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dhoncesar:
Bro. That's how everyone feels. Until the mask is been removed from the face. Youths of now shld watch how they jump into marriage. Allot of things re happening out there. Guys are loosing their mental health because of the kind of person they got married to.
I didn't also do background check. And was tied down with pregnancy before I knew it I signed another contract and had two kids before my eyes opened. I was used big time and I saw my eyes shattered right before me. I'm still at the peak of recovering and I don't even know if I'll ever remarry . I thought of suicide but waved it off when I remembered I have kids . The thought of dating didn't come to me for over 2yrs now talkless of relationship.. be wise guys. Na beg I beg.

I would like to hear your story sir.

Munzy14:
That your last statement is deep!..


I av noticed their is a threat of arrogance and pride when some women feel they have achieved financial stability...You will notice this when you date some professional or career ladies.


Yet, there are very comfortable ladies humble, cool and humane..with womanly care...

In all this, you just pray you meet the woman for you...Even in the long run most trusted partners can be influenced by a lot....Friends, what they read, hear or see etc..

When a man is ready to settle, e dey involve prayer o..

If not you may repeat marriage.

The last girl I dated for 1yrs and 3 months is a first class graduate from Afe Babalola university. She studied petroleum engineering. Her fees used to be 1.3M although in finals , her fees was 900K. She was respectful and adores me too. I do take her out now I saw a red flag the day she took me out. We were having a discussion and she said once she gets married it's only going to be her and her family with no other person! She wasn't just saying it she was acting it. Such girls would allow their mum to visit but would never allow yours and I would have non of that. She was also non sacrificial. I was broke then to even buy Airtime to call her Omo to her it was my duty to call and I just had to look for a way she didn't care! I made out time to go for her convocation in university she didn't know I was to come cos I wanted to surprise her! When I showed up she was happy took me to her family house but also said it was unnecessary to come that I shouldn't feel bad if she doesn't come to my own that it was stress. I knew we wouldn't last cos I can't be with someone who can't sacrifice comfort to put smile on my face! And while I was being foolish I had a girl( My current GF ) Who was studying BUSINESS ADMINISTRATION who I felt wasn't a professional course, who was always doing the calling always wanting to hear from me always wanting to make me happy! But I didn't even give her a chance. It was my dad that spoke sense into my Bald head! He said "" they there make pant dey wear you! You have a girl who values and sees the potential in you while you're running after the one wey no even send you"

Omo that was the day I focused on the new girl and we've been together for 4yrs now once I have my one leg in Nigeria and One leg abroad then I go wife her. The thing is my ex was dark in complexion get nice height studied PETROLEUM ENGINEERING get better front and better back wey dey Make me go mental! But my current babe is fair in complexion and is more beautiful but doesn't have the front and back my ex had and she studied BUSINESS ADMINISTRATION I had to choose between peace of mind and Breast and yansh! I went for the Former abeg so I go fit live long.

There are still ladies who are in this so called profession that are wife materials bro! Baba see I swear Irrespective of the profession wether Man or woman A GOOD PERSON IS A GOOD PERSON.

adedayourt:
OP, let me first empathize with you as this must be that very phase of your life you wish not to arrive at.

Exactly what you stated up their is what I go through, but mine is happening while we still dating and we already have a wedding date. Introduction is supposed to be in few weeks from now.


But this lady is raised by partially her mum, partially her dad. She does most of the things you stated up there to the extend that when I step out of the house to buy stuff, she tails me and locks around behind (I have caught her doing this).



Now she has gone to my family to speak a whole lot and currently I am the worst guy on earth before my folks while she walks like an angel. Presently I called off everything with her and cancelling the wedding even though everybody is insisting I cannot take such decision.


I am only glad I am not married to her yet.

After calling off the wedding what was her reaction please?

BiggyB242:
Very important, I know two brothers lets say A and B. A is chesting the whole bills because his wife isn't working even if he receives higher than the other brother B who is married to a professional.

Brother A salary is no match compare to the combined salary of B and his wife. Looking at them B is doing so so so well compare to A. I was advised, if I'm getting married I should make such she is working not because you want her money but it will ease you some financial stress. Me sef na doctor I wan marry their head they house, I dey try build myself to that financial level where I fit marry doctor.

My friend's elder brother left a Cool headed and respectful business woman he was dating saying he needs to marry a professional by the way , he's a doctor working at UCTH he ended up marrying a Doctor too! That is one of the greatest mistake he made in his life and he's deeply regretting it. The woman does nothing in the house! Even to cook na Wahala to even sweep na Wahala, plates go dey sink for 2 days. The woman's mum came for Omugwo and does absolutely nothing in the house. In the morning the wife go carry phone dey press the mama go dey follow the wife gist na this man go wake up to go cook. The wife has no atom of respect for the man! The man's mum too came for Omugwo this woman doesn't even care if she eats or not. But the woman would bath the baby , cook etc. Make I just stop here. See bro take your eyes away from Profession. Doctor , lawyer engineer , SSCE holder all na bullshit! You're not marrying the profession na the woman you dey marry! See let me tell you , a stack illiterate and a PHD holder all give the same wahala! Just go for one that gives peace of mind and sees her Helping you all round as her responsibility.

Michelle55:
Honestly, I try as much as possible to avoid your post because it reeks of bitterness and frustration. Where is it stipulated that the man should bear the brunt alone just because he married you?

Don't you know the meaning of helpmate? You had better change this disgusting mentality before marriage if truly you want to settle down.

Walai, I'm not sure the knots in your head is complete, please check well.
Aaarrghh!

I swear my brother the matter tire me!!

CharisEleos:
Twp Captains cannot be in one boat.
The problem lies with both of you.
She cannot take shit. You cannot take shit. So, who will now take the shit? Pride.

Pride goes before a fall. That is what has befallen your marriage.
When you learn to get off your high horses, you both will be cohabitable.

The problem with many couples is that they place themselves higher than the other. Now you talked about her trying to measure up to you ( equality). What made you see her as trying to do that if you yourself have not placed yourself so high.? Even before God, we all are equal. So why think you are higher than someone else? Your better half for that matter.

It's normal for two people to have a misunderstanding. But you should learn to to let go immediately and also try to avoid anything that will cause any further misunderstanding. If you see it coming, quickly turn it to a joke. Is she sees it coming, let her do same. but no. Rather you'll feel, "Why should I be the one to backdown" let him /her go to hell!!!!!!. Ego.

If you can't manage your first marriage then you'll not be able to manage the next. mind you the other woman will be coming with a baggage of her own character flaws.

No one is perfect.

Please check his initial thread about the marriage and maybe you will understand better.

ITbomb:
Alternatively (very cost efficient), once most of the box ticks and you have made up your mind and reserved enough cash for the marriage, give am belly, if e enter proceed

Hahahahah I don laugh die!!

elay44:
I know your type bro. Na una dey mumu for woman inside house, come outside to talk tough. I know your type well. Lol.

He's probably not married ...and maybe still in 300Level so no mind the pikin abeg when the time comes he'll understand that getting into a marriage is easier than Getting out. So many kids think getting a divorce is a walk in the park even if it involves children.

atoksy:
Pls how true, I got the same mail but mine was scheduled for 31st of may. Pls is it for real or what is the job all about?

Hello did you later go for the interview? My cousin got this mail today from then and he's been asking me if it's legit

ochechegift86:
I got similar mail too.

Please are they real?
Are you going?

Hello did you later go for the interview? My cousin got this mail today from then and he's been asking me if it's legit

ogayoungboss:
you are invited by Rybid consult; a business consulting & development firm for an ongoing business development position

Date/time: Monday 24th May 2021 by 8:30am
Venue: 150b oba ogunji road Beside Great Talents Pen Cinema Agege ogba, Lagos
Come with a print out of this message and evidence of any qualification

Warmest regards,

For inquiries
Visit https://www.rybidconsult.com for details

Hello did you later go for the interview? My cousin got this mail today from then and he's been asking me if it's legit

kaycyor:
Dear ..,

You are invited by Rybid Consult Nig; a business consulting & development firm for an ongoing business development position

Date/time: Monday,7th June 2021 by 8:00am
Venue: Suite B beside Great Talent School,Oba Ogunji Road, Odo-eran Ogba, Lagos

Come with a print out of this message and evidence of any qualification

Warmest regards,

Hr Nora Hilbert
Tel: 09042105830
www.rybidconsult.com



Please I got this mail for the interview on stated date, how genuine is it, a concerned fellow inquires

Hello did you later go for the interview? My cousin got this mail today from then and he's been asking me if it's legit

abnot:
Hi people , will like to seek your inputs on this. As a computer science grad is it more rewarding to work in IT/software companies in lagos or technology division of established banks/ oil exploration companies ?
I once worked in one of the acclaimed oldest IT companies in lagos and I didn't enjoy the experience. What do you guys think ?

I'm surprised nobody commented on this ... Such threads like this don't see the light of the day!! But if na thread about yansh and boobs Viam! E go enter Front Page!

Calculux95:
Lmao...if only you know what i know

Abwg tell us what you know make we learn o

Dileem:
Hello Lordally, i would like to talk to you. could you please share your email address with me or please chat me up on zero eight zero zix two eight five four seven five one .thank you

I no get money oo more like I'm still learning software development and I no get job.... So if you want to send me a mail you can send me a mail via NL it's on my Signature

tensazangetsu20:
Walai bros you have my mindset. I think just like this but a lot of people call me a pessimist. Once I get into a good position in life I always have an exit plan and prepare for the worst case scenario and that has helped me a lot. The same scenario you spoke about happened to my Uncle. He was a safety officer at one of the major international oil companies. Immediately he got a job he ran to get married. No consideration for further certifications to make him indispensable nothing. Gave birth to 3 kids unfortunately that job is gone and him and his wife and kids are seriously suffering in the village. It's insane. They can go weeks without eating.

This has always been my greatest fear! And that's why I chose to go into Tech! Cos that's , for now the surest secured Career one can have with very minimal job losses. My greatest fear is being comfortable today then going broke and suffering tomorrow , watching my kids and wife suffer. so for this sake I'm learning Software development , and my main Goal is moving to a more predictable economy. And economy where in case things go south , there is some sort of Government assistance so that at least what I and my family would eat won't be some sort of food for thought!

It hurts me so bad when I see someone in need and I can't help out! So with Tech , being in an advanced economy eg Europe etc I would never be in lack and my marriage go sweet!

Agbebakun22:
U said opportunities are in Nigeria can u point at these opportunities nonsense, all those yeye Motivational speaker sef, make den give u Canada Visa if u no go japaa comot, Nigerian is filled with opportunities still 90% of Nigeria youths are into internet fraud, opportunities are in Nigeria according to you many business coming up are being killed by the govt, many opportunities are in Nigeria still most of graduate enrolling for an NPower a meagre token that can't buy me ordinary apple wireless iPod 2,opportunities are in Nigeria according to u and people are fighting to get three month jobs to clean gutters for less than $50 per month, opportunities are in Nigeria according to u while 70% of graduate can't get loan for startup, opportunities is in Nigeria while 20 million of people are going into poverty yearly, opportunities are in Nigeria while some family feed on $2 daily, opportunities are in Nigeria according to u still there are lot of unemployment among graduates, opportunities are in Nigeria according to u still a minimum wages is below $80... Please spare me the motivational talk if na so the opportunity take dey u for help people that looking for it to discover it..

The guy himself that you just quoted isn't based in Nigeria!! But in no won gree make person Relocate for better opportunities omo Just free that man abeg

timesup234:
My dream is that you relocate. Within 3yrs you will mail me privately. Nobody comes out from that hell hole alive. Nigeria is the richest country in the world, the opportunities in Nigeria is more than that found in Europe and North America combined.

Amen on your wishes on me relocating I appreciate. And I affirm to Nigeria being very Rich but I don't think we are the richest! Yes we do have opportunities here but what do you do when there is no political will to give an enabling environment for Growth! Of recent the Owner of PATRICIA a tech startup in Nigeria just moved it's headquarters to ESTONIA! due to the inconsiderate CBN rule on Bitcoin of which is obvious affected most BTC startups. It's visible even to the blind that this was done because they saw the effect of the Bitcoin relevance and the role it played during the ENDSARS protest. Last year , police stopped me at Ikeja and held me saying I'm a fraudster even after checking my phone and refusing to let me go. I had to drop money for them to free me cos they would put me in their van shoot me and no one would know! Now what about the cost of Feeding? Yesterday the Uber driver who carried me told me he's into Bean flour production but when a bag of beans went from 30k to 80K he just bent down removed his slippers , dusted it and ran for his life! Now do you know how many businesses have closed as a reason for that alone??

Omo make I just stop here abeg. It's true that we have rich and wealthy people in this country but compared to the US , Europe etc we are no where! See there is a reason why Most of the World billionaires come from the USA and Nigeria has few.

Lukepeter:
He did actually, he is finally a Nairaland resident pastor .

person don waste opportunity due to his delusion, come still dry console himself.

laf won kill me

PeaceIlya:
Immediately after you barb use hair cream, a data after use spirit, and continue like that.

Ok thanks I go try am

PacAmaru:
Bonny

Is Bonny safe? Please what's the cost of living there?

timesup234:
Lol. Americans with skills are renouncing their citizenship. You know it is possible to be a fool and brainwashed for 2,000 years?

Your moniker isn't new lols... You're part of those Giving migration a bad name! Well as for me I would relocate out of Nigeria once the time is set cos we being the poorest country in the world isn't a coincidence! It's obvious there are things we are not willing to do right

richmond500:
NGO's are non gov'mental organisations who reach out to people in need, its good to give to them, that's my opinion

Hahahaha bro if you look deep , you would discover NGO's are businesses please make deep research! I was shocked the day I discovered this!

timesup234:
For the first time I am going to support him. Nigerians abroad are slaves. They work like dogs. They are all depressed and need to be locked up in a mental institution

Your comments one this issue is wrong and baseless! Any Nigerian who moves abroad with a skill shouldn't regrets it

jesusjnr2020:
I've had several opportunities to do so.

First one I was willing to go but then all of a sudden, I just found myself later rejecting the offer. I don't even know what really came over me then.

Another was when I had begun to walk at the level of the Spirit. It was in the early noughties when i was given an opportunity to relocate to Minnesota sometime in 2003, but I declined because by then my orientation had changed.

Although things weren't going fine, I had this strong belief that things would change, and that I was meant to be a part of the solution, so I just couldn't abandon Nigeria to go elsewhere, because I believed Nigeria needed me here.

At the time, I didn't know much about what i was doing, but over the years, I have come to realize that my decisions were actually Spirit-led, because I'm one of those that God planned to use to birth a new Nigeria He'd use to shake and shock the world, and let the world know that He's the Lord of all the Earth.

That's why when people see a hopeless situation, I see a huge opportunity for God. When people see chaos, i see the storm before a great calm. When people see a nation that cannot survive the present crises, i see a nation that would emerge from it the better. When people see a dead nation, I see a nation that would rise again, because I believe in God, and that which is impossible with men is possible with God, for with God nothing shall be impossible.

God bless.

In Summary you ended up not making any point O!

whippersnapper:
In lafia and zaria where I reside its 200

Please how safe is Zaria

PacAmaru:
We da take 3h for here and people still da complain because na free light

Which place be that abeg

LadySarah:
My kids #150.Adults #200.

Sometimes I barb my kids punk by myself since we have clipper.my husband barbs himself skin.

I had no prior experience but with successive years of taking 3 boys to the saloon, I watched the barbers and started praticing.

Madam d' Madam na you Biko joooor!!

Emma1Oj:
I stop using saloon since covid19. I barb my self either with shaving stick and Neo medro or Neo preso to prevent rashes or crawcraw/skin irritation.

Does the Neo medro or Neo preso work when it comes to prevent the rashes from coming up on your head after shaving it with blade? And how much please

iLegendd:
Free light here, so haircut is too cheap. Most people have their personal clippers here.

Haircut is just 100 Naira. Because it's too cheap, I always pay 200 as a form of appreciation. Though, I barb myself at home 50% of the time.

When there is power outage, mostly caused by fallen poles or damaged transformer, then the price goes up because of fuel price. Luckily, this is rare.

Which area be that abeg so I go begin plan relocate come your side

PeaceIlya:
immediately after barbing use hair cream or using a shaving stick

I don't get. I mean when I went to the Aboki for the haircut it was good and my head been dey shine like FIFA WORLD CUP but after some days I started having rashes on my head.

Churchill6767:
Baba no go carry infection because you wan save money o..You go spend the money las las on top treatment.

No you can't be infected! It's a single blade per person.