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heartofcity12:
“Since he retired”, but men you want are still young, vibrant and full of energy. I hope she’s not expecting men like her father when she’s not like her mother tho.

However it’s “love and selflessness” when a man does it but “slavery” when a woman does it.

Your last sentence highlights the hypocrisy of modern women.

Reminderz:
I think for your own good, even if you're planning to marry a second wife, you don't tell women that... don't tell women your moves before it is made, especially something as sensitive like this or if she loves you deeply.. Speaking from experience.

Then, how would you go about it? "Surprise" her with a sister wife?

monerozi5590:
Good Morning. Which country are you from?

Hi. I'm from Cameroon.

I'm curious about our demographics here. Most people here are from Nigeria, but you have Ubunja, for example, who is Zimbabwean.
It'd be interesting to know if there are other internationals here expect Ubunja and me.
Who else isn't Nigerian in this forum?

Mariangeles:
Your wife go don hear nwiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiii!

I made it easier for others to read. You're welcome.

I appreciate that you took the time to do that.

CaveAdullam:
Well said. I concur.

1. To try to escape the rat race is a rat race itself. Even if you escape the marathon rat race run by everyone, you'll still enter a race run by elites. Or a race that involves maintaining peace of mind. Life is an unending race. The only true escape or rest is death.

2. Humans have an insatiable void that must constantly be fed. You are hungry, you run the race to get food; and when you eventually get the food you want to store plenty of it so that you won't race for food again. Once you have gathered plenty you want to secure it. Once you have secured it you want to search for people you'll love to share with...the hole is infinite.

Contentment is a temporal phase. True contentment is only achievable through death.

3. Though I concur with your submission, I AM NOT A FAN OF DO WHAT MAKES YOU HAPPY. Happiness is subjective, it is based on bias, sentiments, and feelings. With that line of thought, it will be hypocritical to condemn evildoers, because doing evil makes them happy.
...

I'm not a fan of "follow your passion/happiness" either. In addition to truth and what's right, I'd add that one should follow meaning.

CaveAdullam:
1. How far you will go in life is dependent on a melange of factors y'all don't seem to consider, take note of or blatantly choose to be oblivious.

2. Everyone just wants to think and grow rich, become a richer dad, and think big with some power of positive thinking. Alongside, determination, endurance, persistency, consistency, zealouness, and medium to long-term insomnia in the pursuit of your big dreams.
Wait. All these are vital in the race to success, they must be included in your toolbox. But some factors are the true determinant of success, and if these factors don't play in your favor, you may not win in the race of life - many don't win, and it is not their fault.

3. We have been blinded and romance by the survivorship bias: we see the few successful people and don't care about the majority that tried and failed. We always see the exceptions and do think we are the exceptions - those majority had the same thought too.

4. The most important factors:

A. Your country of birth.

B. Your genetics.

C. Your biology.

D. Your family background.

E. Your place of residence.

F. State of politics in your place of residence.

G. State of economics in your place of residence.

H. The information you are allowed to access.

I. The information you are not allowed to access.

J. The zeitgeist of your place of residence.

K. The legislature of your place of residence.

L. Your place of residence and foreign politics.

M. The existing religions circulating your place of residence.

O. Time and chance.

P. actions and behaviors of people.

Q. State of affair in your place of residence. Are there infrastructures? What about basic human necessities?

R. Luck (the most underrated of all).

Thank you for the gems Mr. Cave

pansophist:
At 20, you have the wealth of time. To tell you how important time is, will you prefer to be a billionaire at 90 years old, or just average at 20? Well, I'm sure you'll pick average at 20. That's how important time is. If you learn a skill and start a business with it, in even five years time, if you're good, you'll be set for life. The formula of wasting your 20's studying some useless course just to be in school, measure shoulders with friends, and indulging in hedonism is a recipe for failure. Sadly most youth follow this path. Is it not proof enough that most graduates are unemployed, underemployed, and wrongly employed ? And even those with good jobs self are paid lower?

Forget about university, that's assuming you have finished secondary school. Studying in Nigeria is to prepare for the past, for sure not the present, and definitely not the future. If you must study, look for an online university from the west, and get your degree there. Also start a business. If you start a business today at 20, when you're 30, your business is 10 years old, and would have grown so much to set you for life. Then your 30's would means you're an eligible suitor, and you'll enjoy the attention women enjoy right from young.

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Just THANK YOU pansophist. Sir, this is precious advice.

tayo60:
Don't do it ! She wants you to disvirgin her so she would be free to chop other dicks, that's her intention.

Hmm... That's an interesting perspective.

odinson1:
Will he enjoy the sex alone? You Simps always looking for validation from women are so disgusting! Sex is a mutual Benefit to both partners so you can't compare it to Ladies trying to turn strangers to ATMs.

Understandable. But it doesn't invalidate his point, which is a good one if you ask me.

thesicilian:
He who lives in a glass house should not throw stones. The ladies may be guilty of all that, but the guys themselves are no saints either. The only reason you're chatting with her is for sexual favours (over 99.9% ) of the time. You know that, they know that. So stop whining, it's just a case of "monkey Vs monkey."

Great observation.

AmongUs:
Shey you know don't have to tell any reasonable man to go and hustle, FYI I am a reasonable man.

Dogs don't understand English and logic. Apart if you can communicate in dog's language, don't waste your time trying to explain it anything. It is unable to understand.

JESHAL, dropping gems after gems

Just a friendly reminder of how privileged you are compared to women, guys.
The bottom-right one is particularly touching.

Hot girl summer breaks women for marriage

CaveAdullam:
DAY 201, REDPILL 2022

As women are pushing into men's space to gain independence, you must also push into women's space to know and learn those things that they have used for eons to gain leverage over men.

[...]

Authority: Grow.

Cave, your inputs are some of the most valuable and insightful in this forum. Thank you.

Reminderz:
fellow comrades, you have 3 responsibilities. what you expect of yourself. what your family expects of you and what the society expects of you.

if you don't define these 3 for yourself, the world will define it for you... and believe me, it will be very ugly.

Wow. Well said.

ubunja:
Bring that Hymen here

haha haha

Am creating an archive of all ubunja's miseducations on my cloud. my first son will learn how to read with that.

When men don't subscribe to the BS.

sajmark:
It actually works, if it is reported a number of times it'll get banned. I think it just came back from a ban recently... We can continue to ignore and starve it of attention or report it, if you think it is worth the stress.

"It" HAHAHAHAHA

heartofcity12:
Who let the dog out, you know what to do guys. Don’t just ignore, report.

This metaphor with the dog always cracks me up !!!
Stray dogs seem to have a perverted liking for this forum. Don't give them attention, they'll eventually go back wandering in the streets.

heartofcity12:
Yep, in most cases.

FreshandFit say that "Females cannot submit to a man who makes less than them" ... *Sigh* These guys live online.

heartofcity12:
Body language

Yep.
I now have the habit to analyse body language when I see couples in the streets, in TV, etc.

heartofcity12:
Yep, in most cases.

@heartofcity12, Incredible! FreshandFit, now? These guys are the kings of clowns. They are lame. Their message and approach is trash.
Hey, do guys really take FreshandFit serious here? This is an honest question I really want to know.

DieRich5:
This man na top redpller, the guy just Dy drop am as bomb

A redpiller shouldn't give a woman head ND I love the way he replied her AF

She said the guy is too toxic but he want to see him again

No, that guy is a clown and I would not advise men to follow guys like him.

"The more disciplined you are, the more her insecurities come out."
Interesting...

A girl real woman who got it right. She could have easily partaken into the "phase", especially given that some family members encouraged her. Yet, she was wise enough to decipher their words to understand the real meaning of "finding myself"/"missing out in life"/"experience the life" and thus made the best decision.
She has a beautiful mind.

Women who wilfully marry below 21 and purposely avoid the "phase" make less than 10% (I'm being gentle) of all women in the world.

Yep. That's what post-wall retired hoes won't tell you. They sure have "options"; but their quality in terms of masculinity, handsomeness, and social and financial level is subpar and deplorable. It is hard, really hard for a post-wall woman who hoed in her youth and has kids to land a masculine successful man.

iamphenomenal:
This should be the standard. I always wonder why it's always otherwise. A man in all your money, height, beard will be kneeling down, begging a woman to marry you

Agreed, it should be standard.

If:
1- I would provide the same help WITH THE SAME EAGERNESS to a man
2- I have no issue/feelings if this girl is getting banged on a regular basis by other guys who did nothing for her.

Then, if I'm able, it would be my sincere pleasure to help her.

ubunja:
you missed my point....

And expecting compensation for services rendered has nothing to do with self-control but about knowing your Worth and valuing your time and abilities. You wouldn't call a plumber and expect him to have "self-control" and not ask for compensation. Why is asking a woman to compensate you wrong when I've abundantly made it clear if you're morallly unable to get sex then get something else?!

Nothing is free in this world. This "give without expecting anything back" thing is really giving "I don't value my worth and I'm to afraid to ask for what I really want" vibes.

Second best test of genuineness.
Would I be TOTALLY fine if this girl I'm helping gets savagely and consistently fuqed in all ways by a guy who hasn't done half of what I did?

Again, if the answer is anything but a clear and prompt "yes", the test is failed.