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bukatyne:
While bonding with the children is on the man, let's not ignore that the mother teaches the children to disobey their father by undermining his authority over them.

How can a father call his sons to wash the car and the mother say 'they are sleeping'?

Did they go to the farm overnight? Can't they wash the car and go back to sleep?

If sleep is so important to them, can't they wash it the night before?

And shouldn't a 20 year old help his father dress up for work? Polish his shoes, iron his clothes, help him co-ordinate his wears in the newest fashion?

Let's assume the man doesn't actively seek to bond with his kids (a lot of Nigerian fathers are guilty); can't the mother encourage it especially if they are not in an abusive marriage?

The mother should be the one pushing the kids to wash his car, polish his socks, iron his shirts, pick his tie etc. That way, they would bond and the father can pass nuggets to the sons.

The sons would also learn how to be responsible, co-ordinate/lead a family, note the father's mistakes to improve on etc.

If the OP was complaining about the sons not sitting with their father to watch CNN, I would ask if the father sowed the seed to reap such.

But disrespect on the mother's orders and with her backing? Na!

Logical output

letskeeptalking:
Women also work, sometimes even more than men. Men just choose not to bond, and that decision is nobody’s fault.

A woman cannot tell her child what to feel.

At the end of the day whet the child will remember is how he felt safe with the Mother and no recollection of ever having such feelings for the Fathed.

This assertion is BS.

My dad ain't always at home too but we never disrespected him. Funny enough, we love him pass our mama, even though ,she gets more stuffs from us.

Whatever nonsense bond una dey talk about comes when the man is lax in parenting or the kids love their mum naturally.

boldx:
Washing a car or not washing is not a problem at all.

Most teenagers and post teens need to be reminded to do a lot of things in the house.

Please do not intervene in husband and wife matter though he is your brother.

His children are no longer kids and should be handled wisely.

If they don't wash his car, the man should wash his car by himself. It's no big deal. I wash my car myself despite having big teenagers. They do once in a while though.

I have consistently faced this challenge. Please don't make a mountain out of a mole hill.

Just stop with the advice Sir.

You are even facing this challenge and you still get advice to give OP?

Since your teenagers are disrespectful not to wash your car, do we have to swallow your pill for you?

You trained them that way. So you are not better than OP.

NextD18:
Your brother should be more concerned if those children are his biological children, because whenever a wife start turning kids against their father, there are high chances and possibilities of paternity fraud.

Nigerian women didn't rank world number 2 in paternity fraud for no reason.

He should secretly opt for a DNA test first.

Fuqin good point

omojesu202:
It is no news that most marriages are collapsing.
Mine is just two years but I also see signs of collapse.
What's happening in my brothers marriage is painful to me because I know the financial investment and sacrifices he puts into it. I don't know what he did to his wife but she has turned his children against him.
imagine that you cannot tell your 20 years old first son to wash your car like 7am, the mother will tell you that you should allow him to enjoy his sleep. Not once, not twice and not thrice.
This is the children you'll go hungry and borrow money to pay high school fees to make sure they go to good schools.
It is painful to me because I knew when he was paying 200k per term each on three kids while his basic was just 300k.
Now the firstborn and secondborn will disobey him on ordinary washing of car just because he can no longer meet up.
Please how would you handle such issues?
You might just hear that a man killed his wife and three children in the news. That would not be our portion.

From outside, she has been a good woman but she didn't blend the children to their father. They nature of his job takes him on transfer always and not stationed with his family but regular monthly visit is always there.

I don't get what you want us to do bayi?

Your marriage is collapsing...your brother's is crumbling...his kids(20 and 18 yrs) don't obey him bla bla bla'....na today all these things come start? No na. He allowed it to fester and this is the result.


My advice: Divorce your wife,let your brother divorce his wife and disown his sons.

Jenny1010:
And yet they go around forming nonsense association of stingy men. So ungrateful.

Build your own house and car and we will see you.

Sixfeetbelle:
Imagine.

So if someone is getting you a gift, you'll open mouth to tell them what type of gift you want? Gift you didn't add shishi to buy?

Entitled modafvckers full everywhere ooh

E pain you die

I love it

babatunji36117:
:Na wa ooo.. abi Na only she dey for class ni...the rest dey forget dia brain for house

She is that good noni

She fine o..

She get brain too...


I won't mind much if her type no get yansh...

2/3 is still bae

StacyO...


Where is my car and house na?

Saviolamemphix:
Saw a post of a guy on fb complaining about females and their selfishness
He was like y are females so selfish and entitled, he said his gf doesn't apologize even wen she's at fault, he still apologize to her
If u know nothing abt TRP u will keep being treated lyk trash in all ur relationships
If u sow simpin u will reap disrespect, pain insult and u will b an easy catch for dis manipulative females out there
MGTOW

Mudafucking WORD!!!!

Sleekfingers:
lagos population is over 26million

So close to 50% are cokeheads?

Sleekfingers:
i dont know if u reside in lagos....people using hard drugs in lagos is close to 10million.....

Kano and kaduna are over 15million users

How many people dey Lagos that 10m go be drug abusers

Nawa for you o,sweetmouth

Sleekfingers:
how dem no go use hard drugs? When y'all useless leaders have rendered them frustrated. Na thunder go kill you there....

Back to the matter.....7 outta 10 youths use one form of illegal substances......my statistic is over 100million nigerians use hard drugs......

What's doing you?


Over 100million?

Werey

Lol..I'm not among

Martinez39s:
Do you have the link to the thread?

The OP is a liar jare..


She wanted attention and she got it!!!

StacyO:
Space.

High libido-ed man

Bye.

Spacewoman meets alien...

Match made in the cosmos.


Nice meeting you stacy

StacyO:
Oh!!
Now I see the reason for the guys excitement now.







We're humans,change is always constant

Lol.... Where do you stay sef?

Lawyer woman

Nonsense list

stanliwise:
Read my status and have a good day.

There is no status on NL biko

Have a goodnight!!!

stanliwise:
You don't live in 21st century neither have you taken time to gather proper evidence of polygamus homes. Meanwhile it is still widely practiced in some small towns and many developing countries including naija. If you were wise you would have asked why is the lifestyle not fit in the city and advance countries, I would encourage you to read laws on divorce and the responsibilities that comes with child maintenance, moreso check school fees and house rent, also check laws on property tying husband and wife and then come back to tell me something better. I don't wanna waste my time on this conversation, because it us not even one to start with.

Meanwhile, I am not a redpiller and would never bear such title, because it is for men(boys actually) whose indentity and validation comes from the fact they can control( rather manipulate is the actual word) their women (basically the immature ones to be specific).

There are two kinds of men in this world.


Redpiller...or Caterpillar.

You should join the winning team hommie

StacyO:
Who is this,please?

You're very funny.
I don't have stamina for too much talk ooo lol.
Me that I'm looking for a way to escape back to space.

You're very funny.
I can't stop laughing ooo


I like explaining things to people in a very simple form (layman's format).
No need for too much grammar.


I think I'll have a very high libido if I should taste seex,why I'm trying to stay away from it for now.
Even hubby will not think of looking outta the window.

Marriage shouldn't be all about seex cause,if it is,that means there will be no ingredient whatsoever in the union.

Instead of marrying someone you won't feel connected to,why not just continue fvcking around since that was the main reason why you wanted to get married.

I see no other reason why men go into polygamy except greed,sex and idleness.

Men who count money with machines have no time for such. Instead of thinking of how to be the next Bezos,you're thinking of how to feed mama junior,mama peace,mama funke and their 79 children.








Good luck ooo.

Lol....how you take know that you'd have a very high libido? I like high libido-ed women na...

Seriously. Some women are not so inclined sex wise. It's not their fault,it's just how they are. Instead of the husband to keep strings of sidechicks,it's better to marry one to keep his juices flowing.

That guy you were quoting hasa wife who agreed to his yearning for 2nd wife wholeheartedly. She might not be so keen on sex yet she wanted to make sure her husband is filled sexually. She did good.

Instead of women weaponising sex andmaking the husbands cheat, kuku allow him marry so you can have some peace. Unless the women are scared of losing the financial security from the husband. The reason why it's good for wives to have their own career or business.

StacyO:
I guess few are just privileged to have a roof over their heads.

some kids in the north don't even know what a roof is,talk more of completed house. All because one man couldn't control his urge.

The money meant to educate one or two children,you start dividing it into 7 or 4.

You start wondering where the next meal will come. Next meal for over 27 mouths.

Unless you're as buoyant as Dangote though.

Even rich men go for only one wife.

I wonder the issue here.

Lol ... Northerners are the exception... Muslim Westerners take care of their wives and kids

StacyO:
Kikikikk
What has fast cars got to do with marriage??

You still didn't tell me the many "
Tell me then,I'll give you 101 reasons why you should fear polygamy.

Longer lifespan can only be enjoyed when you live happily with a single woman,than live unhappily with 4 different women.


Sudden death.
It might not be you but,definitely a jealous woman is far more dangerous than the devil when given the opportunity to eliminate whatever it is hindering her.

You find sex a problem,but,I think it's just your inability to master bed games.
You're quite weak to your flesh and you think the next pussy will be sweeter than the first.
You get the second and due to the fact you still don't know what being on bed is all about,you go for a second pucci.

Until you understand that following up a home with wisdom is all you need,you'll keep jumping from one stranger to another.






You read the articles,point out the mistakes to me in the thread.
Let's discuss them.




I still think you've chosen this path. And I wish you what you solemnly wish yourself.
Besides,don't take everything you read on Google. I can write something like that to generate traffic. "

NB: We don't always get what we want "

Jesus...you still dey tackle this guy

I fear you as my gf biko.


Imagine if night time don come and junior wants some action...you go say

1. Tell me 4 reasons why you should fuq tonight..after all you still did it last week

2. Gimmq 2 reasons why doggy should supersede missionary.

3. Three reasons why you should drink herbal concoction before you touch me

4. 6 reasons why you used Closeup instead of Oral-B or you won't be kissing me tonight


Haabaaa naaaaaaaa

StacyO:
Nigeria don scatter oo
Even minors cast votes up north.

Underaged marriages,high illiteracy and poverty rate.



I only need tangible advantages and a very sound argument. "

E naija don scatter, you go dey here on NL?

Na one bushy mountain u go get na!!!

StacyO:
You tend to keep your family apart. By the time death comes calling, the confusion that'll be generated might even lead to loss of innocent lives and properties,,all because a man wasn't man enough to control one woman.


Let's just take it that you've taken the part of polygamy cause honestly I haven't seen a tangible argument from you as to why polygamy should be advice.

If I'm given 5 advantages, then I'll quit arguing about this.
Not ones gotten from google but,ones you think you'll benefit from doing it.

Lol
Brotherman,let's just say that's you've taken the path of going polygamous.

Every man to his choice.




How about this one
https://www.nairaland.com/6267136/married-facts

Stacy..leave this guy na...let him marry as many women as he likes...no be crime.

All these Muslim men marry more than 4 sef and Nigeria never scatter...


Haba...una just wan convince the guy to marry one woman...kolewerk.... I will marry 5.

StacyO:
I'm not a fan of telemundo or zee world either.

@last paragraph, any man who cannot deal with having one wife,how then can he deal with having more than two wives?

Polygamy on it's own has so many disadvantages of which conflict is one of em.
Our forefathers never thought of marrying more than one wife and only took another wife if in any case the first wife wasn't able to birth a child.

Solomon himself took more than one wife and you new the outcome of it.

Moreover,you don't need a soothsayer to tell you the consequences of marrying more than one wife nowadays.

If you can't be able to proved solutions in your marriage with one woman,trust me when I say you won't be able to do so when you have more than one wife to deal with.


Read up the link below anyway,it might be of help.

https://www.nairaland.com/6307247/when-say-lady-loose-vagina

That paragraph of 'our forefathers n very thought of marrying....bla bla bla' is very wrong.

Where did you get that stuff from? They married as they wanted,not only due to childbirth but na symbol of affluence