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Workch:
when this wanted to happen in my family, I looked my dad in the face and made him understand that his children including me are his responsibilities and he can’t make me his retirement plan. I can only help when it’s convenient for me.
I didn’t choose to be born, he made the decision

Rinoxy:
What if she chooses her pastor?

JustNumb:
Hey guys I'll just be brief.

Straight to the point.

My wife is having an emotional affair.

Whats making it worse?

It's with a pastor with wife and children. Her pastor when she was in another state.

Now they're both in different states.

How did I know?

I saw her chat with him about 2+ years ago, and saw all the sweet name calling, the pet names and how they tell each other their activities of the day and even marital problems.

All the red flags and checklist of an emotional affair have been ticked by them.

The only thing remaining is the sexual part.

We've been married for some years now, she was a virgin when I married her though I'm 100% sure they have not met since we got married.

But the issue here is that this is causing serious friction in our marriage.

When I first saw it, I gave some time to be sure and I confronted her and she denied and said he's just her pastor (denial is one of the checklist).

Some months later they didn't stop the communication, I was about to tell her mum cos she visited. She pleaded and I let it slide.

Fast forward to 2021 they are still in communication. This time around the so called pastor is even always reminding her to clear chats so I won't see it.

Now emotional affair is actually worse than sexual affair
This pastor has a wife. I just pity the wife cos I can imagine how she would also be feeling.

I provide for the home, I also had to change from biz to the one that makes me travel to something that makes me work from home so she won't say it's cos I'm not always around.

We struggle with our sex life. What do I mean? She doesn't like sex. She doesn't mind if we stay 1 year without sex.

But me I'm a man with sexual needs.

Now when I see the way she doesn't like sex and I remember this emotional affair, it drives me crazy.


Those who have passed thru this, how did you overcome this challenge?
I don't want a broken home for my children cos sometimes I feel like calling her people and telling them to take their daughter back. Infact I'll dash them the bride price.

Do I go and get a side chick? But that won't solve my problem.

Guys come to my aid.

Cos if we discuss this again, this will be the 3rd time we're talking about same issue and same guy.

Sorry wasn't brief

OlodoGraduate:
Woah.
It seems I'm living up to my name , "OlodoGraduate".
So, I dropped an application in a school about 2 weeks ago. I got called yesterday to come for interview. I was given a written test. I believe I did good in the test. Then, I was asked to come for a microteaching today.

I was given the topics to prepare for - in Mathematics; bearing and in Physics; Electricity.

I got home and didn't work towards crosschecking my mastery of these topics as I made my self believe that I would get no glitches in teaching these topics and I also got this crazy headache. I just took drugs and slept all along.

Today came, I quickly came up with a lesson note and proceeded to the school....

Since the school is on holiday, the SSS 2 and SSS 3 were together for lessons. I was asked to teach Bearings first. I began quite good and after a while, I was given a question to solve with the students.

It was a past WAEC question on calculation in Bearings. I was able to make out the diagram, but then I knew outrightly that something was wrong..

I knew what was wrong but I was unable to rectify it. I was just there in the front, blanking out of options....
Thankfully, I was put through by my supervisors {in fact, I really appreciate them} in a polite way and one of them even asked to students to applaud me.

I managed to appeal to the students and explained that "such happens at times".

The supervisor also tried to buttress my point by sighting an example of a case where examiners with over 30 years of experience couldn't solve a certain question — probably not to let me feel hopeless. I wanted to hold on to that as a panacea, but then I snapped out of it "shame on me".

n1ky:
I wonder ooo, both of us burning the midnight candles in the uni and is then is time for my enjoyment, he is now telling me not to work... that's wickedness. My parents that sent me to school made a mistake abi in order for me to work.
marry an illetrate if you want housewife

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illicit:
God bless you

Take time off

Send your Aza

Come and fvck

I am pregnant

I forgive you

I trust u

I believe u

I owe u

I want u

I need u

Suck my breast

Remove your boxers

Close the door

Off the light

Use 2 fingers

I am cum.ming !!!

Kondomatic:
There was a day I went to deliver something somewhere and saw about 7 - 10 dogs giving a man on a bike a hot chase.

They were all barking.


The road was bad so the man couldn't speed up his bike and the dogs were gaining on him

He too started shouting.

It was a funny sight.

Learned later that he sells dog pepper soup

Emmanuel224:
what if I/we call it "care"

Emmanuel224:
*artworks, I used to
*Feel pity for evry1 around me,no!

Im part of my family no matter what,and I wudnt want to witness anything bad happen to them
*Of course,I frown at injustice
*Accident scenes,not really

I haven't seen my type of love yet, maybe I haven't discovered yet

Too cautious about my mental health

Emmanuel224:
it's very possible boss, I'm cold and without love

YoungLionken:
Some of these LITTLE THINGS are underrated..

Abboniki works for both waist and muscle, feverish conditions and miraculously cures body odour..

We tend to rely on the wisdom/knowledge of the Westerners more than ours here..

I was surprised at the cheap, traditional and effective remedy for stomach ulcer. This is something one would pay exorbitantly for in hospital..

And again, we Africans have failed to upgrade whatever we learnt from our forefathers...

11Anonymous:
Just got a job offer of about 80k per month and I planned on going for NYSC before the year ends.

Which should I go for, knowing that I may no longer be interested in serving after getting a job?

Lekanagidi:
got message,but never get mail message

saasala:
Yoruba Amaka.

Yorubas and Igbos be making us proud in academics, medicine, sports, music, entertainment, just name it.

Meanwhile some 15th century inclined gworo chewing, kunu sipping, cow dung motherfvcking nomads are hellbent on destroying the country.

Lugard will not rest in peace.

Xscape047:
Dou know ...?


You could walk from Russia to Alaska (on ice)

YoungBlackRico:
I know, just fooling around