down for them.

lexini:
Good evening guys

2014/15 4Runner vs 2014 /15 highlander vs 2012 gx460

I know the highlander is a durable car and all cos I’ve owned the first gen highlander and my wife currently uses a second gen. Considering the 4Runner and gx cos it won’t make sense having 2 highlanders

How does the 4Runner and the gx handle? Does the 4runner have 3 row seats?

Which drives the smoothest? Which retains value most? Which has more power?

Fuel and maintenance costs aren’t much of a consideration for me…

Thanks in advance

Heavenlybang
Nurey
Kingreign
9icetoo

4runner =GX just underneath the skin
It doesn’t have 3rd row, both are truck and have body on frame chassis so don’t expect any sportiness in them. They ride like a boat and a tank. No body talks about those trucks and talk about fuel economy or cheap maintenance. Let’s face it, they’re not cheap to own or maintain but neither would break your bank to maintain. I’d actually go for a GX cos it’s more refined and more powerful and larger.

DoggoneDogg:
Huge red flag.
Women don't maintain cars well. Potential buyers should go with 3 mechanics from 3 different tribes.

Vawulens,

For me, It’s the vawulens in your comment, the price and the used by a woman

halima83:
Please building experts/carpenters in the house, how much will it cost me to roof this house using ghana zinc, the ridge cap etc?

My lovely Nairaland e wife. I miss you

Drippingwetman:
Good evening house I just discovered this thread, and also looking for the best advice on the best place I can handle the rust underneath my new es330 just bought it as toks very neat only to find out underneath so rusty, I need recommendations and how much it will cost to fix it and the best place to . Thanks

You need a technician to inspect and evaluate then you can proceed from there. The location of the car also matters

Lexusgs430:
Once a mechanic is already tempering with the engine, the engine is gone !!!!!

Why do you think car manufacturers, never ring engine...... They simply replace........

NOT always true Sir.

It’s much easier for a dealership to replace an engine with another engine because it’s cheaper and quicker.

Rebuilding an engine is a rigorous physical task which also takes time and may require long waiting time for parts to arrive.
Rebuilding an engine gives the technician opportunity to observe and detect worn out components and factory flaws in the manufacture of that engine and make amendments or use parts with higher degree of tolerance which will meet or usually exceed manufacturers specifications in the manufacture of that engine.

If a brand new engine from a crate cost $25,000, a rebuild using a much higher quality aftermarket components than the manufacturer actually used in building that engine may be $30,000-35,000 for parts and labour.

If a simple engine swap takes 10hours, a rebuild could take 70-120hours.


If an engine from manufacturer produces max 200hp and 210ib.ft brand new, a rebuilt engine from higher quality materials could be anywhere from 220hp 240ib.ft or even way more.


If factory manufactured engine have a lifespan of 10years, a properly rebuilt engine may last longer than that if components of higher tolerances and quality are used.

Ayo7:
There can be some "un-disclosed problems" associated with "clean title" cars from auction. Most clean title cars at auctions are sold by private sellers and may not carry full disclosure. If you want clean title, better to go to a dealership although price will be about 100 percent more than auction. The issue is that Nigerians like clean title but want bargain prices. Accident cars with salvage title sold by insurance carry full disclosure of everything wrong with the vehicle and when properly fixed, it can be a good deal.
The smoke can be from a burnt gasket and shouldn't
be difficult to fix but ensure the car is towed from the port to a very good mechanic and not driven. You may not need to buy a new engine but ensure you get a good specialist to fix it. It will cost some good money though but cheaper than buying a new engine.

I know someone who bought a clear title certified preown car from a dealership in US and had it shipped down only for the car to start developing issues and when the engine was opened it was obvious the car had been reworked albeit in a shoddy manner abroad.

Mastermindx:
Please what does this mean

It means a lot. You need to have your car checked and diagnosed by a competent technician with a high end diagnostic tool.

nairacountry:
Quite unfortunate my brother

Egbon mi, I’m just reading all these and I never knew you went thru all these. So sorry about these terrible things you went thru.

How’s my people?

mashnino:
[s]he is talking about speed...

Imagine driving benz almost your life and then switching to a toyota...[/s]

Another trashy comment.

FYI, a lot of Benz are very underpowered and a lot of Toyotas have more than enough power than they actually ought to have.

Mtschewwww:
A GSM network provider (GLO) engineers visited my land yesterday and said they want me to lease a space for their mast installation for a period of 15 years. (They have not told me any amount yet).

The land is in a residential area. Please those who know about this sort of engagement should tell me what it entails because I was asked if I would accept the offer or not so as to tell them the amount and other things involved.

I really want to know the real benefits as well as if there are other health damages that may adversely affect residence living around my compound on the long run?

Get a copy of their EIA report you need to extensively study it.

Also you need an environmental expert to assist you study it and explain where you have challenges.

The EIA report gives detail on everything you need to know about the project, it’s risks, it’s benefit and mitigation measures in place for any thing.


Do contact me if you need more explanation on what an EIA is and how to explain better to you.


Cheers!

nairamaniac:
kingreign, pls do u have any idea how much this scanner cost?
I'm referring to this foxwell.

I don’t know the model so I can’t tell the average market cost.

sisisioge:
Agarawu on the island....you could also check Oshodi.

My dear the guy Dey Abuja e no sabi those places you mentioned I’m sure.

Dominique, Pls if possible send this to FP.

Dear OP, I don’t know, Pls let the experts come answer this question.