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@ Talina : Being open minded,comprimising, and respectful, with your partner, not confrontational, sure helps.

- You hit the nail on the head. If both partners had these characteristics, there would be no temptation to go off on a sounding board. Why do people involve outsiders in the first place? Because they feel they can't talk to their partners. Why? Becuase they lack these characteristics. Very important that your partner feel comfortable enough with you to talk to you about anything. Be a good listener.

Have you ever heard of a place in Nigeria called Ojuelegba? Its a very attractive place for US Citizens. I believe it is calling you.

talina:
And I also feel this way because of past personal experience. Everyone needs a " sounding board" at times in life, but finding an objective one can be hard. I guess its about finding the right partner,with the same views about working out problems. Relationships work out better, anywhere on the planet, if family is not dragged into a couples disagreements.

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Well, both people have to have the desire to work hard at the relationship and make it work. I know a couple who divorced simply because the wife was married to her family and NOT her husband. How about another family who was trying to oust the wife and encourage the husband to marry his "mistress." Why? Because the husband would go demonizing his wife to his evil father all the time. Or another couple who broke up because she would go telling her parents their business. In return, she got some bad counselling because of the way her parents felt about him in the first place: He was Igbo, and they didn't care for igbos period).

You see where I'm going with this?

@Mrs Chima, a very good point!!

@ Poster: Let your personal experience with him determine your decision.

@ Talina.

Thx Its all personal experience. I always like to say that there are 3 sides to a story, His, Hers and the Truth. Unfortunately, close family and friends "usually" but not always, tend to ignore this school of thought whenever one decides to involve them.

Personally, I make it a choice NOT to involve family. You will find out that alot of relationships (amongst Nigerians/Africans) would work out better if not for family involvement.

@27Naira, who seems to be the only one who made a VERY good observation. As they say, the devil is in the DETAILS!

Clones

Who gives a flying porkchop?

First off, family and close friends are more times than not biased and hardly objective.

Another thing is this. Couples fight and make up all the time. If one goes telling one's family/friends their side of the story, its just one side of the story and it creates animosity towards the significant other, and even if the couple does make up and there is forgiveness between the couple, close family/friends tend to hold onto grudges. From this point on, bad seeds begin flourishing and eventually destroy a relationship that really could work out.

I personally think its an extremely bad idea and toxic to the relationship.

Some cultures won't even acknowledge the marriage until the traditional wedding is done.

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Hello Mr. Omolayo. First I would love to commend you highly on exploring a MAJOR area of need/opportunity back home (Construction). The nation is in NEED of dependable construction professionals with credibility and integrity.

My background: I have degrees in Finance and Residential Construction with a Masters degree in E-Business, all from Universities in the East Coast of the US. We are all aware that the big players like Julius Berger have always monopolized larger aspects of the Construction industry/market, mainly Civil, Commercial and Industrial, however I have been noticing that there is a soaring need for smaller players to fill an ever-increasing demand for quality residential construction. After all, people need a quality place to live in. I have worked with Residential Builders here in the States, building and managing construction of medium sized homes in sub-divisions, and was a Technical/Construction Engineer in the US Army (21T). I not only have a degree in Construction Management, knowledgeable in the areas of Construction Accounting, Construction Drafting, Construction Scheduling, and Construction Contracting, I also have hands-on experience and have personally engaged in Construction work, operating Bobcats, Mini-Excavators, etc

My Questions: (1) From what I've seen in your postings, the construction equipment you focus on is HEAVY construction equipment targeted towards Civil construction work (for roads, bridges, highways etc) and other Land-prep/Pre-Construction/Land Development jobs. Is there a need/demand also, for Smaller/Light Construction equipment such as Mini-loaders (Bobcats) and Mini Excavators? These would serve well in a Residential Construction capacity especially because of access in and out of compounds etc
(2) How about Maintenance? How would one maintain all this equipment? Who are the reliable technicians/mechanics that are knowledgable and experienced enough to maintain all of this equipment?

I plan on getting into the Residential Construction business in Naija soon, and it would be good to form some type of symbiotic relationship.

Please get back to me.

@Gbenga, I'm with you on that! Surely 100,000 people can't be interviewed each week. My brother actually lives in OM. Been a while since I came to visit.

@OJ Dollars, you are one of the few mature pple on here, who post meaningful replies.

@Poster: Here's another link that may come in handy http://forums.immigration.com/

All the best.

As I mentioned previously, there is nothing wrong with wanting to leave naija for the US. However, in my opinion, Yanks is only good for 3 things (1) Good education (2) Exposure/Experience (3) If you can get it, their blue passport, it really helps. Once you get these three, move back home and make things happen, make changes, create jobs by setting up businesses, etc.

Just my opinion.

This is an interesting source. Its straight from US Dept. of Homeland Security and it
shows the number of naturalized Citizens in the US per year, per country. Also shows number of Permanent Residents per year per country.

From what I see, about an average of 9,000 Nigerians become US Citizens each YEAR.


http://www.dhs.gov/files/statistics/data

@Mynd 44, hence why I said "welcome to planet earth."

100,000 Nigerians apply for US visas weekly? Wow! To come to "no man's land of America" (like my Mom loves to label it). It's all good. Once you get to Yanks, you will see that it's not all that o. The only thing this place is good for: (1) Come here and get some good education (2) Get some very good experience (3) Get that blue passport which enables you to travel to a good 80% of the world w/out having to apply for Visas (opening the world to you for business opportunities), once you have gotten these, move back to Nigeria (No place like Home) and make a change! !

@OP, Pele, I'll send flowers. Welcome to planet earth though

Before you lot start to applaud this bill, one should ask about some pertinent details. For example, what would constitute "abandonment?" From this determination one would now move onto "how would the law be enforced and how will the guilty be apprehended?" If "abandonment" means that a man denies being the father of a child etc., are the facilities in place to run Paternity tests? If there is no child support system in the country, and irresponsible men/fathers don't have to abide by such mandates, how would the bill define "abandonment?"

These are T-Mobile phones also known as the Curve 8900.

Selling them for N60,000 a piece holla at me.

I read a thread a while back about constant power supply in kwara. Does anyone know if that is still the case or is kwara back to "normal" (dark ages) too?

Coke, Fanta, Ginger Ale, "whish" one you want?

@ naijacutee

My sis u know see say na naija we dey talk about here. The land of no rhyme or reason, lol

Are we going to now create a "fashion police force" to apprehend these "fashion criminals?"

I wish our leaders were visionaries like the Arabs. Obviously they have anticipated this and are now investing in other industries. The west is quite predictable. Once America takes the first step it wont be long when others like Britain, France, Germany, Italy, Spain etc follow suit. That's just how they work and these are all countries that are our major trade partners in trading oil.

When I say that the states should not be totally dependent on the federal budget and look within, I mean that they should establish and boost their economies based on their God given resources. For example, in the US, you have states like Nevada that has Las Vegas (entertainment revenue), States like Delaware where all corporations in the US like to incorporate due to attractive corporate tax policies, Texas is well known for Agriculture, North Carolina is the banking hubb of the south thanks to Charlotte, Florida has its oranges and big tourism industry with cities like Miami and Orlando, etc etc

We can employ this same model in Nigeria where we have 30 states.

My 2 cents