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chris4gold:
Am a father of a three weeks old girl, am not always comfortable seen my princess crying. Please share how do you handle it?

Don't worry midnight cry will last for only about two months for girls.
But for male like 3months as gathered. I heard their stomaches disturbs them.

EmekaBlue:
This one fishes like blue marlin and shark are in Nigeria rivers lately, is there crisis in the Atlantic ocean that there is migration

I think the world is rotating and we are gradually shifting away from Africa to Developed worlds

Note that God is blessing you the more because you are taking care of your mother.
You will forever excel over your siblings except they change. It's not a curse it's the truth the Bible commanded us to honor our parents, it's the first commandment with a promise they say.

My advice for you is to build your mother a mini flat since the rent is taking it's toll on you. Also set up a small business for her so she can be independent.
Then you can be sending her money when convenient. But mind you make sure your wife is not aware. She will stop it.

You don't know that God is blessing you the more because you are taking care of your mother?
Even the Bible says we should honor our parents.

Those your siblings it's not a curse o, you will forever excel over them if they don't change.

This is my advice for you, try and build her a mini flat since paying rent is becoming a burden on you and try to set her up on a small business. So she can be independent. Then you send her money whenever you have.

Make sure your wife is not aware.

Henix:
Can a decent lady wear those things she is wearing on her nose? I tire for some of
these slay queens

Edited:
For those who are attacking me for saying that the lady doesn't look decent, abeg the weather is too hot for argument. If the lady likes, let her also go and pierce her lips. It's obvious that she is not just an indecent lady, but also from an indecent family. Imagine a father impregnating her daughter, what a family!

Come to Benin. It's cold here.
BTW how do you expect her to be normal except by divine intervention after such an experience?

MightySparrow:
He has made three mistakes, may this be his last if he is not the mistake himself.

Hmm definitely something is wrong with him. I tell you.

drizslim:
lol u get oil block

A hahaha I do.

slimjohn2k5:
Hello guys I will like to advise us on job change
because I was so frustrated with my recent job, after going for interview with another it took them time to reach back and told me to resign from my current job to process my new job.
After resigning, 3days before I went to the new company I was called that I will be trained for 2yrs which was the second red flag.

The first red flag is that all the top officers of the company were women which I was uncomfortable with.

I got there yesterday to pick up work tool and all I saw was a turn off
1. IT guy asked me to turn on my data to set up the laptop they will give me
2. We will be working from home till Corona clears out. No power (Gen) support, I asked for data and the hr guy said I will reach out to Admin.
3. No pension, hmo, housing scheme, transportation, I was already boiling inside of me
4. He said I am resuming as a contract staff and they will make me full staff at their convenient time. That I just heard that day.
4. I will work one year before I am entitled to leave. I will be under supervision for 2yrs and cannot leave the company within that period
5. Most annoying part is that he said it is a Christian company I nearly slap the guy.

These and many other red flags I saw.

So guys do not resign from your previous job before taking another offer. If the new offer is not good enough turn it down and continue with the old job till a better one comes.

Just take the advice of someone who says you should go back to your former job management.
Cook up something. Like maybe you were seek and needed to travel home for proper treatment blabla. Thats one piece of coin for you.

MightySparrow:
I pray he doesn't make toto mistake again.


Olorun ko ni ki o igbekugbe mo o.

That should be his 4th wife if I'm not mistaken.

COdeGenesis:
Are you her father? As far I am concern you do not have a room. You just a stranger in her home and she can send you parking if you continue to misbehave. You are truly childish if you continue to reason this way. You need to overhaul your circle of friends and make friends with mature people so your mentality can change.

Imagine. So rude. He even mentioned her father.

drizslim:
The creator should destroy the world let us all begin 'afresh'

I'm not done here yet o. I still have lots to do.

leaculpa:
wizkid wey just dey repent from bad mouth.

The guy no get respect. Linda ikeji can explain better. She has not uttered his name on any of her pages since 2016. E get why.

Ahahahhaha

ArewaOduduwaBia:
Sex in relationships, especially when they are not married.

Hnmm this is the issue. What's annoying me now. People claiming they are Christian's but not ready to abstain. How then are we different from the world?
Hypocrites!

Divanona:
Eight years ago, with tears in my eye, I held his hand, begged him to stay with me that we will struggle together and succeed, but he refused. He walked away living me pregnant. Now, he's back without anything.

We were friends from the University, I graduated before him because I was studying a 4years course. The very first time, we tried to take our relationship serious was after my graduation. We had s.e.-x for the very first time and I became pregnant.
The truth is, the guy have always been good to me throughout my stays in school.
I remembered that day he sacrificed his school fees for mine so I could be able to do my final clearance. But when I became pregnant, he walked away after convincing me to keep our baby.
I went through everything all by myself.
Since last year, he has been apologizing on phone, so last week, I asked him to come. He traveled down to my place. Without being afraid of anyone harming him from my family, he believed in me and came. He's around in my family house, staying in my brother's room for the past 3days.
He has opened up everything to me, my family members and have apologized.

now, I'm so confused with my life.

He couldn't graduate, he had problem in school after I left and all this years, he has been struggling, but now he wants to take responsibility and be with us, but he had nothing. No certificate, except diploma which he later did from another school, no job, no place of his own to stay. He had nothing. He wants us to get married and have a family.


I feel I'm about to add more burden to my already stressed life.
The only positive thing here now, is the excitement my son is having seeing his father and the relationship they're building.

A part of me wants to see this guy have a great life and have direction and not see him live like this, even if I don't settle down with him. because when I meant him, he was kind, a good person, he had dreams, vision and good plans.
But living us alone all this years, with all his explanations, I'm not contented.

Another part of me is confused, afraid and I feel ishould push him away and let him go back to his life and keep moving with my son because I don't have the strength to shoulder all these.

Please matured mind in the house, what do you have to say? This is my life and it's getting more confused.
What would you advise? What should I do?
I don't want to make more mistakes.

Sorry for my lengthy write-up

Go and ask God first

As in ask well and ensure there are at least two other withnesses.

I tell you, maybe he came back because they told him he's life will be meaningless without you because of what he did to you.
Don't jump.

babyfaceafrica:
so because we are married, we should owe ourselves money because we are one?.. Issorite!!.. Lesson learnt

Ahahahhaha.

That's no debt o.
It's mutual money/benefits.

babyfaceafrica:
Only 10% out of 100 will return money they borrowed from their husbands.



How do people survive these types of no-integrity marriages?.... Lesson learnt though... Don't borrow women money, no matter how close, even at the point of death!!

Ahahhaha it's not this bad o.
I'm not yet married, I borrow from my male friends and I return it.
In this situation we are talking about marriage is involved so it's different.
Even the Bible says the two shall become one.

Ygrette:
You are wrong. What ever happened to integrity? An agreement is an agreement. She should have negotiated that before collecting the money, that is, tell her husband what she's telling him now. What she's doing now is fraudulent. She's a cheat and a liar. It's easier for a camel to go through the eye of a needle than to find a honest person these days. Ahn ahn.

The error started from him. You don't borrow someone what you don't have no matter who the person is.
He should have stood his ground that he doesn't have, heaven wouldn't have fallen.


Yes you are right. But I must tell you,
Only 10% out of 100 will return money they borrowed from their husbands.

He should have prepared his mind.
Another law says don't borrow people what you can't let go of if the worse comes to worse.

Oga forget it.
You don't loan your wife money. You give her. If she needs a loan she should go to the bank.
That one has entered voicemail

I thought people said this song is rubbish and the lyrics zero?

Ah na wa o. I fear Nigerians o. Wetin OBO do una?

motionarena:
I said it before the Olosho pandemic has hit 100% in our country especially Lagos.

Must girls I know are slowly turning to Olosho.

Sometimes I dey wonder if some of this girls dey study Oloshoism for Uni

Oloshos are running things in Lagos

Take a stroll to Benin. And come and write again.

Oizee:
I pray you don't meet the stingy types

Or the ritualists

SecretSpy666:
The got to know of where I'm working. I don't know who told them. They arranged with someone I was relating with to bring them to my house. When I got Intel about it. Warned the person not to bring anyone to my house and dissociated with the person. Now they are saying I'm rich and don't want to help anyone but I don't care.

Just change your number. Or block them.

If they find a way round it tell them you have forgiven them but don't want to have anything to do with them. That's not a sin.

prospero5:
She was already a doll. Maybe she wants to be a dullard this time. Her money, her dullness!

And where did she get such amount of money from?

Don't mind the. 14years kor 10 years ni

sampete:
Can you believe these police guys ate up all the meat in the stew and soup they carted away?

They ate up police evidence. I wonder what they would have presented as evidence if the matter had gone to court

Their stomach and good health after the consumption.


Ahahha

Awon ole

sampete:
Thanks.

My lawyer talked about suing the police for illegal detention and some other human right abuses but my girlfriend won't have any of that. So we are obeying her wishes.

She's scared that why.
She should sue them and the family join.

bobokeshington:
WOW... THAT'S GREAT!

IF WE ALL STRIVE TO BE OUR BROTHERS KEEPER, THEN WE'D HAVE A BETTER SOCIETY TO LIVE IN.

CONGRATULATIONS & KUDOS TO THE BARRISTER FOR HIS SELFLESS SERVICE...

I tell you. This is a pointer that anywhere we are facing oppression from an Nigerian let's bring it here to the glare of the world.
This is the court of Publix c opinion.

Imagine the family of the deceased were vexed because he brought it here.
Very wicked people. Having done an autopsy they still kept the people who were not even supposed to be held in the first placing as they know their son was sick initially.


I wish OP can take the matter up too and Sue them.

CuteMercury:
How would you ask a woman that is a graduate, a woman that has the biggest blog in Africa, her own media company, where she got her money from.

Some people are illiterates, forget about their education.
Just leave these kind be.


Imagine the question?

I don't think the person lives on the planet.

cdm4live:
Tithes are not taken at gun point. It is willingly given. If you are opposed to giving tithes it is better you stock up your money in your wallet.
And when you give, the usage shouldn't be your concern. Hence you may decide to channel the tithe yourself to orphanage but then how do you monitor the usage by the orphanage home.

God bless you.
Exactly my point

osarog:
Tithe thieves defending each other. The free money they get every week from the poor and gullible has gotten into their head . I don't blame them; I blame our government for allowing these scumbags rub us in the name of religion.

Kill freeze if you like , a good number of us have come to realize that you all are thieves that defraud people in God's name to get money which you use to build hospitals and schools for the rich and live luxuriously. The bigger thieves are the White guys who print and sell these silly holy books you guys use in defrauding the gullible. Believe me, over time, a lot more Nigerians will come to their senses and realize that these religions are organized scams.

No body forced anyone to pay tithes.

It's a voluntary volition.

Greathand01:
Kindly advice me on this, the wedding date my spouse family, my parent and my fiancee chosed is quite not convenient for me due to work schedule, (I work far north), the date means I will be resuming to work 1 week after wedding.

I want the date changed to the following month so I can have like 3 weeks bet everyone seems not to understand me.. I am looking like the bad person to everyone.... kindly advise.

If the change means more additional days to the wedding date, don't try it. But if it's fast forwarded. Then do it.

It's not advisable to postpone weddings. Except you can praaaaayyyy hard.
Most postponed weddings don't hold eventually.


My observations though. And also as gathered.

olawalepopoola:
Good day all. Hope we are all fine.
I want to ask what can be done when you get to know and confirm that your mother hates your wife without any tangible reason and all she wants is to either control your home or destroy it by all means.
Valuable answers will be appreciated

The way out is to relocate to where she does not know and ensure she never gets to know your whereabouts.
Just send her money and talk ones in a while on phone.

There Bible says the man should leave his father and mother.
So the solution is leave your mother.

Tankunland:
Normally I would not respond to this because try to stay of any religious or homosexual topic but I have noticed the gullibility of we Christians. We try to sound woke too much that we act like fools I'm sorry for the word. Daddy freeze has made it his life mission to abuse pastors whether they are real or not, daddy freeze that would body shame and broke shame you if you dare give a counter reason to his own words. Just go through hus Instagram page and see him brokeshaming young men, I can categorically remember daddy freeze called OYEDEPO a bald headed screechen a man that is almost 70 years old oo and no one talked about that ( God bless OYEDEPO for been so full of wisdom to have known what daddy freeze want which was his attention I guess ibiyeomie fell for that that, wisdom comes with age I guess) daddy freeze has never for once talked about the injustice we are facing as a country from our leaders, fuel and electricity was increased just a forth night ago and not a single word from daddy freeze, there have been an Carnage and an ethnic cleansing of the Christians in southern kaduna but not a word from that hypocrite but when a pastor says anything his muscles rises like a Lion ( meanwhile he is just a scared lil man , look how humble he was while reacting to the issue). It's we Christians that would still support daddy freeze when he abuse and makes mockery of our religious leaders, there is nothing you can say to me, Nigeria is always gonna be a deeply religious nation. The Muslims are laughing at us because we allow anyone trample on our religion, it's our own religion that a comedian would make a joke of speaking in tongues or of people falling under the anointing and we will all laugh foolishly while the Muslims see us as not been serious . Just 3 week's ago a man in Kano was sentence to death for a blasphemous statement and I condemn it in it's entirety but I can assure you for the next 50 years no one would dare do that again because they know the consequences. Can daddy freeze try to abuse a Muslim cleric if his head won't be on a spike? this Etinosa girl once made a joke of the Quran and she was nearly finished by the Muslims and since then she doesn't tow that part again, Christianity doesn't mean stupidity or gentility, As a Christian if you slap me I would slap you harder oo, it's only Jesus that has that patience and Mercy. Yes there should be freedom of speech but it should never be abused no matter what. anyways what do I know sef

God bless you